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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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sat on a bus today with my 2 yr old when a bloke came and sat next to me ....all he kept saying was i know you from fab ....not on my friends list ....wont take the subtle and none so subtle hints to drop the subject ....in end got of bus and waited for next one .....was fuming cus i had my baby with me ....how would others have felt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you should have reminded him this is 'The web of Trust' and he is breaking that trust. Its a pity you didnt know him as I am sure FAB would kick him off site. |
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"sat on a bus today with my 2 yr old when a bloke came and sat next to me ....all he kept saying was i know you from fab ....not on my friends list ....wont take the subtle and none so subtle hints to drop the subject ....in end got of bus and waited for next one .....was fuming cus i had my baby with me ....how would others have felt"
I would have felt extremely angry.
If I were you I'd remove my face pictures from public view though, it doesn't completely remove the risk of being recognised but it does minimise it. |
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I'd remove your face pics immediately! It was really rude and ignorant of him. I give and expect a level of discretion on here. Most people do, I imagine. Pity he felt the need, he could have contacted you on here not in public. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
near kings lynn |
Sorry to hear that and can understand why your angry especially with a little one near you.
Just remember though with your face pic as your avatar you run that risk. If your face pic is in friends gallery only then you control who sees it x |
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By *essiCouple
over a year ago
suffolk |
this unfortunately does happen...reporting is fine, depending on the how and why of things it may become a police matter if serious enough..all we can say is be very sure of whom you talk to on sites before sharing detailed information...x |
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ahhh me and my phone .. didn't mean to remove that
I understand exactly where you're coming from but what I have come to learn off this site is that what I deem appropriate behaviour and what others deem appropriate behaviour can be oceans apart.
I would have also got off the bus with my child as I don't feel that is a suitable situation to make an introduction but hey ho .. were all different.
I would have come home and removed my face pics to a private gallery also to try and avoid repeat future episodes also
wish you all the best though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ahhh me and my phone .. didn't mean to remove that
I understand exactly where you're coming from but what I have come to learn off this site is that what I deem appropriate behaviour and what others deem appropriate behaviour can be oceans apart.
I would have also got off the bus with my child as I don't feel that is a suitable situation to make an introduction but hey ho .. were all different.
I would have come home and removed my face pics to a private gallery also to try and avoid repeat future episodes also
wish you all the best though "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sat on a bus today with my 2 yr old when a bloke came and sat next to me ....all he kept saying was i know you from fab ....not on my friends list ....wont take the subtle and none so subtle hints to drop the subject ....in end got of bus and waited for next one .....was fuming cus i had my baby with me ....how would others have felt"
Its lucky your child is so young and therefore unlikely to have understood or picked up on what the guy was saying. An older child may have and then repeated it in front of other people which could have created awkward situations.
A lesson learned maybe? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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he waited until my 20 yr daughter had got off the bus ....did notice him staring but didnt think anything of it as he was my daughter age and out of my age range that i had set to blocked that age range |
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"he waited until my 20 yr daughter had got off the bus ....did notice him staring but didnt think anything of it as he was my daughter age and out of my age range that i had set to blocked that age range "
See if you can find him on here and block him. If he contacts you on here tell him you will report both him and his IP address via a report to admin to the police. Avoid that busRoute for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people dont know the etiquette involved in being on these sites. I actually seen a work colleague on a similar site. Does she have a clue that I know? Nope. |
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"Some people dont know the etiquette involved in being on these sites. I actually seen a work colleague on a similar site. Does she have a clue that I know? Nope. "
Yep, we were contacted by a colleague of mine, just blocked him and would never dream of telling him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people dont know the etiquette involved in being on these sites. I actually seen a work colleague on a similar site. Does she have a clue that I know? Nope.
Yep, we were contacted by a colleague of mine, just blocked him and would never dream of telling him. "
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Time and time again women chunter on about how their safety is so important.... and yet so many are willing to have their face pic on display (next to half a dozen photos of their tits) with no idea who is looking and recognising them from their local area.
I'm surprised this doesn't happen more often.
One lucky thing OP.... at least it was on a bus and not on the street outside of your home. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"you should have reminded him this is 'The web of Trust' and he is breaking that trust. Its a pity you didnt know him as I am sure FAB would kick him off site."
Why would you think that complete strangers would be trustworthy. Hell I don't even trust some of the people that I actually know.....
Unfortuntely this is what can and does happen. More likely when clear face pics are on full display or from going on cam in open rooms. Even from attending clubs and parties it can happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the reasons I don't have public face pictures. I don't even like sending a face pic to someone in my area till I know for sure their not part of my social and professional life
Sorry it had to happen to you though matey
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism "
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool"
Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool
Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is. "
If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool
Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is. "
That is totally beyond the point and if you dont understand that then thats a damn shame. Its just totally innapropriate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool
Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.
If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman. "
Things like what? Op has not said he said anything bad. He just said he recognised her from fab. Yes I totally agree it was not right thing for him to do but it was him being a bit stupid and not grasping that others may want there fab status kept private. He wasnt trying to be cruel or giving her hard time etc. Hr just needs to lear fab etiquette thats all. Dont see why he got so much abuse thats all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i dont hate him because i dont know him ...i can say for certain i would never have meet him because he was out of my age range ...but after once been told that wasnt interested ...he should have left it at that .....just because im on this site doesnt give anyone the right to think that im easy and that i will drop my pants at a drop of a hat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool
Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.
If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman.
Things like what? Op has not said he said anything bad. He just said he recognised her from fab. Yes I totally agree it was not right thing for him to do but it was him being a bit stupid and not grasping that others may want there fab status kept private. He wasnt trying to be cruel or giving her hard time etc. Hr just needs to lear fab etiquette thats all. Dont see why he got so much abuse thats all "
Exactly what he said. How did he know she wasn't with someone sitting on another seat. He got abuse because he has been a pilick going up to a total stranger and saying that. If the op felt uncomfortable that she had to get off the bus and wait for the next one the bloke is a tool and needs to give himself a shake |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism
She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool
Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.
If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman.
Things like what? Op has not said he said anything bad. He just said he recognised her from fab. Yes I totally agree it was not right thing for him to do but it was him being a bit stupid and not grasping that others may want there fab status kept private. He wasnt trying to be cruel or giving her hard time etc. Hr just needs to lear fab etiquette thats all. Dont see why he got so much abuse thats all
Exactly what he said. How did he know she wasn't with someone sitting on another seat. He got abuse because he has been a pilick going up to a total stranger and saying that. If the op felt uncomfortable that she had to get off the bus and wait for the next one the bloke is a tool and needs to give himself a shake"
Kk fair enough |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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even if i had meet the man in a vanilla setting and this happened i would be just as angry cus unless i know someone really well they dont get to be near my children .....call me protective or paranoid but thats the way i am around my kids |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't believe some people. I would not attempt to chat a woman up if she had a kid with her, seems somehow weird/disrespectful, never mind mentioning that you have seen her on a swingers' site. Some people either have no common sense or are fucking nuts. I wonder if he thought it was a good way to get a shag? Defies common sense and seems stalkerish. |
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"ahhh me and my phone .. didn't mean to remove that
I understand exactly where you're coming from but what I have come to learn off this site is that what I deem appropriate behaviour and what others deem appropriate behaviour can be oceans apart.
I would have also got off the bus with my child as I don't feel that is a suitable situation to make an introduction but hey ho .. were all different.
I would have come home and removed my face pics to a private gallery also to try and avoid repeat future episodes also
wish you all the best though "
As ever |
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