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Do you judge people by the company they keep?
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It’s hard not to if you’ve been on the receiving end of some devious and malicious people. This is why I’d rather not know who’s friends with who - and why I don’t read veris or publish our own. Ignorance is bliss. |
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"It’s hard not to if you’ve been on the receiving end of some devious and malicious people. This is why I’d rather not know who’s friends with who - and why I don’t read veris or publish our own. Ignorance is bliss. "
That’s an interesting perspective on veris |
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"It’s hard not to if you’ve been on the receiving end of some devious and malicious people. This is why I’d rather not know who’s friends with who - and why I don’t read veris or publish our own. Ignorance is bliss. "
This.
Hard not too when you know what goes on behind the scenes |
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I used to but I stopped as I got older. People are drawn to people for a variety of reasons and just cos someone might not be my person, I try not to judge the (positive) impact they may have on others |
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Yes.
I don't care if someone is friends with someone I simply don't get along with in general.
I don't mind being friendly with people with different morals where we disagree but it's not something I consider outright malignant or just accept that different points of view can exist and it's just a topic we avoid.
But certain things are indefensible to my mind, and someone who chooses to associate with and support that kind of behaviour isn't someone I want around me. Once I've confirmed that they actually know about whatever the reasoning is 💜 |
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Absolutely I do, in real life in particular.
I have cut ties with a few people who despite being generally nice when in my company have also repeatedly socialised with a very bigoted group of people.
It’s easy for someone to hide what they’re really like 1 on 1, but if their mates are all racists and or sexists and they have no issue being around them, you have to question their true beliefs |
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No, what gives me or any of us for that matter the right to judge what makes someone horny at any given moment. For the people who have said yes ask yourself if you’ve ever said or thought “what gives you the right to judge me, you don’t know my story or what I have been through…you don’t know me!” |
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Not on here, as I don't know anyone well enough until we get chatting - I don't know their friends so I'm unlikely to care.
In real life yes. If someone is comfortable hanging around racists and homophobes and alphabro misogynists that is a red flag for me. |
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"Not on here, as I don't know anyone well enough until we get chatting - I don't know their friends so I'm unlikely to care.
In real life yes. If someone is comfortable hanging around racists and homophobes and alphabro misogynists that is a red flag for me."
100% this |
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Yep as being on here is meant to be escape from every day life so anyone does hang around with racist's/incels/homophobes isn't for us to spend our precious free time with plus they always seem to want to convert you to their world view eventually ?  |
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I'm free to make judgment. I think we instinctively make judgments, but that doesn't mean I can't have a word with myself and remind myself not to presume it's right.
I prefer to form a view of someone based on my experience of them. It's not really about being fair, although that matters to me too. It's about my own self-respect. |
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I will always take a person how they present to me, if they are not the type of person I want to be around they will give them short shift.
People are allowed to be individuals, don't judge them based on the company they keep |
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"It’s hard not to if you’ve been on the receiving end of some devious and malicious people. This is why I’d rather not know who’s friends with who - and why I don’t read veris or publish our own. Ignorance is bliss.
This.
Hard not too when you know what goes on behind the scenes"
Very true. Best thing is to treat people with an open mind and avoid people who discuss others. Ignorance really is bliss on FAB! |
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"Yep as being on here is meant to be escape from every day life so anyone does hang around with racist's/incels/homophobes isn't for us to spend our precious free time with plus they always seem to want to convert you to their world view eventually ? "
That's one of my 'red flag' moments - when someone needs me to agree with them, especially if they get angry if I don't.
It doesn't really matter in my experience whether someone associates with saints or sinners, that personality trait will rear it's head eventually, if it's there. |
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