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Are love and marriage different things?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 11 weeks ago
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I was hearing an interesting thing about it and did you know that love and marriage are not the same thing, but they are closely related?
They added that love can be a marriage, but it is not a requirement and that passionate love is a feeling and marriage is a social contract.
It would be interesting to see what your view is about it. do you agree with it is? I agree that love is not a requirement, but they are closely related  |
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For me there is a difference of being in love and loving someone or something.
I can say I love a Victoria sponge, I genuinely think I do, but being in love, for me, is different
Marriage changes through time and so does a relationship.
You may not want it to or feel that it has but it does. Courting or dating becomes more about dealing with life. You may not dress up for each other as much or for yourself, wear pjs at home, you become comfortable with each other.
Love for me is about being comfortable with someone where you can be the real you, not judged, but understood and understanding.
But then have the date nights. The weekend always. Never forget the original attraction |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Love is totally nothing to do with marriage although often it is why people choose to get married.
Marriage is a social construct which can trap people in loveless and sexless existences because of the shame or fear of divorce.
Divorce is a beautiful act of self love where you realise that you are worthy of happiness and have no need to sacrifice it for the kids or to keep the sham of a marriage going.
And love and lifelong commitment to one person can happen without any need for marriage. |
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Love and marriage are not the same thing.
Marriage is simply a contract. Royal couples were pledged to each other to strengthen family wealth and ties and continue the blood line. Love isn't necessary within a marriage except , perhaps love for oneself.
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"Maybe I misread the post. Apologies OP, ignore my post 🤣🤣
To say you 'love' cake diminishes the use of the word love.
Love you xxx
More or less than cake 🎂 "
Okay more. But i'll never admit to saying that okay! |
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Love is a mixture of chemical reactions and electric pulses within the brain to produce the effects of love.
Marriage is a human construct of bonding between two people, often but not always initiated by the above chemical reaction.
They are not the same thing. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 11 weeks ago
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"Love is totally nothing to do with marriage although often it is why people choose to get married.
Marriage is a social construct which can trap people in loveless and sexless existences because of the shame or fear of divorce.
Divorce is a beautiful act of self love where you realise that you are worthy of happiness and have no need to sacrifice it for the kids or to keep the sham of a marriage going.
And love and lifelong commitment to one person can happen without any need for marriage. "
Hi lusciously, yes, you are right there, love is one of the reasons why people choose to get married too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 11 weeks ago
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"Love and marriage aren't the same, you can marry anyone regardless of being in love, you can't be in love with just anyone.
Mrs
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Hi knightso, yes, you are right there, one can can marry without being in love too |
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"Of course it’s not the same thing. Some people have arranged marriages "
👆This! Spot on!
Does anyone genuinely not know that love and marriage aren't the same? Marriage is a contract basically, anyone can marry anyone. Love is an emotion that you feel and experience with certain things and people.
Simples!
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"Yes I know that love and marriage aren't the same thing.
I think a lot of people think love is enough to make a marriage work and marriage to enough to show you love someone though."
Sadly so true. I thought if I loved my ex enough he'd change for the sake of our marriage ..... spoiler .... he didn't.
Putting a ring on it definitely is not enough .... choosing to love someone is a daily act. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 11 weeks ago
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"Goodness, you're a cynical bunch.
Whilst I agree they're not the same thing, i think marriage can be a lovely way to demonstrate love and commitment to a partnership "
Hi willinever, yes, marriage is a lovely way to demonstrate love and commitment to a partnership too |
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"....love is a feeling and marriage is a social contract."
Just this bit really.
They are not even in the same realm of things to compare rationally.
By no means are the two mutually exclusive. But neither one requires the other. |
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By *ags73Man 11 weeks ago
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"Goodness, you're a cynical bunch.
Whilst I agree they're not the same thing, i think marriage can be a lovely way to demonstrate love and commitment to a partnership "
It can be and whilst I’d prefer not to be a curmudgeon about it, there were times in married life that I felt very alone. |
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I think we have all come to think of marriage as something very different to what it was originally intended for, in the west at least. A diet of romantic novels, rim come and misty eyed heroines has seen to that.
Even in my youth people got married because they had a baby on the way. Several of my friends were encouraged by their parents to marry for that reason and you could see from the start that it was doomed to misery and failure.
Monarchs and future monarchs haven't married for love for centuries. Men and women used to marry for security or someone to keep house for them, widows and widowers for someone to provide care or financial security for their children. Love is a fairly late addition to the mix.
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People get married for all different reasons some for stability and financial reasons others for religious reasons.
Even tho theirs alot of cynical people around who are probably tainted by their past experiences some people actually marry for love.
I was 19 when i got married and had a romantic notion of what marriage was like it's probably a little harder than the image i had at a young age  . We are still together now and if i had my time all over again i wouldn't change a thing. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 11 weeks ago
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"People get married for all different reasons some for stability and financial reasons others for religious reasons.
Even tho theirs alot of cynical people around who are probably tainted by their past experiences some people actually marry for love.
I was 19 when i got married and had a romantic notion of what marriage was like it's probably a little harder than the image i had at a young age . We are still together now and if i had my time all over again i wouldn't change a thing. "
Hi jandr, yes, people get married for all different reasons too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 10 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I think we have all come to think of marriage as something very different to what it was originally intended for, in the west at least. A diet of romantic novels, rim come and misty eyed heroines has seen to that.
Even in my youth people got married because they had a baby on the way. Several of my friends were encouraged by their parents to marry for that reason and you could see from the start that it was doomed to misery and failure.
Monarchs and future monarchs haven't married for love for centuries. Men and women used to marry for security or someone to keep house for them, widows and widowers for someone to provide care or financial security for their children. Love is a fairly late addition to the mix.
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Hi nicecouple, yes, you are right there, many get married for different reasons too |
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