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What’s your body count?
To get this started, Discussed this with the wife. On Friday when we were half pissed and a little bored as a meet didn’t show, We have never really bothered to count but we know we have both had a lot of partners compared to many people, and were wondering what the swinging community compares.
I’ve had sex with about 70-80 women (no others since Covid, and 12-15 men. Only 1 man I shagged and only 5 shagged me, the others were blowjobs and handjobs.
L has slept with 4 women. She slept with 50-70 men before I met her at 21 and on average we think 15 men a year for the last 30 years. Some years many more some a lot less less, many more blowjobs but we worked out sex with over 500 men. I find it horny, you embrace and enjoy. |
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Honestly? Nee idea! I've not kept count. The number would be higher vs lower. So long as my test results come back clear then does it really matter?
I've had a promiscuous youth, a spell of over 10yrs celibate, and a few encounters since... My number makes no odds. It doesn't define who I am at any point in my life.
The only thing that's really counts is - do I want to have sex with the next person I do? 🤔 |
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"Honestly? Nee idea! I've not kept count. The number would be higher vs lower. So long as my test results come back clear then does it really matter?
I've had a promiscuous youth, a spell of over 10yrs celibate, and a few encounters since... My number makes no odds. It doesn't define who I am at any point in my life.
The only thing that's really counts is - do I want to have sex with the next person I do? 🤔"
Interesting and fair points there to be fair. Fully agree with you. Had spells when not in the mood , in full flow at the mo, enjoy while it lasts but no great shakes if sex free for a while. Safety and happiness is what counts and a number really is just a number. Take care |
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"If "body count" means sexual partners I'm still under 20.
I clearly have no bragging rights here - does that make me some sort of Fab virgin?"
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Or someone with standards. Nothing to be ashamed of |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s"
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully. |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully. "
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work"
Why would the word 'slut' have any meaning? Why would anyone want to tag that word on to anyone they like?
Why would it definitely matter? I mean genuinely? Why would it actually matter? The number of folks you sleep with isn't any indication of you as a person...
And frankly you could be number 1, and a complete arsehole. So how does that work out in the sexual elite numbers game?  |
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"If "body count" means sexual partners I'm still under 20.
I clearly have no bragging rights here - does that make me some sort of Fab virgin?.
Or someone with standards. Nothing to be ashamed of "
You assume those with a higher count don't have standards? |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
Why would the word 'slut' have any meaning? Why would anyone want to tag that word on to anyone they like?
Why would it definitely matter? I mean genuinely? Why would it actually matter? The number of folks you sleep with isn't any indication of you as a person...
And frankly you could be number 1, and a complete arsehole. So how does that work out in the sexual elite numbers game? "
Every word has a meaning. I didn't make it up but it means something.
And I'm not saying it's something you call someone you like or dislike but what do you mean it doesn't have a meaning?
Why would it matter? It depends on the person I suppose. Me personally I wouldn't want to pursue someone with a high body count for personal preferences.
Not comparing people to cars but it's like saying you don't mind the mileage when buying a car.
Even on here people judge other by the numbers of verifications and it's a swinging site so to say that it's irrelevant is wild. But then again I can only speak for myself |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work"
So essentially you're saying you wouldn't want a relationship with someone whose had sex with X number of folks? That's fine. And you absolutely do you!...
But what is that acceptable number? And why are you on here seeking sex with folk? Cos surely if you rack up your own number, you'd expect anyone seeking an actual relationship to possibly bin you off?
Unless of course you then kept your judgements and number to yourself  |
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"If "body count" means sexual partners I'm still under 20.
I clearly have no bragging rights here - does that make me some sort of Fab virgin?.
Or someone with standards. Nothing to be ashamed of
You assume those with a higher count don't have standards?"
I would assume they have lower standards as anyone can get sex so if a person in their early 20s for example who's body count is in their 1000s surely they're not very selective |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
So essentially you're saying you wouldn't want a relationship with someone whose had sex with X number of folks? That's fine. And you absolutely do you!...
But what is that acceptable number? And why are you on here seeking sex with folk? Cos surely if you rack up your own number, you'd expect anyone seeking an actual relationship to possibly bin you off?
Unless of course you then kept your judgements and number to yourself "
I have no problem saying my number as I'm not ashamed. And if someone would be put off by it i wouldn't be bothered
But I would never lie about it or pretend that I have no idea.
What's an acceptable number? For me personally? I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with a lady who's number is over 8. |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
Why would the word 'slut' have any meaning? Why would anyone want to tag that word on to anyone they like?
Why would it definitely matter? I mean genuinely? Why would it actually matter? The number of folks you sleep with isn't any indication of you as a person...
And frankly you could be number 1, and a complete arsehole. So how does that work out in the sexual elite numbers game?
Every word has a meaning. I didn't make it up but it means something.
And I'm not saying it's something you call someone you like or dislike but what do you mean it doesn't have a meaning?
Why would it matter? It depends on the person I suppose. Me personally I wouldn't want to pursue someone with a high body count for personal preferences.
Not comparing people to cars but it's like saying you don't mind the mileage when buying a car.
Even on here people judge other by the numbers of verifications and it's a swinging site so to say that it's irrelevant is wild. But then again I can only speak for myself "
But just because you're not getting any mileage. Doesn't equal other folk getting it.
The saying 'if you don't like the smoke, get out of the kitchen's, kinda comes to mind
If you want someone whose not having sex, then take yourself to another site. But if you want to get your own mileage in, whilst bitching about those who do? You're also on the wrong site |
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"If "body count" means sexual partners I'm still under 20.
I clearly have no bragging rights here - does that make me some sort of Fab virgin?.
Or someone with standards. Nothing to be ashamed of "
I'm pretty sure that argument works both ways; i.e. far more women have rejected my advances than vice-versa. The way I see it that's just life and I'm cool with it. |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
So essentially you're saying you wouldn't want a relationship with someone whose had sex with X number of folks? That's fine. And you absolutely do you!...
But what is that acceptable number? And why are you on here seeking sex with folk? Cos surely if you rack up your own number, you'd expect anyone seeking an actual relationship to possibly bin you off?
Unless of course you then kept your judgements and number to yourself
I have no problem saying my number as I'm not ashamed. And if someone would be put off by it i wouldn't be bothered
But I would never lie about it or pretend that I have no idea.
What's an acceptable number? For me personally? I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with a lady who's number is over 8. "
Amazingly, people actually lie about body counts if pressed by judgemental folk
So, your 'lady', of 3 may actually have banged 50... And yet, shockingly you'd never know 
Personally I'd rather the truth. Each to their own denial though |
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"If "body count" means sexual partners I'm still under 20.
I clearly have no bragging rights here - does that make me some sort of Fab virgin?.
Or someone with standards. Nothing to be ashamed of
You assume those with a higher count don't have standards?
I would assume they have lower standards as anyone can get sex so if a person in their early 20s for example who's body count is in their 1000s surely they're not very selective"
Again, you assume much! |
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I'm 38 now, been in 2 long term non swing relationships for the last 12 years, slept with about 8 women between.
Prior to that, could possibly be 150+
I honestly stopped counting around my mid 20's as many I either didn't know or couldn't remember names, happened whilst d*unk or through random encounters. So if I had to guess at this point... Somewhere between 150-200 give or take.
It seems like this is a lot, even some of the more handsome guys I know haven't been with half as many and I honestly don't know why I got to be so lucky but such is life and I'm was never daft enough to question it too deeply
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If we're counting hands and oral, then quite a lot. PIV then it's got to be less than a dozen women during my life (and only three where it's been more than once with them). Anal receiving, two guys, once with each. Anal giving, zero of any gender. |
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Depends how you want to count it.
Just hands? Just oral? Strap-on sex/ pegging in BDSM play, where I fuck them but there is no other sexual contact of any type?
Sex where I fuck them, they don't fuck me?
Fully penetrative sex (cock / strap-on)
I've had many periods of celibacy and monogamy, mixed in with occasional sexual encounters, and periods of lots of sex. Accept that or move on, your choice.
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
Why would the word 'slut' have any meaning? Why would anyone want to tag that word on to anyone they like?
Why would it definitely matter? I mean genuinely? Why would it actually matter? The number of folks you sleep with isn't any indication of you as a person...
And frankly you could be number 1, and a complete arsehole. So how does that work out in the sexual elite numbers game?
Every word has a meaning. I didn't make it up but it means something.
And I'm not saying it's something you call someone you like or dislike but what do you mean it doesn't have a meaning?
Why would it matter? It depends on the person I suppose. Me personally I wouldn't want to pursue someone with a high body count for personal preferences.
Not comparing people to cars but it's like saying you don't mind the mileage when buying a car.
Even on here people judge other by the numbers of verifications and it's a swinging site so to say that it's irrelevant is wild. But then again I can only speak for myself
But just because you're not getting any mileage. Doesn't equal other folk getting it.
The saying 'if you don't like the smoke, get out of the kitchen's, kinda comes to mind
If you want someone whose not having sex, then take yourself to another site. But if you want to get your own mileage in, whilst bitching about those who do? You're also on the wrong site "
There's plenty of people on this site with a low body count and I'm not looking for a relationship on here so why wouldn't I be on the site? |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
So essentially you're saying you wouldn't want a relationship with someone whose had sex with X number of folks? That's fine. And you absolutely do you!...
But what is that acceptable number? And why are you on here seeking sex with folk? Cos surely if you rack up your own number, you'd expect anyone seeking an actual relationship to possibly bin you off?
Unless of course you then kept your judgements and number to yourself
I have no problem saying my number as I'm not ashamed. And if someone would be put off by it i wouldn't be bothered
But I would never lie about it or pretend that I have no idea.
What's an acceptable number? For me personally? I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with a lady who's number is over 8.
Amazingly, people actually lie about body counts if pressed by judgemental folk
So, your 'lady', of 3 may actually have banged 50... And yet, shockingly you'd never know
Personally I'd rather the truth. Each to their own denial though "
If people need to lie cos they're ashamed then you're making my point. It does matter
And you say you rather tell the truth but you said you don't know the number so maybe you're one of the people in denial |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
Why would the word 'slut' have any meaning? Why would anyone want to tag that word on to anyone they like?
Why would it definitely matter? I mean genuinely? Why would it actually matter? The number of folks you sleep with isn't any indication of you as a person...
And frankly you could be number 1, and a complete arsehole. So how does that work out in the sexual elite numbers game?
Every word has a meaning. I didn't make it up but it means something.
And I'm not saying it's something you call someone you like or dislike but what do you mean it doesn't have a meaning?
Why would it matter? It depends on the person I suppose. Me personally I wouldn't want to pursue someone with a high body count for personal preferences.
Not comparing people to cars but it's like saying you don't mind the mileage when buying a car.
Even on here people judge other by the numbers of verifications and it's a swinging site so to say that it's irrelevant is wild. But then again I can only speak for myself
But just because you're not getting any mileage. Doesn't equal other folk getting it.
The saying 'if you don't like the smoke, get out of the kitchen's, kinda comes to mind
If you want someone whose not having sex, then take yourself to another site. But if you want to get your own mileage in, whilst bitching about those who do? You're also on the wrong site
There's plenty of people on this site with a low body count and I'm not looking for a relationship on here so why wouldn't I be on the site?"
So it's cool you're attempting to shag someone, but not consider a relationship if you met the right person on here, because they're on here. But you're on here?
I do know my number to answer you Q below... But my number is no more anyone's business than their number to me. Because it's silly. Why would it matter? What counts is if I get on with them? Not if they've slept with 1 person or 8? |
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"People that don't want to divulge their body count are often ashamed. Everyone has a rough idea even if its in the 1000s
Why would they be ashamed? I know for a fine fact I've had sex with a fair number of folks on occasion in my life, and other times I've been celibate through choice.
What genuine difference does it make? I could have been married twice at my age and had really terrible (or great) sex with two people. Or I could always go have been single, and had really terrible sex (or great), with lots of people.
Why would anyone want to know that number? Genuinely, why? ... Unless it's to either shame, or congratulate you? Then honestly why?
You had sex with 100 folk it makes you a slut?
You had sex with 2 folk it makes you a nigh on virgin?
* Reality is if anyone cares about your 'number', to decide how they recognise you as a person? Then they need to consider themselves and their own issues fully.
So the word slut has no meaning?
As far as who would want to know it varies. Someone who might want to have sex with you and definitely someone who might want to pursue a relationship with you.
Doesn't matter if a person has been celibate and then had sex with 100s of people in a short amount of time or it's been spread out during a long period of time. But the total amount definitely matters.
To say no one should care and it doesn't matter its crazy work
Why would the word 'slut' have any meaning? Why would anyone want to tag that word on to anyone they like?
Why would it definitely matter? I mean genuinely? Why would it actually matter? The number of folks you sleep with isn't any indication of you as a person...
And frankly you could be number 1, and a complete arsehole. So how does that work out in the sexual elite numbers game?
Every word has a meaning. I didn't make it up but it means something.
And I'm not saying it's something you call someone you like or dislike but what do you mean it doesn't have a meaning?
Why would it matter? It depends on the person I suppose. Me personally I wouldn't want to pursue someone with a high body count for personal preferences.
Not comparing people to cars but it's like saying you don't mind the mileage when buying a car.
Even on here people judge other by the numbers of verifications and it's a swinging site so to say that it's irrelevant is wild. But then again I can only speak for myself
But just because you're not getting any mileage. Doesn't equal other folk getting it.
The saying 'if you don't like the smoke, get out of the kitchen's, kinda comes to mind
If you want someone whose not having sex, then take yourself to another site. But if you want to get your own mileage in, whilst bitching about those who do? You're also on the wrong site
There's plenty of people on this site with a low body count and I'm not looking for a relationship on here so why wouldn't I be on the site?"
Would you prefer to be the pot or the kettle? Because either way you just sound like...
You're seeking a shag, but from someone not also seeking a shag. Unless they're seeking a shag, but fully aware you're only seeking a shag, and knowing you'll only see them as a shag, because you don't see them as worth more than just a shag...
In which case unless you're an awesome shag (with you're not shagging many folk rule). It's highly unlikely you're worth them seeking you as a one off shag. Cos what are you bringing to the table? |
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By *omRachCouple 12 weeks ago
Wirral |
"Heh.. Maybe I'm a slow starter I'm still in the 20s!
Open to offers of assistance "
Very similar to me, I'm 55 and don't think I have had more than 25 female partners in my life. I have had full sex with 3 men also though (all more than once).
Rach's figure is a lot higher than mine (she has had 4 frequently returning lovers in this lifestyle) but has never been with a woman. |
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"If "body count" means sexual partners I'm still under 20.
I clearly have no bragging rights here - does that make me some sort of Fab virgin?.
Or someone with standards. Nothing to be ashamed of "
Ahh...ye olde slut shaming rears it's undesirable head....
#sluts have standards too.... |
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By *orcsmatMan 12 weeks ago
Kidderminster |
Lost count of the men I've sucked off. Over the last 20 years it adds up to dozens I suspec.
Women, I know exactly. It's 23 and that is over nearly 60 years.
Wanted to get the two dozen but I don't think it will happen now. |
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Threads like this make a mockery of the old adage that age equals experience.
I've always said that there are 30 year olds with more sexual experience than some in their 50s or 60s.
I'm still in single figures and don't feel ashamed of that at all.
I don't judge others on how many people they've had sex with but I do judge them on their attitude and personality and if it's only about numbers for them. |
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Much as I don't meet this is where people go unlos and your 550 bed notches stay on fab forever more to get resurrected in 26 weeks, and you go  each and every time someone comments with 'still looking to meet' |
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"Threads like this make a mockery of the old adage that age equals experience.
I've always said that there are 30 year olds with more sexual experience than some in their 50s or 60s.
I'm still in single figures and don't feel ashamed of that at all.
I don't judge others on how many people they've had sex with but I do judge them on their attitude and personality and if it's only about numbers for them. "
Why would you feel ashamed?
It's women with high body counts who are put to shame, on here and in the real world. |
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I got asked my body count recently by someone I've been sleeping with. It's around 25 I reckon, which I told him.
Most of those were in my uni days/late 20's.
He was shocked and exclaimed '25?!'.
I wasn't sure if he was intimidated by the number, thinking I'd have more sexual experience than him, or weather he thought me to be a, gasp, slut 🤫
Either way, kinda put me off him. Feels a bit of a childish question to ask. |
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"Either way, kinda put me off him. Feels a bit of a childish question to ask. "
Totally.
It’s like those old purity test from the early days of the internet.
Yep, done most of that before I hit 20. So fucking what? |
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By *ony MannMan 12 weeks ago
Lagos, Portugal// Andover |
"I got asked my body count recently by someone I've been sleeping with. It's around 25 I reckon, which I told him.
Most of those were in my uni days/late 20's.
He was shocked and exclaimed '25?!'.
I wasn't sure if he was intimidated by the number, thinking I'd have more sexual experience than him, or weather he thought me to be a, gasp, slut 🤫
Either way, kinda put me off him. Feels a bit of a childish question to ask. "
Not a question I ever ask. I do answer it, but not in a public forum. |
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"I got asked my body count recently by someone I've been sleeping with. It's around 25 I reckon, which I told him.
Most of those were in my uni days/late 20's.
He was shocked and exclaimed '25?!'.
I wasn't sure if he was intimidated by the number, thinking I'd have more sexual experience than him, or weather he thought me to be a, gasp, slut 🤫
Either way, kinda put me off him. Feels a bit of a childish question to ask.
Not a question I ever ask. I do answer it, but not in a public forum. "
It's a public forum but it's anonymous, so who cares?
Plus a tiny fraction of the actual public read this forum and this specific page. Most people really aren't that interested in what random Internet strangers are doing |
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"Threads like this make a mockery of the old adage that age equals experience.
I've always said that there are 30 year olds with more sexual experience than some in their 50s or 60s.
I'm still in single figures and don't feel ashamed of that at all.
I don't judge others on how many people they've had sex with but I do judge them on their attitude and personality and if it's only about numbers for them.
Why would you feel ashamed?
It's women with high body counts who are put to shame, on here and in the real world. "
My experience is that men with low body counts are often mocked by other men and on a couple of occasions here on the forums, also by certain women. |
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For hygiene reasons I wouldn’t want to bang someone who gets naked with dozens of different guys every month.
I’ve slept in $5 hostels in Thailand in my 20’s and know the kinds of things living on some peoples skin! 🕷️🪱 |
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Double figures, less than 100 more than 8... Luckily. Over 30 years of having sex.
So say if it was 90... On average that's only 3 a year, which isn't many in the grand scheme of things.
I really do hate the term though, it's like giving people scores and rating them out of 10. It can all get in the bin 🗑️ |
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By *HUSH-Man 12 weeks ago
London |
"Threads like this make a mockery of the old adage that age equals experience.
I've always said that there are 30 year olds with more sexual experience than some in their 50s or 60s.
I'm still in single figures and don't feel ashamed of that at all.
I don't judge others on how many people they've had sex with but I do judge them on their attitude and personality and if it's only about numbers for them.
Why would you feel ashamed?
It's women with high body counts who are put to shame, on here and in the real world.
My experience is that men with low body counts are often mocked by other men and on a couple of occasions here on the forums, also by certain women. "
I’m still able to count the amount of partners I’ve had on my hands. I was always a relationship guy so I’d be with one woman for years at a time.
To some extent I still am. I want to try stuff with a FWB and tick off my fuck-et list with a small number of people that I really connect with. Then leave if I’m content with what I’ve experienced.
I’m not ashamed of it and if people want to tease me they can go ahead.
🤜 🤛
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"Threads like this make a mockery of the old adage that age equals experience.
I've always said that there are 30 year olds with more sexual experience than some in their 50s or 60s.
I'm still in single figures and don't feel ashamed of that at all.
I don't judge others on how many people they've had sex with but I do judge them on their attitude and personality and if it's only about numbers for them.
Why would you feel ashamed?
It's women with high body counts who are put to shame, on here and in the real world.
My experience is that men with low body counts are often mocked by other men and on a couple of occasions here on the forums, also by certain women. "
This is true. I like it though. Mines way less than 10 and I’d rather not meet people with a high body count. If that’s judgemental I couldn’t give a rats arse ❤️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I personally don't think body count is anyone's business not even the person you are having sex with.
Am I clean and STI tested and clear ... yes
Am I exclusive to my OH and have I been since we met ... yes
If we swing together will it really matter how many people we have sex with? No so long as we do it together and are both happy. |
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"For hygiene reasons I wouldn’t want to bang someone who gets naked with dozens of different guys every month.
I’ve slept in $5 hostels in Thailand in my 20’s and know the kinds of things living on some peoples skin! 🕷️🪱"
Have you heard of showers? |
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"Threads like this make a mockery of the old adage that age equals experience.
I've always said that there are 30 year olds with more sexual experience than some in their 50s or 60s.
I'm still in single figures and don't feel ashamed of that at all.
I don't judge others on how many people they've had sex with but I do judge them on their attitude and personality and if it's only about numbers for them.
Why would you feel ashamed?
It's women with high body counts who are put to shame, on here and in the real world.
My experience is that men with low body counts are often mocked by other men and on a couple of occasions here on the forums, also by certain women.
This is true. I like it though. Mines way less than 10 and I’d rather not meet people with a high body count. If that’s judgemental I couldn’t give a rats arse ❤️"
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On one level I find the whole concept of counting a bit.. toxic? There’s an inherent ‘I'm better than you because I slept with more/less people’ (delete depending on the context)
That said, I think it’s 8 men for PIV. A few more for oral but not all that many more. Women… honestly not sure. Probably somewhere around 20. |
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"On one level I find the whole concept of counting a bit.. toxic? There’s an inherent ‘I'm better than you because I slept with more/less people’ (delete depending on the context)
That said, I think it’s 8 men for PIV. A few more for oral but not all that many more. Women… honestly not sure. Probably somewhere around 20. "
Would you like to make it still 8 guys again? 😘 |
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