Letting bygones be bygones implies just allowing bad behaviour to continue.
I'm not interested in an eye for an eye and getting people back, but I do stop interacting with people who repeatedly show harmful behaviours 💜 |
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I don't think anyone has done anything so bad to me that I have been unable to forgive
Forget is another matter
There are people in my life who I keep at arms length and wouldn't get close to again but still recognise that there are bonds there for a reason |
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Literally, most of the people that have wronged me that I don’t even care enough about them to do anything bad to them.
But there’s one person that wronged my fiance and I and I know I would gladly be a prick to her if given the chance. |
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I'm quite happy to let bygones be bygones. If they're not and I have to poke their eye out before they leave me alone, then so be it.
Blue moon these days, I'm much better at avoiding getting involved, in the first place.
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No, I don't invite poor behavior and I don't excuse it, I like a peaceful easy life and if people make that difficult they are gone.
Time is precious I don't spend it with petty squabbling/revenge etc.
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I just turn my back physically, emotionally or both . I always remember a fiery, Portuguese woman I knew pretending to spit on the floor and saying "she's dead to me" about someone and that stuck with me |
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Depends. Its calculation of how hurt or wronged I've been vs the effort or negative blowback doing something about it will have. With the addition calculation of if action will improve a situation or deter future problems. My thinking is not so much revenge but a calculation of outcomes.
However there is an intrinsic default in my to hit back even when doing so would cut my nose of to spite my face. However taking a step back and letting logic step in helps me to make better and more calculated options.
And I have a long memory. If my decision is retribution its not necessarily instant. Sometimes it can be way down the line, calculated and saved for the time of optimum effect. If I'm set on retribution it's often very cutting.
But most of the time best calculation is to simply let it go and not waste my time and energy on such negative things.
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I'm a nice guy and I treat everyone as I'm treated, but I'm not one to be messed with. I'll scorch your sole and settle a score if I have to, no worries there.
Mrs F is way too nice to everyone, she's just a beautiful person who cares for everyone. |
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I don’t really have a great deal of negative interactions. I’m pretty laid back most of the time.
The rest of the time is different. I currently have one nemesis and 3 enemies. My nemesis took a tone with me in March 2024 and I haven’t forgotten.
Besides that pretty chill |
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Mostly ignore it...
If someone's generally a shitty person to others, they probably won't recognise it about themselves.
Don't bother wasting your own energy on trying to get back at them, or trying to make them realise they're a dick. |
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