Do you go with your gut when it comes to meets?
As in do you tend to know if it’s going to actually go ahead? Or do you sometimes get that vibe something is going to get in the way? Or are you a ‘it’s happening until it’s not happening’?
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I leave the gut instinct out of it otherwise I get caught up in the oscillation of ambivalence and uncertainty.
Although I will admit gut instinct isn't a bad thing either. With me it's usually a forgone conclusion that it's going to happen because I'm a slow burn and weeks and, mostly, months have been spent discussing, amongst other things, what we're going to do with each other.
By the way - I presume this is about sex and not just a social?! 🙂 |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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I don't tend to give it much thought until the actual day, I've had numerous ones not happen so I don't get overly invested anymore.
Though I do also lose out this way as I get told I don't seem interested enough.
Meh, what can you do. |
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I went with my gut recently. I was told I just had ‘low self esteem’ when I politely said ‘thanks but no thanks’ as the vibe/connection was waning and a meet didn’t appear likely - social or otherwise - and it was always excuses on their part. They convinced me I was being stupid and that we just needed to meet, so I ignored it. Turns out my gut was right all along! |
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By *aizyWoman 6 weeks ago
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"I often get a feeling of it's not going to happen not sure if it's gut feeling or just women's intuition "
I had this feeling, of course I ignored it and of course it didn't happen, I'll listen to my gut from now on. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"I leave the gut instinct out of it otherwise I get caught up in the oscillation of ambivalence and uncertainty.
Although I will admit gut instinct isn't a bad thing either. With me it's usually a forgone conclusion that it's going to happen because I'm a slow burn and weeks and, mostly, months have been spent discussing, amongst other things, what we're going to do with each other.
By the way - I presume this is about sex and not just a social?! 🙂"
Taking time really helps .... and as a woman it's always helped me work out if I am comfortable with someone or not. Sometimes the other person becomes too pushy and demanding .... I got called a time waster once because I would not meet them in half an hour for a fuck n go in a lay by or let them visit me at 5am on their way to work. So no I did not meet them. |
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My gut feeling is usually right and I usually follow it.
Though I ignored it once even though I thought he was a timewaster and he was actually far from it and turned out to be one of the best people to have entered my life and he is still a friend 5 years on. |
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I'm not sure my gut is very accurate tbh. I've had people cancel on me, always with a day's notice, minimum. Sometimes I've had an inkling, sometimes it's been totally unexpected. I think "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" is the pragmatic approach.
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I’d say my gut feelings on people are usually right but sometimes I just don’t listen to it. I do tend to spend quite a while getting to know people though so once it gets to the stage of meeting I would be feeling quite confident they are going to turn up.
I try not to get my hopes up too much about anyone these days.
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When I was meeting I would always chat for a bit never did last min meets, vid calls etc so got to know the people before I met then and vetted them I guess. Been very lucky will all meets apart from 1 so that's not bad  |
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By *eliWoman 6 weeks ago
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Generally I'm of the belief that it's not happening until I'm with them. There have been two occasions where I got a feeling it wasn't happening so I awkwardly called it before they did.  You know when conversation dips and it doesn't feel like they're too interested in you? I guess I go with how I feel. I've never been wrong. |
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"Generally I'm of the belief that it's not happening until I'm with them. There have been two occasions where I got a feeling it wasn't happening so I awkwardly called it before they did. You know when conversation dips and it doesn't feel like they're too interested in you? I guess I go with how I feel. I've never been wrong. "
Is there a fine line between them messaging too much as they’re keen and then messaging too much and it’s annoying ? My concern is that I like to chat as I like to interact and on fab there’s lots of interactions for ladies / couples so you almost have to ease of the messaging so you’re not pestering no? |
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