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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here? |
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I'm happy with friendship if the physical attraction isn't mutual. I'm looking to connect with my tribe and friend zone is fine for that.
So long as we click on the soft skills side then the physical can either click or not.
There can be friction when the boundaries aren't clear or one party doesn't "get it". |
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I (Mr) have a few, and always enjoyed having mates with similar interests.
As a couple we've had some over the years, there's always been something sexual to it though even if it's not been playing with each other |
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By *ane DTV/TS 1 day ago
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
1st part - For sex to occur -there has to be a click. No click, no sweaty horizontal jogging (other positions are available), but I have good friends from here.
2nd part - no, I am nice too most folks, unless they piss me off.
The last part yes... they even make me go to nights out, socials and shopping
(oh the horrors  ) |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
I have a few Fab friends like that, they’re sexually attractive but for many reasons, some undetermined, actual sex isn’t part of the friendship now. We may have had sex once or twice when we first connected but we don’t now. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I do have a platonic friend I started chatting to on here where there has been no sexy stuff at all. "
Aww that's lovely! It can be really nice to have friendship without sexy stuff. Where it's not even a factor. |
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We have all kinds of friends on here.
Those where it's literally just friends and those we have sexual relations with.
We're very upfront and clear with people as to what we want etc etc. If we aren't attacted to someone in that way, we make it clear. There's nothing worse than stringing people along. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Yes have few platonic friends gents as well as women just general have laugh and shoot the shit have a moan about life in general take the piss out of each other sometimes  |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I'm happy with friendship if the physical attraction isn't mutual. I'm looking to connect with my tribe and friend zone is fine for that.
So long as we click on the soft skills side then the physical can either click or not.
There can be friction when the boundaries aren't clear or one party doesn't "get it"."
Would you be happy being friends with someone if there was no attraction from either side?
Connect with your tribe is a lovely way of putting it. |
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Hello OP.
It’s me, your friend.
Yes I like making friends through fab. Starting off under a cloak of anonymity removes the pressure of socially acceptable conversation and you can jump straight to the good bit of friendship where anything can be discussed without fear of judgement. Then when that cloak comes off, you have a ready made lifelong friend.
I view my friendships from Fab the same as I do with my friends who are not on fab. I’ve known my non fab friends my whole life and can be open with them because of it, with fab friends we have a fast track pass to that place. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I (Mr) have a few, and always enjoyed having mates with similar interests.
As a couple we've had some over the years, there's always been something sexual to it though even if it's not been playing with each other"
Something sexual to it even when not having sex with each other? What does that mean? Apologies, it's already been a long day! |
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By *aizyWoman 1 day ago
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I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too. |
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"I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too."
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?
1st part - For sex to occur -there has to be a click. No click, no sweaty horizontal jogging (other positions are available), but I have good friends from here.
2nd part - no, I am nice too most folks, unless they piss me off.
The last part yes... they even make me go to nights out, socials and shopping
(oh the horrors )"
Oh how awful for you, how do you survive such things?  It's nice having friendship where you can do various things with them isn't it?
I don't see Fab friendship as being too different from friendship outside of Fab. Bar the sex openness. And I've probably seen far more of them than I would normally. |
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By *aizyWoman 1 day ago
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"I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too.
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When did you friend zone me?!  |
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I have two platonic friends from here.
Never want to have sex with them but they are pretty fun people to spend time with. One of them I used to catch up with once a month and he’d always find the best and unique places to meet for drinks.
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I’d be friends. Ideally I’d be friends with someone not so far away. But I think I’m now reaching friendship capacity. Any friend currently would be a pen pal.
I don’t ignore people I don’t want to sleep with. I’m bad at messaging in general. With anyone. But I am just as nice to people I want to sleep with as those I don’t. The boundaries are just different. I’m not going to tell my platonic friend how attractive they are as often for example.
I have a handful of platonic friends. Mostly people that have friendzoned me. Jokes. |
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"I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too.
When did you friend zone me?! "
I haven’t given up on you yet |
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Absolutely yes. I’ve got friends on here both male and female. In fact I’ve received some pretty good advice and guidance when I first started on here and still chat to them all the time.
Yay friends 🙌🏻 |
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Absolutely, well it's not a specific desire to be friends with someone from fab, but if a friendship forms great.
I have barely got time for friends and family right now. Due to change soon though 🤞🏻
I don't consciously ignore people but I can be poor at maintaing intermittent correspondence. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?
I have a few Fab friends like that, they’re sexually attractive but for many reasons, some undetermined, actual sex isn’t part of the friendship now. We may have had sex once or twice when we first connected but we don’t now."
Would you be friends with someone where sex had never been part of the friendship? Or is that something that doesn't interest you? |
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"I'm happy with friendship if the physical attraction isn't mutual. I'm looking to connect with my tribe and friend zone is fine for that.
So long as we click on the soft skills side then the physical can either click or not.
There can be friction when the boundaries aren't clear or one party doesn't "get it".
Would you be happy being friends with someone if there was no attraction from either side?
Connect with your tribe is a lovely way of putting it."
Absolutely I can be friends with people on here where there is no physical attraction.
At the risk of sounding like Shrek, it's like an onion, there's layers.
I can fancy you physically and not like you as a person = Nothing
I can like you as a person and not fancy you physically = Friendship
I can like you as a person and fancy you physically = [Dims the lights, lights the candles, puts Marvin Gaye on Spotify] Let's get it on...
I don't see that it's black or white - "You either wanna piece of this ass or on yer bike pal"
I approach FAB as simply being a place to meet people where the subject of sex is out in the open, but it's not the first, the last, my everything.
I'd love a social with a friend where the conversation is open and we are happy in the knowledge we are sexual beings and can share that.
I'd love a friend who likes a cuddle as much as I do but doesn't necessarily see it as station en route to somewhere else.
And I'd love to connect with the person who wants to enjoy me as much as I enjoy them.
Oh, and I want everything in between which means I probably need that tribe.
We're people, we're complicated, and that's the fun part of making new friendships.
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Yes, if I get on with somebody and the vibe is good (however rare) yes.
Thing is when it comes to fab (outside of forum) that initial contact is always based around an attraction.
So yes I'd be fine with being "friends" only (loose term!) with somebody from here. In fact I am and have been with a few. |
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By *enk15Man 1 day ago
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"Someone be my friend... I have biscuits
I can see a bromance in the making...
But which biscuits? "
Digestives (obviously)
Shortbread
Chocolate hobnobs (because they are the king)
Bourbons
Custard Creams
Viennese whirls
and for the Christmas period only, some gingerbread
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By *an1978Woman 1 day ago
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Yes definitely.
I've made some really good friends via here.
I would imagine if there was a sexual text build up then no spark it would be awkward.
But for people I've met socially without sex as the goal, I've found a few that are my kinda weird. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Hello OP.
It’s me, your friend.
Yes I like making friends through fab. Starting off under a cloak of anonymity removes the pressure of socially acceptable conversation and you can jump straight to the good bit of friendship where anything can be discussed without fear of judgement. Then when that cloak comes off, you have a ready made lifelong friend.
I view my friendships from Fab the same as I do with my friends who are not on fab. I’ve known my non fab friends my whole life and can be open with them because of it, with fab friends we have a fast track pass to that place. "
Hello my favourite, sorry my one and only cult friend. 🩷
You've so perfectly described why I enjoy friendship from here so very much - ⭐️ (that's a little gold star for you).
Yes, people do look down on Fab friendships sometimes, they're not real etc but they have as much value. Being able to discuss certain topics openly in a way I couldn't necessarily with others is a wonderful part of friendship from here. Your friendship.
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"I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too."
Same I think distance and practicalities means that far away hotties are 100% safe from me and I’d rather chat and have a laugh and some flirting rather than think ‘one day’.
Life’s like that, there’s realistically only people within 40 miles that I could meet when I do have a weekend off from the kids.
I can dream of a road trip but wouldn’t want to place pressure on someone to feel they’d have to meet me.
So maybe better just to be friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site) 1 day ago
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"Someone be my friend... I have biscuits
I can see a bromance in the making...
But which biscuits?
Digestives (obviously)
Shortbread
Chocolate hobnobs (because they are the king)
Bourbons
Custard Creams
Viennese whirls
and for the Christmas period only, some gingerbread
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You had me at Digestives...
The rest of that list is just wanton filth...
I'll bring the Bailey's (for latte's, obviously).  |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Having no friends in the ‘real’ world, I’ll gladly accept any friendship from peoples here.
I don’t need to be doing sex with them in order to be a friend."
No and that's how I view it. But I know for some people they're not on Fab for friendship without sex and that's fair enough. We all use the site differently. |
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By *aizyWoman 1 day ago
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"I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too.
Same I think distance and practicalities means that far away hotties are 100% safe from me and I’d rather chat and have a laugh and some flirting rather than think ‘one day’.
Life’s like that, there’s realistically only people within 40 miles that I could meet when I do have a weekend off from the kids.
I can dream of a road trip but wouldn’t want to place pressure on someone to feel they’d have to meet me.
So maybe better just to be friendly. "
Yeah, thinking one day can get to you, I try not to do it, I just think its never gonna happen then if it does bonus, if not 🤷♀️ It's not distance with the man who I have friend zoned, it is more we are really attracted to each other, but we also argue like cat and dog for some reason, if we met we would either have incredible sex or kill each other, maybe both! |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I have platonic friends on here, I also have friends who I am attracted to but for one reason or another we have never met and are probably never going to meet, we've friend zoned each other I'm ok with that too."
Is friend zoning a thing? I don't know if I like/agree with that term but perhaps that's me and my oddly particular ways. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Yes.
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
I try to be nice to most people.
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Not yet |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I don’t have that on here unfortunately. The connections I have made have came from some kind of sexual attraction.
I’d like to have that though! I could do with having more friends. "
Ah I can see how that would happen. I suppose sexual attraction, that spark, can be a driving force behind people becoming friends. An easier one, especially given the nature of the site. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I have two platonic friends from here.
Never want to have sex with them but they are pretty fun people to spend time with. One of them I used to catch up with once a month and he’d always find the best and unique places to meet for drinks.
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Do you find it easy to make/maintain friendship on here? If that's something you're open to, obviously!
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I have a number of platonic friends from Fab, and am also still friends with people who I have had 'The Sex' with.
I like the platonic friends, cos we know where we stand with each other and we are very relaxed. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Yes we have friends that we would not be intimate with... we have friends that we once were intimate with but that we aren't anymore...
My best friends are swingers xx |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
I’m happy to be friends with anyone from here I see it as a baseline for anything to happen, doesn’t always have to have a sexual attraction just to be nice, then if we all click and there’s a mutual attraction then I’ll go ahead, but I think I’ve met some great people on here of all sorts |
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"I have two platonic friends from here.
Never want to have sex with them but they are pretty fun people to spend time with. One of them I used to catch up with once a month and he’d always find the best and unique places to meet for drinks.
Do you find it easy to make/maintain friendship on here? If that's something you're open to, obviously!
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If we have things in common, can make time for one another and are invested in the friendship yes it’s easy to maintain.
One as someone I met with non-platonic intentions but I wasn’t into more a platonic friendship. We can laugh together, share food good, catch up about our adventures, and even go on hikes and little excursions together. We haven’t seen one another in months but keep in touch on WhatsApp. Last year we discovered our birthdays are one day apart after three years of knowing one another. That was a surely a fun discovery.
The other one our friendship ebbs and flows. Some days we spend hours chatting. Some times it’s months between our conversations. I try to attend their awe inspiring gallery shows when I’m around. It can be a year between times we see one another but it never feels like there’s distance between us, as odd as that may sound.
I do have another cherished friendship thanks to Fab but it’s not mutually platonic. That’s harder to navigate. One person wishes the other wanted more and there’s always an undertone of sexual tension. The friendship is good from a distance but I could do without the innuendos too. |
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I have lots of friends that I don't want to have sex with or have any sexual chemistry (male or female). I don't see why meeting them on Fab would be any different. At least we know we'd have a common interest to talk about 😂 |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?"
Yes, happy to make new friends
"Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?"
No, i treat them no differently although the subject of conversation may be different
"Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Yes |
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I really would like to make "just friends" from here, that are open minded & can just have a laugh with... However, I've struggled with this. I've met with a few guys on a social, whom I've not had a sexual connection with & I just come out & say "sorry, I think you're lovely, however I'm not attracted to you, but more than happy to meet for a social again, as you're good company etc".... Unfortunately, they've had no interest in that as they clearly just want "all the sex" 🤷🏽♀️
Maybe I'm doing something wrong here, so any advice on handling such situations would be greatly appreciated, as I would love to have Fab Friends! |
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Oh hi, OP.
Yes, I’ve made friends via fab. It’s been an unexpected treat. I think, rather like Jamie said, it’s delightfully freeing to be able to lean in to the parts of you that ordinarily take a bit longer to be uncovered. Not cutting to the chase, but more discarding the social norms.
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I have a handful of friends I've made through fab where sex was never part of the equation.
My best male friend is someone I met through fab and both of us are straight.
It's one of the reasons I have gone on numerous social meets without exchanging face pics because I know even before we've met that we get on really well but there is no sexual attraction and therefore face pics are irrelevant. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
It's the friends I have made on fab that I value the most in many ways.
I've had *some* success with the sex but actually I've mostly made friends with some amazing, interesting, funny ladies (and the odd chap) |
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I am open to having platonic friendships on here. I’ve recently told 2 close friends about this new lifestyle of mine and their response was quite lukewarm. Behind closed doors I think they likely don’t approve. So I’ve retreated into my shell again.
I’m not nice to people because I want something from them. I generally just want to be a good person, although some on here do test that.
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Absolutely yes. I’ve got friends on here both male and female. In fact I’ve received some pretty good advice and guidance when I first started on here and still chat to them all the time.
Yay friends 🙌🏻"
They're brilliant for advice and guidance aren't they? There are some things that you can't discuss with people away from Fab - like buttplug advice. Hair removal. Stockings. How to tell if someone has come or not. All the classics. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Absolutely, well it's not a specific desire to be friends with someone from fab, but if a friendship forms great.
I have barely got time for friends and family right now. Due to change soon though 🤞🏻
I don't consciously ignore people but I can be poor at maintaing intermittent correspondence."
Fingers crossed it does change for you soon Hans.
Yeah, I get the intermittent correspondence. I do warn people that I'm either waffly or quiet and it's not a reflection of them. It doesn't mean their friendship means any less. Luckily my friends understand that and things carry on easily. |
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Yes we would but our circumstances make it a bit diff in that we can't travel too far for various reasons which limits us re group socials etc.
I don't think I'm nicer to those I want to have sex with but it might be an unaware thing.
We have no platonic friends on here that we've actually met |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?
It's the friends I have made on fab that I value the most in many ways.
I've had *some* success with the sex but actually I've mostly made friends with some amazing, interesting, funny ladies (and the odd chap)"
DA? What are you doing here? 🥰
Oh the people on here can be truly fantastic can't they? If it wasn't for the socials I wouldn't have some of the incredible friends I do. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?
It's the friends I have made on fab that I value the most in many ways.
I've had *some* success with the sex but actually I've mostly made friends with some amazing, interesting, funny ladies (and the odd chap)
DA? What are you doing here? 🥰
Oh the people on here can be truly fantastic can't they? If it wasn't for the socials I wouldn't have some of the incredible friends I do."
I occasionally move from lurking 🥸 to actually posting 😁 |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I have a number of platonic friends from Fab, and am also still friends with people who I have had 'The Sex' with.
I like the platonic friends, cos we know where we stand with each other and we are very relaxed. "
Lies. Everyone knows forum users don't actually have sex.
Knowing where you stand is important for any kind of relationship isn't it? On Fab or not. I like when people I've been intimate with maintain our friendship long after the fucking has ended. They might not as much. I adore it. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Absolutely x
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
No .. those who have met me will tell you I'm a friendly person
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Err... I think so 🤣 |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I have platonic acquaintances from here. I'd be ok if I had platonic friends from here.
After Lickety passed I realised I had no one to chat about Fab or men related stuff."
I miss Lickety as well. Her WA avatar has gone. I stupidly went to send her a message and tell her I finally went for it, after eight years of her saying I should and yeah... it's really crap. Lickety reminded me of how much friendship can mean from here. The beauty of it. How much you miss it when it's no longer around. |
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"I have a number of platonic friends from Fab, and am also still friends with people who I have had 'The Sex' with.
I like the platonic friends, cos we know where we stand with each other and we are very relaxed.
Lies. Everyone knows forum users don't actually have sex.
Knowing where you stand is important for any kind of relationship isn't it? On Fab or not. I like when people I've been intimate with maintain our friendship long after the fucking has ended. They might not as much. I adore it. "
Shhh, the clique dont know about 'The Sex' part with a Forumite (or two) and it could result in me losing my platinum membership.
I probably should not confess about platonic friendships either, as this may undermine the sexual prowess I may be trying to cultivate |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?"
Yes, absolutely. It's happened recently, it's happened before and long may it continue. They represent the larger proportion of people I've befriended versus the smaller proportion of those that I sleep with on here.
"Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?"
I am nice, nicer and nicest to all.
"Do you have platonic friends on here?"
See above, Eliza.🩶 |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"Oh hi, OP.
Yes, I’ve made friends via fab. It’s been an unexpected treat. I think, rather like Jamie said, it’s delightfully freeing to be able to lean in to the parts of you that ordinarily take a bit longer to be uncovered. Not cutting to the chase, but more discarding the social norms.
Mrs TMN x"
Oh hi NipNips!
Yeah, I didn't think when I first joined I'd make the friends I have. It's a delightfully unexpected bonus to this peculiar site. Rather lucky to have the friendships I do. |
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By *ltrMan 1 day ago
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I have couple that iam friends with that I have never or intend to play with, it was a first just a lift to swing clubs but its turned into a friendship where me and her hubby go to car auctions together while she sits with my son with the carers and go to local pub for lunch on Sundays. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I really would like to make "just friends" from here, that are open minded & can just have a laugh with... However, I've struggled with this. I've met with a few guys on a social, whom I've not had a sexual connection with & I just come out & say "sorry, I think you're lovely, however I'm not attracted to you, but more than happy to meet for a social again, as you're good company etc".... Unfortunately, they've had no interest in that as they clearly just want "all the sex" 🤷🏽♀️
Maybe I'm doing something wrong here, so any advice on handling such situations would be greatly appreciated, as I would love to have Fab Friends! "
I think if you tweak how you approach it so... it doesn't feel like friendship is the lover's trophy? Not sure I'm explaining that well. At all. But if you talk to people, meet them with the intention of solely being friends... well it's more likely to happen. The forums are a good way of interacting initially with people who welcome friendship and aren't just wanting sex. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Absolutely x
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
No .. those who have met me will tell you I'm a friendly person
Do you have platonic friends on here?
Err... I think so 🤣"
You do 🥰 |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Absolutely x
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
No .. those who have met me will tell you I'm a friendly person
Do you have platonic friends on here?
Err... I think so 🤣
You do 🥰"
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I'd be fine making friends with people off of fab even if sex isn't involved . My closest friends have generally been female and I think I've been closer with them because there's not the whole sex thing there |
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I think 90% of people on my friends list are platonic.
Some I chat to more than others.
A couple of them I may have sexy chats with, but never actually meet up with.
You could say I have a broad set of Fab friends. |
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I love having fab friends! I don't have an adversity to how connections happen, whether it's a purely aesthetic and anonymous want to meet now, or a let's chat and get to know each other and see where this leads (though that's preferred, I do like having a connection first). That lead up may just be we have good chats but for whatever reason don't want to bump uglies, and results in fab friends where we can chat and laugh about things I don't with vanilla friends |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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Do you have platonic friends on here? See above, Eliza.🩶
Are you in fact Professor Henry Higgins, and is that cultured accent of Meli's covering up a true East End flower girl unrefined accent?"
 Not quite. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I have lots of friends that I don't want to have sex with or have any sexual chemistry (male or female). I don't see why meeting them on Fab would be any different. At least we know we'd have a common interest to talk about 😂"
I don't know why it is seen as different. People talk about Fab and then the "real world". About trust, blah blah blah. I think some purely want to use Fab for sex and that's fine. Just a different way of doing things. |
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First off I’m nice to those that deserve it regardless of whether I’m friends or whether I think a rumble in the sheets is on the cards 😁 and I’m a complete arse to those I feel are absolute twats 😂😂
But ultimately I would be friends with some fabsters regardless of sex/sexual attraction 😉 |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
There are people I have chatted and do still chat to who live nowhere near to me, making anything other than friendly chat unlikely, mostly after finding we have things in common on the forums. I enjoy them and can definitely imagine being friends with them in real life even if there's no sexual connection. |
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By *aven.Woman 1 day ago
Not the North West... |
Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
No
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Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Yes and yes
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Do you have platonic friends on here?
Some guys send me random memes every now and then, is that friendship? |
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"I have lots of friends that I don't want to have sex with or have any sexual chemistry (male or female). I don't see why meeting them on Fab would be any different. At least we know we'd have a common interest to talk about 😂
I don't know why it is seen as different. People talk about Fab and then the "real world". About trust, blah blah blah. I think some purely want to use Fab for sex and that's fine. Just a different way of doing things. "
I just mean 'in real life' when I say the real world. I don't really have online friends. It doesn't matter at all to be where or how I met someone. A friend is a friend. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 day ago
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"I have lots of friends that I don't want to have sex with or have any sexual chemistry (male or female). I don't see why meeting them on Fab would be any different. At least we know we'd have a common interest to talk about 😂
I don't know why it is seen as different. People talk about Fab and then the "real world". About trust, blah blah blah. I think some purely want to use Fab for sex and that's fine. Just a different way of doing things.
I just mean 'in real life' when I say the real world. I don't really have online friends. It doesn't matter at all to be where or how I met someone. A friend is a friend."
I understood Delectable, don't worry! You mean you spend time with them in person. Quality time together. |
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Do you have platonic friends on here?
Some guys send me random memes every now and then, is that friendship? "
I think that represents a proposal of marriage (or am I getting confused with the random dick pics?)  |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
I am equally nice and polite regardless of whether or not sex is involved, but I am here for sex. |
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By *ib.Man 21 hours ago
Hampshire |
"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
You're talking about me again aren't you? |
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Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Yes of course, I tend to think you can find friends from any aspect of your life.
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Nicer no, but would I treat them differently yes. There will be differences in the style of writing etc.
Do you have platonic friends on here?
Currently not really, but it's not something I've purposely sought recently. But never say never |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 20 hours ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
I've chatted to some lovely people I've met online here. I'm never going to have sex with them, and that's just fine with me. I love being able to chat or shoot the breeze, or even trade amiable insults.
It has been an unexpected benefit. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 20 hours ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"I have loads of platonic friends here. Long may it continue although a little bit more of the fucky fucky wouldn’t go amiss 😘
Not many 99 year olds on here. "
LB has very... specific... tastes...
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"I (Mr) have a few, and always enjoyed having mates with similar interests.
As a couple we've had some over the years, there's always been something sexual to it though even if it's not been playing with each other
Something sexual to it even when not having sex with each other? What does that mean? Apologies, it's already been a long day!"
No is probably worded it badly! I mean we were friends, but we'd often go to parties together or we'd arrange meets with others while we were together and chatting. So it wasnt like we were vanilla friends, we talked about what we got up to, and played around each other etc even though we weren't playing together together.
I'm not sure I've helped explain this  |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
I have platonic friends from here. In fact one of my most loved humans I met here x.
I am very good at friendzoning myself though. I’m too damn funny 🤣🤣
And I’m nice to almost everyone. Just in slightly different ways  |
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By *eli OP Woman 20 hours ago
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?
You're talking about me again aren't you?"
Which part? Want to make sure we're on the same page. |
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"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Yes, I have platonic friends here. I think I have friends who want to fuck occasionally too. |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 11 hours ago
East Northamptonshire |
"Would you want to be friends with someone from Fab if sex/sexual attraction wasn't part of it?
Are you nicer to those who you want to have sex with/choose to ignore those you don't?
Do you have platonic friends on here?"
Yes, I’d be open to being friends
No, I don’t really speak to either side
I have no plutonic friends here, it’s all a bit fickle, if you don’t want sex/relationship, they don’t tend to want to make a friendship |
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