I would say I've grown as a person having an interest in this scene .
When I first explored fet a few years ago it helped me realise I wasn't alone being neurodiverse as it's quite common .
I'm not gonna go into detail here as there's a lot of ground that can be covered but I'm curious as to other people and if they have similar thoughts on this as a topic |
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Personally, no I don’t feel as though I have but I’m very, very much on the fringe of the scene if you can even say I’m in it at all.
Sexual subcultures generally and by definition bring openness and vulnerability and so I can see how it would make people feel empowered by them  nice post, made me smile mate |
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"Personally, no I don’t feel as though I have but I’m very, very much on the fringe of the scene if you can even say I’m in it at all.
Sexual subcultures generally and by definition bring openness and vulnerability and so I can see how it would make people feel empowered by them nice post, made me smile mate"
appreciate it mate thanks . For me I'm only just starting to explore but realising about the community in general helped me a lot a few years ago and is the start point to the road I'm on right now |
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If I understand correctly, you’re intimating that as your own experiences have helped you grow as an individual in the scene, have others also felt the same too ?
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I think it would be fair to say, generally speaking, that anyone who enters a lifestyle that is new to them will learn things about themselves (and others) along the way. That’s a given.
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However you mention realising that you are not alone in being Neurodiverse, and I feel your framing of the question specially covers this angle, as significant and appropriate to you.
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Essentially you are saying, “Hey ND folks, how have you found the lifestyle ?” and I think reading between the lines, “How has it impacted your ND nature?”
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It is a very good question, and very specific, because it invites replies from ND people and their shared experiences. I would caution however that any such replies can only be interpreted at a highly individualistic and personal level (and that goes for non-ND folks, as much as it does ND folks). Without serious level collation and deep professional assessment of multiple reviews it would be churlish to draw any hard and fast conclusions. It’s all “anecdotal” (for whatever that is worth).
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My own experiences, as an ND-person ?
I have found my own entry (years ago) in the scene fascinating and revealing about my own personality. I’ve learned that I am not driven by my Id (the impulsive part of the brain). I am driven by the Ego. This makes all my interactions rational and logical. Consistent. Planned. Which is pretty important for a person who is a dom.
That was an aspect of my personality before entering the lifestyle which emerged as I moved in certain aspects of the lifestyle. So that was indeed a learning experience and a valuable one.
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Curiously enough, most of my work involves other ND’s who are heavily biased in their Id, and seek solace in “quietening their minds”, if even for a little while.
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Such arrangements are highly complementary to each other if the right people are involved and their pre-meet discussed goals align.
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I hope that answers your question, but in essence yes, being in the lifestyle as an ND-person means constant self-introspection and reflection for me at least, and that has deepened my understanding of myself in a positive fashion. |
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"If I understand correctly, you’re intimating that as your own experiences have helped you grow as an individual in the scene, have others also felt the same too ?
.
I think it would be fair to say, generally speaking, that anyone who enters a lifestyle that is new to them will learn things about themselves (and others) along the way. That’s a given.
.
However you mention realising that you are not alone in being Neurodiverse, and I feel your framing of the question specially covers this angle, as significant and appropriate to you.
.
Essentially you are saying, “Hey ND folks, how have you found the lifestyle ?” and I think reading between the lines, “How has it impacted your ND nature?”
.
It is a very good question, and very specific, because it invites replies from ND people and their shared experiences. I would caution however that any such replies can only be interpreted at a highly individualistic and personal level (and that goes for non-ND folks, as much as it does ND folks). Without serious level collation and deep professional assessment of multiple reviews it would be churlish to draw any hard and fast conclusions. It’s all “anecdotal” (for whatever that is worth).
.
My own experiences, as an ND-person ?
I have found my own entry (years ago) in the scene fascinating and revealing about my own personality. I’ve learned that I am not driven by my Id (the impulsive part of the brain). I am driven by the Ego. This makes all my interactions rational and logical. Consistent. Planned. Which is pretty important for a person who is a dom.
That was an aspect of my personality before entering the lifestyle which emerged as I moved in certain aspects of the lifestyle. So that was indeed a learning experience and a valuable one.
.
Curiously enough, most of my work involves other ND’s who are heavily biased in their Id, and seek solace in “quietening their minds”, if even for a little while.
.
Such arrangements are highly complementary to each other if the right people are involved and their pre-meet discussed goals align.
.
I hope that answers your question, but in essence yes, being in the lifestyle as an ND-person means constant self-introspection and reflection for me at least, and that has deepened my understanding of myself in a positive fashion."
You're right about how I'm curious to it affecting ND nature , it's something very personal to me about how looking into the scene from a lifestyle perspective helped me in certain ways .
Sure the play is fun but it's not about that necessarily. I actually want to engage platonically with people as well . It's always cool to get perspective from the differently wired especially on a topic as complex as what this one is but I'm aware probably only a few at best would engage like you have |
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