Fuckin worst right!
I used to get so jealous. I just distract myself with new people. But I haven't been in love jealous for a long time. That stings. I think I would still try and distract myself with others. |
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I won't lie i have been jealous at times but I try not too. Especially as my ex was extremely jealous and paranoid. Got to the point where she was constantly messaging and ringing me at work and would assume because I couldn't answer straight away I was cheating on her with a work colleague or with anyone. Wouldn't and couldn't understand that I can't answer straight away especially when I'm working in the job environment that I work in. |
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No, pickle. I don’t feel jealousy. I’m so evolved I’m completely immune to that human emotion.
I find it embarrassing in 2024 that someone dare to feel jealousy. How primitive. You’re no better than a caveman!
I wish.
Same as Julie, I try unpick what’s behind it. It’s easier to unpick with someone. I’ll usually speak with a neutral friend first. I find sometimes it helps to get perspective from someone away from the immediate situation |
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By *eliWoman 14 weeks ago
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Well for one, sometimes it's an umbrella term. Or an accusation thrown at another. I also think that we label jealousy as this great Big Evil when it's a normal human emotion.
I rarely feel jealous. Jealousy. I don't want to be one of many, does nothing for me but it's not because I get jealous. I like people who make me happy to be happy. Despise lies and that's when the negative feelings creep in.
Sometimes I can feel a bit meh. The last time I felt meh I discovered that I was right and they were unethically dicking around. It's good to listen to why I'm feeling that way.
I try and avoid weaponising when I'm feeling insecure and work out why that is. Is my period due? Am I overtired? Eaten too much cheese recently and not feeling particularly attractive? Sometimes I'll talk to a friend and say, hey, I'm feeling uncomfortable about this situation, am I being an unfair twunt?
Sometimes just a good night's sleep is enough.
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Yeah, I've experienced it. I sit with it and try to figure out what's behind it. Is it caused by the internal or external? Is it fear of being replaced/fomo/envy etc?
Then I talk about it in a non-confrontational way. |
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It is a complex and contextual feeling for sure. Jealousy can be thrown as an accusation, to deflect from all kinds of shitty behaviours.
Is she angry with me because I bailed on her 3 times in a row or perhaps I broke some form of agreed boundary, or is she really just jealous. Perhaps I should sit down with her and point how she needs to own her feelings and insecurity. I'm sure she'd appreciate my profound wisdom, at this juncture.
Oh look she told me to fuck off, what childish behaviour. Clearly she can't control her jealousy. Not a real swinger that one!
I think once you accept that it's a normal emotion your resilience starts to build over time. It ceases to be alarming. Once you have a relationship where you can talk about it openly, rather than the fuckery of head-games, it's even better. |
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I've never suffered from jealously. Its one emotion I don't suffer from. I don't think I would ever have been a swingers if I suffered from it.
I've had guys in my life do things to make me feel jealous and I've just walked away |
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