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I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows |
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Mate feel exactly the same. Like have no idea where I'm going wrong. Always respectful and never pushy but barely get a reply or it just ends up being endless messaging with no hint at a social or anything. I reckon I'm going to give up too. |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
Get to a social or a club or at least into real meets, the majority on FAB are timewasters or dreamers and have no intention to meet.
I have no problem with people who just want to chat as long as they are upfront and state they have no intention of meeting.
Saves so much time.
You seem fine to me.  |
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I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you. |
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I sympathise OP. I think it’s just the nature of the beast.
I do well on dating apps where my face is on full view but tend to get blocked when sharing it on here. I’ve just come to the conclusion that FAB isn’t the best vehicle for me so I have explored alternative avenues to carry on doing what I want to be doing.
I stick around here just for the craic mostly now and to still have visibility for party/club meets . |
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"I sympathise OP. I think it’s just the nature of the beast.
I do well on dating apps where my face is on full view but tend to get blocked when sharing it on here. I’ve just come to the conclusion that FAB isn’t the best vehicle for me so I have explored alternative avenues to carry on doing what I want to be doing.
I stick around here just for the craic mostly now and to still have visibility for party/club meets ."
Exactly the same. I don’t do great on here and if not for the forums I’d have met a handful of people in all my years.
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Plus, you’re not always going to be your type’s type on here. And you’ve got to realise the main demographic you’re interacting with on here will possibly be different to in the outside world or on dating apps.
For example- I keep way more ethnically diverse company off of here and on dating apps I don’t bother wasting time liking older women that are never interested in younger men, so the chances of being someone’s type significantly increase. That’s the game. |
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I think you just need to take this place with a pinch of salt, live is short, who cares if majority if not all the women on here are not interest in you? (Most single guys feel the same way as you to be honest) the truth is most of the women you are interested in if you walked past them on the street you wouldn’t look twice (harsh I know but also true) |
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"I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you. "
I don't do too bad in the real world so I guess I'm not that ugly. Just too ugly for fab lol |
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"I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you. "
Wise words about breaking the perspective |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
🙄 ah grow up!
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"I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you. I don't do too bad in the real world so I guess I'm not that ugly. Just too ugly for fab lol"
The people on fab aren’t any better than elsewhere. You’re not too ugly for fab. You’re just not the type of the people on here. |
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"I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you.
Wise words about breaking the perspective "
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I think the key to happiness in this place is feeling good enough about yourself that you still maintain that even when faced with rejection. If you can't seperate the two, it's not the place to be. |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
I doubt this very much . You clearly look after yourself , you have a decent bat the only thing I would suggest is complete your profile . Write a bit more about yourself , what you are looking for and likes and dislikes and be patient . It’s not tinder and takes time and trust . |
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With no picture of your face its hard to judge if you are attractive or not though you do have a nice smile. But I know a few guys who wouldn't describe themselves as particularly handsome who do very well on the scene by being friendly and chatty and don't rely much on this site. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
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"I think the key to happiness in this place is feeling good enough about yourself that you still maintain that even when faced with rejection. If you can't seperate the two, it's not the place to be."
This.
Like any online interaction some are focused purely on visuals and it's often difficult to make your personality come across in messages.
I'll never get bored of saying 'clubs and socials'. The best way to show people the real you. There's plenty of people out there way less bothered about someone's perceived facial attractiveness when you meet them in person than many think.
If you put all your eggs in a basket where the sole means of 'advertising' yourself are some photos and a few words on a page you're in for an uphill battle. |
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I don't think it's your looks OP
Take a closer look at who you are meeting, where you are meeting, how you want to meet - and how you go about getting there
There is one thing for sure though, defeatism is rarely attractive |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows
Get to a social or a club or at least into real meets, the majority on FAB are timewasters or dreamers and have no intention to meet.
I have no problem with people who just want to chat as long as they are upfront and state they have no intention of meeting.
Saves so much time.
You seem fine to me. "
I would love a social chat if your OK with that as it is unlikely we will ever meet due to our locations. Xx |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
Don't be daft xx |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
Ahhh you and me both brother.
Thank god I have my shitty attitude as a backup. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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My dude, two chunks like us who have people openly tell us how relulsive we are do just fine on here so you've not got much to worry about in the looks department. |
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Everyone else has the same problem. Of all the women on fab, only a tiny percentage might be attracted to you, and of those, a smaller percentage will be compatible, and an even smaller still, in the range of area/age, etc. Then take that minute percentage, not all of those will wanna do sex on you.
It’s brutal, but it’s an easy thing to embrace. Being rejected because of your face may suck donkey balls, and may make you feel ‘ugly’…..but they don’t find you attractive, they’re not saying you’re ugly.
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There is someone for everyone.
Guys you outnumber us couples and fems by 100s to 1. It's a numbers game!
I'm not the best looking guy in the world however I don't really give a shit either TBH.... I'm confident in my own skin and very much understand I will only appeal to a select few. Just the way the world works.
Get into a club and sell yourself...
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"I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you. "
Agreed. Fab isn't good in a way for this. You can't get a feel for someone through visual imagery. I've been to a few clubs and people say I always look better in person, fiar enough. I admit I take shit selfie pictures. |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
Get yourself to socials. Personality, charisma etc are far more attractive qualities in a man. |
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By *tew008Man 11 weeks ago
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
It’s a calming realization, just embrace the tranquility |
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"I rather doubt it's your looks, OP. so why is it when they see my face the conversation ends?"
It could be many reasons ,maybe you only contact forum women who've been there and done that ,maybe your messages are sexual right from the get go ,maybe it's your lack of profile ,maybe it's your many cock pics ,maybe it's your face many maybes end conversation .
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There's a guy in a club I go to. Every time I'm there no matter what time of year he is there completely naked, dancing on the dancefloor. Doesn't matter the theme of the party or how many people. There he is week after week dancing naked as the day he was born. He just doesn't care what people think, he lives as he pleases and everyone knows him. He's probably the most popular bloke at the club and never went without women wanting to dance with him. The point is that he did him and wasn't going to let anyone say otherwise.
He was nothing much to look at but definitely the one to watch. |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows"
The proverbial 'King Prawn'. Tasty body and fucking gipping head.
But I doubt this is true, but well done on the profile bump. 😂 |
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"I used to feel like this. Then one day I left fab, spent time interacting with people in the real world and realised I’m not ugly at all. I might not be the best looking man in the world but I’m definitely not ugly.
Sometimes fab makes you feel unattractive. Don’t give it that power over you. "
Exactly this!!!! |
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By *tr8MrEMan 11 weeks ago
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"I rather doubt it's your looks, OP. so why is it when they see my face the conversation ends?"
Chin up dude ... Most times it isn't you, some females on fab have a high opinion of themselves, and wouldn't know a decent guy if he stood naked in front of them |
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My visage is below par.
My countenance is mediocre.
My aesthetics aren't worthy of post-modernism.
I've broken more mirrors than hearts.
But I do just fine on Fab. I couldn't live without it.
If you can decipher the Fab algorithm do please let me know. |
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I thought the same because I'm a big girl nobody would be interested in me but I was very wrong however after being here over a year looks anit everything ita personality that most are looking for |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo"
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board. |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board. "
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob. |
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Most unlikely to be the case OP. But people will perhaps only be mutually compatible with perhaps 1% or fewer, of the people who they engage with. It does have to include physical attraction but this is just one part. Mental/personality compatibility is a massive part too. Factor in interests, preferences, location/travel ideals, availability, work, relationships and other bits and pieces of life and things start to get more fragmented.
It's often not about having someone else who is a better fit, just that we do need to be reasonably certain enough of a fit, before progressing what may be expensive and very difficult and may often decide that there's sufficient uncertainty and therefore doing nothing is right for us.
It's not about picking the best from a good range of male models, who'll be decorative enough around us. Many prefer staples of dad bods, men who are regular 'average' guys and have what some male models might consider flaws. We can like warts and all, accepting people for who they are.
Often we can get floored with cock. We get a bit too much of what we don't want, being less able to see clearly what we do. Our interests will wax and wane. When we're not interested, someone else will be. You have to play the long game. Unless you're at parties/clubs, little will be immediate.
You can decide on your expectations. And you can control your results. You might change your physical appearance, to some extent. But you'll still be under the same real world conditions and subject to the likelihood of just being able to match a tiny minority of people, irrespective of whether you are a top grade model or the regular guy on the street. |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob."
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂 |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂"
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close? |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close? "
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy"
Don't settle for artifical sugar Hants. Have you seen you? |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy"
I’ll take it. Please tell me how lovely I am |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy
Don't settle for artifical sugar Hants. Have you seen you? "
It’s fine. I need an artificial sugar daddy for things like oiling my wheels on my car. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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the majority on FAB are timewasters or dreamers and have no intention to meet.
I have no problem with people who just want to chat as long as they are upfront and state they have no intention of meeting.
Saves so much time.
You seem fine to me. "
EXACTLY 💯 |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy
Don't settle for artifical sugar Hants. Have you seen you?
It’s fine. I need an artificial sugar daddy for things like oiling my wheels on my car. "
I’m down your way soon collecting a sample from a sailor. Dinner? FAF? |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy
I’ll take it. Please tell me how lovely I am "
You are lovely. I’ve seen it. |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy
Don't settle for artifical sugar Hants. Have you seen you?
It’s fine. I need an artificial sugar daddy for things like oiling my wheels on my car. "
Can the real sugar daddy please stand up |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy
Don't settle for artifical sugar Hants. Have you seen you?
It’s fine. I need an artificial sugar daddy for things like oiling my wheels on my car.
I’m down your way soon collecting a sample from a sailor. Dinner? FAF?"
I’ve collected many samples from sailors. Be careful, they’ll break your heart.
Dinner sounds great.
The rest I’ll think about |
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By *tr8MrEMan 11 weeks ago
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I genuinely am too ugly for this...the only meet I get is if I buy it from a butcher's !!!
Doesn't matter how fit you are or how awe inspiring your man veg is, if your face ain't worth sitting on then it's a non starter.
Let the naysaying commence |
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I wasted my teens worry about looks when it's actually confidence that counts. Women seem drawn more to confident men and it wasn't u till I became comfortable in my own skin that I started having success with women.
Also, consider your medium. Online used to be great for me when it was chat apps but not so much now as it's more visual. And I find f2f socials better because your personality and confidence are more evident. |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭
You don't have too. Get yourself a sugar daddy 🤪
IM TRYING
Do better. xoxo
He’s just told me to be realistic. Back to the drawing board.
You're too good for him hun.
P.S great boob.
You need to stay out of my business. Moving like Virgil Van Dijk with that defending 😂
Meli is GOAT. She did great with defending
I dunno if I used goat right. I honestly hate trying new things. Was I at least close?
I’ll be your saccharine daddy.
Haven’t quite got the funds to be a real sugar daddy
Don't settle for artifical sugar Hants. Have you seen you?
It’s fine. I need an artificial sugar daddy for things like oiling my wheels on my car.
I’m down your way soon collecting a sample from a sailor. Dinner? FAF?
I’ve collected many samples from sailors. Be careful, they’ll break your heart.
Dinner sounds great.
The rest I’ll think about"
Okay 👍🏼
Sorry folks, back to the thread. What are we moaning about? |
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Doesn't matter how fit you are or how awe inspiring your man veg is, if your face ain't worth sitting on then it's a non starter.
Let the naysaying commence "
I have a face like the northern end of a southbound camel - not to mention being elderly and having the smallest willy in the West Country.
But...
Read my verifications. |
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By *tr8MrEMan 11 weeks ago
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Doesn't matter how fit you are or how awe inspiring your man veg is, if your face ain't worth sitting on then it's a non starter.
Let the naysaying commence
I have a face like the northern end of a southbound camel - not to mention being elderly and having the smallest willy in the West Country.
But...
Read my verifications. "
Always someone who bites 🤣🤣 |
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By *uzzleMan 11 weeks ago
Hastings |
I class myself in the same boat as OP.
I have an athletic body, amazing cock and hung (even if I do say so myself). I've only ever messaged a couple once who requested a face pic and I knew my journey ended there. Quite simply my face didn't meet their expectations of my body or cock and this comes as no surprise to me.
I am aware of my place within Fab, you need to be a Ferrari in a car park full of Ford Mondeo's to have success on Fab.
I am not being hard on myself, there are levels and leagues to this game and I'm way off!
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Doesn't matter how fit you are or how awe inspiring your man veg is, if your face ain't worth sitting on then it's a non starter.
Let the naysaying commence
I have a face like the northern end of a southbound camel - not to mention being elderly and having the smallest willy in the West Country.
But...
Read my verifications.
Always someone who bites 🤣🤣"
You know perfectly well that my comment wasn't aimed at you...
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"Most unlikely to be the case OP. But people will perhaps only be mutually compatible with perhaps 1% or fewer, of the people who they engage with. It does have to include physical attraction but this is just one part. Mental/personality compatibility is a massive part too. Factor in interests, preferences, location/travel ideals, availability, work, relationships and other bits and pieces of life and things start to get more fragmented.
It's often not about having someone else who is a better fit, just that we do need to be reasonably certain enough of a fit, before progressing what may be expensive and very difficult and may often decide that there's sufficient uncertainty and therefore doing nothing is right for us.
It's not about picking the best from a good range of male models, who'll be decorative enough around us. Many prefer staples of dad bods, men who are regular 'average' guys and have what some male models might consider flaws. We can like warts and all, accepting people for who they are.
Often we can get floored with cock. We get a bit too much of what we don't want, being less able to see clearly what we do. Our interests will wax and wane. When we're not interested, someone else will be. You have to play the long game. Unless you're at parties/clubs, little will be immediate.
You can decide on your expectations. And you can control your results. You might change your physical appearance, to some extent. But you'll still be under the same real world conditions and subject to the likelihood of just being able to match a tiny minority of people, irrespective of whether you are a top grade model or the regular guy on the street. "
That's a quality message miss Slut. I thought it was only me who suffered from longmessagitis... |
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"I've come to the conclusion im not good looking enough for fab. I get a fair bit of traffic on my profile and the odd message from females but it always seems to end there. I think they expect me to be better looomg for some reason who knows
Get to a social or a club or at least into real meets, the majority on FAB are timewasters or dreamers and have no intention to meet.
I have no problem with people who just want to chat as long as they are upfront and state they have no intention of meeting.
Saves so much time.
You seem fine to me.
I would love a social chat if your OK with that as it is unlikely we will ever meet due to our locations. Xx"
Like you say, unlikely we will ever meet so unless you came up to a social around our area, will never happen.
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"Most of the time, it's definitely not someone's looks that let's them down."
ok then this happend yesterday. I sent a message to an attractive lady just simply saying gorgeous. She reposed within 2 mins and sent me 3 pics of her face introduced herself and said i had a nice profile. I responded with hey thanks for the reply my name is .... and sent 2 face pics not rude at all. I didn't get reply. Now tell me it's not my looks lol
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Interesting thread - genuinely! Why would the women of Fab be more demanding than women elsewhere?
I genuinely don't get the "I do well on dating apps/the real world, but not Fab" - same face, same women? Maybe you do something different here, even subconsciously, to the dating apps that brings a different reaction? Who knows!
My face seems to be more attractive here than the real world - I just assumed that was because women are more desperate here... 😉
(THAT WAS A JOKE! I REPEAT, A JOKE!) |
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"I rather doubt it's your looks, OP. so why is it when they see my face the conversation ends?"
Honestly because males are simply a backdrop or by product of swinging there’s 1000’s of us out there and most profiles are after unicorns. (Single bi females) |
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"Most of the time, it's definitely not someone's looks that let's them down.ok then this happend yesterday. I sent a message to an attractive lady just simply saying gorgeous. She reposed within 2 mins and sent me 3 pics of her face introduced herself and said i had a nice profile. I responded with hey thanks for the reply my name is .... and sent 2 face pics not rude at all. I didn't get reply. Now tell me it's not my looks lol "
Easy fix
send a face pic along with your first message *simples*
fyi - I would never respond to a one word message - they are the worst. |
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Simple answer to this is boy math , we all joined thinking it was gonna be a nice slip and slide to boobsville, very quickly we figured out that only around 10% are women and less that are women looking for guys , so we then message all 1000 or so lasses thinking well I only need a strike rate of 1 in 1000 so piece of piss , little did we know that all guys did that and now all the ladies have circa 20000 messages to sift thru so now they delete half the messages unless u look like Ryan Reynolds or Paul walker , basically they now have so much choice they can be picky as owt…… boy math shooting is all in the nuts |
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"fyi - I would never respond to a one word message - they are the worst.
Genuinely can’t comprehend this logic.
If I like the profile and they say ‘hi’ I reply.
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Same, because in the real world you’d initially say “Hi” you wouldn’t say “Hi” and spill your guts before they replied I think if we did the other person might think “ok but odd!”  |
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"Simple answer to this is boy math , we all joined thinking it was gonna be a nice slip and slide to boobsville, very quickly we figured out that only around 10% are women and less that are women looking for guys , so we then message all 1000 or so lasses thinking well I only need a strike rate of 1 in 1000 so piece of piss , little did we know that all guys did that and now all the ladies have circa 20000 messages to sift thru so now they delete half the messages unless u look like Ryan Reynolds or Paul walker , basically they now have so much choice they can be picky as owt…… boy math shooting is all in the nuts "
Ooo I don’t think I’d like to look like Paul Walker |
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"Interesting thread - genuinely! Why would the women of Fab be more demanding than women elsewhere?
I genuinely don't get the "I do well on dating apps/the real world, but not Fab" - same face, same women? Maybe you do something different here, even subconsciously, to the dating apps that brings a different reaction? Who knows!
My face seems to be more attractive here than the real world - I just assumed that was because women are more desperate here... 😉
(THAT WAS A JOKE! I REPEAT, A JOKE!)"
I'm not on the other apps but is the M:F ratio closer on sat Tinder/Grindr/Mingr/Pof? |
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"I’ve come to the conclusion I’m too pretty to have to work. It’s barbaric I have to 😭 "
get yourself a rich old boy .. and just sit back and enjoy. only have to bounce their face af few times a month and its golden |
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"Interesting thread - genuinely! Why would the women of Fab be more demanding than women elsewhere?
I genuinely don't get the "I do well on dating apps/the real world, but not Fab" - same face, same women? Maybe you do something different here, even subconsciously, to the dating apps that brings a different reaction? Who knows!
My face seems to be more attractive here than the real world - I just assumed that was because women are more desperate here... 😉
(THAT WAS A JOKE! I REPEAT, A JOKE!)
I'm not on the other apps but is the M:F ratio closer on sat Tinder/Grindr/Mingr/Pof? "
No idea, I'm not on any other apps either... |
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