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I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist 
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat |
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I was at a tube station and a woman was carrying a small child and dragging a pushchair up the stairs. A man offered to take the pushchair and she said would you have fucking asked if I was a bloke? Stupid cow.
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"I was at a tube station and a woman was carrying a small child and dragging a pushchair up the stairs. A man offered to take the pushchair and she said would you have fucking asked if I was a bloke? Stupid cow.
No you can’t win I’m afraid 🤷♀️"
That's Wild!
I still remember back when I was in school I was on the train with my mum and I was distracted and didn't see a lady come in and stand near me and she slapped on the back of my head for not offering my sit quick enough so since then for me it's been something I've always done so it was the first time I seen or been through something like that before |
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I offered my seat to an elderly man with a stick on the bus, even though there were much younger people than me seated. He said no thanks he preferred to stand..I felt a bit of a burk for offering.. |
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If you only offered a woman a seat because she was a woman then yeh, that's.. that's weird, right?
If she looked like she was struggling or whatever then sure. But you'd equally do that for any man. |
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"I offered my seat to an elderly man with a stick on the bus, even though there were much younger people than me seated. He said no thanks he preferred to stand..I felt a bit of a burk for offering.."
Should have kicked his walking stick away and laughed Nelson style when he fell over "HAHA"  |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
I’m actually not surprised but I am disappointed 😢
But lesson learnt and I’ve learned something new for the future 👍🏽 |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 1 week ago
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This must be a generational thing.
Unless I was in a priority seat and there was an old person or someone clearly struggling with mobility, I wouldn't be offering my seat to noone, especially not just because they're female. |
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By *AYENCouple 1 week ago
Lincolnshire |
"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
I really don't understand why you felt you should stand so she could sit? Did you think she was less capable of standing than you? K. |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat
I really don't understand why you felt you should stand so she could sit? Did you think she was less capable of standing than you? K."
Just how I been brought up |
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"Regardless of whether it’s sexist or not….
There’s absolutely no reason to be rude.
Surely if it's sexist then that's a good reason to be rude 😅"
Making yourself an arsehole, doesn’t make the other person less of an arsehole.
There are ways to say no. Educate. Stand up for yourself etc… without just being rude. |
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Just how I been brought up"
In the same way that, the old boy, mentioned elswhere in the thread, who refused to take the seat being offered, was most likely also brought up.
It was an easy to learn and understand protocol which worked fine for a good length of time, rightly or wrongly. |
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Now see you did it all wrong. You should have stood up, walked away without a word.
You made a gesture by vacating the seat, but did not converse in any way to provoke and kind of offense.
Now you know. Learn from mistakes. |
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Unless there was an obvious need for the woman in question to be seated then it would appear unusual to her for a random person to give up their seat. It’s a generational thing, our grandparents would have done that but not do much nowadays. |
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I find it hard not to be opening doors/giving up seats etc. but I am very wary now after being spat on by a woman I held a door for some years ago. It's impossible to know whether a woman appreciates it, or thinks it's sexist/misogynistic these days. Definitely happier and easier to not chase, not date and not make an effort, by and large. Although it goes against who I am it's all a complete minefield sadly. Pains me and sticks in my throat to say it as I've always been honoured to be called a gentleman. |
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"I find it hard not to be opening doors/giving up seats etc. but I am very wary now after being spat on by a woman I held a door for some years ago. It's impossible to know whether a woman appreciates it, or thinks it's sexist/misogynistic these days. Definitely happier and easier to not chase, not date and not make an effort, by and large. Although it goes against who I am it's all a complete minefield sadly. Pains me and sticks in my throat to say it as I've always been honoured to be called a gentleman. "
I can relate to that, I’m mindful as one wonders how it will be received. On the back of that since becoming a dad I have had women some of them about my age stop to open doors when I’m pushing the pram lol.
A lot of younger folk are always on their phones be it walking down the road or standing at a bus stop very much focused on their own world they are not used to gestures.
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I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches! |
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!"
Bit harsh. |
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!"
Sums it up. We gotta keep you lot on your toes. Be grateful we're only slightly roasting when we could easily gut and bleed you out 😌 |
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Women are the gatekeepers. If a woman doesn’t want to know then it’s not happening.
The tide has turned imagine what it must have been like to be woman back in the day when they were expected to find a suitor, raise a family and run the home answerable to their husbands.
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!
Sums it up. We gotta keep you lot on your toes. Be grateful we're only slightly roasting when we could easily gut and bleed you out 😌 "
I like this one. Must check how far away. |
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Objectively it is sexist as it implies either an inherent weakness in women, or a belief they deserve preferential treatment.
Socially, it's widely known if slightly dated, etiquette. Choosing to believe that a person's behaviour is created by sexism rather than exposure to social etiquette says more about her than it does about you.
She could have thanked you for your offer, explained that she understood why it was made but that she disagreed with that approach. It's the response I would choose on the grounds that's if the offer was based on a desire to display good manners, it isn't returning that with unkindness. If, on the other hand, it was based in sexism, a polite, kind reply stands a better chance of changing that person's beliefs than an angry confrontational one.
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!"
Surely you meant to say that if they didn't have a quim they'd be even less appealing? |
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I don't think young people of any gender need to sit down.
However, I See buses with very little accomodation for mothers with prams etc. I am sure most of these mothers would like to sit down, not be treated as an inconvenience for daring to have children that furthers the "progressiveness" of the somewhat troubling human race of planet earth. |
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You were a gentleman and if she had any grace she would have thanked you graciously and accepted said offered seat.
Sometimes a guy can’t do right for wrong, some women need to get their heads out of their arses.
If it’s any consolation I would have happily accepted your kind gesture.
Not all women are like this xxx |
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!
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Bit harsh."
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The truth is often abrasive, my good fellow. 🩶 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 1 week ago
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!
Sums it up. We gotta keep you lot on your toes. Be grateful we're only slightly roasting when we could easily gut and bleed you out 😌
I like this one. Must check how far away."
Probably far enough to feel mildly safe |
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It'd be nicer I feel, if the impetus was driven not because of "gentlemanly conduct / upbringing / manners" but instead with humanism.
"Why did you help me ? Is it because I am a woman ?"
"No. Because I am a human, just like you, and humans help each other." |
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By *AYENCouple 1 week ago
Lincolnshire |
"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat
I really don't understand why you felt you should stand so she could sit? Did you think she was less capable of standing than you? K.
Just how I been brought up"
How many years ago were you 'brought up'? Surely you're at an age whereby you're thinking for yourself? So did you think she was less capable of standing than you?
Her rude reply was unwarranted but she probably felt embarrassed that you deemed her incapable of standing. K. |
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It is kind of sexist though, isn't it.
She shouldn't have been rude but would you have offered your seat to a man under 30?
A man offered me his seat when I was around 25 and I politely declined. He accepted gracefully |
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Who ever I offer my seat to isn't obliged to take it
and I don't feel embarrassment or rage if they express their preference and decline the offer.
I offered , they chose not to.
NOTHING to debate. |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
I would have just laughed and told her you have a great day . |
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!"
Cough ahem
In 2024. Trans women exist and we don’t have some of those attributes Just saying   |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
You've heard ladies say chivalry is dead?
Real people and not actresses from the past in reruns of very old films.?
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat
I really don't understand why you felt you should stand so she could sit? Did you think she was less capable of standing than you? K."
You're not far off my age, Kev. It's what I was bought up to do, though I wouldn't now for reasons as per the above. |
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I look pregnant and old and noone has ever offered me a seat on the London Underground.
A teenager did on a bus once.
I thought oh my lord I'm old! Then graciously accepted as my knees were hurting. |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat
You've heard ladies say chivalry is dead?
Real people and not actresses from the past in reruns of very old films.?
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Search "chivalry" on the forums and read the dozens of threads, there's quite a few women saying it's dead. This is Fab though so I'm not sure if they qualify as "real people"
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat
You've heard ladies say chivalry is dead?
Real people and not actresses from the past in reruns of very old films.?
Search "chivalry" on the forums and read the dozens of threads, there's quite a few women saying it's dead. This is Fab though so I'm not sure if they qualify as "real people"
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I've heard it said on here in the past but never heard it out there, not even back in the sixties or seventies..
Just not a commonly used term in my experience.. |
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"Lots of people seem to be judging all women based purely on what we have been told about the response of one woman.
I'd say that's a fairly textbook definition of sexism."
If you think offering a woman your seat is a textbook definition of sexism then you have a strange definition of sexism.
Speaking as someone who is not averse to making sexist comments I feel qualified to comment on this. |
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"Who ever I offer my seat to isn't obliged to take it
and I don't feel embarrassment or rage if they express their preference and decline the offer.
I offered , they chose not to.
NOTHING to debate. "
There's plenty to debate IF the response is a disrespectful or rude one. Politely declining is an absolute right and true equality though. The debate in reality is that of whether to risk abuse for offering, or not offer and risk looking bad for not having done so. A lot of men are in a quandary with this one these days.
Simple solution though for someone to show respect by offering being accepted/rejected with equal grace. In my case, being spat on for holding a door (which I'll also do for a man by the way) was totally unwarranted and a pretty despicable act. |
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"I think women should be abolished. They are the bane of our lives, their hearts blacker than the purest carbon, they haemorrhage once a month but bleed us dry daily. Their forked tongues are sharper than a Samurai's sword but twice as menacing. They exploit our very good nature and then throw us to the wolves.
I don't bother with them anymore and yet they bother me frequently. If they didn't have a quim they would be more appealing.
These foul gorgons should be banished to oblivion. Wenches!
Cough ahem
In 2024. Trans women exist and we don’t have some of those attributes Just saying "
But you don't have the attributes we're looking for. |
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By *AYENCouple 1 week ago
Lincolnshire |
"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat
I really don't understand why you felt you should stand so she could sit? Did you think she was less capable of standing than you? K.
You're not far off my age, Kev. It's what I was bought up to do, though I wouldn't now for reasons as per the above."
I was brought up to be polite, and I am. I'll happily open the door for someone, male or female, and I'll happily give up my seat if I think they need it more than I do, but to offer it to someone just because she's female, nope, it doesn't make any sense to me.
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
The second she said that I would’ve replied “yes or you’ve got Prader-Willi syndrome”, |
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I’m of an upbringing where you absolutely always offer up a seat to anyone who needs it more than you do... or any lady regardless... nobody has ever taken exception to it thankfully... usually it just sparks a good old chat that livens up a journey... although I’d actually enjoy someone taking homage to it as I do sarcasm and piss taking very well... Mr |
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"Not all are like that op, just carry on being a gentleman.
I think that's what it is. Not all men are gentlemen and not all women are ladies"
Are you sure you're only in your 30s? Your views come across as being a tad out dated |
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By *ohn 66Man 1 week ago
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"Lots of people seem to be judging all women based purely on what we have been told about the response of one woman.
I'd say that's a fairly textbook definition of sexism.
If you think offering a woman your seat is a textbook definition of sexism then you have a strange definition of sexism.
Speaking as someone who is not averse to making sexist comments I feel qualified to comment on this. "
Not what I said.
Judging all women based on the (reported) comments of one woman is what I was referring to. |
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"Not all are like that op, just carry on being a gentleman.
I think that's what it is. Not all men are gentlemen and not all women are ladies
Are you sure you're only in your 30s? Your views come across as being a tad out dated "
What does age have to do with manners? |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
Not sexist, just kind.
She is a b**ch. move on. I promise most women will appreciate a kind gesture |
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"I offered my seat to a young lady that was standing(even though there were other men sitting down no one else offered) and with the most obnoxious attitude she asked me if she looked pregnant?
I was shocked so I just said no. It's polite to offer your seat to a lady and she said that's kind of sexist
Everyone just kind of looked at us and I sat back down thinking is it wrong to do that nowadays?
I've hear ladies say chivalry is dead before but I Never heard that its sexist to offer a seat"
Equality! |
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Sometimes there is no winning!
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I’ve noticed it a lot lately. Recently a woman in a cafe shouted out my food order, and because I looked confused (I didn’t know if it was for me) she said “What? Never seen a female chef before!? ”
A similar incident happened today too. It really irritates me being accused of doing/thinking things that I’m not. |
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"My dad was offered a seat on the bus by a woman which he refused rather rudely. He was offended because he thought she was implying that he looked old. He was in his early nineties at the time"
I (mr) got offered a seat on the tube by a young lady this summer. I politely declined but said thank you..that was considerate.
My wife and daughter nearly pee'd themselves avoiding laughing. Family can be so cruel 🤣 |
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