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Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx"
I don’t think it has always been ok for men to have younger women men get criticised for it a lot especially it they are in the public eye |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx
I don’t think it has always been ok for men to have younger women men get criticised for it a lot especially it they are in the public eye"
well its been going on for years x |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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I couldn't give a crap what everyone thinks about me and younger men. I'm still attracted to the type guys I liked back when I was in my 20s. Most of them are not looking for anything serious, don't have wives they are cheating on, bitter ex wives stiring crap up or kids they have for the weekend. |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx
I don’t think it has always been ok for men to have younger women men get criticised for it a lot especially it they are in the public eye"
I think social media is more inclined to call out that sort of behaviour these days, definitely. (Leonardo Di Caprio being a prime example) But to me the press still seems a lot less judgey of older men than it does women, in similar circumstances. It's the old Stud Vs Slut, Silver Fox Vs Mutton Dressed as Lamb. |
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There’s definitely a double standard around this….
My fwb and I have been to parties together… she’s 56, I’m 32 and I’ve had people give me weird looks and make snark remarks before about it… quite pathetic really if you ask me…
Also a 7 year age gap between me and my gf too… it’s not big a deal at all so dunno why people make such a thing of this. |
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I was once shamed at a bar by an idiot bouncer when I went with my fwb 12 years younger than I. Age gap might have looked bigger because he looks even younger! I posted about it on here at the time… I felt so bad.
I am much more confident now, but yeah, I find it sickening how women are shamed and men celebrated for having partners younger than them |
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By *riel13Woman 2 weeks ago
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't."
Doesn't really explain the judgement on it tho eh? My fwb is 12 years younger and very nice to look at... People probably wonder wtf he is doing with me but we don't care lol |
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By *oobaaMan 2 weeks ago
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When I was 50 I was in a long term relationship with a 24 yr old..we have a son together.
I was called a pervert and other awful names when we were out...i was also patted on the back and told I was punching way above my weight...which I already knew
Shame she was a complete nut job really lol |
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By *agic.MMan 2 weeks ago
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx"
It definitely was the case in the past where an older woman was shamed when with a younger man and an older man was encouraged when with a younger woman, however that is mostly maintained only by those with extreme conservative values nowadays. Now I see shaming on both sides where women like Madonna are shamed by some people and men like Leonardo DiCaprio are shamed (as predatory, creepy...) by some people. |
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't.
Doesn't really explain the judgement on it tho eh? My fwb is 12 years younger and very nice to look at... People probably wonder wtf he is doing with me but we don't care lol"
I think maybe it does explain it to an extent. Folk naturally recoil against things that go against nature. I'm not saying I agree, just offering a possible explanation. |
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People are so judgemental these days regardless of sex they are going to get abuse.
Media only reports shit like that because people who read it.
It's definitely not a one way street for this kind of thing in fact if anything older women are encouraged to date younger men with comments like "you go girl" bandied about.
The reality is as long as everyone is of legal age who gives a crap?
If someone is getting their knickers in a twist over a 20 year old dating a 50 year old I say it's their business and nothing to do with you. |
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"People are so judgemental these days regardless of sex they are going to get abuse.
Media only reports shit like that because people who read it.
It's definitely not a one way street for this kind of thing in fact if anything older women are encouraged to date younger men with comments like "you go girl" bandied about.
The reality is as long as everyone is of legal age who gives a crap?
If someone is getting their knickers in a twist over a 20 year old dating a 50 year old I say it's their business and nothing to do with you."
When I say you I didn't mean the OP I meant the outraged wallflowers who get upset if someone even looks in the direction of the other sex. |
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By *8on33Man 2 weeks ago
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx"
I think it's more about having something in common with them that creates the problem, sex is a common denominator.
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"'Dresses like a woman half her age '  . Dear god are they *still* harping on about women dressing age appropriately whatever that is.
Has anyone said mutton dressed as lamb yet?  "
I’d have to go full Fred Elliot
‘Mutton.., I said Ashley, mutton..’ |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx"
I agree, there is a double standard. If women want a younger guy than go for it.
My ex was 7 years older than me. And most of the women I've met on here have been older than myself. |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx
I don’t think it has always been ok for men to have younger women men get criticised for it a lot especially it they are in the public eye"
Not true that. Remember when the rolling stone was doing a 13 year old child and the papers were loving it. |
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I think it's pretty equal these days. When I tell some people that the other half is nearly 10 years younger than I am. I get comments that I'm a cougar or you go girl etc. Which I find weird it's not like he's a trophy or something just the bloke I love who happens to be younger. Though would add the only people who have judged have been older than me. |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx
I don’t think it has always been ok for men to have younger women men get criticised for it a lot especially it they are in the public eye
Not true that. Remember when the rolling stone was doing a 13 year old child and the papers were loving it. "
People have been highly critical of the RHCP frontman dating a 20 year old. Things are changing I believe |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx"
Haven't seen the story, but is it critical of her relationship or the way she's dressing or both? She does wear some weird stuff TBF, but I guess you can when you have 'Fuck You' money |
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"Had a friend in the nineties that was older than me, didn’t last as she felt awkward about the age gap.
I actually read that as a friend in her 90's
Same had to reread that 🤣"
In the, not, in her. 🤪 |
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"I think it's pretty equal these days. When I tell some people that the other half is nearly 10 years younger than I am. I get comments that I'm a cougar or you go girl etc. Which I find weird it's not like he's a trophy or something just the bloke I love who happens to be younger. Though would add the only people who have judged have been older than me. "
My Nana was 12 years older than her second husband, and they got quite a bit of stick for it. They were together nearly 40 years and had 2 children. |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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I've got a really close friend who currently has a fwb a fair few years younger than her. My only concern? That she forgets her cod liver oil.
If someone wants to have sex with another, it's consensual, legal and not coercion, it doesn't really matter the age.
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"I think it's pretty equal these days. When I tell some people that the other half is nearly 10 years younger than I am. I get comments that I'm a cougar or you go girl etc. Which I find weird it's not like he's a trophy or something just the bloke I love who happens to be younger. Though would add the only people who have judged have been older than me.
My Nana was 12 years older than her second husband, and they got quite a bit of stick for it. They were together nearly 40 years and had 2 children. "
I can imagine years ago that they would have had a heck of a lot of stick.
The only time I really notice the age gap is when we're with the other half friends. One is dating a woman 10 years younger so there's 20 years between us. But we get along well. Just cultural references are well out of sync |
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"I couldn't give a crap what everyone thinks about me and younger men. I'm still attracted to the type guys I liked back when I was in my 20s. Most of them are not looking for anything serious, don't have wives they are cheating on, bitter ex wives stiring crap up or kids they have for the weekend. "
This completely |
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't."
Define old? Not all woman go through the menopause at the same age. Some young women can't have children and neither can some guys regardless of age so this is a rubbish statement. |
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't.
Define old? Not all woman go through the menopause at the same age. Some young women can't have children and neither can some guys regardless of age so this is a rubbish statement. "
I still have periods why i have to have a coil ,lol |
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" Media continues to be critical of older woman-younger man relationships. This headline is typical: “Try-hard Madonna, 66, dresses like a woman half her age as she dines out with toyboy 37.” But if such relationships continue to become more common, perhaps criticism of them will fade, making such headlines a thing of the past. I can only hope. Its always been ok for men to have younger woman so should be for us woman too . xx
I don’t think it has always been ok for men to have younger women men get criticised for it a lot especially it they are in the public eye
I think social media is more inclined to call out that sort of behaviour these days, definitely. (Leonardo Di Caprio being a prime example) But to me the press still seems a lot less judgey of older men than it does women, in similar circumstances. It's the old Stud Vs Slut, Silver Fox Vs Mutton Dressed as Lamb."
DiCaprio’s 25 year olds is now a running joke when he trades in for a new one.
Taylor Swift bang on with her version of ‘all too well’ - “I’ll get older but all your lovers stay my age.”
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't.
Define old? Not all woman go through the menopause at the same age. Some young women can't have children and neither can some guys regardless of age so this is a rubbish statement. "
Is it a rubbish statement? You're just stating exceptions, not the norm. And remember I'm just advocating for the devil, giving a reason why people in general recoil from age gap relationships. Which, by way, I would only consider where one person could legally be your biological child/parent as a age gap relationship, so upwards of 17 years. |
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't.
Define old? Not all woman go through the menopause at the same age. Some young women can't have children and neither can some guys regardless of age so this is a rubbish statement.
Is it a rubbish statement? You're just stating exceptions, not the norm. And remember I'm just advocating for the devil, giving a reason why people in general recoil from age gap relationships. Which, by way, I would only consider where one person could legally be your biological child/parent as a age gap relationship, so upwards of 17 years. "
You still didn't define old so they aren't really exceptions at that point. A woman is classed as a geriatric pregnancy from 35, that doesn't make her old ffs! Women are still having babies in their 50s and beyond. |
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Not all of us think that way OP, when I was in my 20s my good friend was seeing a lady that in her late 40s, she was hot as ffk.non of us thought anything of it, once he told us he into older women that was the end of it,, live and let live. |
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As long as both parties are consenting adults, I don't generally see an issue with larger age gaps.
That said if the younger party is a teenager or early 20s, and the older person over 30, it does raise some concerns about manipulation and unequal power for me. But everyone is different. I was 16 and my ex husband was 24 when we got together. The age gap was never an issue and I was the more responsible adult in the relationship.
Personally, I can't imagine having enough in common with someone under 30 to want a relationship with them.
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"Nature. An old man can naturally produce offspring. An old woman can't.
Define old? Not all woman go through the menopause at the same age. Some young women can't have children and neither can some guys regardless of age so this is a rubbish statement.
Is it a rubbish statement? You're just stating exceptions, not the norm. And remember I'm just advocating for the devil, giving a reason why people in general recoil from age gap relationships. Which, by way, I would only consider where one person could legally be your biological child/parent as a age gap relationship, so upwards of 17 years.
You still didn't define old so they aren't really exceptions at that point. A woman is classed as a geriatric pregnancy from 35, that doesn't make her old ffs! Women are still having babies in their 50s and beyond. "
Just for you Tinkerbell, old is someone in their 50s and beyond as they're past middle age. Yes, women can give birth in their 50s but very rarely is it natural and is at great risk to themselves and their child. So, nature. |
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"I walk around holding hands and kissing women older than me all the time. I’m not bothered about what anybody else thinks about who I’m romantically involved with.  "
Lovely to see a couple like that 🤣 |
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I don't think it HAS been OK for older men to date younger women
More common yes, but still frowned upon
I do think, however, that it is becoming more common for older women to date younger men
Just look at the rise in terms like 'cougar', whilst guys get called out for being old perves for preferring younger women
Overall though, it always astonishes me how many people get their knickers in a twist over mixed age relationships between consenting adults
There is always a suggestion of there being a power dynamic there or the older party having 'money' which is where the attraction lies for the younger
It kinda cheapens the situation for those in these relationships |
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"I walk around holding hands and kissing women older than me all the time. I’m not bothered about what anybody else thinks about who I’m romantically involved with.
Lovely to see a couple like that 🤣"
One from Nigeria and one from Jamaica. |
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"I walk around holding hands and kissing women older than me all the time. I’m not bothered about what anybody else thinks about who I’m romantically involved with.
Lovely to see a couple like that 🤣
One from Nigeria and one from Jamaica. "
🫣🫣🫣 |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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The problem here is giving a shit what the media says...
Whatever the story, it's designed to keep you feeling antagonistic towards your fellow humans.
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"I’m very definitely leaning into my cougar stage.
When I’m out and about with my cub though I do think it looks like my nephew/godson is taking his old auntie out for a day trip "
I want to be your cub |
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