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Genuine guy - Rubbish profile ?
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Hello fellow fabbers.
Genuine guy here, looking for some profile advice please ?
I understand fab can be a bit of a numbers game mixed with a bit of luck. However, I would like to increase my chances of meeting (hopefully regular) single women, couples and hotwives.
Please can people offer me some advice on how to improve my profile to stand out/get my messages noticed.
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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You've been here 4 weeks and have a veri so something must be OK
But you've asked so....
The only pic is so far away it could be anyone. A few more won't hurt and use a timer on ya camera.
18-99 really?
There's more in this post than in your bio if you delete the disclaimer
Use the search function in the forums at the top for advice posts....
But then just be yourself
 welcome to the forums OP |
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"You've been here 4 weeks and have a veri so something must be OK
But you've asked so....
The only pic is so far away it could be anyone. A few more won't hurt and use a timer on ya camera.
18-99 really?
There's more in this post than in your bio if you delete the disclaimer
Use the search function in the forums at the top for advice posts....
But then just be yourself
welcome to the forums OP "
Thank you. I will adjust the age range. I didn't realise... yikes.
Thank you for your input. |
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I wrote that because I share face and body pictures privately also.
And as I imagine like most of us on here, I would rather my pictures not be forwarded on.
Hopefully that clarifys.
Thanks for your input. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"You've been here 4 weeks and have a veri so something must be OK
But you've asked so....
The only pic is so far away it could be anyone. A few more won't hurt and use a timer on ya camera.
18-99 really?
There's more in this post than in your bio if you delete the disclaimer
Use the search function in the forums at the top for advice posts....
But then just be yourself
welcome to the forums OP
Thank you. I will adjust the age range. I didn't realise... yikes.
Thank you for your input."
You are welcome.....
Even though it seems there's some toxic behaviour in some threads going on, it can be a laugh here too |
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"You gotta work out for yourself how to you make yourself stand out.
We don’t know you like you do. "
That's actually a great point well said.
I guess I was perhaps looking for some hidden code to unlock all of fabs secrets... back to the drawing board I guess haha.
Thanks for your advice. |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
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Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys. |
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"I doubt that sharing your surfing pic could be classed as a sexual criminal offence, so why put that paragraph on your profile ?"
Agreed!
Ditch the pointless disclaimer. Are you really going to try and take someone to court?
And add some pics. This isn’t blind date.
But you seem to have gotten a few verifications in a very short period of time. So either you’re doing ok or they are historical verifications in which case you used to do ok?
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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It's your profile, YOURs. I see these threads full of the same advice, and the majority of it would send me to sleep reading it, and that's just my opinion. Others will like the to the point profiles.
Put whatever the hell you want, you aren't going to please everyone.
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"I doubt that sharing your surfing pic could be classed as a sexual criminal offence, so why put that paragraph on your profile ?
Agreed!
Ditch the pointless disclaimer. Are you really going to try and take someone to court?
And add some pics. This isn’t blind date.
But you seem to have gotten a few verifications in a very short period of time. So either you’re doing ok or they are historical verifications in which case you used to do ok?
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No, realistically I guess I wouldn't so you are probably right. The disclaimer seemed to be the done thing on here so I followed the trend. Barrrrrr (sheep noise haha).
Three meets in a month of being here is doing ok ? I genuinely didn't realise that. Perhaps I should adjust my expectations ?
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By *nesCouple 12 weeks ago
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys."
But now you’ve hidden the verifications?
Personally I’d want someone to be honest about their preferences so I can make an informed choice. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"I doubt that sharing your surfing pic could be classed as a sexual criminal offence, so why put that paragraph on your profile ?
Agreed!
Ditch the pointless disclaimer. Are you really going to try and take someone to court?
And add some pics. This isn’t blind date.
But you seem to have gotten a few verifications in a very short period of time. So either you’re doing ok or they are historical verifications in which case you used to do ok?
No, realistically I guess I wouldn't so you are probably right. The disclaimer seemed to be the done thing on here so I followed the trend. Barrrrrr (sheep noise haha).
Three meets in a month of being here is doing ok ? I genuinely didn't realise that. Perhaps I should adjust my expectations ?
Thanks for taking the time to reply."
Fucking hell how much sex do you want?! |
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"It's your profile, YOURs. I see these threads full of the same advice, and the majority of it would send me to sleep reading it, and that's just my opinion. Others will like the to the point profiles.
Put whatever the hell you want, you aren't going to please everyone.
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I guess I can only be me right ? That's a great point, I'll never please everyone x |
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"I doubt that sharing your surfing pic could be classed as a sexual criminal offence, so why put that paragraph on your profile ?
Agreed!
Ditch the pointless disclaimer. Are you really going to try and take someone to court?
And add some pics. This isn’t blind date.
But you seem to have gotten a few verifications in a very short period of time. So either you’re doing ok or they are historical verifications in which case you used to do ok?
No, realistically I guess I wouldn't so you are probably right. The disclaimer seemed to be the done thing on here so I followed the trend. Barrrrrr (sheep noise haha).
Three meets in a month of being here is doing ok ? I genuinely didn't realise that. Perhaps I should adjust my expectations ?
Thanks for taking the time to reply.
Fucking hell how much sex do you want?!"
All of it.... hahahaha x |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
But now you’ve hidden the verifications?
Personally I’d want someone to be honest about their preferences so I can make an informed choice. "
I've hidden them at the request of the verifiers.
I am honest. |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
But now you’ve hidden the verifications?
Personally I’d want someone to be honest about their preferences so I can make an informed choice.
I've hidden them at the request of the verifiers.
I am honest."
Maybe explain this on your profile? |
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1/ better photos , can’t see you , why are you hiding from us?
2/ profile text is a bit mediocre
3/ the stuff at the end is a bit weird. If you upload photos to somebody else’s computer, then there’s a good chance they’re going to be circulated on the InterWeb And there’s nothing you can do about it |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
But now you’ve hidden the verifications?
Personally I’d want someone to be honest about their preferences so I can make an informed choice.
I've hidden them at the request of the verifiers.
I am honest.
Maybe explain this on your profile? "
So they were happy to leave you a verification as long as you didn’t display it. Now that makes sense……
You could just delete your account and start again? |
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Face pics are the ultimate goal on a profile.
A man could have the best profile and pics on fab, but the face pic is the deal breaker normally...
I wouldn't worry too much about showing/hiding veris unless they are depicting a gorgeous man with a superb skillset, most couldn't give a toss about them (it's mainly fourumites who care about veris tbh)
Most In fab just want clarification, that he is not, a shit shag |
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"Face pics are the ultimate goal on a profile.
A man could have the best profile and pics on fab, but the face pic is the deal breaker normally...
I wouldn't worry too much about showing/hiding veris unless they are depicting a gorgeous man with a superb skillset, most couldn't give a toss about them (it's mainly fourumites who care about veris tbh)
Most In fab just want clarification, that he is not, a shit shag "
Oh no one mentioned that I'm not supposed to be a shit shag.... thats probably where I am going wrong hahaha.
But seriously, you make a good point about the pictures.
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
But now you’ve hidden the verifications?
Personally I’d want someone to be honest about their preferences so I can make an informed choice.
I've hidden them at the request of the verifiers.
I am honest.
Maybe explain this on your profile? "
I have now, thank you. |
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OP, it's a nice start, welcome to Fab and welcome to the forå. 🌈
However, you come across as gullible: remove that fatuous legal disclaimer in your profile text. It's not going to help in your Fåb journey.
You've been here four weeks and already been verified by one woman (disregarding the other verifications given to you by two men) and therefore you're not doing too badly. For most men it can take months to meet anyone.
You say that you are a "polite, respectful, reliable, genuine guy...good looking". Hundreds of men proffer to that as well. What makes you unique and stand out?
The men with whom you shared verifications and have asked you to hide them - comes across as dubious and worrying. That says a lot about the men you are engaging with. Don't air your dirty laundry on your profile; remove that remark. (I've been here four years and never had anyone ask me to hide their verification. If that day comes I'll tell them to fuck off)
You also need more photos to pique some interest from your target audience.
Whatever you do I wish you all the best. 🌿 |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys."
I'd still think you'd bummed them  |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
I'd still think you'd bummed them "
I'd not be bothered that you had... But it totally sounds and looks like you have... And then pretended you've not  |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
I'd still think you'd bummed them "
Seems odd to verify someone then ask them not to show it (and to rely on them not doing that). Easier to just not verify at all. |
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"You’ve been verified by 3 meets in 4 weeks. Two of which were men but you say you’re straight.
Yes, they are from MMF meets, but they asked not to have their names displayed which obviously I have to respect.
Hope that clarifys.
I'd still think you'd bummed them
Seems odd to verify someone then ask them not to show it (and to rely on them not doing that). Easier to just not verify at all. "
Well indeed... Plus from what I've seen with mmf - men just veri and say 'top bloke! Met due to mmf' or words to that effect |
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It makes no sense that guys would verify you and then ask you to hide. That will definitely be a red flag to others who will assume you are bi and hiding it or whatever else.
Just hide your verification summary. Problem solved. |
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"OP, it's a nice start, welcome to Fab and welcome to the forå. 🌈
However, you come across as gullible: remove that fatuous legal disclaimer in your profile text. It's not going to help in your Fåb journey.
You've been here four weeks and already been verified by one woman (disregarding the other verifications given to you by two men) and therefore you're not doing too badly. For most men it can take months to meet anyone.
You say that you are a "polite, respectful, reliable, genuine guy...good looking". Hundreds of men proffer to that as well. What makes you unique and stand out?
The men with whom you shared verifications and have asked you to hide them - comes across as dubious and worrying. That says a lot about the men you are engaging with. Don't air your dirty laundry on your profile; remove that remark. (I've been here four years and never had anyone ask me to hide their verification. If that day comes I'll tell them to fuck off)
You also need more photos to pique some interest from your target audience.
Whatever you do I wish you all the best. 🌿"
What fantastic advice from clearly a seasoned guy. Thank you I really appreciate the long message and you taking the time to write and explain your points.
good man, thanks. |
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"4 weeks in and 3 meets.
Some people have been here for years without a meet.
I'd say you are doing fine. You be you and if people like it, which it seems they do, you'll get more meets.
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I genuinely didn't realise that was the case.
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By *ags73Man 12 weeks ago
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"Hello fellow fabbers.
Genuine guy here, looking for some profile advice please ?
I understand fab can be a bit of a numbers game mixed with a bit of luck. However, I would like to increase my chances of meeting (hopefully regular) single women, couples and hotwives.
Please can people offer me some advice on how to improve my profile to stand out/get my messages noticed.
thanks all."
Don’t think I can help in terms of advice. It’s if you get lucky enough to get to know some people and being genuine won’t always help |
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More pics please, so that we could fairly evaluate whether or not we'd delight in being in physical contact with you.
The text I felt didn't really say a lot, apart from your professional adherence to the minimum standards that should be commonplace.
If you condense that and ass in your essence, what's sexually greek about you, it could probably help a lot. Remember, it's still your profile and is best not a composite of ideas from others.
Good luck!  |
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"I have a meet on Tuesday
What is your ideal number of meets a week ?"
I guess that would depend on the connection, location and type of meet.
I appreciate that's a bit of open ended answer but it's a bit tricky to answer without more detail x |
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I would say your doing ok. If you had 3 meets in a month or so. That's pretty damn good % for a single guy. I've been on 8months and had 4 meets. If you up your profile (I've not looked at it) with members suggestions maybe you can improve??. I always look for things that can improve my profile- and to meet more people would be great. |
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"I would say your doing ok. If you had 3 meets in a month or so. That's pretty damn good % for a single guy. I've been on 8months and had 4 meets. If you up your profile (I've not looked at it) with members suggestions maybe you can improve??. I always look for things that can improve my profile- and to meet more people would be great. "
No I completely agree, I'm actually looking to attend a larger social event to interact, connect and meet some fellow lifestylers. |
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