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Hey guys and girls, just a little vent. Was talking to someone for a while. We were both free last night. I thought fuck it, let's meet for a social and see where things go. Booked a table at a nearby pub/restaurant. I got there, texted and she said she would be 10 minutes late. Fair enough I thought. 10 more minutes went by and then another 40 minutes and heard nothing. So just had a few drinks to myself, noticed shed blocked me on here and on other apps. Was proper taken aback by it and won't lie pretty pissed off as I made the effort.
Why can't people just be bloody honest and upfront and say they're not interested anymore interested of making people go to the efforts.
Sorry guys and girls for the rant thought I'd vent it out. Ah well. Shit happens. |
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That's atrocious behaviour and I'm sorry to hear about that, OP.
Of course people change their minds and that's perfectly acceptable but it's a shame they cannot muster the courage to communicate their change of heart. ☮️ |
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Booking a restaurant sounds a bit much for a social. More like a date. Maybe that spooked her (assuming it was a her)?
Being stood up on here seems prevalent.so much so I’m beginning to wonder why people try and meet from here. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I've had it so many times. I just focus on the fun meets, chalk the no shows and ghosters up to experience and save a few "yawns" for those that will say "in the 23 years of being on fab it hasn't happened to me once, you need to do your due diligence" blah blah blah |
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"Booking a restaurant sounds a bit much for a social. More like a date. Maybe that spooked her (assuming it was a her)?
Being stood up on here seems prevalent.so much so I’m beginning to wonder why people try and meet from here."
Ah you may be right about being spooked but I don't know. Who knows. Yeah I'm wondering too but I've had some wonderful meets on here also |
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It's possible she turned up but you weren't what she was expecting...
I did that on a social leading to fun meet last year. Eyeballed man, didn't look anything like his photos so I turned around and went home...
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That's a shit one dude. At least you stayed and had a couple. Good for you. Some people just like the attention and have no intention of meeting. I avoid message marathons. Pointless. Good luck OP  |
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"It's possible she turned up but you weren't what she was expecting...
I did that on a social leading to fun meet last year. Eyeballed man, didn't look anything like his photos so I turned around and went home...
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Did you let him know? It's so awkward with the picture thing, and I don't have the heart to say it, so I wonder if you managed to articulate this... |
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I must admit I have a fair share in blocking people mid conversation for whatever reasons but blocking 10 minutes before supposed meet is just cruel.
Having said that, also happened to me many times so it is quite common unfortunately. Sorry to hear that OP. |
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"I must admit I have a fair share in blocking people mid conversation for whatever reasons but blocking 10 minutes before supposed meet is just cruel.
Having said that, also happened to me many times so it is quite common unfortunately. Sorry to hear that OP."
It is fine. Shit happens. And it is sad that it is common. But that is fab unfortunately. Lot of timewasters but also a lot of gems on here too. |
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By *AYENCouple 12 weeks ago
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It's a sad reflection on how some people have become - it's hard to understand how anyone could do that as it would play on our minds for days if we weren't straight with anyone we chose to meet up with. She might have lost her nerve, which is understandable for a single, but a text to cancel should be the bare minimum. K. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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It is a knobhead thing to do to anyone.
Why people do it, no one will ever know.
Booking a table in a pub isn't a bad thing to do at all in my mind, it more means you know you'll have someone to sit and chat when you arrive and not run the risk of the pub being silly busy with no seats avaliable. Now it's Christmas party season it's getting busy everywhere.
That part I don't think you did anything wrong.
Even if they turned up and saw you and walked away. This is still a shitty thing to do. You do look like your pictures in person, you do speak and chat exactly the same way you do on here so if that was their reasoning it would also be completely untrue!
The fact they've blocked you so quick , I'd more suggest they've gone on a night out instead and just wouldn't be honest with you.
Next time you meet anyone , let them make the arrangements and you just turn up where and when. You'll know where you stand then without any waiting around upon arrival if they don't show.
One shitty person won't take the place of every other decent one on here!
So chin up, smile on your face , wiggle that butt and always remember it is a "bread roll". 🤣🤣😊
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"It is a knobhead thing to do to anyone.
Why people do it, no one will ever know.
Booking a table in a pub isn't a bad thing to do at all in my mind, it more means you know you'll have someone to sit and chat when you arrive and not run the risk of the pub being silly busy with no seats avaliable. Now it's Christmas party season it's getting busy everywhere.
That part I don't think you did anything wrong.
Even if they turned up and saw you and walked away. This is still a shitty thing to do. You do look like your pictures in person, you do speak and chat exactly the same way you do on here so if that was their reasoning it would also be completely untrue!
The fact they've blocked you so quick , I'd more suggest they've gone on a night out instead and just wouldn't be honest with you.
Next time you meet anyone , let them make the arrangements and you just turn up where and when. You'll know where you stand then without any waiting around upon arrival if they don't show.
One shitty person won't take the place of every other decent one on here!
So chin up, smile on your face , wiggle that butt and always remember it is a "bread roll". 🤣🤣😊
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Thanks. It is what it is though. Oh good idea. Oh I'm deffo wiggling my butt 🤣 |
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Why can't people just be bloody honest and upfront and say they're not interested anymore interested of making people go to the efforts.
OP Some just play games here and dont care. Some married and when it come to it can not meet. Some lie and get off on that ... Some chicken out as all to much . Some live in a dream world here and will never meet. So maybe a lucky escape. xxx |
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"Why can't people just be bloody honest and upfront and say they're not interested anymore interested of making people go to the efforts.
OP Some just play games here and dont care. Some married and when it come to it can not meet. Some lie and get off on that ... Some chicken out as all to much . Some live in a dream world here and will never meet. So maybe a lucky escape. xxx"
You're probably right. Thanks for that. Appreciated x |
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"Hey guys and girls, just a little vent. Was talking to someone for a while. We were both free last night. I thought fuck it, let's meet for a social and see where things go. Booked a table at a nearby pub/restaurant. I got there, texted and she said she would be 10 minutes late. Fair enough I thought. 10 more minutes went by and then another 40 minutes and heard nothing. So just had a few drinks to myself, noticed shed blocked me on here and on other apps. Was proper taken aback by it and won't lie pretty pissed off as I made the effort.
Why can't people just be bloody honest and upfront and say they're not interested anymore interested of making people go to the efforts.
Sorry guys and girls for the rant thought I'd vent it out. Ah well. Shit happens. "
That's really shitty of them  |
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Assuming it was definetley a female , maybe she waited outside the said venue and wasn't keen on you as she watched you walk in ....
Did you not text her regularly on the day of the meet , on your way to the meet and whilst you were waiting .. |
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That’s really shit. It’s only happened to me once on 8 yrs and luckily she was coming to mine. Weird though, no-shows, how much effort is it to message and say things have changed….
I tend to meet people that I’ve spoken to for quite some time and know they are genuine, The fact that she blocked you suggest to me maybe it was a fake account? So I wouldn’t take it too personally |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I actually met someone, got on well, had a full on snogging session , bit of touching, spoke for hrs ,neither of us wanted to leave , but lol.we never met again she said there was no spark  |
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"That’s really shit. It’s only happened to me once on 8 yrs and luckily she was coming to mine. Weird though, no-shows, how much effort is it to message and say things have changed….
I tend to meet people that I’ve spoken to for quite some time and know they are genuine, The fact that she blocked you suggest to me maybe it was a fake account? So I wouldn’t take it too personally"
Probably but I've blocked her or whoever it is back, shame but it is what it is. Onwards and upwards. |
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I know a couple who had the same happen.
They had booked a room at a pre arranged hotel. They kept messaging the guy, who kept saying “10 mins away, 15 mins away”. Then he admitted he was sat at home in Manchester and they were on the east coast. He never had any intention of turning up.
Real shit trick to play. |
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It’s happened to me twice. Once a drink social in a pub not far from me. The second time was a lady I’d met once before who had stayed over. We agreed another date at mine for the week later. I was cooking for her at my house. She never turned up. |
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"Hey guys and girls, just a little vent. Was talking to someone for a while. We were both free last night. I thought fuck it, let's meet for a social and see where things go. Booked a table at a nearby pub/restaurant. I got there, texted and she said she would be 10 minutes late. Fair enough I thought. 10 more minutes went by and then another 40 minutes and heard nothing. So just had a few drinks to myself, noticed shed blocked me on here and on other apps. Was proper taken aback by it and won't lie pretty pissed off as I made the effort.
Why can't people just be bloody honest and upfront and say they're not interested anymore interested of making people go to the efforts.
Sorry guys and girls for the rant thought I'd vent it out. Ah well. Shit happens. "
Now if you were a female, you'd be getting the usual 'it's there loss' ' ooh what a cunt he is'.
But truth be told there is a while host of reasons why they have done what they've done. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ so chalk it up to experience shit happens
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Aww man that's unforgivable behaviour no matter what the excuse.
Same at group socials where folk put their names down and then just done bother showing.
Don't care how busy you are it takes 2 minutes to pop you a message and say you can't make it .
My biggest annoyance on here 😠 |
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"Aww man that's unforgivable behaviour no matter what the excuse.
Same at group socials where folk put their names down and then just done bother showing.
Don't care how busy you are it takes 2 minutes to pop you a message and say you can't make it .
My biggest annoyance on here 😠"
And some of us travel miles to attend  |
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"Aww man that's unforgivable behaviour no matter what the excuse.
Same at group socials where folk put their names down and then just done bother showing.
Don't care how busy you are it takes 2 minutes to pop you a message and say you can't make it .
My biggest annoyance on here 😠
And some of us travel miles to attend "
Haha good point  |
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"Aww man that's unforgivable behaviour no matter what the excuse.
Same at group socials where folk put their names down and then just done bother showing.
Don't care how busy you are it takes 2 minutes to pop you a message and say you can't make it .
My biggest annoyance on here 😠
And some of us travel miles to attend
Haha good point "
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That’s exceptionally rude.
I have at times changed my mind about a meet, but I have always been upfront about it and cancelled as early as I can.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet!
Maybe they just get some sort of sick kick out of it. People are strange. Put it down to experience and move on xxx |
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Sorry I stood you up was on my way then realised I hadn’t shave my legs 🤣
On a serious note it’s not nice. All people have to do is message and say they have changed their mind which is totally fine. We all get a bit nervous meeting someone new. My question would be how did you confirm it was a genuine person I’d want a phone call or a FaceTime. |
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"Hey guys and girls, just a little vent. Was talking to someone for a while. We were both free last night. I thought fuck it, let's meet for a social and see where things go. Booked a table at a nearby pub/restaurant. I got there, texted and she said she would be 10 minutes late. Fair enough I thought. 10 more minutes went by and then another 40 minutes and heard nothing. So just had a few drinks to myself, noticed shed blocked me on here and on other apps. Was proper taken aback by it and won't lie pretty pissed off as I made the effort.
Why can't people just be bloody honest and upfront and say they're not interested anymore interested of making people go to the efforts.
Sorry guys and girls for the rant thought I'd vent it out. Ah well. Shit happens. "
Possibly a male posing as a female. Commonplace on here. |
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