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By *orthernJayMan 13 weeks ago
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Why does it matter?
I genuinely don’t understand the desire to label oneself or to label others.
Perhaps “us” of a certain age should take counsel from Gen-Z’s or Millennials who neither care or seek to label.
As for your question OP, do whatever makes you feel comfortable with those who are the same; in my experience, there’s many of us around the scene who are more than happy to help/support your own learning of you; but it has to start internally.  |
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"Bi Curious - thinking/fantasising about it.
Bisexual - doing it."
Bicurious also includes doing it a first time, or even a second time to make sure (just in case they were doing it wrong the first time, or it was just the wrong person for it). But if after two or three goes you still fancy doing it again, then you've definitely crossed the threshold into Bisexual.
Note that it is perfectly allowable to later on change your mind, you can become Straight Again with a Bisexual History. Just the same as you could be Single with a Married History. And I suppose that it would be perfectly possible to be Gay/Lesbian with a Bisexual History. Or Straight with a Gay/Lesbian History with a Bisexual History etc. And with gender reassignment it's perfectly possible to be Lesbian Transwoman with a Straight Man History, Gay Transman with a Lesbian Woman History, or any other meaningful combination of sexuality and gender identity...
Now somebody ask fab to provide all these options, let's see if we can give their website designer a nervous breakdown! |
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"Why does it matter?
I genuinely don’t understand the desire to label oneself or to label others.
Perhaps “us” of a certain age should take counsel from Gen-Z’s or Millennials who neither care or seek to label.
As for your question OP, do whatever makes you feel comfortable with those who are the same; in my experience, there’s many of us around the scene who are more than happy to help/support your own learning of you; but it has to start internally. "
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"Why does it matter?
I genuinely don’t understand the desire to label oneself or to label others.
Perhaps “us” of a certain age should take counsel from Gen-Z’s or Millennials who neither care or seek to label.
As for your question OP, do whatever makes you feel comfortable with those who are the same; in my experience, there’s many of us around the scene who are more than happy to help/support your own learning of you; but it has to start internally. "
From my perspective it is not those over 50 creating the myriad of new labels and ways of identifying sexuality that pop up on a daily basis.
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"Why does it matter?
I genuinely don’t understand the desire to label oneself or to label others.
Perhaps “us” of a certain age should take counsel from Gen-Z’s or Millennials who neither care or seek to label.
As for your question OP, do whatever makes you feel comfortable with those who are the same; in my experience, there’s many of us around the scene who are more than happy to help/support your own learning of you; but it has to start internally.
From my perspective it is not those over 50 creating the myriad of new labels and ways of identifying sexuality that pop up on a daily basis.
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I agree there, its younger people than 50 creating labels and demanding to be called by different pro nouns...
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"My view - once talked about before hand
What happens between consenting adult behind a closed door
NO ONE ELSES BUSINESS - so no label "
Well it kinda is, how would you know said person was bicurious without a label.
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I think it's better to take it somewhat literally. I'd view it as an uncertainty about tastes, with openness.
Some don't have an absolute and rigid concept of what their sexuality may be. Others are potentially different, not perceiving any uncertainty about themselves |
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"Why does it matter?
I genuinely don’t understand the desire to label oneself or to label others.
Perhaps “us” of a certain age should take counsel from Gen-Z’s or Millennials who neither care or seek to label.
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I clearly know different younger people then. I've never met a group of people with more of a hankering for labels - they're the first generation in human history to insist on choosing their own pronouns for a start. The majority of us have always assumed these are assigned to us by others based on their assumptions about our appearence. Add in the internet diagnosed mental health conditions and there's more labels than in a stationary store.  
That said, the label Bi Curious is a strange one. Given the division above, that bi curious is thinking about it, and bi is having done it, it would appear to be a relatively short term label. I suspect many use it to explain their level of "I don't fancy the same sex but I'm happy to do X or y with them in the right situation"
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"Why does it matter?"
Who says it matters? The OP is simply curious and looking for clarification.
"I genuinely don’t understand the desire to label oneself or to label others."
That has no relevance to the OP's question.
"Perhaps “us” of a certain age should take counsel from Gen-Z’s or Millennials who neither care or seek to label."
Totally incongruous response that has little to do with the OP's question.
"As for your question OP, do whatever makes you feel comfortable with those who are the same; in my experience, there’s many of us around the scene who are more than happy to help/support your own learning of you; but it has to start internally. "
The OP isn't looking for tutelage or edification, nor is he looking for patronising responses. ❤️ |
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Sexuality is definitely more of a spectrum than a set of compartments.
Bisexual is a term that is often avoided by men who certainly would fall into that category in many peoples opinions, such as a guy who lets men suck his cock but won’t fuck guys or suck cock himself. Orally bi is often used to describe these people.
As for answering the OP….
Bi curious = interested sexual activity with people of the same sex, but no actual experience
Straight = no interest in sexual activity with the same sex
Bisexual = engages in sexual activity with both sexes and enjoys it.
Having said that we often meet men who think of themselves as straight, but engage in sexual activity with men purely because it’s far easier to find outside of a relationship than sex with a woman.
I agree that labels aren’t necessary, but they can shorten what would otherwise be a lengthy explanation
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"I'm curious what is the definition of Bi-curious? "
It means you are curious and open to exploring your sexual attraction of the same gender as yourself.
Think of it as a half way point. |
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haha yeah I guess 