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I am struggling to justify paying for some new trainers but would shell out this amount on a night out in the scene or on a night in hotel plus travelling etc or even just at a group social.
Do you find it hard to spend money on (nice) things like clothes or trainers for yourself? |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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"I am struggling to justify paying for some new trainers but would shell out this amount on a night out in the scene or on a night in hotel plus travelling etc or even just at a group social.
Do you find it hard to spend money on (nice) things like clothes or trainers for yourself? "
No I don't find it hard to spend on clothes , the older I get the more I want to look my best |
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By *uacksplat.Woman 15 weeks ago
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yeah i do.
i'll put off buying something by reminding myself 'that would pay for this or that and they're more important' or something.. then when i eventually do buy myself something, the guilt that comes with it is consuming. Px |
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"yeah i do.
i'll put off buying something by reminding myself 'that would pay for this or that and they're more important' or something.. then when i eventually do buy myself something, the guilt that comes with it is consuming. Px"
Wow. This is literally me. I haven’t bought new trainers in 4/5 years. And last bought boots 2/3 years ago. |
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When the kids were younger, every spare penny went on them, rarely went out or treated myself. Now they are older, yes I spend money on nice things for myself, or a holiday etc, because I am worth it  |
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I don't spend masses on clothes, but I do have a bit of a habit if I see nice sexy lingerie on shein or similar sites. And I also buy more CDs and books than I probably should (given that I'm running out of space to keep them!). |
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I am always unwilling to spend on myself but oddly, not others.
I am currently chatting with a very nice lady on here and we are discussing spending on yourself. I believe that it's good to treat yourself every now and again. I just can't convince myself.
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"I am struggling to justify paying for some new trainers but would shell out this amount on a night out in the scene or on a night in hotel plus travelling etc or even just at a group social.
Do you find it hard to spend money on (nice) things like clothes or trainers for yourself? "
Get yourself on vinted eases the burden
But I always online on a Sunday before work |
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I don’t struggle to treat myself when it’s little or inexpensive things, but I would hesitate if it was something pricier. I’d probably find it easier if I sold a few other bits (on vinted etc), returned something else, worked it out cost per wear or managed to find some sort of discount code for them. But ultimately, if you love something and it won’t get you into debt, buy it - life is too short |
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"I am struggling to justify paying for some new trainers but would shell out this amount on a night out in the scene or on a night in hotel plus travelling etc or even just at a group social.
Do you find it hard to spend money on (nice) things like clothes or trainers for yourself? "
Trainers is the one thing that I justify splurging on. Comfort is everything. Plus your feet ain't getting any bigger so if you look after them and have a few pairs to rotate they'll last forever |
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I try and treat myself once a month. It doesn’t have to be anything big but we work hard enough and put up with enough crap in our daily lives that we need a little pick me up every now and again. |
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Treat, yes. As in, I don't actually need it or the money needs to go elsewhere.
If I need something then I get it as and when I can, I don't go without because I need to have footwear and clothes just like the children do.
It usually takes me longer to buy something for myself because I'm really fussy about what I wear and it takes ages to find what I like. |
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It verry much depends theses days.
Being a homeowner with a mortgage has made me thunk about potential purchases more.
Nowadays I prefer to buy qualitly over quantity when it comes to clothes.
The last pair of new trainers I bought apart from ones for running in was probably 15 years ago, used to buy loads and then never wear them now I just get second hand ones. |
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I am kind of with you OP. I will happily spend a money on hotels/lifestyle stuff but I am bad at actually buying real things for myself.
I actually think I don’t really like material stuff and having it around just starts to clutter my head after a while. |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I don’t mind if it’s little purchases here and there. If it’s pricey though I do feel a little guilty and struggle to justify spending X amount on myself. If I do need it I compensate for it by buying the kids something they want, spending more money than I had originally planned. It’s a pain! |
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I do agonise over clothing and shoe purchases, far more than I should do. Whereas I'm happier to spend money on a gig or something. But I also think that's because I have less time to analyse it else the gig may be sold out. Not sure if that makes sense. |
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It's a strange one for me! I see lots of things I like and can afford yet I'll hardly ever buy expensive things! I was bought up in a Children's Home and money just wasn't available for many new things. We've got money now, due to a lifetime of work and via inheritance etc but I still won't spend. I'll encourage the wife to buy what she wants and will buy her expensive presents but for me, no, I just can't do it!!! Very strange! Family and friends don't understand me and in some ways neither do I!! |
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Yes I do find it difficult buying clothes as a treat
I’d rather spend it on wallpaper or things to DIY
Had one pair of boots and 1 pair trainers for 4 years, I really need to get new ones but then I dislike those sports stores staff |
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"Yes I do find it difficult buying clothes as a treat
I’d rather spend it on wallpaper or things to DIY
Had one pair of boots and 1 pair trainers for 4 years, I really need to get new ones but then I dislike those sports stores staff"
Online shopping is a thing |
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Yes to an extent. I am better now though. It's long years of having no disposable income and children who needed shoes and coats every five minutes.
My dad's the opposite he will spend £300 on a coat but won't have basic house maintenance done |
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Even when was working I rarely treated myself apart from my annual holidays.
I have never been a clothes fan though try to look respectable.
My main expenses were on the kink scene and some of the equipment I bought for it.
Some would say my treat these days is eating out most days but it gives me a reason to get out of bed and interact with people. |
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"Treat, yes. As in, I don't actually need it or the money needs to go elsewhere.
If I need something then I get it as and when I can, I don't go without because I need to have footwear and clothes just like the children do.
It usually takes me longer to buy something for myself because I'm really fussy about what I wear and it takes ages to find what I like. "
I jus Take you shopping with me and you say buy it all  |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I definitely struggle to do that. It's funny that I'm happy to shell out that amount for a hotel and train for a group social but but for something less than that total price, I look at the pros and cons of it for ages. Maybe because it's a one off payment rather than an investment that you use every day, there's more pressure to get it right? 🤔
Anyway, fuck it! Buy the trainers Pickle! 😆 |
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By *.hrisMan 15 weeks ago
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If I want it, and I'm not skint from treating myself from last month, then I will buy it 😁
It's just dawned on me that I haven't bought any new trainers this year!  I think there's another treat coming my way... |
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Break it down to cost per wear. If the last pair lasted 4 years then wearing once per week is roughly 200 times of wearing. Divide the cost of the trainers by the amount of times they will be worn. They are worth it. You are worth it. Buy the things. Wear the things. |
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We don't have any difficulties spending money on nice things for ourselves.
You can have lots of money or lots of stuff and/or memories by spending the money, we prefer the later
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Sometimes yes. Sometimes no.
I spent about 4 months not buying new shoes even though I needed some.
But in the past couple of weeks I've ordered myself 3 absurd dildos.
So I guess it depends if it's a necessity or just a want really 💜 |
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"I am struggling to justify paying for some new trainers but would shell out this amount on a night out in the scene or on a night in hotel plus travelling etc or even just at a group social.
Do you find it hard to spend money on (nice) things like clothes or trainers for yourself? "
This may be sad that i think this way about clothes, but hear me out....£100....wear them 10 times they're a tenner. 100, a pound each time....u get a few years out of them it's pennies.....if u think u will get ur monies worth, go for it mate.....I struggle to buy for myself so end up working it out this way if its not something a desperately want......then I just buy it and fuck the consequences
Yes I know that's contradictory
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"Sometimes yes. Sometimes no.
I spent about 4 months not buying new shoes even though I needed some.
But in the past couple of weeks I've ordered myself 3 absurd dildos.
So I guess it depends if it's a necessity or just a want really 💜"
How obsurd? Asking for the group  |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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No, if there is something I want, i get it - i might take a while to make the decision and i always shop around, depending what it is
I bought myself a diamond ring once 'as a cheer myself up' present |
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By *ags73Man 15 weeks ago
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Sometimes. I have practical things to do and think about before me.
I do have to think clothes and appearance things for going out to things and that’s something that’s surprised me as I’ve got away with dad casual for a long time. |
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Hubby loves trainers but he doesn't wear most of the ones he buys. He used to go to 'specialist' shops in town to purchase what he called Originals, most of these from the 80s.
But he just keeps getting parcels delivered now and they just spend time stacked up in a wardrobe. They don't even see the light of day.
It's frustrating because he never misses ant parcels I have delivered and always asks me why I need more shoes, dresses, whatever, cheeky that.
When I quiz him he says they are an investment... bollocks.
Hate trainers, well his trainers anyway.
Mrs x |
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"Hubby loves trainers but he doesn't wear most of the ones he buys. He used to go to 'specialist' shops in town to purchase what he called Originals, most of these from the 80s.
But he just keeps getting parcels delivered now and they just spend time stacked up in a wardrobe. They don't even see the light of day.
It's frustrating because he never misses ant parcels I have delivered and always asks me why I need more shoes, dresses, whatever, cheeky that.
When I quiz him he says they are an investment... bollocks.
Hate trainers, well his trainers anyway.
Mrs x"
I love those shops there is one here with trainers and T-shirts all shrink wrapped since the 80s. I’d be worried they would just disintegrate once opened |
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By *ookie46Woman 15 weeks ago
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I do treat myself not so much on shoes or clothes although I do make at least one purchase every month but more on trips away, having adventures getting to spend time with the people who are special to me |
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Yeah, I struggle with this. I'm better than I was, but it'll often take me months to decide to finally buy clothes and shoes that I actually need. The kids get whatever they need as soon as they need it.
Spending money on things like hotels and transport in order to spend time with people is never an issue, though. |
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"I am struggling to justify paying for some new trainers but would shell out this amount on a night out in the scene or on a night in hotel plus travelling etc or even just at a group social.
Do you find it hard to spend money on (nice) things like clothes or trainers for yourself? "
I have the opposite problem - I buy myself too many treats. It's that dopamine hit when I click 'buy now'. |
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It’s hard doing both of them things lately but I’d prefer a night out in a hotel having norty sex then treating myself to anything ha ha ha I’m after a new toy but I’d rather have the real thing instead ha x x |
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By *enk15Man 15 weeks ago
Evesham |
Yes all the time.
It's the feeling that the money could go on something more "important" and/or the ££ value of the item is more than my own value.
I need to learn to see myself as important and know my own value.
So in a completely hypocritical way, I'm going to say do it, you are worth it |
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"Hubby loves trainers but he doesn't wear most of the ones he buys. He used to go to 'specialist' shops in town to purchase what he called Originals, most of these from the 80s.
But he just keeps getting parcels delivered now and they just spend time stacked up in a wardrobe. They don't even see the light of day.
It's frustrating because he never misses ant parcels I have delivered and always asks me why I need more shoes, dresses, whatever, cheeky that.
When I quiz him he says they are an investment... bollocks.
Hate trainers, well his trainers anyway.
Mrs x
I love those shops there is one here with trainers and T-shirts all shrink wrapped since the 80s. I’d be worried they would just disintegrate once opened"
I can tell you from experience that they don't, mores the pity.
He doesnt just collect originals, he even buys new editions of existing trainers. He loves Adidas and I think he loves Samba the best. We must have had almost a dozen different variants of Samba in the last few months. I don't just mean colours but slightly different designs. He's like a kid showing me but to be honest I cannot tell the difference but he seems made up with them.
Think he loves them more than me.
Mrs x |
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By *a LunaWoman 15 weeks ago
South Wales |
Nope!
I rarely drink, I rarely go out.
If I want something nice I’m going to bloody well get it! Although I am quite tight fisted in how much I’ll spend. My last extravagance was a Brush Cutter for the garden. It was £100  |
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Nope, I am terrible at treating myself.
I spend weeks/months having a mental war with myself as to whether I really need it or whether I can justify it, even when it's something I genuinely need as opposed to treats.
I think that's why I appreciate gifts so much because you've taken that mental load and decision off of my shoulders.
Hubby is on the complete other end of the spectrum and won't hesitate to spend hundreds/thousands on the things he likes. x |
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And the only thing I have no qualms about buying is trainers ,I've broke my feet so many times as soon as my sneakers loose the sturdyness I have to get more as they cripple my feet , I know I'm up to around 65 pairs in my bedroom and bout 8 pairs in the front room , all in perfect knick but the soles have softened . |
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Just wanted to say thank you Mr Pickles. Reading this prompted me to do one of my increasingly desperate checks to see if anyone has the trainers I want in my size. As a regular runner, it is really frustrating when a manufacturer stops making a shoe you've trusted and used for years. In this particular case, either someone has found a few extra boxes in the back of the store room or the irate feedback across social media, in particular on the manufacturers sponsored athletes, pages has caused them to have a re-think.
Anyway. Thank you, two new pairs on the way, 2 because they were exceptionally cheap (almost back to pre pandemic prices) and because I don't want to be in the same position sometime next year.
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