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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands

After reading the praise kink thread the other day, it got me thinking(dangerous, I know).

How skeptical are you when it comes to bedroom flattery?

Do you take someone's word as genuine or do you believe they're just saying what they think you want to hear?

If it's the latter, how long does it take for you to start believing what they're saying is genuine?

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By *aven.Woman 4 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Anything a guy says to me, on here, in person, in bed, it's just....fluff. It's not that deep and it doesn't really mean anything. Guys say all kinds of crap in the moment.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West

I think it's probably genuine if they're willing to bone me and especially if they come back for more. There's the slight chance I'm just a warm, wet hole but being such special needs, the other person has to make special effort.

I'm much more skeptical about the random compliments and praise on the forum and via DM.

I'm shit at accepting compliments anyway though

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By *ay W. BeauWoman 4 weeks ago

Wolvo

Oooh me me!!! i know this one!

Im a massive skeptic. Lmao. Huge. Folk ive met through fab i believe theyre just saying what needs be said to get in your pants.

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

The fact that they have taken delight in spending time with me, ensconced in naked entwinement is flattering enough.

Sometimes the unspoken gestures speak volumes.

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Anything a guy says to me, on here, in person, in bed, it's just....fluff. It's not that deep and it doesn't really mean anything. Guys say all kinds of crap in the moment.

"

So you never ever believe what they're saying is genuine?

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By *enk15Man 4 weeks ago

Evesham

Anyone who says I'm gorgeous/fit or any variation I do not believe. I own mirrors.

After 13 years with my partner i still don't believe her when she says it.

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"I think it's probably genuine if they're willing to bone me and especially if they come back for more. There's the slight chance I'm just a warm, wet hole but being such special needs, the other person has to make special effort.

I'm much more skeptical about the random compliments and praise on the forum and via DM.

I'm shit at accepting compliments anyway though "

Your blowjobs are 10/10, though.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"The fact that they have taken delight in spending time with me, ensconced in naked entwinement is flattering enough.

Sometimes the unspoken gestures speak volumes."

Do you have mute sexy meets Nerø?

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By *aven.Woman 4 weeks ago

Not the North West...


"Anything a guy says to me, on here, in person, in bed, it's just....fluff. It's not that deep and it doesn't really mean anything. Guys say all kinds of crap in the moment.

So you never ever believe what they're saying is genuine?"

I don't think it's done deliberately, but no, it's just words, it's doesn't mean anything. Whatever they say to me I can guarantee they've said a fair few times beforehand to others.

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By *iscotti32Woman 4 weeks ago

gateshead

I don’t believe a word any one says really.

In the moment it can be flattering or sexy or turn me on but let’s be honest it’s been said to 100s of women before and most likely 100s after too

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"The fact that they have taken delight in spending time with me, ensconced in naked entwinement is flattering enough.

Sometimes the unspoken gestures speak volumes.

·

Do you have mute sexy meets Nerø? "

Only with women who are fluent in Makaton, just like me. 😈

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By *pandjMan 4 weeks ago

Sparkford

Told a date that she was beautiful during foreplay which made her suddenly stop and accuse me of bull shitting her. She was though and I find it hard to say things to people that aren't true.

I'm like gollum with a shit beard so find it hard to take compliments.

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Told a date that she was beautiful during foreplay which made her suddenly stop and accuse me of bull shitting her. She was though and I find it hard to say things to people that aren't true.

I'm like gollum with a shit beard so find it hard to take compliments."

Completely irrelevant to this thread topic but your last cock picture looks like it's got wings. I don't know if it was intentional, but it's some excellent work.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"I think it's probably genuine if they're willing to bone me and especially if they come back for more. There's the slight chance I'm just a warm, wet hole but being such special needs, the other person has to make special effort.

I'm much more skeptical about the random compliments and praise on the forum and via DM.

I'm shit at accepting compliments anyway though

Your blowjobs are 10/10, though. "

I know

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 4 weeks ago

Reading

Im very skeptical. I think only maybe 10% of the population is beautiful so I think it is used way too widely.

A lot of men will say whatever to get a woman into bed.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"The fact that they have taken delight in spending time with me, ensconced in naked entwinement is flattering enough.

Sometimes the unspoken gestures speak volumes.

·

Do you have mute sexy meets Nerø?

Only with women who are fluent in Makaton, just like me. 😈"

*Makes a nodding closed fist movement*

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I believe the flattery I know to be true and I don't believe the flattery that is clearly bs. For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age.

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By *imply DeeWoman 4 weeks ago

Wherever

Great topic OP and I will come back later to read the comments with interest.

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By *ell GwynnWoman 4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Until I've spent some decent time with someone I'm skeptical. Cynical, even.

Some people fling compliments around so frequently that it comes across as so insincere. Others are more reticent, and that feels more genuine.

If they're eager to see me over and over, like spending fully-clothed time with me, my skepticism thaws.

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By *he Silver FuxMan 4 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

“That” I said “is a very pretty pussy”

“stop it, I bet you say that to all the women”

“No, I’m serious, I’ve seen hundreds and THAT is a beautiful cunt”

So I took a picture and then WhatsApp’d it to her later.

“Actually” she admitted “I’ve never seen her like that, from your perspective, I know what you mean, how lovely” and then promptly uploaded it to her public profile.. 🦋

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"...For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age. "

I am in awe (and lust) of your moth-eaten torso, your lådyship.

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By *mf123Man 4 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I know how good i was based on the reactions results and scores so i know its true when they say im the fuck of there lives and will always be

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By *zChiefWoman 4 weeks ago

middle of somewhere

Healthy skeptic here .

I dont believe it on the whole .

Self preservation ... dont believe the bull ..dont get hurt

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"...For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age.

I am in awe (and lust) of your moth-eaten torso, your lådyship. "

.

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By *mf123Man 4 weeks ago

with one foot out the door


"Healthy skeptic here .

I dont believe it on the whole .

Self preservation ... dont believe the bull ..dont get hurt "

ah but which hole dont you believe it on hmmm

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By *zChiefWoman 4 weeks ago

middle of somewhere


"Healthy skeptic here .

I dont believe it on the whole .

Self preservation ... dont believe the bull ..dont get hurt ah but which hole dont you believe it on hmmm "

Whichever it is in at the time

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By *mf123Man 4 weeks ago

with one foot out the door


"Healthy skeptic here .

I dont believe it on the whole .

Self preservation ... dont believe the bull ..dont get hurt ah but which hole dont you believe it on hmmm

Whichever it is in at the time "

haha ha ha bom bom

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"I believe the flattery I know to be true and I don't believe the flattery that is clearly bs. For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age. "

So would you say if they compliment something you're insecure about, you believe it to be bs?

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

"

Some people are really into skinny guys.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

"

Some of us married very slim guys. It's not a particular "thing" for me, body shape isn't what I'm looking at. Mr KC was VERY slim back in the day.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

Some people are really into skinny guys. "

That is true, I suppose that's a different issue for me all toghether.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

Some of us married very slim guys. It's not a particular "thing" for me, body shape isn't what I'm looking at. Mr KC was VERY slim back in the day. "

Yeah, I'm probably rably just over thinking this one.

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By *enk15Man 4 weeks ago

Evesham


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

"

The worst is getting the "She'll snap you like a twig" comments when talking about fancying someone

But don't worry Toots, us skinny guys rock

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

Some of us married very slim guys. It's not a particular "thing" for me, body shape isn't what I'm looking at. Mr KC was VERY slim back in the day.

Yeah, I'm probably rably just over thinking this one."

Probably as much as I over think the fact I'm fat and am incredibly self conscious about that.

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago

Maybe I'm naive, but I like to believe that if they're flattering me then it's genuine and coming from a place of having a good experience. I genuinely believe them when they say "for 30 seconds, that was incredible!"

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

The worst is getting the "She'll snap you like a twig" comments when talking about fancying someone

But don't worry Toots, us skinny guys rock "

Appreciate it man, I do want to go gym when this new job gets up, not too crazy mind you, but just some stuff to make feel abit more healthy.

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By *ungandMan 4 weeks ago

daveyhulme


"I think it's probably genuine if they're willing to bone me and especially if they come back for more. There's the slight chance I'm just a warm, wet hole but being such special needs, the other person has to make special effort.

I'm much more skeptical about the random compliments and praise on the forum and via DM.

I'm shit at accepting compliments anyway

though "

It heard that saying in a long time 😂 just bone me

You’re photo are fantastic

X

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

Some of us married very slim guys. It's not a particular "thing" for me, body shape isn't what I'm looking at. Mr KC was VERY slim back in the day.

Yeah, I'm probably rably just over thinking this one.

Probably as much as I over think the fact I'm fat and am incredibly self conscious about that. "

Yeah I guess so, silly us right? 🤣.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

Some of us married very slim guys. It's not a particular "thing" for me, body shape isn't what I'm looking at. Mr KC was VERY slim back in the day.

Yeah, I'm probably rably just over thinking this one.

Probably as much as I over think the fact I'm fat and am incredibly self conscious about that.

Yeah I guess so, silly us right? 🤣.

"

Silly us for sure

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By *enk15Man 4 weeks ago

Evesham


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

The worst is getting the "She'll snap you like a twig" comments when talking about fancying someone

But don't worry Toots, us skinny guys rock

Appreciate it man, I do want to go gym when this new job gets up, not too crazy mind you, but just some stuff to make feel abit more healthy."

I've been there, hell I still am there lol

Others don't see it as an issue either, you try to tell someone and you get the Reponses like

"I wish I had your figure"

"Wish I could eat anything I like and not put on weight"

It's tiring. body dysmorphia is body dysmorphia even for skinny people.

Hope you learn to love your body soon, Toots.

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"The fact that they have taken delight in spending time with me, ensconced in naked entwinement is flattering enough.

Sometimes the unspoken gestures speak volumes.

·

Do you have mute sexy meets Nerø?

Only with women who are fluent in Makaton, just like me. 😈

·

*Makes a nodding closed fist movement* "

I've experienced your closed fist. You have a vice-like grip. 🏃🏻‍♂️💨

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By *emorefridaCouple 4 weeks ago

La la land

I'm sure the majority of us have said things in the heat of the moment and thought what the actual fuck afterwards. So yes I believe there are grains of truth in what they are saying, but also people say random stuff when all fired up.

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By *llie AssMan 4 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

Flatter me, pile it on, heap me with praise about my skills and attributes. I love to hear it during sex, and I don't care how much of it is 100% true.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"I guess would believe to be not true, as I've ways been insecure about being skinny. 🤔

The worst is getting the "She'll snap you like a twig" comments when talking about fancying someone

But don't worry Toots, us skinny guys rock

Appreciate it man, I do want to go gym when this new job gets up, not too crazy mind you, but just some stuff to make feel abit more healthy.

I've been there, hell I still am there lol

Others don't see it as an issue either, you try to tell someone and you get the Reponses like

"I wish I had your figure"

"Wish I could eat anything I like and not put on weight"

It's tiring. body dysmorphia is body dysmorphia even for skinny people.

Hope you learn to love your body soon, Toots. "

Tbh ever since I've been here it's been better, alot more confident.

Things will better they always do.

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan 4 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

If i am left panting and speechless that’s all the flattery they need you have definitely satisfied me.

I may be able to mumble, “that was fucking amazing” after 5 minutes.

Similar in return if they’re still able to talk and flatter straight after I don’t buy it.

When it comes to compliments on here, well i am on the autistic spectrum so no filter i say things how i see it for better or for worse 😂

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I believe the flattery I know to be true and I don't believe the flattery that is clearly bs. For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age.

So would you say if they compliment something you're insecure about, you believe it to be bs?"

I don't think so 🤔. I'm not insecure about my body or my age but I know I don't look like a 34 year old woman.

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"I believe the flattery I know to be true and I don't believe the flattery that is clearly bs. For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age.

So would you say if they compliment something you're insecure about, you believe it to be bs?

I don't think so 🤔. I'm not insecure about my body or my age but I know I don't look like a 34 year old woman.

"

You don't look a day over 40, though 😘

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By *anttoswingMan 4 weeks ago

Eddlesborough

This is such an interesting thread, it's great reading everyone's thoughts! Before reading this I never understood why someone would doubt compliments I'm giving, I would only ever compliment someone I find attractive and would want to get my hands on, and I would always compliment the features that most attracted me.

Reading the above I see now how there's a line that can be crossed in terms of someone is attracted enough to want to do something, then might say anything to try and make it happen.

Really interesting thread OP

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By *heBelladonnaWoman 4 weeks ago

A dazzling place you never knew

Depends on who the person is.

Sometimes I take it as genuine and cringe inside because I dislike compliments.

Other times I cringe inside because they don’t know me and their compliments seem to be the type trying to butter me up for God knows what.

The one person I do genuinely believe without any second thoughts is someone that knows me, has seen me vulnerable and exposed, and I don’t mean without clothes. But that takes time…

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I believe the flattery I know to be true and I don't believe the flattery that is clearly bs. For instance I know I do not have the body of a woman half my age.

So would you say if they compliment something you're insecure about, you believe it to be bs?

I don't think so 🤔. I'm not insecure about my body or my age but I know I don't look like a 34 year old woman.

You don't look a day over 40, though 😘"

You're absolutely right, I don't 😅

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By *anttoswingMan 4 weeks ago

Eddlesborough


"Depends on who the person is.

Sometimes I take it as genuine and cringe inside because I dislike compliments.

Other times I cringe inside because they don’t know me and their compliments seem to be the type trying to butter me up for God knows what.

The one person I do genuinely believe without any second thoughts is someone that knows me, has seen me vulnerable and exposed, and I don’t mean without clothes. But that takes time…"

Well this was a beautiful response

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By *vaRose43Woman 4 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

It really depends who is delivering the compliment, what it’s about and when.

Most of the time I see it all as bullshit, these are the same people I could pass in a supermarket aisle and they wouldn’t look twice.

Others who know me, I’m more inclined to accept the compliment as something they believe even if I don’t always believe it about myself.

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By *rincipessaWoman 4 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

I’d like to believe, but I don’t. Not unless it’s someone I know and trust really well

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 4 weeks ago

Leeds

Someone off here I rarely believe I just assume they want to get the sex & will say anything.

Someone I've met and formed a connection with them I'm more likely to believe them.

Mrs

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan 4 weeks ago

St Leonards

You're all butt ugly fucktards.

Honesty always wins 😘😘😘.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"It really depends who is delivering the compliment, what it’s about and when.

Most of the time I see it all as bullshit, these are the same people I could pass in a supermarket aisle and they wouldn’t look twice.

Others who know me, I’m more inclined to accept the compliment as something they believe even if I don’t always believe it about myself. "

😘 just saying.

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By *ayHaychMan 4 weeks ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I am quite bad at making compliments up so if I say it, I mean it

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By *anttoswingMan 4 weeks ago

Eddlesborough


"It really depends who is delivering the compliment, what it’s about and when.

Most of the time I see it all as bullshit, these are the same people I could pass in a supermarket aisle and they wouldn’t look twice.

Others who know me, I’m more inclined to accept the compliment as something they believe even if I don’t always believe it about myself. "

If you were in the supermarket dressed like you are in your profile pictures...I'd look twice!

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By *ell GwynnWoman 4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?"

I don't believe there is a correlation to that. The compliments threads are simply 'feel good' threads, offering an all-encompassing carmarderie and solidarity. It's harmless fun.

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By *ell GwynnWoman 4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?

I don't believe there is a correlation to that. The compliments threads are simply 'feel good' threads, offering an all-encompassing carmarderie and solidarity. It's harmless fun. "

You're probably right. It just got me thinking because I do participate in those threads on occasion, yet when faced with someone in DM's I'm fairly cynical at first. It seemed a contradiction.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman 4 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Willy would you be flattered if I told you during the act that you had the perfect penis for anal?

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By *llie AssMan 4 weeks ago

South Yorkshire


"Willy would you be flattered if I told you during the act that you had the perfect penis for anal? "

I wouldn't think too hard about the implications, just enjoy the compliment.

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By *anttoswingMan 4 weeks ago

Eddlesborough


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?

I don't believe there is a correlation to that. The compliments threads are simply 'feel good' threads, offering an all-encompassing carmarderie and solidarity. It's harmless fun.

You're probably right. It just got me thinking because I do participate in those threads on occasion, yet when faced with someone in DM's I'm fairly cynical at first. It seemed a contradiction. "

But this is where I was, taking part in those forums you don't lie, you comment on your favourite features of that person. I agree it doesn't completely correlate but it helps to flip the thinking when you receive compliments

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By *anttoswingMan 4 weeks ago

Eddlesborough


"Willy would you be flattered if I told you during the act that you had the perfect penis for anal? "

Ha ha, nope, I would take it as an invitation!

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By *electableicecreamMan 4 weeks ago

The West

I'm a very complimentary person in general and even more so with a lover.

I do understand that compliments can be received in any number of ways that might have nothing to do with the intentions of the person delivering them though so I think it's good to read the room and temper accordingly.

It's the difference between "you have the greatest ass I've ever seen" and "I fucking love how your ass feels in my hand right now"

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?

I don't believe there is a correlation to that. The compliments threads are simply 'feel good' threads, offering an all-encompassing carmarderie and solidarity. It's harmless fun.

·

You're probably right. It just got me thinking because I do participate in those threads on occasion, yet when faced with someone in DM's I'm fairly cynical at first. It seemed a contradiction. "

That's fine. In fairness the OP was talking about compliments in the bedroom. There's a world of difference between me bending you over a leather Chesterfield and bestowing compliments on your pocket-sized derrière versus telling you how much I like your vanilla Mønøchrome Monday™ photograph.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?"

I don’t.

With regards to the question, If I say something I mean it. It took me a while when first joining here to realise so many people aren’t like that so I’m very skeptical now, unfortunately too much so 😕

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By *ellhungvweMan 4 weeks ago

Cheltenham

You can tell when she really enjoyed it - there are always little tells afterwards. She lies there just a little longer, she is just a little more tactile, she is slightly more relaxed and her eyes linger slightly longer. She is comfortable and is enjoying the afterglow. You can tell.

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By *icecouple561Couple 4 weeks ago
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East Sussex


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?"

I don't.

I don't say nice things unless I mean them UNLESS there is good reason.

If for instance a woman about to walk down the aisle asked me how she looked I would say "breathtakingly beautiful" whether I meant it or not.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman 4 weeks ago

your head

Very. But im shit with Compliments. I know my partner loves me and is attracted to me but I still don't believe him when he tells me I'm beautiful. That's a me issue though and not trying dismiss that people don't genuinely mean something when they say it. I take all compliments on here with a pinch of salt.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?

I don't.

I don't say nice things unless I mean them UNLESS there is good reason.

If for instance a woman about to walk down the aisle asked me how she looked I would say "breathtakingly beautiful" whether I meant it or not. "

Exactly the same for me. Many a time I’ve messaged someone privately on here and given a compliment but I just can’t look for a compliment to give. Those threads just aren’t for me, they feel too false but I get why people like them and may get a boost from them x

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By *B69Woman 4 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Compliments on here I take with a pinch of salt, in person they make me uncomfortable, in the bedroom I only take notice and believe when it’s coming from someone I know well.

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By *HUSH-Man 4 weeks ago

London

I would say I’m quite good at telling when someone is being sincere or not. That only applies in person though. The non verbal communication that I pick up on.

I don’t know if you’ve ever had someone narcissistic in your life but a compliment from them always comes with a whiff of a hidden agenda… Because there always is. I have experienced that in the bedroom too.

I only pay compliments to people if I mean them. I also have no problems giving someone a dressing down too. If someone does get to know me they can expect me to be honest and that includes saying things you don’t want to hear. I expect the same. If I’m being a dick, do tell me.

People that are overly cynical and can’t accept any compliment I think have some confidence and self esteem issues. It gets old trying to reassure someone that you mean what you say and they just won’t believe it.

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By *ell GwynnWoman 4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?

I don't believe there is a correlation to that. The compliments threads are simply 'feel good' threads, offering an all-encompassing carmarderie and solidarity. It's harmless fun.

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You're probably right. It just got me thinking because I do participate in those threads on occasion, yet when faced with someone in DM's I'm fairly cynical at first. It seemed a contradiction.

That's fine. In fairness the OP was talking about compliments in the bedroom. There's a world of difference between me bending you over a leather Chesterfield and bestowing compliments on your pocket-sized derrière versus telling you how much I like your vanilla Mønøchrome Monday™ photograph. "

Nero! You know those people who can't picture anything in their minds at all? Aphantasiacs? I'm not one of them

Anyway, I get your point. However, those threads, as much as any thread, can serve as a precursor to (or extension of) that DM flirting.

I used to be so open and assume everyone was genuine!

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By *eroLondonMan 4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Answering seriously this time - I rarely give unrestrained compliments to women on here, let alone accolades in the bedroom (when did that even become a thing?) because they are potentially perceived as faux flattery or hollow gestures.

On Fab when a woman sends me a photograph of her face, then my responses are usually thanking them for sending a lovely photo or simply acknowledging their smile. That approach doesn't always go down well: I've had a few instances where they've become irritated because I wasn't showering them with plaudits or gushing profusely at the sight of their countenance.

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By *parkle1974Woman 4 weeks ago

Leeds

Most just say what they think you want to hear. I don't believe a word of what they say now.

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Willy would you be flattered if I told you during the act that you had the perfect penis for anal? "

I'd see it as a back handed compliment

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By *opeyXWoman 4 weeks ago

Dun Dee


"Oooh me me!!! i know this one!

Im a massive skeptic. Lmao. Huge. Folk ive met through fab i believe theyre just saying what needs be said to get in your pants. "

Mostly just think this. Though I now believe I've a decent bum due that's all men compliment me on physically.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 4 weeks ago

Central

I'm a bit mixed, with compliments via messages generally taken with a wheelbarrow of salt. In person, I note more how they communicate nonverbally and usually soak up compliments given and appreciate them. It can be very hard for some people to express their emotions and often compliments have some emotional content, so I like them and people wanting and managing to share.

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By *ab FunstersCouple 4 weeks ago

Midlands

I (Mrs) always take the fab 'stunning' compliment to mean mediocre at best...that is probably me being cynical but it comes across as an attempt to be a leg opener.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan 4 weeks ago

Ends

The only reason I think I’m pretty is because women tell me during sex.

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago

I think as a female on here it's really difficult to separate the genuine from the ones just blowing smoke up your ass, especially as you get older

I think when you've met someone in person it's maybe easier to believe that they are genuine.. But even then i imagine people are more generous with compliments 'cos it's a sex site after all and we all wanna get our leg over / end away 🤔🤔

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By *hrista BellendWoman 4 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm not skeptical at all in the bedroom, he can say what he likes. We are both enjoying mutual pleasure. I do draw the line at shouters/screamers though...

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By *ell GwynnWoman 4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"I think as a female on here it's really difficult to separate the genuine from the ones just blowing smoke up your ass, especially as you get older

I think when you've met someone in person it's maybe easier to believe that they are genuine.. But even then i imagine people are more generous with compliments 'cos it's a sex site after all and we all wanna get our leg over / end away 🤔🤔"

Yep, some people say all sorts...

Years ago I met a bloke who told me that I tasted gorgeous after going down on me.

This was a lie, because I'd just that day used Magic Powder hair removal stuff for the first time. It smells horrendous, and I could not scrub the scent away, however hard I tried.

I did warn him about it in advance. I think he just wanted to ensure I'd sleep with him again. That, or it was just a habit of his to say something positive about a foof in the name of good manners. Either way, it didn't do him any favours.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"The only reason I think I’m pretty is because women tell me during sex. "

I like your moustache

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By *illy Idol OP   Man 4 weeks ago

Midlands


"The only reason I think I’m pretty is because women tell me during sex. "

19th October and backwards, you're definitely pretty

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman 4 weeks ago

Brum


"The only reason I think I’m pretty is because women tell me during sex. "

Oh but you are very much

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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago

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"I think as a female on here it's really difficult to separate the genuine from the ones just blowing smoke up your ass, especially as you get older

I think when you've met someone in person it's maybe easier to believe that they are genuine.. But even then i imagine people are more generous with compliments 'cos it's a sex site after all and we all wanna get our leg over / end away 🤔🤔"

*All*. I give compliments to people who I have zero desire to have sex with. Absolutely zilch. Because sometimes I think I want to share how I feel/view something. Not all of us are shameless horndogs, only most.

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By *vaRose43Woman 4 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"How many of us who've answered that they're skeptical take part in the "compliments" threads?"

I do because I know I mean my compliments, doesn’t mean I believe any or all I get back

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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago


"I think as a female on here it's really difficult to separate the genuine from the ones just blowing smoke up your ass, especially as you get older

I think when you've met someone in person it's maybe easier to believe that they are genuine.. But even then i imagine people are more generous with compliments 'cos it's a sex site after all and we all wanna get our leg over / end away 🤔🤔

*All*. I give compliments to people who I have zero desire to have sex with. Absolutely zilch. Because sometimes I think I want to share how I feel/view something. Not all of us are shameless horndogs, only most. "

Yeah but how do you tell the genuine from the not-genuine?? is a compliment from a female more genuine 🤔🤔

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By *ife NinjaMan 4 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Why would you give an insincere compliment, once you're both naked in bed? 🤔

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By *igNick1381Man 4 weeks ago

BRIDGEND

Told a girl I met through here how gorgeous she was (she was) while we were in bed and she said "you don't have to use any lines, were already shagging"

I was like "but you are gorgeous" lol

Just went back to giving her head which we both agreed was a better use of my tongue anyway

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By *parkle1974Woman 4 weeks ago

Leeds


"Why would you give an insincere compliment, once you're both naked in bed? 🤔"

No idea why but some men do x

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By *pandjMan 4 weeks ago

Sparkford


"Told a date that she was beautiful during foreplay which made her suddenly stop and accuse me of bull shitting her. She was though and I find it hard to say things to people that aren't true.

I'm like gollum with a shit beard so find it hard to take compliments.

Completely irrelevant to this thread topic but your last cock picture looks like it's got wings. I don't know if it was intentional, but it's some excellent work."

No idea what you're on about and have looked back a few times

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By *ansoffateMan 4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Hey that's that a little unfair.

I totally meant it... When I said it.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple 4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Having such a beautiful penis, handsome face, perfect hair and the body of an Adonis I don’t really pay much attention to that sort of compliment.

Its like telling an apple it’s an apple.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 4 weeks ago

North West


"Having such a beautiful penis, handsome face, perfect hair and the body of an Adonis I don’t really pay much attention to that sort of compliment.

Its like telling an apple it’s an apple."

You're a peach, Sam

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan 4 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"Told a date that she was beautiful during foreplay which made her suddenly stop and accuse me of bull shitting her. She was though and I find it hard to say things to people that aren't true.

I'm like gollum with a shit beard so find it hard to take compliments.

Completely irrelevant to this thread topic but your last cock picture looks like it's got wings. I don't know if it was intentional, but it's some excellent work.

No idea what you're on about and have looked back a few times "

the feet it's the feet

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By *pandjMan 4 weeks ago

Sparkford


"Told a date that she was beautiful during foreplay which made her suddenly stop and accuse me of bull shitting her. She was though and I find it hard to say things to people that aren't true.

I'm like gollum with a shit beard so find it hard to take compliments.

Completely irrelevant to this thread topic but your last cock picture looks like it's got wings. I don't know if it was intentional, but it's some excellent work.

No idea what you're on about and have looked back a few times the feet it's the feet"

Oh yeah! Assumed last to mean my most recent. Dick doesn't look like that anymore wings or no wings

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By *he_Mixed_GuyMan 4 weeks ago

Reading


"The fact that they have taken delight in spending time with me, ensconced in naked entwinement is flattering enough.

Sometimes the unspoken gestures speak volumes."

Loving the language..lol

Also agree with the sentiment!

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By *parkle1974Woman 4 weeks ago

Leeds


"Told a date that she was beautiful during foreplay which made her suddenly stop and accuse me of bull shitting her. She was though and I find it hard to say things to people that aren't true.

I'm like gollum with a shit beard so find it hard to take compliments.

Completely irrelevant to this thread topic but your last cock picture looks like it's got wings. I don't know if it was intentional, but it's some excellent work.

No idea what you're on about and have looked back a few times "

It's an angel penis

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple 4 weeks ago

Coventry

I think for the praise kink works best when that praise comes from someone you trust and submit authority to. Its hotter if it's someone you genuinely want to make proud of you and who praise you know to be genuine.

Mr

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By *indergirlWoman 4 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

A bucket full of skepticism, they have me where they want me so could be bs just to keep me sweet, but I don't accept compliments well. If I've met someone a few times then I tend to believe it more.

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By *aizyWoman 4 weeks ago

west midlands

I'm not really into the whole praise kink, if they don't recoil in horror when I get naked that's good enough for me

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By *rHotNottsMan 4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I believe they think it’s genuine, but I’ll still just shrug & say it’s just a cock or something. Sexual compliments don’t really do it for he

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