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By (user no longer on site) OP 16 weeks ago
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So a guy wants to meet at his. Some people will be sleeping upstairs. I said no thanks. As think it’s wrong to even invite someone over when said people are upstairs.
The behaviour is quite concerning considering his position. What would you do ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 16 weeks ago
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"Not go"
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ? |
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"I wouldn’t go. But I’ve been on dates and gone back to theirs and they have flat mates/ house mates there. "
I kinda feel like if it’s just housemates then there’s no need to report. If it’s not for you just ignore. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 16 weeks ago
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"I wouldn’t go. But I’ve been on dates and gone back to theirs and they have flat mates/ house mates there.
I kinda feel like if it’s just housemates then there’s no need to report. If it’s not for you just ignore. "
It’s not housemates. |
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"I wouldn’t go. But I’ve been on dates and gone back to theirs and they have flat mates/ house mates there.
I kinda feel like if it’s just housemates then there’s no need to report. If it’s not for you just ignore.
It’s not housemates. "
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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If you don’t feel comfortable with the situation don’t go.
That goes for anyone, if it makes you feel uncomfortable what is being suggested ask to do something more suitable for you and if they won’t budge best give them a wide berth. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 16 weeks ago
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ? "
Reported for what?
He's been open about others being there and not hid the fact. You're not comfortable so won't be going.
What would you expect the outcome of any report to be? 🤔 |
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ? "
Who do you think it should be reported to OP?
Are you concerned about some safeguarding issues, or is this simply that the circumstances don't meet your own standards or expectations?
This might be perfectly acceptable behaviour to others, but I would suggest that unless there are safeguarding issues you simply excuse yourself from the communications and move on. |
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ? "
Report to who? It's not against any law or rule that I am aware of |
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"Someone's home is their last bastion of safety, security and privacy. I wouldn't even entertain the notion of going there.
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It’s also someone’s shag pad, dungeon and playroom"
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This is very true. This is why I keep a medieval oubliette in my catacombs. |
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"So a guy wants to meet at his. Some people will be sleeping upstairs. I said no thanks. As think it’s wrong to even invite someone over when said people are upstairs.
The behaviour is quite concerning considering his position. What would you do ? "
“Some people” - kids / wife? Then don’t go..
If it’s his Mum and Dad…. who hasn’t had the excitement of an illicit fumble on the sofa whilst parents are above…
As far as reporting, don’t be daft. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 16 weeks ago
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Please keep it to the thread OP.
If your concern is that children will be asleep upstairs then it's understandable that you're not keen.
That said, it's still personal choice.
I'm sure some people (both on site and off) will have visitors to their houses when their children are asleep upstairs. Sometimes it's just social activity with friends, sometimes those visits may include physical interaction. Personally I think it's wrong to do so with a random stranger for a one off meet, but in the past I did meet someone who I'd known a long while, when it was comfortable to do so, without there ever being any affect on their young child sleeping upstairs.
As with all things in life, if it's not for you that's fine. People are capable of making their own choices. |
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"Someone's home is their last bastion of safety, security and privacy. I wouldn't even entertain the notion of going there.
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It’s also someone’s shag pad, dungeon and playroom
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This is very true. This is why I keep a medieval oubliette in my catacombs."
The oubliette is a one way hole… I prefer holes with options 😈 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 16 weeks ago
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ?
Who do you think it should be reported to OP?
Are you concerned about some safeguarding issues, or is this simply that the circumstances don't meet your own standards or expectations?
This might be perfectly acceptable behaviour to others, but I would suggest that unless there are safeguarding issues you simply excuse yourself from the communications and move on. "
I’d say safeguarding to an extent. But then everyone’s standards are different. In someone else’s eyes there may be nothing wrong with it. I just wouldn’t invite a guy over if my **** were at home sleeping upstairs. |
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ?
Who do you think it should be reported to OP?
Are you concerned about some safeguarding issues, or is this simply that the circumstances don't meet your own standards or expectations?
This might be perfectly acceptable behaviour to others, but I would suggest that unless there are safeguarding issues you simply excuse yourself from the communications and move on.
I’d say safeguarding to an extent. But then everyone’s standards are different. In someone else’s eyes there may be nothing wrong with it. I just wouldn’t invite a guy over if my **** were at home sleeping upstairs. "
Stop trying to make this a bigger deal than it is - It’s not a safeguarding issue, parents do a lot of naughty things whilst the kids are asleep, have done for thousands of years…
It’s a choice for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 16 weeks ago
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ?
Who do you think it should be reported to OP?
Are you concerned about some safeguarding issues, or is this simply that the circumstances don't meet your own standards or expectations?
This might be perfectly acceptable behaviour to others, but I would suggest that unless there are safeguarding issues you simply excuse yourself from the communications and move on.
I’d say safeguarding to an extent. But then everyone’s standards are different. In someone else’s eyes there may be nothing wrong with it. I just wouldn’t invite a guy over if my **** were at home sleeping upstairs.
Stop trying to make this a bigger deal than it is - It’s not a safeguarding issue, parents do a lot of naughty things whilst the kids are asleep, have done for thousands of years…
It’s a choice for you."
Without going into specifics here. You might see it in a different light if you know the full story. |
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ?
Who do you think it should be reported to OP?
Are you concerned about some safeguarding issues, or is this simply that the circumstances don't meet your own standards or expectations?
This might be perfectly acceptable behaviour to others, but I would suggest that unless there are safeguarding issues you simply excuse yourself from the communications and move on.
I’d say safeguarding to an extent. But then everyone’s standards are different. In someone else’s eyes there may be nothing wrong with it. I just wouldn’t invite a guy over if my **** were at home sleeping upstairs.
Stop trying to make this a bigger deal than it is - It’s not a safeguarding issue, parents do a lot of naughty things whilst the kids are asleep, have done for thousands of years…
It’s a choice for you.
Without going into specifics here. You might see it in a different light if you know the full story. "
So why ask for advice if you only give half the picture?
You've already made your decision over whether to go or not, you now need to follow your conscience using the full facts that you are choosing to withold. Make your decision and deal with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 16 weeks ago
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"Not go
I’m not going. It’s wrong. For him to even consider bringing a guy over for fun while said persons are asleep upstairs is wrong. Should this be reported ?
Who do you think it should be reported to OP?
Are you concerned about some safeguarding issues, or is this simply that the circumstances don't meet your own standards or expectations?
This might be perfectly acceptable behaviour to others, but I would suggest that unless there are safeguarding issues you simply excuse yourself from the communications and move on.
I’d say safeguarding to an extent. But then everyone’s standards are different. In someone else’s eyes there may be nothing wrong with it. I just wouldn’t invite a guy over if my **** were at home sleeping upstairs.
Stop trying to make this a bigger deal than it is - It’s not a safeguarding issue, parents do a lot of naughty things whilst the kids are asleep, have done for thousands of years…
It’s a choice for you.
Without going into specifics here. You might see it in a different light if you know the full story.
So why ask for advice if you only give half the picture?
You've already made your decision over whether to go or not, you now need to follow your conscience using the full facts that you are choosing to withold. Make your decision and deal with it."
Rules on here …. |
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