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As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing  |
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"Who pissed on ya chips?
No one in particular...a little more constructive reply would be appreciated though 😞"
Well you don’t really state why these couples need manners so how is one meant to reply? |
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By *arl17Man 3 weeks ago
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing "
Relax fella...maybe site is not for you..simple ...problem solved x |
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"Who pissed on ya chips?
No one in particular...a little more constructive reply would be appreciated though 😞
Well you don’t really state why these couples need manners so how is one meant to reply?"
That was the headline not the context of the post |
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"Who pissed on ya chips?
Maybe nobody and that's what's wrong?
Definitely not my thing "
On a more serious note, it happens.
But these people also have a tendency to be that way towards everyone and not just single men.
As soon as that attitude comes through just block and move on, it's not a fun time for anyone |
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing
Relax fella...maybe site is not for you..simple ...problem solved x"
You are probably correct... perhaps I'm a little old school expecting adults to use good manners  |
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By *.T.Man 3 weeks ago
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Someone has no manners? You've found out before finding out they are dicks in real life. Be thankful you saw the warning signs.
If everyone hid their true selves and were nice, polite etc you'd have a shock when you met Wayne and Waynetta behind Asda on a Saturday night.
Block, move on. Problem solved. |
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"Someone has no manners? You've found out before finding out they are dicks in real life. Be thankful you saw the warning signs.
If everyone hid their true selves and were nice, polite etc you'd have a shock when you met Wayne and Waynetta behind Asda on a Saturday night.
Block, move on. Problem solved."
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OP - you are not wrong but the general point you raise has probably been made on a dozen threads today. It was the same number yesterday and will be the same number tomorrow.
Not wishing to be harsh but it gets old reading about the same complaints all the time. Its life. Its unfair but that won’t change it. |
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By *arl17Man 3 weeks ago
Central Portugal |
"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing
Relax fella...maybe site is not for you..simple ...problem solved x"
Plus ...you have no Verifications so you not really have made any real effort trying to connect with real people on here...
My suggestion is perhaps this is not the site for you... Its a polite good night from me.. |
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"OP - you are not wrong but the general point you raise has probably been made on a dozen threads today. It was the same number yesterday and will be the same number tomorrow.
Not wishing to be harsh but it gets old reading about the same complaints all the time. Its life. Its unfair but that won’t change it. "
Sorry I must have missed all the other posts... feel free to move on... |
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing
Relax fella...maybe site is not for you..simple ...problem solved x
Plus ...you have no Verifications so you not really have made any real effort trying to connect with real people on here...
My suggestion is perhaps this is not the site for you... Its a polite good night from me.."
And it's good night from him... good night 👍 |
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"OP - you are not wrong but the general point you raise has probably been made on a dozen threads today. It was the same number yesterday and will be the same number tomorrow.
Not wishing to be harsh but it gets old reading about the same complaints all the time. Its life. Its unfair but that won’t change it.
Sorry I must have missed all the other posts... feel free to move on..."
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As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️ |
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"As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️ "
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There's a whole swathe of fab that think men should eat shit and provide dick on call.
If your not that guy just block them and find your people.
Forums are not known for sympathy. It is what it is. |
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Nobody will match and be mutually compatible with the majority of people here. When anyone makes it easy to spot they're not, be content and black them. Report anyone who's inappropriate and disrespectful to you |
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"Define manners
I really shouldn't have to define manners "
Sure you should. Some people mean vastly different things by manners than others.
How am I to know whether you have a reasonable complaint or not if you don't spell out what it is you're expecting? |
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"As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️ "
Recently. I sent wink to a couple. Received a message back. Which was I would term part abusive. Basically about my profile and photo’s. Also stating I had not conformed to their profile demand of sending a face photo. Yet none on their profile . My profile does state I will send a photo if requested.
So males must do what ever is demanded by a couple even if they do not ? |
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What you state as manners are different for all. What is good manners for some is a minimum expected level for another.
Manners on here can be lacking by all, you can listen or read about statistics of men to woman or to couples but the truth is that no one can tell anyone else how to interact, or not, or run their account(s)
The forum users are a small percentage of fab many of which who know each other and for some there’s banter in here and for others it can be crippling in some ways. You create a post and it goes in a different way to what you hoped.
I now don’t use here to meet anyone, more just to interact and that works for me
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"As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️ "
Speaking as a 79 year old man, I didn't find your public pictures to be suitable material for 'getting off' to on this occasion but I did at least have a look at all of them.
I admire the sublety of your approach. |
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Couples hold all the cards so they can ask for whatever they want, it’s up to you as the reader to decide if you’re willing to jump through all the hoops for them.
Personally if a see a list of demands on a profile, I move on and look elsewhere, yes some of them do see themselves as entitled, and they will get guys doing all they ask just to meet them, just leave them to it 👍🏻 |
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Recently. I sent wink to a couple. Received a message back. Which was I would term part abusive. Basically about my profile and photo’s. Also stating I had not conformed to their profile demand of sending a face photo. Yet none on their profile . My profile does state I will send a photo if requested.
So males must do what ever is demanded by a couple even if they do not ? "
If it was abusive, report it to admin.
No person here has to jump through hoops, people run their accounts as they see fit, and for some that means a list of requirements that the people they play with must meet. You are completely free to choose not to jump through those hoops, just as you are free to choose your own set of demands too. If someone messages that doesn’t meet your demands, you can ignore, reply with a list of why or a simple no thanks… that’s up to you. Again everyone is free to run their accounts as they like.
Manners is a subjective term. There are threads every day asking why people won’t reply with a no thanks, and yet site rules state that this is fully acceptable. I find replying with a no thanks opens my inbox to abusive replies, so I’d rather be considered rude than get a whole host of insults back |
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Recently. I sent wink to a couple. Received a message back. Which was I would term part abusive. Basically about my profile and photo’s. Also stating I had not conformed to their profile demand of sending a face photo. Yet none on their profile . My profile does state I will send a photo if requested.
So males must do what ever is demanded by a couple even if they do not ?
If it was abusive, report it to admin.
No person here has to jump through hoops, people run their accounts as they see fit, and for some that means a list of requirements that the people they play with must meet. You are completely free to choose not to jump through those hoops, just as you are free to choose your own set of demands too. If someone messages that doesn’t meet your demands, you can ignore, reply with a list of why or a simple no thanks… that’s up to you. Again everyone is free to run their accounts as they like.
Manners is a subjective term. There are threads every day asking why people won’t reply with a no thanks, and yet site rules state that this is fully acceptable. I find replying with a no thanks opens my inbox to abusive replies, so I’d rather be considered rude than get a whole host of insults back "
Profile yes was reported to admin. I have been a member of Fab since only way to access was either desktop or laptop computer. My observation is since ‘smartphones’ and Fab did app for them. Yes needed to keep up with other sites? Then controlling site members who join very difficult . Due to keyboard warriors etc. This from forum posts regarding profiles, demands , messages etc? Yes use Fab filters . Does this always work ?
Not sure how Fab can tighten up on members new and say old . ?
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
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"Couples hold all the cards so they can ask for whatever they want, it’s up to you as the reader to decide if you’re willing to jump through all the hoops for them.
Personally if a see a list of demands on a profile, I move on and look elsewhere, yes some of them do see themselves as entitled, and they will get guys doing all they ask just to meet them, just leave them to it 👍🏻"
Nobody holds all the cards.
There are as many 'entitled' single men and women as there are couples. Same as in any walk of life.
If something seems demanding, walk away. If you see hoops then don't jump through them. If you feel someone is expecting too much from you then call it quits and move on.
Nothing on Fab is compulsory. You don't have to message anyone, reply to anyone or engage with them at all. It's always personal choice as to how you navigate Fab. 🤷♂️ |
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We believe in being polite and will generally try and respond to most messages, unless they are obvious copy and pastes or too out there for us! The downside will be the inevitable replies asking why not etc etc 🫣 |
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By *8on33Man 3 weeks ago
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing "
Unfortunately its born from all the tedious messages they get from people who haven't read profiles ,also because they are sought after as a couple they have gained that arrogance, the sort of like or lump it attitude I stay away from profiles that have the negatives written in the profile it's the only way to stay safe here . |
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By *8on33Man 3 weeks ago
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing Unfortunately its born from all the tedious messages they get from people who haven't read profiles ,also because they are sought after as a couple they have gained that arrogance, the sort of like or lump it attitude I stay away from profiles that have the negatives written in the profile it's the only way to stay safe here ."
sane ffs not safe spellcheck |
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By *batMan 3 weeks ago
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"Plus ...you have no Verifications so you not really have made any real effort trying to connect with real people on here...."
That's just simply not fair is it? How can you measure effort from veris?
1. Lots effort but no one interested.
2. Lots of effort, some meets that go badly and they don't leave veris.
3. Lots of effort, some meets and they go great, but the people don't leave a veri.
4. Lots of effort, some meets and they go great, they want to leave a veri but the OP chooses not to publish any.
5. [insert your own potential scenario here]
People will use the site in their own way, but if it doesn't match how you do yours, doesn't mean they are somehow failing.
Gbat
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"As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️
Recently. I sent wink to a couple. Received a message back. Which was I would term part abusive. Basically about my profile and photo’s. Also stating I had not conformed to their profile demand of sending a face photo. Yet none on their profile . My profile does state I will send a photo if requested.
So males must do what ever is demanded by a couple even if they do not ? "
I beleive that's how alot on here see it. Rest assured. Not everyone is a dick! |
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"As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️
Speaking as a 79 year old man, I didn't find your public pictures to be suitable material for 'getting off' to on this occasion but I did at least have a look at all of them.
I admire the sublety of your approach."
Don't mind people getting off over our pics. It's people who are inboxing us asking for face pics possibly pretending to be other people. Fab is full of fakes.
I admire you for keeping at it at your age 💪👌 good for you! |
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"As a couple. We have noticed this. An I actually feel for you single men. I say, we're all human and even if you are not what we want. It's nice to be nice. If someone is rude then that's not someone you'd want to be around anyway. So I say. Take it as a blessing. Different topic. But I think it's also ridiculous when people ask for a face pic with a message. We got asked for a facepic on private message by an apparent couple who had no public pictures or verifications. Do they think we're stupid. They got blocked. Either because they think they are better than us or its probably a 79 year old man getting off over our public pics pretending to be a couple. 🤷♀️
Recently. I sent wink to a couple. Received a message back. Which was I would term part abusive. Basically about my profile and photo’s. Also stating I had not conformed to their profile demand of sending a face photo. Yet none on their profile . My profile does state I will send a photo if requested.
So males must do what ever is demanded by a couple even if they do not ? "
There's no 'must', apart from being respectful.
But, if a profile requests something, as the minimum, it's common sense and good practice and to fulfill that. It won't be surprising if people who don't fulfill their requests, don't get success.
Report anyone who is abusive and breaks site rules though |
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"Plus ...you have no Verifications so you not really have made any real effort trying to connect with real people on here....
That's just simply not fair is it? How can you measure effort from veris?
1. Lots effort but no one interested.
2. Lots of effort, some meets that go badly and they don't leave veris.
3. Lots of effort, some meets and they go great, but the people don't leave a veri.
4. Lots of effort, some meets and they go great, they want to leave a veri but the OP chooses not to publish any.
5. [insert your own potential scenario here]
People will use the site in their own way, but if it doesn't match how you do yours, doesn't mean they are somehow failing.
Gbat
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing "
Are you not getting your willy wet OP?  |
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"As a guy that doesn't have many replies or females/couples msging me first I'll happily take an abusive msg other nothing! "
I know (hope!) that's a joke, but give your head a wobble. We're all worth more than that.
Here endeth the sermon. |
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"As a guy that doesn't have many replies or females/couples msging me first I'll happily take an abusive msg other nothing!
I know (hope!) that's a joke, but give your head a wobble. We're all worth more than that.
Here endeth the sermon."
Amen 🙏 |
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"As a single male on here one gets used to ghosts , rejection etc but has anyone else noticed that some couples, not all, but some seem to have adopted a very arrogant, almost sense of superiority attitude towards single men? we are not all hungry and desperate , we are exactly the same as you and just looking for fun...a little respect goes a long way and works both ways...rant over and happy fabbing
Are you not getting your willy wet OP? "
That’s the problem |
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"As a guy that doesn't have many replies or females/couples msging me first I'll happily take an abusive msg other nothing!
I know (hope!) that's a joke, but give your head a wobble. We're all worth more than that.
Here endeth the sermon."
not a joke, sadly I don't think that way, always had low self esteem and not having luck with the girls from my teens just makes me wonder why i still keep trying ya know? |
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