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How can Fab be improved or is it something that else ?
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Hey Fabbers,
I’ve been on Fab for a while now and I’m sure it’s not just me but it seems impossible to start a conversation with anyone anymore. The time taken to write a nice, complementary and cohesive message isn’t worth the time to just get ignored each time.
I see women and couples who write;
Read my profile and you may get a reply
Messages with some interesting content other than just “wanna fuck” and you may get you a response
No dick pics
You must send a face and dick pic
You must be VWE.
Don’t ask me to meet now.
A social meet is a must
The list of ‘rules’ goes on and yet for the most part I read the profile and send a message which isn’t just “wanna fuck” and still get ignored.
The sheer volume of the male to female ratio is completely unbalanced and it’s just a melting pot of frustration for all concerned. I see some women say they have a 1000 messages, where as I count myself lucky if a get 1 message a month from a female. Disappointingly most of the messages I do get are from gay or bi guys.
I’ve no idea what the answer is and I think I speak for the majority of men who use Fab but it is tiresome trying to stand out from the immense male crowd, whilst trying to be compliant with so many different preferences and requirements which equate to just being ignored almost 100% if the time.
Even a genuine compliment gets you no where !
So ladies and gentlemen, those of you that actually do meet men from fab, what is it that makes those men stand out for you to meet them ?
Constructive replies are appreciated
Thanks
G
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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So is the frustration that you are not getting enough replies? Or is it because you aren't having conversations leading to sex?
The men that we meet are pretty much all from club nights or socials, the few we have met from here were people we have an actual interest in, who actually read and understood what we were about and had patience since we have jobs and kids.
We do reply to the well thought out messages, but how often do you want to be told no? |
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The frustration is that no matter how I respond i don’t get a reply and I think it’s quite simply because the majority of single women and couples are just overwhelmed with messages.
I have to be honest, this site alone is starting to give me a complex ha ha
"So is the frustration that you are not getting enough replies? Or is it because you aren't having conversations leading to sex?
The men that we meet are pretty much all from club nights or socials, the few we have met from here were people we have an actual interest in, who actually read and understood what we were about and had patience since we have jobs and kids.
We do reply to the well thought out messages, but how often do you want to be told no?"
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"The frustration is that no matter how I respond i don’t get a reply and I think it’s quite simply because the majority of single women and couples are just overwhelmed with messages.
I have to be honest, this site alone is starting to give me a complex ha ha "
We have been here a year, qe have had thousands of messages and we have met THREE men in total from fab.
Like you could message us now and we would give a polite refusal. It would be a reply but your day wouldn't be any better ya know?
You shouldn't be getting a complex from fab though. It isn't worth the stress. |
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The best thing would be able to store private comments - just for yourself - about a profile, so that if you message them, say 18 months after having a conversation, you can have a quick quick reminder of what was said/what turned them off or on about you, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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I'm only speaking for myself, when my filters were open the messages varied and you are right OP, certain messages will not get reply
For me, it's all in the profile, a complete profile. I think of it as a form that all sections need to be completed. Most profiles aren't.
Tongue in cheek bios or status's are funny but then there's a line of it turning into crude which I don't like. Comparing women to bicycles is one.
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"I'm only speaking for myself, when my filters were open the messages varied and you are right OP, certain messages will not get reply
For me, it's all in the profile, a complete profile. I think of it as a form that all sections need to be completed. Most profiles aren't.
Tongue in cheek bios or status's are funny but then there's a line of it turning into crude which I don't like. Comparing women to bicycles is one.
Good luck OP "
You misunderstood, riding ME like a bicycle isn’t what you are referring to and tbh I have changed my status regularly to see what difference it makes, the answer would be zilch |
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"The frustration is that no matter how I respond i don’t get a reply and I think it’s quite simply because the majority of single women and couples are just overwhelmed with messages.
I have to be honest, this site alone is starting to give me a complex ha ha
We have been here a year, qe have had thousands of messages and we have met THREE men in total from fab.
Like you could message us now and we would give a polite refusal. It would be a reply but your day wouldn't be any better ya know?
You shouldn't be getting a complex from fab though. It isn't worth the stress."
If you replied to a message I had sent you yes it would be appreciated. This is exactly my point.
I read someone’s profile that i look the look of and I send a polite message that was more than a one-liner it would be nice to get a response one way or another but sad truth is that people simply don’t reply no matter how much effort I put in |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"The frustration is that no matter how I respond i don’t get a reply and I think it’s quite simply because the majority of single women and couples are just overwhelmed with messages.
I have to be honest, this site alone is starting to give me a complex ha ha
We have been here a year, qe have had thousands of messages and we have met THREE men in total from fab.
Like you could message us now and we would give a polite refusal. It would be a reply but your day wouldn't be any better ya know?
You shouldn't be getting a complex from fab though. It isn't worth the stress.
If you replied to a message I had sent you yes it would be appreciated. This is exactly my point.
I read someone’s profile that i look the look of and I send a polite message that was more than a one-liner it would be nice to get a response one way or another but sad truth is that people simply don’t reply no matter how much effort I put in "
It happens to us too. If they don't want to reply that is entirely for us to deal with. Even with profiles we absolutely seemingly match with 100% we still wont always get a reply.
But that's fine because nobody is owed a reply, if you send one word or twenty paragraphs. It is the nature of this website.
Chin up yeah 👍 |
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"If they don't fancy you they ain't replying, it's really that simple, if they do reply to turn you down, why is that important? "
This too.
Does an inbox full of “no thanks” really make you feel better? |
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"If they don't fancy you they ain't replying, it's really that simple, if they do reply to turn you down, why is that important? "
I get it, we can’t all be everyone’s cup of tea.
I’m not sure which one of you is replying but you’re a hot couple by the way  |
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"If you're picture gets their attention they'll look at the profile, if they like that, they'll reply. Regardless if you just write hi or a 5 paragraph message."
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This is a valid point ^ (of sorts). Most women on here have remarked that they will often look at the sender's profile before even opening a message, let alone even attempting to read or reply to the message if they feel inclined to do so for whatever reason. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"I'm only speaking for myself, when my filters were open the messages varied and you are right OP, certain messages will not get reply
For me, it's all in the profile, a complete profile. I think of it as a form that all sections need to be completed. Most profiles aren't.
Tongue in cheek bios or status's are funny but then there's a line of it turning into crude which I don't like. Comparing women to bicycles is one.
Good luck OP
You misunderstood, riding ME like a bicycle isn’t what you are referring to and tbh I have changed my status regularly to see what difference it makes, the answer would be zilch "
Re read and yes I see now you are the bike. However, as been pointed out...it's not a great status and can put people off |
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"Something should be done to stop new single female members getting flooded with messages and leaving because of that
Like using filters?"
When you set up a new account there's a big green banner at the top of the home screen and one of the suggestions behind that link is setting up filters.
Blaming other guys for a lack of connections is a red herring. There's so many ways to skin the cat on fab.
Mostly, effort is sexy. |
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By *oxy jWoman 4 weeks ago
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"Something should be done to stop new single female members getting flooded with messages and leaving because of that"
its too late many have already left since covid there are less couples and women on here now than pre covid and then add in how many men are running fake couples and women profiles .. that mean acually there are far less than you guys think ..so more rejection very little selection ... simple maths |
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