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The ‘how to get laid’ threads, a question.
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
At what point does someone become unattractive to you in your search for ‘laying?’
Is it age?
Physical appearance? (Obesity/baldness)
Attitude?
Or do you have a random factor to filter out what you don’t want? |
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1. Would they be seen dead with me in a public place?
2. Do they think of me as more than just an arse to stick a dick up?
3. Is there any chance at all that I'll get an orgasm out of it, or will they break the sound barrier on their way out within 2 milliseconds of cumming themselves?
4. Are they going to make me feel as emotionally unwanted as something hairy that the cat has just sicked up? |
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People don't become unattractive to me often.
Everyone starts from a point of neutral. There may be the odd mark up or down for particularly striking physical traits, but still never a wanting to bang someone at first sight. I don't become attracted to people without some sense of who they are.
The idea that I need to be put off or they have to do something wrong for me to not sleep with them seems odd. That standard feeling for any complete stranger starts with zero desire for interiors with them. For me to continue not wanting to fuck them is normal, and doesn't mean they're doing anything wrong or are physically unattractive 💜 |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 3 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"They are unattractive to me if they have long beards, unkempt hair and bad teeth...
That's me out.
I'll leave it to you to work out where I fall down... 😝"
What if they have unkempt beards, bad hair and long teeth...? 😛 |
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"They are unattractive to me if they have long beards, unkempt hair and bad teeth...
That's me out.
I'll leave it to you to work out where I fall down... 😝"
Stephanie63 did say "and"... So presumably you'll be okay if you're just one or two of those, it's only the full trifecta that gets you eliminated from consideration 😂😂😂 |
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By *opinovMan 3 weeks ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
I'm generally tolerant and forgiving but, beyond anything physical, people become unattractive to me if they show themselves to be prejudgemental, entitled, racist, sexist/misandristic, asinine or without empathy. |
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"We use FAST.
Face - are they a minger?
Arse - are they an arsehole?
Sex - are they willing?
Tits - are their nipples above the elbow line?
Fuck. And I was doing so well.
No.4 has me out  "
Can you not recline your wheelchair? |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 3 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"They are unattractive to me if they have long beards, unkempt hair and bad teeth...
That's me out.
I'll leave it to you to work out where I fall down... 😝
Stephanie63 did say "and"... So presumably you'll be okay if you're just one or two of those, it's only the full trifecta that gets you eliminated from consideration 😂😂😂"
Ah yes, a Boolean AND. Of course. Phew! 😅 |
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"We use FAST.
Face - are they a minger?
Arse - are they an arsehole?
Sex - are they willing?
Tits - are their nipples above the elbow line?
Fuck. And I was doing so well.
No.4 has me out
Can you not recline your wheelchair?"
Only if there's someone behind me  |
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"There seems to be misconception on here that if you go for people you find attractive then you're shallow and don't care about personality."
If all you want is something pretty for some hedonism then there's nothing wrong with that. I have tried that way and it's fun enough, but it's not for me.
Just because I don't value the aesthetics the way others can doesn't mean that way of finding people is wrong. Just different 💜 |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"When, despite their better judgement, they've slept with someone who harbours a strong belief that I'm their competition.
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Comparison to past relationship?
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...and potentially future ones.  "
Hmm. I dislike the word ‘baggage’ but can be times that someone thinks a new person will be the same as their past person and i suppose bad and negative experience impacts on all of us one way or another.
I try not to assume but, I suppose some do? |
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By *aven.Woman 3 weeks ago
Not the North West... |
"There seems to be misconception on here that if you go for people you find attractive then you're shallow and don't care about personality.
If all you want is something pretty for some hedonism then there's nothing wrong with that. I have tried that way and it's fun enough, but it's not for me.
Just because I don't value the aesthetics the way others can doesn't mean that way of finding people is wrong. Just different 💜"
But it's seen as either or. I want someone who's physically attractive but also someone I get on with.
Yet I'm shallow and don't have standards 🤷🏻♀️ |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"There seems to be misconception on here that if you go for people you find attractive then you're shallow and don't care about personality.
If all you want is something pretty for some hedonism then there's nothing wrong with that. I have tried that way and it's fun enough, but it's not for me.
Just because I don't value the aesthetics the way others can doesn't mean that way of finding people is wrong. Just different 💜
But it's seen as either or. I want someone who's physically attractive but also someone I get on with.
Yet I'm shallow and don't have standards 🤷🏻♀️"
How about avoiding attractive people as you fear that?
I think there was a thread on that recently? I know I’ve certainly hesitated at talking to someone I felt out my league. |
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"There seems to be misconception on here that if you go for people you find attractive then you're shallow and don't care about personality.
If all you want is something pretty for some hedonism then there's nothing wrong with that. I have tried that way and it's fun enough, but it's not for me.
Just because I don't value the aesthetics the way others can doesn't mean that way of finding people is wrong. Just different 💜
But it's seen as either or. I want someone who's physically attractive but also someone I get on with.
Yet I'm shallow and don't have standards 🤷🏻♀️"
Being more interested in personality doesn't mean I want to sleep with someone I find physically repulsive just because they memorised a joke book from the late 90s either.
People judge people for a thousand different reasons. The people who think you're shallow because you rate physical attractiveness as a more relevant feature of potential meets aren't worth worrying about the opinions of anyway.
You do you. And hot men with pretty penii. And the people who think you're shallow for it can go mutter about it all they like 💜 |
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"How about avoiding attractive people as you fear that?
I think there was a thread on that recently? I know I’ve certainly hesitated at talking to someone I felt out my league."
Oh that's worse. Being chatted up by someone who thinks in leagues that way means they're only talking to me because I'm plain enough to not be too scary, if they were actually into me they wouldn't be talking to me at all. That feels really fucking rubbish 💜 |
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"We use FAST.
Face - are they a minger?
Arse - are they an arsehole?
Sex - are they willing?
Tits - are their nipples above the elbow line?
Fuck. And I was doing so well.
No.4 has me out
Can you not recline your wheelchair?
Only if there's someone behind me "
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"When, despite their better judgement, they've slept with someone who harbours a strong belief that I'm their competition.
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Comparison to past relationship?
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...and potentially future ones.
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Hmm. I dislike the word ‘baggage’ but can be times that someone thinks a new person will be the same as their past person and i suppose bad and negative experience impacts on all of us one way or another.
I try not to assume but, I suppose some do?"
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I would say it's more about one-upmanship and the notion that the person I've slept (or had a social with) is a commodity that needs to be coveted, and which needs to be capitulated. |
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There's not a sliding scale. I either like the look of them or I don't.
They can of course do something that will immediately cancel out attractiveness this includes having a 'funny' look on their face, assuming that I share their bigoted beliefs and keeping their money in a purse. |
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"People don't become unattractive to me often.
Everyone starts from a point of neutral. There may be the odd mark up or down for particularly striking physical traits, but still never a wanting to bang someone at first sight. I don't become attracted to people without some sense of who they are.
The idea that I need to be put off or they have to do something wrong for me to not sleep with them seems odd. That standard feeling for any complete stranger starts with zero desire for interiors with them. For me to continue not wanting to fuck them is normal, and doesn't mean they're doing anything wrong or are physically unattractive 💜"
Exactly this. |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"How about avoiding attractive people as you fear that?
I think there was a thread on that recently? I know I’ve certainly hesitated at talking to someone I felt out my league.
Oh that's worse. Being chatted up by someone who thinks in leagues that way means they're only talking to me because I'm plain enough to not be too scary, if they were actually into me they wouldn't be talking to me at all. That feels really fucking rubbish 💜"
I don’t think in leagues, just to be illustrative and promote some chat |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"When, despite their better judgement, they've slept with someone who harbours a strong belief that I'm their competition.
·
Comparison to past relationship?
•
...and potentially future ones.
·
Hmm. I dislike the word ‘baggage’ but can be times that someone thinks a new person will be the same as their past person and i suppose bad and negative experience impacts on all of us one way or another.
I try not to assume but, I suppose some do?
·
I would say it's more about one-upmanship and the notion that the person I've slept (or had a social with) is a commodity that needs to be coveted, and which needs to be capitulated."
Ah that’s a sort of personality defect in a way |
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No one starts as attractive for me. Yes, there may be a lustful desire, but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. That desire comes as I engage with them and get to know them. So the likelihood is that most people (because they either have no social/conversational skills or are just plain dickheads) never actually make it to the 'yes I would' phase, rather than starting there and subsequently falling out of it. |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"The person themselves usually, and the things they. I've gone from absolutely crushing on someone to rolling my eyes at their posts in the same day before now.
People give me the ick   "
Aww. You’re a lovely. Wished I lived nearer. |
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"Certain beliefs or interactions.
Treating me like a fleshlight.
Aww that’s bad."
Early in my time here I discovered that some people here treat women like toys to be shared ("unicorn couples" mostly) and some others think women are convenient holes, pulse optional. |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"Certain beliefs or interactions.
Treating me like a fleshlight.
Aww that’s bad.
Early in my time here I discovered that some people here treat women like toys to be shared ("unicorn couples" mostly) and some others think women are convenient holes, pulse optional."
That’s just piss poor |
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"When, despite their better judgement, they've slept with someone who harbours a strong belief that I'm their competition.
·
Comparison to past relationship?
•
...and potentially future ones.
·
Hmm. I dislike the word ‘baggage’ but can be times that someone thinks a new person will be the same as their past person and i suppose bad and negative experience impacts on all of us one way or another.
I try not to assume but, I suppose some do?
·
I would say it's more about one-upmanship and the notion that the person I've slept (or had a social with) is a commodity that needs to be coveted, and which needs to be capitulated.
Ah that’s a sort of personality defect in a way "
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Correct. ✔️ |
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"Certain beliefs or interactions.
Treating me like a fleshlight.
Aww that’s bad.
Early in my time here I discovered that some people here treat women like toys to be shared ("unicorn couples" mostly) and some others think women are convenient holes, pulse optional.
That’s just piss poor"
Fab has the very best and the very worst of people. Let's put it that way. |
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By *agnar73 OP Man 3 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"Certain beliefs or interactions.
Treating me like a fleshlight.
Aww that’s bad.
Early in my time here I discovered that some people here treat women like toys to be shared ("unicorn couples" mostly) and some others think women are convenient holes, pulse optional.
That’s just piss poor
Fab has the very best and the very worst of people. Let's put it that way."
Just hoping good outweighs bad experiences for you |
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"Certain beliefs or interactions.
Treating me like a fleshlight.
Aww that’s bad.
Early in my time here I discovered that some people here treat women like toys to be shared ("unicorn couples" mostly) and some others think women are convenient holes, pulse optional.
That’s just piss poor
Fab has the very best and the very worst of people. Let's put it that way.
Just hoping good outweighs bad experiences for you "
Many more bad people, but I've met people here who have changed my life in the best possible way. |
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