"I do. Very very very friendly.  although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc.
Isn't that a fuck buddy then & not a FWB"
Dunno. I suppose so. I don’t stick a label on her. |
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"i don't have one 
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Wow really thought they'd be queuing round the block 
Her arse isn’t that big!  "
Reminds me of an oft quoted incident when a beneficial friend was asked by the Eureka couter staff
"Why are all those men following you?"
'Amiga Beneficia' replied
"They're not following me, they're following my arse!" |
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The person I most think of as a friend with benefits is my best friend, who I occasionally fuck around with. The friendship is very much the important part of that relationship, the sex is just happy fun when things align for us to do so.
I have fuck buddies that are just for sex and occasional conversation, I have partners that are the whole shebang, and a friend with benefits to me is absolutely a friend foremost with the benefits being a happy extra 💜 |
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We have a couple of ladies who are friends with benefits.
We’ve stayed at her house, along with her husband (who doesn’t play) and we’ve been on night outs with them.
Another we’ve met for drinks as we don’t live far from each other.
On the look out for a gent we can count as a FWB
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I don't have any now but when I did we did whatever we wanted, walks, pubs, cinemas, restaurants, weekends away, hotels, even went to a works do and a birthday party - I was seeing them near every day |
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"I do. Very very very friendly. although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc.
Isn't that a fuck buddy then & not a FWB
This. "
Yes, thank you. We’ve worked out what label to stick on her tits, thank you.  |
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When o had a friend with benefits we used to message every day throughout the day, only met up every 3-4 weeks some times just for the day other times overnight. We use to go out for meals and drinks and ocassionally clubs. It was the perfect set up for me. |
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"If you have a "friend with benefits"
How friendly are you with them??"
Good friends, have chats online most days, regular phone calls, face to face time together is sometimes for sex and sometimes not.
Great arrangement. But it’s been a work in progress across three years to get to this stage.
We met on fab quite soon after I first joined and he was new too. We didn’t meet in real life for 18 months due to his personal situation but we got to know each other well during that time. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
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"If you have a "friend with benefits"
How friendly are you with them??"
Very.
We do the sex thing most weeks. But we also do Netflix binging, home cooked brunches, drinks out, pub quizzes and tomorrow we're going to see Venom. |
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"I never knew finding a genuine one was such hard work. I give up now "
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There's still time, your lådyship. Seek further afield and you may find your Shangri-la...on the Dickensian cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne. 💌 |
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"I never knew finding a genuine one was such hard work. I give up now
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There's still time, your lådyship. Seek further afield and you may find your Shangri-la...on the Dickensian cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne. 💌"
A sort of Lady and the Tramp experience? |
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My very best friends (friends, not lovers), since my early 20s, I only ever see a few times a year, and we hook in like no time has passed since the last conversation. No topic is off limits, no mood or emotion is disallowed, and we connect on levels you don't get in everyday life.
That is also what I aimed for, and eventually achieved, with my two lovers.
So - extremely friendly, but beyond friendly and somewhere into profound communion, deliberately infrequently. |
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By *sWyldWoman 11 weeks ago
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I guess I have a couple of people in my life who I'm friendly with but have also have /used to have sex with. One it's mostly just the sex and the other, I'd hope we can do both again.
However neither are a regular thing.
I'm actively dating though. All in the hope I find the right balance of becoming best friends who can't keep their hands off each other, without the need to wash his socks,or give up my freedoms.
I dunno how possible it is to find but we shall see! |
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Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest.
That goes along way in my book.
So how do know what to do now.
Thanks |
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We went really deep with the friendship…. We both had traumatic life events (loss of parents etc) so we relied a lot on each other emotionally which started blurring the lines and probably contributing to both of us backing off …. Distance doesn’t help either.
But that is what I am like- I wear my heart on my sleeve and I like sharing my feelings with my friends. |
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I have a couple of fwb's we don't play often though due to distance and time constraints... I think ultimately I'm keeping them at arms length to avoid catching feelings, which happened to me once before and it didn't end well at all for me.... |
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"Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest.
That goes along way in my book.
So how do know what to do now.
Thanks"
What did you do? Carry on with the threesome? Sounds like you two need a chat to make sure you are both on the same page |
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I’ve had several fwb’s over the years,
A couple of them became more than just friends, the first one I got hurt and burnt so bad, I vowed to keep it strictly no feels, yes be friends, yes have a connection, yes have socials, but be clear what it is,
The last girl was perfect for us both, then she got all the feels….. we still occasionally message but that’s it |
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"Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest.
That goes along way in my book.
So how do know what to do now.
Thanks"
I think you should fuck him off. Its completely out of order that he had someone else show up for a 3sum he didn't get your prior consent for, even if you had one before, he's assuming an awful lot.
He's a total user.
He's not showing you even basic care and respect.
Sorry you've had to experience a shit like that xx |
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I pissed one off and lost her. 😭
The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯
I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂 |
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭
The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯
I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂"
We do exist just not local to you 🤣 |
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I used to have fuck buddies rather than FWBs as I didn't want closeness or to socialise with them etc. Our connection was purely sexual. That way it was always easy to walk away if the spark of fun faded.
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭
The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯
I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂
We do exist just not local to you 🤣"
Lol, all the ones around here are broken.
I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂 |
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭
The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯
I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂
We do exist just not local to you 🤣
Lol, all the ones around here are broken.
I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂"
You make her sound like a clapped out cortina 🤣🤣🤣 |
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I don’t tend to do one offs so over the years I’ve been lucky enough to have a number of FWBs although how often we “play” varies from lady to lady. Working in retail it’s not unheard of for me to bump into them at work. Again some prefer not to engage other than when we play, others are happy to chat casually. It’s all down to their personal preference and I’m happy to go with their preference. Arranged meets socially other than play is a bit of a grey area. I’ve had a few who have crossed the line into “friends” where we indulge the odd coffee or cuppa without the prospect of play. I Ike to build that level of rapport as it definitely helps in the bedroom if the lady involved has built that level of trust with me. Equally though if the other person is “involved” with someone boundaries have to be kept. |
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭
The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯
I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂
We do exist just not local to you 🤣
Lol, all the ones around here are broken.
I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂
You make her sound like a clapped out cortina 🤣🤣🤣"
Oh, far from it. She's beautiful and intelligent, and everything. That's probably why she chose not to put up with my shit. Lol.
Noooo, I just need the problem to go away. If she can just give me a quote for the cost of repairing damage, that's fine. I'd pay it. 😂 |
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"Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest.
That goes along way in my book.
So how do know what to do now.
Thanks
I think you should fuck him off. Its completely out of order that he had someone else show up for a 3sum he didn't get your prior consent for, even if you had one before, he's assuming an awful lot.
He's a total user.
He's not showing you even basic care and respect.
Sorry you've had to experience a shit like that xx"
This about sums it up, I was going to reply with something similar. He hasn't asked if you consented the the other person being there for a threesome or I assume told you they where coming over which is not the way you treat friends in my opinion and is very bad form to put you on the spot like that.
For me a friend with benifts should be exactly that, someone that you get on with and enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom doing normal friendship things like going for a meal, having a coffee or drink with and having a good laugh with and certainly someone your have trust in, and you can be honest with. |
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭
The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯
I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂
We do exist just not local to you 🤣
Lol, all the ones around here are broken.
I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂
You make her sound like a clapped out cortina 🤣🤣🤣
Oh, far from it. She's beautiful and intelligent, and everything. That's probably why she chose not to put up with my shit. Lol.
Noooo, I just need the problem to go away. If she can just give me a quote for the cost of repairing damage, that's fine. I'd pay it. 😂"
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"If you have a "friend with benefits"
How friendly are you with them??"
Quite a few.. variously do dinner dates, hotel nights, spa weekends, holidays, go to gigs, climb mountains, go as couples to parties or club events. Sometimes just come over, bottle of wine, fire going, snuggle, stay the night, spoon, fuck.
Some I’ll even do big things for like remove a fireplace and board and plaster a wall in their living room…
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Not too friendly and recently been described as close but distant as if lines get blurred before you know it you're in a full blown relationship and feelings get involved so it can be a bit sticky |
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"Not too friendly and recently been described as close but distant as if lines get blurred before you know it you're in a full blown relationship and feelings get involved so it can be a bit sticky "
Not the ‘feels’ !!😱!! |
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I don’t have one!
The only successful one that I’ve had is with a very funny friend. The sex was secondary to the friendship.
The others have ended up being more work than a relationship or developed into a relationship. Then heartbreak.  |
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"Not too friendly and recently been described as close but distant as if lines get blurred before you know it you're in a full blown relationship and feelings get involved so it can be a bit sticky
Not the ‘feels’ !!😱!!"
It the feelings aren't _utual could end in heartbreak and a loss of a good friend so it's good to keep NSA as much as possible |
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The benefits are more fun if the friendship is genuine, but I think friendships of this nature are easier to sustain if one or both parties are already taken. Far less chance of drifting towards relationship territory. |
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By *aizyWoman 8 weeks ago
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"The benefits are more fun if the friendship is genuine, but I think friendships of this nature are easier to sustain if one or both parties are already taken. Far less chance of drifting towards relationship territory. "
I had a fwb for most of the first year I was on here, I'm in a long term relationship he was single, I laughed or shrugged of his comments like how he wished we had met years ago and we should run away together, which in hindsight I shouldn't have done, it spiraled into demands and guilt tripping, it has made me wary of getting into a fwb situation again but, I am ready now to try, I'm in no rush though. |
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"The benefits are more fun if the friendship is genuine, but I think friendships of this nature are easier to sustain if one or both parties are already taken. Far less chance of drifting towards relationship territory.
I had a fwb for most of the first year I was on here, I'm in a long term relationship he was single, I laughed or shrugged of his comments like how he wished we had met years ago and we should run away together, which in hindsight I shouldn't have done, it spiraled into demands and guilt tripping, it has made me wary of getting into a fwb situation again but, I am ready now to try, I'm in no rush though."
Oh, that sounds awkward, and not something I’ve experienced. I can understand why that would make you wary, but It’s lovely to hear you’re feeling ready again  |
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By *ags73Man 8 weeks ago
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"It is the holy grail ...friendship 1st ..building connections ..with the sex bit bolted on .
Not sure how attainable/ sustainable it is on here though."
Don’t think it’s possible from here to be honest |
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We chat everyday about all sorts of real life stuff and happily meet up for just a cuppa, if we are free. The core of our relationships is friendship and we celebrate that friendship, with intimacy |
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I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right. |
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right."
Attention?
Most of them want money! |
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right.
Attention?
Most of them want money!"
You're getting finessed |
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right.
Attention?
Most of them want money!
You're getting finessed"
...but they are getting f*cked!
That's mainly the way of the world! |
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"I see the friendship to be as important as the benefits
I would be a friend, but I know some prefer the separation of things and not to be too involved "
True but wouldn’t that be more of a NSA or FB?
If it’s friends with benefits i see it as you actually build a friendship too.
I personally found they are most satisfying all round.
Maybe some people fear it could turn into something more and feelings aren’t reciprocated so stay a bit more detached or just don’t want to keep things strictly physical. |
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"I am still in need of one..
You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X"
Looks like 'No piercings' must be the reason! |
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"I am still in need of one..
You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X
Looks like 'No piercings' must be the reason!"
That's the one!
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"I am still in need of one..
You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X"
I didn’t ask for feedback or advice. I was just sharing my situation. I know what I’m looking for, and I’m confident in that.
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right.
Attention?
Most of them want money!
You're getting finessed
...but they are getting f*cked!
That's mainly the way of the world!"
There's no financial transactions between us, nor do we buy/pay for each other. She's aware of my home life, and is more than happy with our 'arrangement'. She's extremely well off, so if anyone would be after money it'd be me.  |
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"I am still in need of one..
You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X"
Morelike....You probably don't need or want any feedback but I'm going to give it anyway. |
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Mine is a very kind guy, I keep seeing him offering help to strangers just cos he seems to like being helpful.
He has driven me to/collected me from family a couple of hours drive away, done odd jobs at my place and he’s offered to temporarily move into my place to renovate/redecorate - which I know he is currently doing at his other fb’s place (he doesn’t know I know it’s her 🙈🤣).
We speak pretty much every day and have occasionally hung out for no sexy time but I think it’s more that he’s a nice, friendly, super helpful person than that he sees me as a great friend. |
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We're friends first and foremost. He's the first person I think to tell when something happens. He's met other friends of mine who aren't aware of the benefits bit, and I've been to a party his family threw him.
If we never had sex again I like to think we'd still be friends. |
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"Trixie Blonde, CuriousScouser - that sounds brilliant. Good friends, good people, and sex as part of the friendship but not the only part of the friendship. Xx"
It's lovely, and it's great that we're on the same page - it's so hard to find.
I think we'd really struggle if he got into a relationship with a woman who didn't understand there is a friendship there even without the sex, but I try to ignore that possibility! |
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"Trixie Blonde, CuriousScouser - that sounds brilliant. Good friends, good people, and sex as part of the friendship but not the only part of the friendship. Xx
It's lovely, and it's great that we're on the same page - it's so hard to find.
I think we'd really struggle if he got into a relationship with a woman who didn't understand there is a friendship there even without the sex, but I try to ignore that possibility!"
It's exactly the sort of friendships & sexships (not a word, but we need a word that is like that) that I am trying and hoping to build. Maybe it'll happen for me eventually, I think possibly it is even happening or at the start of happening for me already. Though sometimes I wish that the sex bit would hurry up and happen! Polly xxx |
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"If you have a "friend with benefits"
How friendly are you with them??"
I don't have one at the moment, last one I was with, I went on dinner dates, movie nights in and I even went to her mum and stepdad's wedding. |
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