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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
Your asking for trouble with a thread like this lol |
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"I know I think you're right but I'm genuinely actually looking for advice I'm sure I'm not the only one on this site haha surly "
If you are suggesting you have a sex addiction, then therapy would be a good start.
If you’re just addicted to cheating on your Mrs then I think that’s called dickheaditis, and the only cure for that is your Mrs binning you.
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By *uacksplat.Woman 4 weeks ago
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why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you. "
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints |
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"You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints"
The advice you were given is to give your Mrs the opportunity to make an informed decision of how she wants to proceed. There was nothing calling you selfish or saying you didn't have your reasons.
Consent gained through lying is not consent. Keeping someone in a situation you know they'd walk away from if they knew the truth isn't okay 💜 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"You expected everyone to be sympathetic?  "
Did I say that ? No I said advice. People love sticking there 50ps in don't they. If you don't like it move on I'm looking for genuine good advice not negative feedback. I'm aware it's wrong I don't need telling that I want advice
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints"
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating "
Do NOT come in here and apply your stupid logic Nora!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
The advice you were given is to give your Mrs the opportunity to make an informed decision of how she wants to proceed. There was nothing calling you selfish or saying you didn't have your reasons.
Consent gained through lying is not consent. Keeping someone in a situation you know they'd walk away from if they knew the truth isn't okay 💜"
I've actually thought about telling her but I bottle it every time. Thank you for your advice it's probably the best I'll get on here |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
Do NOT come in here and apply your stupid logic Nora!!! "
Oh here is his mr I'm going to make myself look the hero on someone's forum I don't like. Move on pal |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
Do NOT come in here and apply your stupid logic Nora!!! "
Haha. That meant to say “can’t”‘obviously.
Seriously though op I’m not gonna slate you. Maybe speak to her about meeting others? Open relationship? |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
Do NOT come in here and apply your stupid logic Nora!!!
Oh here is his mr I'm going to make myself look the hero on someone's forum I don't like. Move on pal "
I’m a hero on every thread. |
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I guess like any addiction it feels good for a short while and then you feel bad, and then you need to hit again to feel good or even normal?
You know is possible to feel really good about doing things that are good and beneficial to you and others, and it’s also possible to feel really good exerting your will and saying no to to the wrong kind of cake, sex alcohol use, & saying yes to the right types. in fact saying no to the wrong things liberates you to say yes to whole bunch of new things
Try if you don’t believe me, there are far better highs than dopamine |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
Do you still have sex regularly with your wife? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
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Your right I agree I need the counciling. Ok because you put it like that I'm going to stop. I didn't know fabswingers was so sensitive to life's situations lol |
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"You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
The advice you were given is to give your Mrs the opportunity to make an informed decision of how she wants to proceed. There was nothing calling you selfish or saying you didn't have your reasons.
Consent gained through lying is not consent. Keeping someone in a situation you know they'd walk away from if they knew the truth isn't okay 💜
I've actually thought about telling her but I bottle it every time. Thank you for your advice it's probably the best I'll get on here "
Two of us suggested therapy for addiction. Is that not sound advice? |
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By *HUSH-Man 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
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This.
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
Your right I agree I need the counciling. Ok because you put it like that I'm going to stop. I didn't know fabswingers was so sensitive to life's situations lol "
The reason alot of people are sensitive is many many of us in couples have come to this lifestyle and operate on total honesty and trust. For every post like this it furthers the distrust to single males.
There is a reason our first question to men who message is "Do you have a partner?"
People have opinions just like you do and if you want your opinions respected you have to accept that we also are all justified in our opinions of you as well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
Do NOT come in here and apply your stupid logic Nora!!!
Haha. That meant to say “can’t”‘obviously.
Seriously though op I’m not gonna slate you. Maybe speak to her about meeting others? Open relationship? "
I have mentioned it before. She actually was on here for a moment but after a few meets she just stopped. That was going back 3 years now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
Your right I agree I need the counciling. Ok because you put it like that I'm going to stop. I didn't know fabswingers was so sensitive to life's situations lol
The reason alot of people are sensitive is many many of us in couples have come to this lifestyle and operate on total honesty and trust. For every post like this it furthers the distrust to single males.
There is a reason our first question to men who message is "Do you have a partner?"
People have opinions just like you do and if you want your opinions respected you have to accept that we also are all justified in our opinions of you as well."
Ok I get that. I'm sure people have been hurt for what I'm Doing but I'm asking for help not criticism. I'm aware it's not good |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
Your right I agree I need the counciling. Ok because you put it like that I'm going to stop. I didn't know fabswingers was so sensitive to life's situations lol
The reason alot of people are sensitive is many many of us in couples have come to this lifestyle and operate on total honesty and trust. For every post like this it furthers the distrust to single males.
There is a reason our first question to men who message is "Do you have a partner?"
People have opinions just like you do and if you want your opinions respected you have to accept that we also are all justified in our opinions of you as well.
Ok I get that. I'm sure people have been hurt for what I'm Doing but I'm asking for help not criticism. I'm aware it's not good "
Constructive critisism is helpful advice. Not liking it doesn't mean it's bad.
Also put that you have a partner on your profile. This is also advice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
Your right I agree I need the counciling. Ok because you put it like that I'm going to stop. I didn't know fabswingers was so sensitive to life's situations lol
The reason alot of people are sensitive is many many of us in couples have come to this lifestyle and operate on total honesty and trust. For every post like this it furthers the distrust to single males.
There is a reason our first question to men who message is "Do you have a partner?"
People have opinions just like you do and if you want your opinions respected you have to accept that we also are all justified in our opinions of you as well.
Ok I get that. I'm sure people have been hurt for what I'm Doing but I'm asking for help not criticism. I'm aware it's not good
Constructive critisism is helpful advice. Not liking it doesn't mean it's bad.
Also put that you have a partner on your profile. This is also advice."
Yeah I agree. I'm not sure because people will think she's available to meet |
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You like the thrill of it and the risk of it, but there are other ways of getting your excitement and thrills which doesn't include cheating.
You know the only thing to do is talk to her and be honest. And go from there. Or end it. |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
Hello.
You CAN stop cheating. Changing your language would be a start. Then your behaviour will change.
You choose to cheat. No one drags you to the fanny kicking and screaming.
There could be a zillion reasons why you do it ....... e.g. You wanted a change from the usual / It makes you feel attractive / It fills a void in an otherwise totally fucking boring soul destroying existence / It's something to brag about in the pub / it makes you feel young again ........ yada yada yada
Only YOU know why you do it and only YOU can stop it.
What values do you believe a good relationship should have ?
Why did you break those boundaries? ( They must be broken as you hide from them and hide them from your partner )
Fist port of call is just looking a little deeper inside yourself. If you are okay with what you do then keep on doing it. Just remember every choice has CONSEQUENCES. Have you thought what they might be ?
If you think what you do is against your values and your partners values then stop it .....
Over to you . Make a little plan about what means the most to you in life and what you'd do to keep it and how you'd feel if you lost it
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"I’d advise you delete your account and become addicted to your partner. "
That's actually the best advice I have deleted it before but Its so easy to make another |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Advice:
Seek councelling for your addiction. Sex addiction is very real.
Come clean to your partner and let them make a decision on how to proceed.
Stop arguing with people in the thread. Most people will have a very negative opinion of you, which is fine. But maybe just stick to replying to the helpful posts.
But a part of me thinks the negativity is part of the thrill for you.
Your right I agree I need the counciling. Ok because you put it like that I'm going to stop. I didn't know fabswingers was so sensitive to life's situations lol
The reason alot of people are sensitive is many many of us in couples have come to this lifestyle and operate on total honesty and trust. For every post like this it furthers the distrust to single males.
There is a reason our first question to men who message is "Do you have a partner?"
People have opinions just like you do and if you want your opinions respected you have to accept that we also are all justified in our opinions of you as well.
Ok I get that. I'm sure people have been hurt for what I'm Doing but I'm asking for help not criticism. I'm aware it's not good
Constructive critisism is helpful advice. Not liking it doesn't mean it's bad.
Also put that you have a partner on your profile. This is also advice.
Yeah I agree. I'm not sure because people will think she's available to meet "
'I have a partner I am cheating on" would not make anyone thing she is meeting anybody.
But it will allow people to make an informed decision from the start. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you
Hello.
You CAN stop cheating. Changing your language would be a start. Then your behaviour will change.
You choose to cheat. No one drags you to the fanny kicking and screaming.
There could be a zillion reasons why you do it ....... e.g. You wanted a change from the usual / It makes you feel attractive / It fills a void in an otherwise totally fucking boring soul destroying existence / It's something to brag about in the pub / it makes you feel young again ........ yada yada yada
Only YOU know why you do it and only YOU can stop it.
What values do you believe a good relationship should have ?
Why did you break those boundaries? ( They must be broken as you hide from them and hide them from your partner )
Fist port of call is just looking a little deeper inside yourself. If you are okay with what you do then keep on doing it. Just remember every choice has CONSEQUENCES. Have you thought what they might be ?
If you think what you do is against your values and your partners values then stop it .....
Over to you . Make a little plan about what means the most to you in life and what you'd do to keep it and how you'd feel if you lost it
Good luck "
Thank you so much. That what you wrote there has actually made me think allot. Such good genuine advice. Exactly what I needed to hear x |
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How long have you been together/married?
Are there children involved?
What do you like about your relationship/marriage, and your wife (those are separate questions), and what do you fear losing?
Are you afraid of "letting people down"? (yourself, partner/wife, kids, family expectations from parents, in-laws etc).
Are there tough economic consequences of separation or divorce - do you fear those?
In brief, are you in a period of your life that's "too big" for your ability to process it, and this is your (far from healthy) response.
Maybe you are simply suffering from "dickheaditis" and enjoying a few legovers on the sly, or perhaps this is bigger and you're genuinely struggling, wanting to navigate it without carrying on separate identities, and causing likely and heavy damage to others.
I couldn't live the way you are, but humans in general don't like facing up to significant change if they can "get away" with something else.
You're unlikely to "get away" with it for long though, so engage your thinking faculties a bit more, work out your motivations, and act upon the evidence you unearth.
Good luck if you're genuinely struggling - I really wish you well.
If you're just a cunt who's cheating for thrills with no self-awareness, well - you won't be the only bloke, or woman, doing it. But there's nothing admirable about it. It's a place where stupid cunts live.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"You like the thrill of it and the risk of it, but there are other ways of getting your excitement and thrills which doesn't include cheating.
You know the only thing to do is talk to her and be honest. And go from there. Or end it."
I do and it's hard to replace. It's like something I have to work out how to gradually stop. Because if I have that moment where I feel like I want to change I delete everything dead but I soon go back |
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The main thing I'd look at is WHY you cheat, and WHY you feel the need to?
Is it purely sexual - ie your wife doesn't have sex with you or have sex with you enough for your liking/there are sexual desires you have she can't fulfil?
Is it psychological - it's the thrill and sneaking around part that you enjoy, prehaps not exactly the sex itself?
Seeking professional help seems to be the rational thought. Wether you can find it in you to tell your wife, only you can answer that. She does deserve to know. Wether your marriage survives is purely down to you two, but we would recommend seeking professional help on both counts.
And as a starter, delete your account on here so your're taking away some of the temptation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"How long have you been together/married?
Are there children involved?
What do you like about your relationship/marriage, and your wife (those are separate questions), and what do you fear losing?
Are you afraid of "letting people down"? (yourself, partner/wife, kids, family expectations from parents, in-laws etc).
Are there tough economic consequences of separation or divorce - do you fear those?
In brief, are you in a period of your life that's "too big" for your ability to process it, and this is your (far from healthy) response.
Maybe you are simply suffering from "dickheaditis" and enjoying a few legovers on the sly, or perhaps this is bigger and you're genuinely struggling, wanting to navigate it without carrying on separate identities, and causing likely and heavy damage to others.
I couldn't live the way you are, but humans in general don't like facing up to significant change if they can "get away" with something else.
You're unlikely to "get away" with it for long though, so engage your thinking faculties a bit more, work out your motivations, and act upon the evidence you unearth.
Good luck if you're genuinely struggling - I really wish you well.
If you're just a cunt who's cheating for thrills with no self-awareness, well - you won't be the only bloke, or woman, doing it. But there's nothing admirable about it. It's a place where stupid cunts live.
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So I'm not married been together 10 years and no kids together. I know it's hard to believe and people will think how but I love her I'm genuinely seeking help. I feel bad. It's not something I feel like I can control. Like the excitement and the rush. I don't do it a lot I really try not to but some moments it just takes over. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Get a puppy.
Puppies solve 98.6% of all problems.
Outside of China."
I did I bought a French bulldog and he's more hornier than me he shags the pillows haha |
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"Get a puppy.
Puppies solve 98.6% of all problems.
Outside of China.
In China it's nearer 100%
No, in China they eat them, they only solve hunger issues. "
Wake up stupid. We only eat them AFTER they've completed the 98.6 ... |
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"Get a puppy.
Puppies solve 98.6% of all problems.
Outside of China.
In China it's nearer 100%
No, in China they eat them, they only solve hunger issues.
Wake up stupid. We only eat them AFTER they've completed the 98.6 ..."
I generally do wake up stupid. |
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"How long have you been together/married?
Are there children involved?
What do you like about your relationship/marriage, and your wife (those are separate questions), and what do you fear losing?
Are you afraid of "letting people down"? (yourself, partner/wife, kids, family expectations from parents, in-laws etc).
Are there tough economic consequences of separation or divorce - do you fear those?
In brief, are you in a period of your life that's "too big" for your ability to process it, and this is your (far from healthy) response.
Maybe you are simply suffering from "dickheaditis" and enjoying a few legovers on the sly, or perhaps this is bigger and you're genuinely struggling, wanting to navigate it without carrying on separate identities, and causing likely and heavy damage to others.
I couldn't live the way you are, but humans in general don't like facing up to significant change if they can "get away" with something else.
You're unlikely to "get away" with it for long though, so engage your thinking faculties a bit more, work out your motivations, and act upon the evidence you unearth.
Good luck if you're genuinely struggling - I really wish you well.
If you're just a cunt who's cheating for thrills with no self-awareness, well - you won't be the only bloke, or woman, doing it. But there's nothing admirable about it. It's a place where stupid cunts live.
So I'm not married been together 10 years and no kids together. I know it's hard to believe and people will think how but I love her I'm genuinely seeking help. I feel bad. It's not something I feel like I can control. Like the excitement and the rush. I don't do it a lot I really try not to but some moments it just takes over. "
Loving someone is great, but it's not a safe house in which to escape reality, which is mostly a far more confusing and unpleasant thing - as you've discovered when you let it "take over". Because "take over" it does, undeniably.
Tackle reality, if you can find the emotional language to do so.
It can be very fucking hard, but rewarding.
Good luck OP. |
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By *8on33Man 4 weeks ago
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
Hey the aftermath of getting caught will be far more exciting trust me . |
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None of us know your marriage so asking for advice from a bunch of strangers that are only hearing the one side (yours) is pretty pointless.
If it's a genuine addiction then seek help if it's not then maybe just face up to the fact that your selfish. Marriage isn't for everyone. |
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By *ugby 123Couple 4 weeks ago
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating "
But are enabling it. |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
But are enabling it."
Still not cheating though. And some may not know. |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
But are enabling it.
Still not cheating though. And some may not know. "
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
But are enabling it.
Still not cheating though. And some may not know.
I've met woman on here who knew I was taken but didn't care"
Yeah I’ve met married men and always knew. I’m sure many do. A lot may be married themselves. You’re the only one responsible for what you do though. |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints"
But you are selfish, putting your own wants before the person who's supposed to trust you, who should feel safe with you, instead your repeatedly cheating on her.
If that's not selfish I'm not sure what is.
I hope she finds someone who deserves her.
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By *ugby 123Couple 4 weeks ago
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To the OP, when starting an advice thread you can't dictate if people respond with negative or fluffy advice.
My advice would be the same as some others have said, if you have a real addiction you would need to get some help. OK a couple of posts were harsher than needed but it is an emotive subject for some people, but the way you have answered some posts on here makes me think you like to do this rather than you can't stop.
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I worked with a woman who was married to a serial cheater. She found out several times and forgave him each time, until she didn't and they divorced.
I think you need to weigh up what's more important to you and take action accordingly. Also really think about what you meant when you wrote 'its not that I want to hurt her'. |
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By *ugby 123Couple 4 weeks ago
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
But are enabling it.
Still not cheating though. And some may not know. "
I didn't say it was cheating 
However knowing full well that someone is married and doing it anyway means that person is enabling the married person to cheat.
The not knowing is obviously a different issue |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
A lot of hypocrites in this forum. Every other female page I look at is a cheating housewife lately
Each to their own. You know it's wrong, that's what tempts you. Every man has temptations in a relationship, it's normal. But you've got to try and overcome them. Imagine the thought of your Mrs fucking someone else behind your back and how that would make you feel. You need to remember the qualities that made you want to date her, I bet if you showed a pic of her most of the guys on here would be drooling so hold that thought and be loyal to her. Otherwise you need to end it and be single for a few years |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you
A lot of hypocrites in this forum. Every other female page I look at is a cheating housewife lately
Each to their own. You know it's wrong, that's what tempts you. Every man has temptations in a relationship, it's normal. But you've got to try and overcome them. Imagine the thought of your Mrs fucking someone else behind your back and how that would make you feel. You need to remember the qualities that made you want to date her, I bet if you showed a pic of her most of the guys on here would be drooling so hold that thought and be loyal to her. Otherwise you need to end it and be single for a few years "
That first sentence isn’t true. I’ve been here 9 years and I’ve probably seen 2 women’s profiles where they state they’re cheating. And I look a lot of ladies’ profiles. There’s a hell of a lot of married women meeting with permission but that’s nowhere near the same. |
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"why you thought posting a thread like this would be a good idea..🍿
if you have a problem, speak to a registered professional.
but in the mean time, tell your Mrs so she has the option to punch you in the dick and walk the fuck away from you.
You all act so innocent on here. Most woman have probably fuck someone's husband on here. I didn't get to my situation by selfishness. There's more to the story. So cheers for you're negative advice. Sorry I forgot your all saints
You can blame the women who fucked the husbands 🤣. They’re not the ones cheating
But are enabling it.
Still not cheating though. And some may not know.
I didn't say it was cheating
However knowing full well that someone is married and doing it anyway means that person is enabling the married person to cheat.
The not knowing is obviously a different issue"
I would agree with this. I've always said being with someone you know is cheating is enabling it. And just as bad in my opinion. |
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You must be with someone to cheat. If you're addicted to it, the fact you're with someone for 10 yrs says you want to be with someone. If you've been able to stay with someone that long you're either very good at what you do, pretty sadistic or you want her to catch you and leave you.
I doubt you are that good as anyone that's been with someone over 6 months knows when they're acting off, so it's one of the the other two. If you don't value the relationship let her have a decent one. If you do, treat her equally, it's pretty simple. |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you
A lot of hypocrites in this forum. Every other female page I look at is a cheating housewife lately
Each to their own. You know it's wrong, that's what tempts you. Every man has temptations in a relationship, it's normal. But you've got to try and overcome them. Imagine the thought of your Mrs fucking someone else behind your back and how that would make you feel. You need to remember the qualities that made you want to date her, I bet if you showed a pic of her most of the guys on here would be drooling so hold that thought and be loyal to her. Otherwise you need to end it and be single for a few years
That first sentence isn’t true. I’ve been here 9 years and I’ve probably seen 2 women’s profiles where they state they’re cheating. And I look a lot of ladies’ profiles. There’s a hell of a lot of married women meeting with permission but that’s nowhere near the same. "
Must be the area. I've seen a awful lot of female profiles recently admitting they are cheating, married or otherwise.
Maybe women are just more open about it!
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you
A lot of hypocrites in this forum. Every other female page I look at is a cheating housewife lately
Each to their own. You know it's wrong, that's what tempts you. Every man has temptations in a relationship, it's normal. But you've got to try and overcome them. Imagine the thought of your Mrs fucking someone else behind your back and how that would make you feel. You need to remember the qualities that made you want to date her, I bet if you showed a pic of her most of the guys on here would be drooling so hold that thought and be loyal to her. Otherwise you need to end it and be single for a few years
That first sentence isn’t true. I’ve been here 9 years and I’ve probably seen 2 women’s profiles where they state they’re cheating. And I look a lot of ladies’ profiles. There’s a hell of a lot of married women meeting with permission but that’s nowhere near the same.
Must be the area. I've seen a awful lot of female profiles recently admitting they are cheating, married or otherwise.
Maybe women are just more open about it!
PS Happy Birthday "
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank
A lot of hypocrites in this forum. Every other female page I look at is a cheating housewife lately
Each to their own. You know it's wrong, that's what tempts you. Every man has temptations in a relationship, it's normal. But you've got to try and overcome them. Imagine the thought of your Mrs fucking someone else behind your back and how that would make you feel. You need to remember the qualities that made you want to date her, I bet if you showed a pic of her most of the guys on here would be drooling so hold that thought and be loyal to her. Otherwise you need to end it and be single for a few years
That first sentence isn’t true. I’ve been here 9 years and I’ve probably seen 2 women’s profiles where they state they’re cheating. And I look a lot of ladies’ profiles. There’s a hell of a lot of married women meeting with permission but that’s nowhere near the same.
Must be the area. I've seen a awful lot of female profiles recently admitting they are cheating, married or otherwise.
Maybe women are just more open about it!
PS Happy Birthday "
I know right I see that a lot to thank you for the birthday message 1st fab birthday message ever haha |
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By *CExeCouple 4 weeks ago
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What's your other half's number? I'm free this afternoon and I'm sure you wouldn't mind her going behind your back and fucking other guys without your knowledge.
You're not married, there's no kids so either split up and play the field, or talk to her about things and deal with it like a man by accepting responsibility for your actions. A large proportion of guys on here are attached, but you made a thread shouting about it which means either you really do want help and to sort it, or you get a kick out of people knowing you're a cheat. I have a suspicion the thread didn't go the way you anticipated. |
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Now as you’ve basically told the whole forum your business, perhaps consider putting a note on your profile for people who don’t frequent forums so they can make an informed choice before engaging with you based on your circumstances. Would be a decent thing to do. |
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"Get a puppy.
Puppies solve 98.6% of all problems.
Outside of China.
I did I bought a French bulldog and he's more hornier than me he shags the pillows haha"
Are you sure he isn't filling a gap while you are cheating?
Shagging the pillows is often learned behaviour! |
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"What's your other half's number? I'm free this afternoon and I'm sure you wouldn't mind her going behind your back and fucking other guys without your knowledge.
You're not married, there's no kids so either split up and play the field, or talk to her about things and deal with it like a man by accepting responsibility for your actions. A large proportion of guys on here are attached, but you made a thread shouting about it which means either you really do want help and to sort it, or you get a kick out of people knowing you're a cheat. I have a suspicion the thread didn't go the way you anticipated. "
Do you know it went exactly how I thought it would I've had some good advice and Its made me think I should seek proper help. I didn't expect woman to jump at me feet. |
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"Get a puppy.
Puppies solve 98.6% of all problems.
Outside of China.
I did I bought a French bulldog and he's more hornier than me he shags the pillows haha
Are you sure he isn't filling a gap while you are cheating?
Shagging the pillows is often learned behaviour!"
Well this it you can't be to careful lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Don't agree with what your doing but non of my business
Just hope you are clear to the people you are cheating with what you are up too so that can make their own informed decision"
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There are cheating men AND cheating women on Fab, on Tinder, at work.. Judgement free zone here.
There are many reasons why Men and Women cheat but it sounds as though OP is getting off on the NRE, the new relationship energy, the subterfuge, the excitement... Dopamine running the brain.. also I wouldn’t be surprised if OP didn’t also display ADHD traits…
It’s highly destructive and the most important thing you have to decide OP is if you are prepared to end your marriage as a result of your behaviour… because you will be found out eventually… You don’t need counselling, just a reality check. |
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By *andSxxCouple 4 weeks ago
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you
Hello.
You CAN stop cheating. Changing your language would be a start. Then your behaviour will change.
You choose to cheat. No one drags you to the fanny kicking and screaming.
There could be a zillion reasons why you do it ....... e.g. You wanted a change from the usual / It makes you feel attractive / It fills a void in an otherwise totally fucking boring soul destroying existence / It's something to brag about in the pub / it makes you feel young again ........ yada yada yada
Only YOU know why you do it and only YOU can stop it.
What values do you believe a good relationship should have ?
Why did you break those boundaries? ( They must be broken as you hide from them and hide them from your partner )
Fist port of call is just looking a little deeper inside yourself. If you are okay with what you do then keep on doing it. Just remember every choice has CONSEQUENCES. Have you thought what they might be ?
If you think what you do is against your values and your partners values then stop it .....
Over to you . Make a little plan about what means the most to you in life and what you'd do to keep it and how you'd feel if you lost it
Good luck
Thank you so much. That what you wrote there has actually made me think allot. Such good genuine advice. Exactly what I needed to hear x"
One more confirm on this.
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"Don't agree with what your doing but non of my business
Just hope you are clear to the people you are cheating with what you are up too so that can make their own informed decision
I've always been honest "
So your girlfriend does know! It's not cheating then |
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"Now as you’ve basically told the whole forum your business, perhaps consider putting a note on your profile for people who don’t frequent forums so they can make an informed choice before engaging with you based on your circumstances. Would be a decent thing to do."
Ok that seems fair. I've always been honest in messages as it's hard to hide in reality but thanks for the advice x
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"Don't agree with what your doing but non of my business
Just hope you are clear to the people you are cheating with what you are up too so that can make their own informed decision
I've always been honest
So your girlfriend does know! It's not cheating then "
With the woman I meet I ment. She doesn't know |
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"Don't agree with what your doing but non of my business
Just hope you are clear to the people you are cheating with what you are up too so that can make their own informed decision
I've always been honest "
Except with the person you say you love. |
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"Get a puppy.
Puppies solve 98.6% of all problems.
Outside of China.
In China it's nearer 100%
No, in China they eat them, they only solve hunger issues.
Wake up stupid. We only eat them AFTER they've completed the 98.6 ...
I generally do wake up stupid."
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I'm confused by this, you want this situation to be normalised and validated I think? But for me I think you are missing a fundamental human factor. That is how would you feel if you found out your partner was behaving in the same way?
What would that do you, your self esteem, your mental health and how you would move forward in life if that was done to you.
This sort of behaviour should be left to you and a therapist, not shared amongst people who lean towards a more hedonistic way of living.
I would suggest that until you sort your issues that are in your head that make you behave in this way, leave the poor woman alone. You are meddling with her mental and physical health and simply put it's the most Cuntish thing I've read today!
This behaviour and shouting about it does nothing to dispell myths that most are fucktards! |
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By *8on33Man 4 weeks ago
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you
A lot of hypocrites in this forum. Every other female page I look at is a cheating housewife lately
Each to their own. You know it's wrong, that's what tempts you. Every man has temptations in a relationship, it's normal. But you've got to try and overcome them. Imagine the thought of your Mrs fucking someone else behind your back and how that would make you feel. You need to remember the qualities that made you want to date her, I bet if you showed a pic of her most of the guys on here would be drooling so hold that thought and be loyal to her. Otherwise you need to end it and be single for a few years
That first sentence isn’t true. I’ve been here 9 years and I’ve probably seen 2 women’s profiles where they state they’re cheating. And I look a lot of ladies’ profiles. There’s a hell of a lot of married women meeting with permission but that’s nowhere near the same. "
To be fair I've seen quite a few in my area not that it bothers me at least they've been honest about it I guess . |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
Work out what it is you're trying to achieve. Whether you can replace it with something less potentially harmful.
If not, seek help. |
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"I think I need help I can't stop cheating, it's not that I want to hurt her it's the thrill of knowing it's wrong and excitement of it. I feel like there's nothing that can replace it. Any advice please
Thank you"
Advice with what? You don't sound like you're struggling, you're basically bragging. |
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