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By *hiloabc OP Man 4 weeks ago
Manchester |
Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
You know those spam emails you get and random flyers through the door and adverts in free papers? Do you call each of them and tell them you aren’t interested? That you won’t be ordering tonight? Or do you perhaps keep a few of the menus to one side in a drawer just incase you fancy a pizza one night?
Apply that logic to your unsolicited messages to people.
Happy fabbing x |
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At the end of the day, it gets dark.
Delete your sent items, or if you’re too curious then give it a few days, people are busy, if they’re read and not replied to, then block them and move on, that way you won’t mistakingly message them again in the future.
People stress far too much over this, nobody owes anybody anything.
Have a wank and chill out, make a Horlicks, watch streethawk and imagine, what chuck norris would do.
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I did start on here replying all.
Soon found it too much of a chore.
Half the messages i get you do not have to open to read.
I can simply read them and delete them.
Unless there is an obvious effort into it, i use the no reply is the reply standard. |
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"Is that even your pic on your profile or have you "borrowed" it from the internet?"
You know the saying “a reverse image search paints a thousand words”
Although to be fair. I just watched the movie it was screen grabbed from, as part of my research of course, and it was pretty good  |
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What ppl get for replying no thanks -
1) thanks for the polite reply
2) why and then further reasoning as to why i should change my mind
3) no response
4) abuse
Sometimes its safer to just not reply
Also the filters are useless if you reply to ppl and then want to shut off that demographic later on. |
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"I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol"
This is just what they say, really it’s because they’re actually all having massive lesbian gangbangs. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
What does a typical message from you say? Is it more than a few words? |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"No reply genuinely means not interested. So just accept that and move on with your day. "
OR... READ the person's profile. Perhaps you have messaged them without reading it and didn't notice that the person only meets under certain conditions. (Mine is a social meet first) and about 1 in every 1000 guys reads that and affirms it's ok (as I ask them to do in my profile). |
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To be honest to the OP I kinda get why he feels like this. When I first joined I thought it was fucking damn right rude to read a message and not reply. I quickly learned on the FAQ page, that it genuinely means no reply and not interested. Also all the women, I've met said it can be unbearable at times to reply to everyone. |
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"I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol
This is just what they say, really it’s because they’re actually all having massive lesbian gangbangs. "
Where the fuck are these happening, what am I missing 🤣🤣🤣 |
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If your 1st message goes unread. Do people consider it bad form to send a 2nd message a week or so later?
Lots of ladies say they've never even seen the 1st message due to being overwhelmed in their inbox so does a 2nd (and final) polite follow up generally cause offence? |
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We frequently get messages where it's obvious the person is trying their luck or just not read our profile, I can read message in my email so don't have to open them, and will probably just delete. Will reply to someone we are not interested in if its obvious they have read profile though. |
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By *CExeCouple 4 weeks ago
Lincoln/Exeter |
Dude, imagine you're in a nightclub, there's a few hundred guys, 5 or 6 girls and a few couples. What are the odds you'd pull, let alone have a conversation? Fab is the online version of that. If you hunt around like a horndog you'll get nowhere. Desperation, or the impression of desperation won't get you laid. Engage on the forums, keep an eye on the local meets and send polite messages without expectation of a response. If you can engage in self deprecation on here and have a laugh at your own expense, you're halfway there already. |
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By *oxy jWoman 4 weeks ago
somerset |
"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
nobody owes you anything not now not ever on this scene ...rejection is a big part of it for all just move on and forget about it ... a |
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"I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol
This is just what they say, really it’s because they’re actually all having massive lesbian gangbangs.
Where the fuck are these happening, what am I missing 🤣🤣🤣"
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Op, nobody has to reply to anyone on here, it's not rude especially when so many don't take the time to read a profile.
Many women and couples get so much mail, that they can't reply to all. Plus some don't take rejection well and you then get well why not, what's up with me or abuse.
I use lots of filters so don't get much mail, I do reply if I can see someone's read my bio or made an effort. Otherwise I delete.
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If I was going in fancy dress as an old man, I’d literally wear identical boxers to you.
If you’re struggling with replies, maybe put more effort in to your pictures and profile.
As one of the current, page 1 hottest guys, I think I know what I’m talking about. |
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"No reply genuinely means not interested. So just accept that and move on with your day.
OR... READ the person's profile. Perhaps you have messaged them without reading it and didn't notice that the person only meets under certain conditions. (Mine is a social meet first) and about 1 in every 1000 guys reads that and affirms it's ok (as I ask them to do in my profile)."
Agreed. Most don't read profiles, just see a pic they like and press send and hope for the best |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
I'm shoving 50 leaflets through your door, I expect you to reply to every single one saying you're not interested, then I'll shove 35 more through asking why you're not interested, to which I also expect further replies. If not, you've no manners!  |
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"I’ve appealed it with admin
Appealed what? The fact people don't reply?  "
Tinkerbell you didn't reply my message last night, I think im gonna have to report that sorry.
FYI I didn't send you anything. |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
OP, when you receive spam/scam emails or spam/scam mail in the post. Do you phone them up to say you're not interested? When you see a billboard, do you phone them to say you're not interested?
The site clearly states that no reply is a reply.
I don't understand what else you want them to do. How is it "manners" to say "Not interested" when the site itself says that not replying is that exact message itself?
You gotta stop taking this so personally. |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
You gonna reply to every comment?
Manners is needed after all. |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
I wish I was a woman on here for just a day, I can only imagine the amount of people that send uninvited messages to them and expect a response, and I bet 75% of them don’t even read the lasses bio on her profile page |
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"Actually, I think it’s more etiquette than manners.
‘Manners Maketh Man’ they say, but it doesn’t make ladies reply. "
Probably because replying shows you the difference between men and boys who throw toys out of prams 😅 |
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I do delete messages but my profile explains why. If people don't bother reading it, that's on them.
I'm generally quite friendly and will reply where I can. When that gets too much, I ignore my inbox and interact with people in the lounge instead.  |
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"I do delete messages but my profile explains why. If people don't bother reading it, that's on them.
I'm generally quite friendly and will reply where I can. When that gets too much, I ignore my inbox and interact with people in the lounge instead. "
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I stopped messaging women after the ³rd crusades. All my penmanship was wasted on these common harlots and hussies who would totally ignore my sonnets.
Now I just send cut-and-paste missives, hand delivered by emissaries of love. |
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"I’ve appealed it with admin "
The pic you took from a porn site? You have heard of reverse image search OP? it'll never do trying to look like you're out there having 3sums when we all know you're not... And it makes you appear dishonest! |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed
You know those spam emails you get and random flyers through the door and adverts in free papers? Do you call each of them and tell them you aren’t interested? That you won’t be ordering tonight? Or do you perhaps keep a few of the menus to one side in a drawer just incase you fancy a pizza one night?
Apply that logic to your unsolicited messages to people.
Happy fabbing x "
Perfectly put.
Mr H |
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"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣"
Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.
Sex? |
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"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣
Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.
Sex?"
Yeah you left me on unread |
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"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣
Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.
Sex?
Yeah you left me on unread "
Okay now wait just one second, I was nervous and it took me by surprise. |
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"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣
Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.
Sex?
Yeah you left me on unread
Okay now wait just one second, I was nervous and it took me by surprise. "
🤣😘 |
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"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣
Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.
Sex?
Yeah you left me on unread
Okay now wait just one second, I was nervous and it took me by surprise.
🤣😘"
I'll unblock you now. 🤣 |
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"I’ve appealed it with admin
The pic you took from a porn site? You have heard of reverse image search OP? it'll never do trying to look like you're out there having 3sums when we all know you're not... And it makes you appear dishonest! "
It's not as impressive as people think it is - threesomes are relatively common.
Not as common as trying to pass off porn as your own pictures, mind  |
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The OP's thread is about his lack of success in getting replies. It's not about sending messages. The messages that he's sending are more likely to be 'solicited'.
Perhaps we need to disabuse a few of the posters above who have incorrectly pitched their 'unsolicited' analogies.
Unsolicited in this context means you're not looking to potentially meet whatsoever, or for anything sexual at all. And this could be because the profile clearly states - "I'm only here for the forums" or "to engage in the chat rooms" or "single men please don't message, we'll find you"
However If you have suggested or intimated on your profile you're looking to meet men, women and/or couples for sex, oral, anal, dogging etc, then surely there is a REASONABLE expectation that people with similar interests WILL message you and therefore it's not completely unsolicited. How you wish to reply to that message, if at all, is your prerogative. (Not replying is perfectly acceptable too, as stipulated in the FAQs)
(If you have on your profile that you want a take-away and then get a message from 'ABC Pizza' it's not completely unsolicited. If on the other hand you have made no mention that you need food and then receive said offer then it's unsolicited)
In summary: we can give the benefit of the doubt that the OP's messages are indeed •solicited• . |
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"Having trouble connecting to people
Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete
My messages stay there for days without being read at least
I understand females may get a lot of messages
But manners is needed "
Trying to get my head round what you are saying here.
Do you reply to every single message that you get??
Surely by moaning about it you must reply every single time.
Most people follow this process.
1. Receive the message.
2. Check the profile.
3. Interested? Yes or no.
4. The group rules says that no reply says no thanks.
You get your message either way, or am I missing something here?? |
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