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Do you message first or wait for interested people to message you?
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I've messaged a lot of women on this that caught my eye, some replied, most didn't (fab I know). So I've swayed away from messaging people first unless someone catches my eye.
Anyone else the same do they wait for others to message or do you always message first? |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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A little of both. I used to message off the back of some forum flirting but now I tend to wait to be approached, it generally works out better rather than guessing if someone is actually interested in me. Although I did recently get blocked for simply replying to a first DM 😅 🦇 |
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"A little of both. I used to message off the back of some forum flirting but now I tend to wait to be approached, it generally works out better rather than guessing if someone is actually interested in me. Although I did recently get blocked for simply replying to a first DM 😅 🦇"
Fucking hell that is harsh to get blocked for that 🤣🤣 |
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I personally tend to wait for guys to message me. I actually dont like putting myself forward very much so i see whos eye i have caught instead. And then look at their bio and see if they intrest me or fit what im lookong for. |
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I wouldn't know an "interested person" until they messaged me.
I rarely message (other than forum dwellers for various reasons, photo challenges, games, flirt) and I've only sent a handful of first messages this year to non-forum folk, and probably about a dozen in the last two years. |
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"A little of both. I used to message off the back of some forum flirting but now I tend to wait to be approached, it generally works out better rather than guessing if someone is actually interested in me. Although I did recently get blocked for simply replying to a first DM 😅 🦇
Fucking hell that is harsh to get blocked for that 🤣🤣"
I guess the thirteen penis pics weren't as pretty as I thought... 🦇 |
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By *HUSH-Man 15 weeks ago
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I rarely send out messages. If they do get read most go nowhere and the others are still on yellow… for the rest of time.
I’m using FAB mostly for the forums and I’d quite like to go to a forum social soon. Forumites are the best thing about FAB. Just a better type of person in general. |
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"I rarely send first messages and meet most people at social events.
The messages I do get often work out great."
This is why I want to attend social events. Going to my 1st one as a singleton on here this Sat. Network like I've never networked (hate networking btw 🤦♀️). |
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"I rarely send first messages and meet most people at social events.
The messages I do get often work out great.
This is why I want to attend social events. Going to my 1st one as a singleton on here this Sat. Network like I've never networked (hate networking btw 🤦♀️)."
It was a total game changer for me. These days I go to socials to catch up with fab friends as much as I go to meet new people. |
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"I rarely send first messages and meet most people at social events.
The messages I do get often work out great.
This is why I want to attend social events. Going to my 1st one as a singleton on here this Sat. Network like I've never networked (hate networking btw 🤦♀️).
It was a total game changer for me. These days I go to socials to catch up with fab friends as much as I go to meet new people."
Its like coffee meet speed dating. Mental note of the profiles to avoid and which to hotlist. |
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The last time I sent an introductory message to anyone was just before the first lockdown so late January or early February 2020.
Every conversation in the almost 5 years since has been started by someone else who has either been intrigued by my profile or liked something I said in the forums.
I've no plans to change that approach. |
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"I’ve messaged loads in the past, always read profiles, messages are relevant to the profiles…..only to be left on yellow.
So I’m at the stage now where I don’t bother. If you want me, come find me"
Exactly this, never had a reply or a message |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I always message first. Occasionally, I get a first message out of the blue! Always welcome. I would say a high percentage are read, some deleted, others remain stubbornly unanswered. Quite a few look at my profile, but still don’t reply 🤣
The 1 word answers are smashing. Had 1 today - “Hi”. Better than “Hi babe or hun” 🤬
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"I’ve messaged people first if their pictures or profile intrigues me
Keep it to the forum please 😂😂😂
I would be on the naughty step if I did 🤫"
Join me on the naughty escalator. It's about time I fell off |
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"I've messaged a lot of women on this that caught my eye, some replied, most didn't (fab I know). So I've swayed away from messaging people first unless someone catches my eye.
Anyone else the same do they wait for others to message or do you always message first? "
I wink at alot of people, however, I think I've only ever initiated a message once (They replied ^-^). I'm just way too shy. I always let them message first. |
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"I've messaged a lot of women on this that caught my eye, some replied, most didn't (fab I know). So I've swayed away from messaging people first unless someone catches my eye.
Anyone else the same do they wait for others to message or do you always message first? "
I know what you mean, I've messaged quite a few on here, but only got a couple of replies, but then again its thanks but No thanks ! But I still live in hope 1 day soon
Good luck  |
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"I've messaged a lot of women on this that caught my eye, some replied, most didn't (fab I know). So I've swayed away from messaging people first unless someone catches my eye.
Anyone else the same do they wait for others to message or do you always message first? "
Rarely message first.. Takes all my time answering all the messages in our inbox, and as soon as I think I've cleared it... Then the replies come back in |
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So I have messaged a few that have really caught my eye.
I do try to reply to most messages.
I tend to ignore vulgar ones. (After adding a private note incase they message again)
Or I have used the *wink* to grab the attention of someone I like who maybe to shy to message me first..
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I've never messaged anyone first in a serious want to meet them kind of way.
Only time I send a message first is usually something daft off the back of the forums. |
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It's hard to know what to say in a first message other that your nice and I'd like to chat or grab coffee. Seems like letting a conversation flow and see to too much effort for people. Or maybe I'm not what they want which is fine too 🤣🤣 |
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Neither.
I go to.the clubs and socials because it works. Fab does not.
And that's not me implying its Fabs fault per se. Fab is just a tool. I just simply cannot be chewed trying to get the attention of the 50 or 60 women within 20 miles (of me) who are active on here when there's about 4000 guys in the same region trying to do the same thing. It's alla bout what makes me different from them.
I just do what works and that is clubs, socials and doing things the old fashioned way..which is chatting the women up face to face.
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"We message first! People may not always like us but at least we never sit and wonder if someone liked us!!!"
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90% of my socials and trysts over the last 3½ years or so have been on the back of women sending the first message. Women do indeed message. |
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