"It recently dawned on me that the missus and I have never employed a ‘safe’ word….
Out of interest - what’s everyone’s ‘safe’ word?  "
Firstly do you need one?
Secondly your safewords should be memorable and personal to you.
Currently I don’t have one |
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By *CExeCouple 9 weeks ago
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"My safe words are "Stop" and "No" 💜"
It's quite sad how many girls I've chatted to who have had men perceive that as being encouragement. I once was in bed with a girl who suddenly burst into tears. Didn't say stop or anything like that, but pretty bloody obvious something was up. Turns out I was a rebound shag and she hadn't been used to a guy being gentle in bed. The ex had never respected her asking him to stop or if she wasn't in the mood. Grim. We had a lovely evening after that drinking tea and getting her to agree to having at least 6 months away from men! |
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"My safe words are "Stop" and "No" 💜
It's quite sad how many girls I've chatted to who have had men perceive that as being encouragement. I once was in bed with a girl who suddenly burst into tears. Didn't say stop or anything like that, but pretty bloody obvious something was up. Turns out I was a rebound shag and she hadn't been used to a guy being gentle in bed. The ex had never respected her asking him to stop or if she wasn't in the mood. Grim. We had a lovely evening after that drinking tea and getting her to agree to having at least 6 months away from men!"
If a no or stop goes unheeded they're about to learn a big lesson about consent.
I usually make sure that people know beforehand that I don't play with those words. |
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Totally with ‘no’ means ‘no’ - I have never kept pushing after my wife has told me to stop. It’s all about respect.
I just wondered what others used as we’ve always just stopped with a simple stop, obviously if consent IS used and it gets consensually heavy/rough… that’s how I meant it.
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