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By *vaRose43Woman 14 weeks ago
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When you’re both comfortable with each other and can just let go and really, fully and enthusiastically enjoy each other.
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When you’re both spent, panting and fully satisfied, and you want to do it all again.
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When I’m deliciously sore in all the right ways and can still feel it days later.
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When the teasing messages before only hinted at how good it really turned out to be. |
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By *sWyldWoman 14 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Chemistry!
When you just seem to know what each other needs.
When you both get pleasure from pleasing.
When you just can't stop.
It can't be defined by certain acts or even orgasms. It's much much more than that.
It's trust, safety, freedom, consent, passion, desire and emotion!!
So yes. Chemistry sums it up fairly well, |
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"When you’re both comfortable with each other and can just let go and really, fully and enthusiastically enjoy each other.
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When you’re both spent, panting and fully satisfied, and you want to do it all again.
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When I’m deliciously sore in all the right ways and can still feel it days later.
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When the teasing messages before only hinted at how good it really turned out to be."
This is indeed very, very good sex  . |
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"Chemistry!
When you just seem to know what each other needs.
When you both get pleasure from pleasing.
When you just can't stop.
It can't be defined by certain acts or even orgasms. It's much much more than that.
It's trust, safety, freedom, consent, passion, desire and emotion!!
So yes. Chemistry sums it up fairly well, "
Joking aside.
This . |
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"Averaging about 7 orgasms is good enough for me. I'm not one to demand a "repeater", but as long as the guy knows which buttons to press, it's good!"
How will they know which buttons are the right ones for you? |
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"When she hands me that sticky gold star, its validation that the sex was good.
The bronze stars are a bit hurtful to the ego but the star chart is filling up nicely and predominantly gold 🤭
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Sticky stars. Mmmmmmmm |
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"Chemistry!
When you just seem to know what each other needs.
When you both get pleasure from pleasing.
When you just can't stop.
It can't be defined by certain acts or even orgasms. It's much much more than that.
It's trust, safety, freedom, consent, passion, desire and emotion!!
So yes. Chemistry sums it up fairly well, "
I like that definition of chemistry ❤️ |
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Lots of different sex can be good sex. It can be tender, passionate, primal or rough. There can be laughter and fun. But if there was a feedback loop and a desire to do it again then it was almost certainly good sex. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 14 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
I seldom orgasm during sex, but I do derive a lot of satisfaction from giving pleasure. I think sex has been good if I feel fulfilled and have had fun, and my partner has enjoyed themselves too.
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"For me it's simple. Did all included enjoy it? Yes = good sex.
How do you quantify your or their enjoyment?
I ask them if they've enjoyed themselves."
Do you really? I never do, to me it would seem like I'm seeking validation. If they've enjoyed themselves that joy should be self evident and they'd say how much they enjoyed themselves without prompting. Plus, people would rarely give an honest answer if asked "How was it for you?". |
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Oh the ones where it is just raw and passionate and there's no overthinking at all, just taste each others bodies and then slip inside and have the best sex.
Also recently a woman put her vibrator under my balls after she had an orgasm and that was fuckinnn amazing |
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"The relaxing snuggles afterwards...and tea/cake in bed
Are snuggles essential for you?"
No not essential at all and of course it all depends on the situation/scenario. Snuggles are often nice though - The 'sex' has been good, you're both happy and then just have a relaxing snuggle/chat/laugh etc after. |
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"For me it's simple. Did all included enjoy it? Yes = good sex.
How do you quantify your or their enjoyment?
I ask them if they've enjoyed themselves.
Do you really? I never do, to me it would seem like I'm seeking validation. If they've enjoyed themselves that joy should be self evident and they'd say how much they enjoyed themselves without prompting. Plus, people would rarely give an honest answer if asked "How was it for you?"."
Women don't lie, only men do.
But no, I don't really ask them  |
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"The relaxing snuggles afterwards...and tea/cake in bed
Are snuggles essential for you?
No not essential at all and of course it all depends on the situation/scenario. Snuggles are often nice though - The 'sex' has been good, you're both happy and then just have a relaxing snuggle/chat/laugh etc after. "
It’s ok if they are essential for you  That calming down and relaxing time, I get it. |
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"For me it's simple. Did all included enjoy it? Yes = good sex.
How do you quantify your or their enjoyment?
I ask them if they've enjoyed themselves.
Do you really? I never do, to me it would seem like I'm seeking validation. If they've enjoyed themselves that joy should be self evident and they'd say how much they enjoyed themselves without prompting. Plus, people would rarely give an honest answer if asked "How was it for you?".
Women don't lie, only men do.
But no, I don't really ask them "
Go on then Willy, how do you know if you’ve enjoyed yourself? Fully explain your answer for top marks. |
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"For me it's simple. Did all included enjoy it? Yes = good sex.
How do you quantify your or their enjoyment?
I ask them if they've enjoyed themselves.
Do you really? I never do, to me it would seem like I'm seeking validation. If they've enjoyed themselves that joy should be self evident and they'd say how much they enjoyed themselves without prompting. Plus, people would rarely give an honest answer if asked "How was it for you?".
Women don't lie, only men do.
But no, I don't really ask them
Go on then Willy, how do you know if you’ve enjoyed yourself? Fully explain your answer for top marks."
I know I've enjoyed myself when I feel relaxed, lost track of time, and experienced positive emotions like happiness or excitement. I was fully engaged in what I was doing without thinking about stress or obligations. |
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"For me it's simple. Did all included enjoy it? Yes = good sex.
How do you quantify your or their enjoyment?
I ask them if they've enjoyed themselves.
Do you really? I never do, to me it would seem like I'm seeking validation. If they've enjoyed themselves that joy should be self evident and they'd say how much they enjoyed themselves without prompting. Plus, people would rarely give an honest answer if asked "How was it for you?".
Women don't lie, only men do.
But no, I don't really ask them
Go on then Willy, how do you know if you’ve enjoyed yourself? Fully explain your answer for top marks.
I know I've enjoyed myself when I feel relaxed, lost track of time, and experienced positive emotions like happiness or excitement. I was fully engaged in what I was doing without thinking about stress or obligations."
Thank you ❤️ |
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I don't really define it as the individual cogs that represent the apparatus of the mind-blowing sexual encounter. For me it's the whole experience. Quite often in the period leading up to a meet I've discussed things that I would like to do, but sometimes not everything is fulfilled on the first meet because of insufficient time or getting lost in the moment of passion and missing out on certain scenarios or fantasies, or perhaps my unintentional selfishness in love-making. Therefore metrics (e.g. number of orgasms, prowess etc) is not something I aspire for.
If I can walk away feeling on cloud nine and glowing, and carrying a smile whilst reenacting the experiences in my thoughts for days and days afterwards then, for me, that's an indicator of "good sex"...and a precursor for another meet...and another.... |
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"For me it's simple. Did all included enjoy it? Yes = good sex.
How do you quantify your or their enjoyment?
I ask them if they've enjoyed themselves.
Do you really? I never do, to me it would seem like I'm seeking validation. If they've enjoyed themselves that joy should be self evident and they'd say how much they enjoyed themselves without prompting. Plus, people would rarely give an honest answer if asked "How was it for you?".
Women don't lie, only men do.
But no, I don't really ask them "
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I don't think having an orgasm necessarily equates good sex...you can have one quite quickly and then think, what next? I think it's the whole experience, having fun, getting hot and sweaty, laughing...just so much more to it than the big O |
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By *eliWoman 14 weeks ago
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Good sex? The anticipation. When I find myself wanting to do it again. Postcoital glow. A desire feedback loop that's effortless. Reciprocated chemistry that's equal parts fun and sexy.
Really good sex? When I'm able to get out of my head and get lost in them.
Incredible sex? When there's an intensity that's intoxicating. Almost addictive. |
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By *ags73Man 14 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"How would you define good sex?
Number of orgasms? Length of banging? Something else? I’m intrigued.
If you’re with someone new, how do you judge whether The Sex has gone well?
Mrs TMN x"
Think I’m a pleaser, so it’s more seeing that woman is happy rather than numbers of this and that’s.
Some good kissing, a bit of passion and fun and I’m happy. If I’ve did what I do right she should be too. |
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"How would you define good sex?
Number of orgasms? Length of banging? Something else? I’m intrigued.
If you’re with someone new, how do you judge whether The Sex has gone well?
Mrs TMN x"
If you don't know by now OP, I am a little concerned........it is different for everyone. Maybe if you say what you think good sex is! |
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"How would you define good sex?
Number of orgasms? Length of banging? Something else? I’m intrigued.
If you’re with someone new, how do you judge whether The Sex has gone well?
Mrs TMN x"
A great connection of mind and body.
Never mind how long it lasts or how many times we cum.
The truth is if you want to do it again? Was it memorable? |
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Oh my gosh, to me it varies quite a lot depending on the situation.
Some times you just want a wham, ban thank you ma'am kind of sex and it's bloody amazing, other times it's something slower or even no actual penetration whatsoever and it's all in your mind.
So I guess it's probably the ability to read and bounce off your partner, so that you're both satisfied with your interaction. |
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Everyone being relaxed and happy and looking forward to next time I guess. I don't think there's a single way it was good or not, sometimes it's gentle and relaxing, other times it's rough and frantic. Sometimes it's in a comfy bed, other times it's trying to find somewhere/anywhere outside. Sometimes there's lots of orgasms, other times none. Sometimes there's a lot of noise, other times so quiet you can hear their breathing. Overall it's something you enjoy rather than define. |
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"How would you define good sex?
Number of orgasms? Length of banging? Something else? I’m intrigued.
If you’re with someone new, how do you judge whether The Sex has gone well?
Mrs TMN x
If you don't know by now OP, I am a little concerned........it is different for everyone. Maybe if you say what you think good sex is!"
It was a discussion topic, not a cry for help |
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"How would you define good sex?
Number of orgasms? Length of banging? Something else? I’m intrigued.
If you’re with someone new, how do you judge whether The Sex has gone well?
Mrs TMN x
If you don't know by now OP, I am a little concerned........it is different for everyone. Maybe if you say what you think good sex is!
It was a discussion topic, not a cry for help "
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"When I say thank you for the good orgasm at the end.
Mrs
Do you always cum? What if you don’t?
Then I don't say thank you for the good orgasm.
Mrs "
Ha ha! I mean, is an orgasm the measure of good sex for you? |
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"How would you define good sex?
Number of orgasms? Length of banging? Something else? I’m intrigued.
If you’re with someone new, how do you judge whether The Sex has gone well?
Mrs TMN x"
Purely selfishly, the question is "do I feel more sexy - is my sexual self esteem higher - for the experience?" |
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"When I say thank you for the good orgasm at the end.
Mrs
Do you always cum? What if you don’t?
Then I don't say thank you for the good orgasm.
Mrs
Ha ha! I mean, is an orgasm the measure of good sex for you?"
Haha no not really I was just being light hearted however I do say thank you for the..... Good sex, good cumming, good oral.....
Good sex would be sex I want to repeat.
Mrs |
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"How will they know which buttons are the right ones for you?"
It's all rather intuitive, and as long as they aren't jabbing away with their finger like Stevie Wonder trying to find a light-switch, they're fine. |
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So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
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By *ags73Man 14 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
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It does but I would never want to say it’ll happen.
Helps if there’s that spark and communication |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
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WHAT ABOUT U OP |
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"When you’re both comfortable with each other and can just let go and really, fully and enthusiastically enjoy each other.
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When you’re both spent, panting and fully satisfied, and you want to do it all again.
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When I’m deliciously sore in all the right ways and can still feel it days later.
.
When the teasing messages before only hinted at how good it really turned out to be."
This 🙌🏻 |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
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I actually really bloody love orgasms. But making it the goal makes it less likely to happen for me. Someone obviously chasing it makes it run and hide. It is definitely a measure though, for me anyway. |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
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Porn has unfortunately trained people to expect sessions that last for days, with constant cycles of erections and climaxes. If I make the lady comfortable and it's not like a grudge match at the wrestling, I'm happy |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
I actually really bloody love orgasms. But making it the goal makes it less likely to happen for me. Someone obviously chasing it makes it run and hide. It is definitely a measure though, for me anyway. "
I guess that’s the thing. When it’s the driving force, when the guy says “I’ve got to make her cum first”, that kind of tickbox goal oriented approaches tend to kill the mood for me. And if it doesn’t happen then one or both parties feel like failures. I don’t think that’s a healthy place to be. |
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By *eliWoman 14 weeks ago
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
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I don't think the majority of people do. |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
I don't think the majority of people do. "
Really, though? I see it on here all the time. Folk worrying they don’t last long enough, they don’t always cum, are they doing it wrong etc etc. |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
I actually really bloody love orgasms. But making it the goal makes it less likely to happen for me. Someone obviously chasing it makes it run and hide. It is definitely a measure though, for me anyway.
I guess that’s the thing. When it’s the driving force, when the guy says “I’ve got to make her cum first”, that kind of tickbox goal oriented approaches tend to kill the mood for me. And if it doesn’t happen then one or both parties feel like failures. I don’t think that’s a healthy place to be."
I completely agree. You can have good sex without an orgasm. But an orgasm usually means it was good sex. I don't know if I'm even making sense anymore. 🤣 |
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
I actually really bloody love orgasms. But making it the goal makes it less likely to happen for me. Someone obviously chasing it makes it run and hide. It is definitely a measure though, for me anyway.
I guess that’s the thing. When it’s the driving force, when the guy says “I’ve got to make her cum first”, that kind of tickbox goal oriented approaches tend to kill the mood for me. And if it doesn’t happen then one or both parties feel like failures. I don’t think that’s a healthy place to be.
I completely agree. You can have good sex without an orgasm. But an orgasm usually means it was good sex. I don't know if I'm even making sense anymore. 🤣"
I think we are in agreement |
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By *ags73Man 14 weeks ago
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"So it seems like feeling comfortable, having fun, a good connection and wanting to see each other again are coming out on top.
Which leads to another musing - why do we get so hung up on stamina and orgasms? I’m not saying I don’t enjoy an orgasm, but it doesn’t seem to be the principal measure of enjoyable sex?
I actually really bloody love orgasms. But making it the goal makes it less likely to happen for me. Someone obviously chasing it makes it run and hide. It is definitely a measure though, for me anyway.
I guess that’s the thing. When it’s the driving force, when the guy says “I’ve got to make her cum first”, that kind of tickbox goal oriented approaches tend to kill the mood for me. And if it doesn’t happen then one or both parties feel like failures. I don’t think that’s a healthy place to be.
I completely agree. You can have good sex without an orgasm. But an orgasm usually means it was good sex. I don't know if I'm even making sense anymore. 🤣
I think we are in agreement "
Makes sense but needs to be an organic component to it and I mean by that, that things build rather than the guy be on a mission to O, and right people, right timing, not too much expectation or pressure and it can go well |
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Good sex is when everyone enjoys what's going on, everyone who would like an orgasm gets to have one (or more!), and everyone wants another match soon.
Crap sex for me is when I feel I've just been used for somebody else's pleasure, they don't give a shit about whether I've enjoyed it as long as they did, and they want me to fuck off until next time that they're feeling horny. 😞😡🤬 |
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