"What even defines a pleasure dom?
Sorry naive guy alert!"
Personally I think it's what a dom ought to be anyway.
I think it's someone who's a dominant partner and focuses on the needs of their sub in every way. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 15 weeks ago
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"What even defines a pleasure dom?
Sorry naive guy alert!"
A pleasure dom is a dominant whose main focus is giving and controlling sexual pleasure. They receive gratification in doing just that and it’s not about pain, degredation or humiliation.
All doms should be focussed on the wellbeing, safety, consent and respect for their subs…. That should go without saying.
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By *pandjMan 15 weeks ago
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Wouldn't class myself as one as it implies forced or withheld orgasms to me.
I derive a lot of my sexual pleasure from giving PiV and clit orgasms while in control of things. I also like to tie them up in certain ways to restrict movement during play and especially their holding their legs apart as they cum. The build up and tension being tied and teased is immense too.
Can't do the forced thing or physical pain though so no idea where I'd categorise myself. |
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"What even defines a pleasure dom?
Sorry naive guy alert!
Personally I think it's what a dom ought to be anyway.
I think it's someone who's a dominant partner and focuses on the needs of their sub in every way. "
100% most get confused by what a Dom’s role actually is, obviously not helped by porn and 50shades of shit.
A Dom’s number one role is to take care of his sub, ensure her needs are met, regardless of what them needs are. Sometimes it’s just a bit of none sexual tender loving care, support and encouragement. |
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"What even defines a pleasure dom?
Sorry naive guy alert!
A pleasure dom is a dominant whose main focus is giving and controlling sexual pleasure. They receive gratification in doing just that and it’s not about pain, degredation or humiliation.
All doms should be focussed on the wellbeing, safety, consent and respect for their subs…. That should go without saying.
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Absolutely! I get a huge amount of pleasure and satisfaction from giving, my playmates know I I could only choose between my orgasms and sexual gratification or theirs then without question or hesitation I absolutely would choose theirs over my own. I have spend decades learning how to give my playmates as much pleasure as then can endure. However it’s not just about the physical pleasures, I would argue the emotional and mental wellbeing is far more important, as this is what will allows them to fully let go and open up to all the physical needs. |
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"Wouldn't class myself as one as it implies forced or withheld orgasms to me.
I derive a lot of my sexual pleasure from giving PiV and clit orgasms while in control of things. I also like to tie them up in certain ways to restrict movement during play and especially their holding their legs apart as they cum. The build up and tension being tied and teased is immense too.
Can't do the forced thing or physical pain though so no idea where I'd categorise myself. "
Although I totally understand where you are coming from here, and the one thing I just can’t bring myself to do, even when asked to, is to hit a female in the face, when they tell me they really want some face slapping, then obviously a huge part of me wants to give them what they want but I just can’t,
With regards to other types of pain, such as floggers, whips, cane, spanking, I’m fine with that, and there are a lot of benefits to including a little pain, when we experience pain the body is flooded with lots of endorphins and adrenaline, which heightens pleasure. Although this can be achieved just through the anticipation of pain, with no actual pain being administered.
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Thank you all very much, the discussion has helped to clarify what my course of study needs to be. Next problem is to find the people to learn/study with.
I now have to find mentors who will help me with the first step.
Beginning.
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