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if people are rude to you ? are you rude back ?
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"there s a warped sense of reality here !
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I don't do rude in any shape or form , l just move on , simple, don't invite any rude people into your World ,you'll find it a better place because of it . |
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I think I'm often perceived as rude because I speak in short sentences and don't like to lie to people or lead them on.
Generally, I try to remain polite to people.
The actual rudeness comes out when I vent about them after that fact 💜 |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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I had a grumble under my breath yesterday when i stood aside to allow a cyclist to pass me on a footbridge when had a sign to dismount.. Then i remembered i would do exactly the same 😂😂😂 |
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Most times it’s not worth the argument or your own peace of mind. It does however depend on the context. No holding back if it’s about each other but if it’s about the trivial then we couldn’t care less  |
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Not usually. What's the point? It's not going to diffuse the situation. If a response is called for at all I can be reasonable yet firm when pointing out their unreasonableness (is that a word? My phone doesn't like it).
However, at my brother's wedding some aggressive d*unk man was so awful to my sister that she cried. I'm ashamed to say I saw red and was quite verbally aggressive. That's VERY unlike me. |
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I had a little spell a few months ago when I kept receiving unsolicited phone calls (clearly routed from India) from numbers beginning 0330 or 0331.
I asked them politely to remove my number.
The calls continued...
I then asked them not-so-politely to remove my number.
Still the calls continued...
I dug out out an old referee's whistle I had tucked away.
The calls stopped.
There's NO arguing with an "Acme Thunderer" !!! |
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By *opinovMan 4 weeks ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
I try to remain scrupulously polite and courteous as long as I can - usually much longer than most would bother with - but, once my patience has run out and a final last-ditch attempt at civility ignored, my retorts become exponentially pointed and brutally insulting. |
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Sometimes, it depends what mood I’m in and how much their rudeness has pissed me off.
Sometimes I reciprocate and ramp the level of rudeness right up, just to get their reaction of utter gobsmackedness that someone has dared to speak to them in such a manner. I usually follow it with the comment, “ don’t like it when the boots on the other foot, do ya” and smile at them. |
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By *abluesbabyMan 4 weeks ago
Gibraltar/Cheshire/London |
Oooh no! I am even nicer back. Sugar coated often vomit inducingly nice. Just to rile them more.
It often ends with me curtly informing them in my poshest BBC/Pathe News/Upper-Class Twit voice "Oh I'm terribly sorry... one seems to have one mistaken for someone who actually gives a shit" |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Not usually, but I was very rude to an old woman in a supermarket checkout line once.
I felt so bad afterwards I reversed my trolley and apologised."
Hey good one x |
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By *oo..Woman 4 weeks ago
Boo's World |
Depends on how rude they were to me.
Low scale - nah can't be arsed
Medium scale - be sarcastic back
High scale - full blown bitch mode and take that motherfucker down
All 3 options get blocked regardless |
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By *opinovMan 4 weeks ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
Oh, you mean on here?.. silly me, I missed that bit.
I had said:
"I try to remain scrupulously polite and courteous as long as I can - usually much longer than most would bother with - but, once my patience has run out and a final last-ditch attempt at civility ignored, my retorts become exponentially pointed and brutally insulting."
.. but I've actually never ever had a rude or insulting message here in all the time I've been here - everyone who's PMed me has been really nice. |
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No I don't give my energy to people like that anymore. Sure it's irritating in the moment but I just let it go and move forward. Plus, you never know what people are going through, that one rude moment to you can be their breaking down point. Treat others how you want to be treated, even if they don't show the same courtesy back. |
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By *ookie46Woman 4 weeks ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
"No I don't give my energy to people like that anymore. Sure it's irritating in the moment but I just let it go and move forward. Plus, you never know what people are going through, that one rude moment to you can be their breaking down point. Treat others how you want to be treated, even if they don't show the same courtesy back."
This |
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Nope, because my interpretation of someone else's rudeness is highly subjective based on my own interpretation.
Their own interpretation of the words they say is also highly subjective based on their own interpretation and understanding.
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Throw in cultural/education/upbringing to the mix and the energy and effort spent trying to work out if they were being rude seems hardly worth it.
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And even if they *were* being rude, how is being rude back going to improve the situation for both parties ? It's an escalatory move. It'd argue it's actually abusive since it involves the flow of negative energy from you to them. You've already been pierced by their bad mojo. Throwing some back doesn't make you a better person. It makes you the same as them.
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Walk away. Or even better, avoid people in the first place. Life is much quieter and stress-free that way.
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No. I used to be. But I've learnt that when somebody is rude, it's a reflection of their inner state. It's how they feel about themselves. It's what lies in their hearts. They project all this outwards onto the world.
This might sound a bit weird, but I try to feel some love for them. If I'm rude back, it only reinforces their reasons to put negative energy into the world. It only confirms their negative feelings, or self hatred, or whatever. It then becomes a viscous circle, and the world remains negative.
I ignore their rudeness, and continue with them as if they weren't rude to me. It's never personal, and I never take it personally. Instinctively I find that difficult to do and there is always room for improvement. However, someone wise once said to me, if you want the world to change into a better place, be that change. |
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If it’s someone in my life or someone I have any interest in then I will call them out, as you can’t just ignore these things if you want to be friends. If it’s a stranger I will usually just call them a name under my breath and move on. |
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"No, couldn't be bothered. Not that's it's happened mind you. But if it did, BAMO!
They're only an image or three on a website."
To add, out there in the real world, if I encountered rudeness when I was younger, I gave two barrels back, and that usually went one or two ways. These days, don't really encounter it. |
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Online can't damage me in any real sense, so I overwhelmingly ignore or play a game and see if I can put them in the position of hanging themselves.
Sometimes it's obvious they might just be having a really bad time, so I'll be pleasant, even supportive on very rare occasions.
Out here in the real world, I'll do whatever I need to to navigate the obstacle in the most efficient way possible, so that can range from brushing it off as a couple of seconds of annoyance, or, if they're really in my face and not backing down, I'll mostly play with their heads.
Very, very occasionally someone will be consistently rude and I haven't found a way to kick them into touch, but it's infrequent enough not to be in my consciousness to much of a degree. |
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