It depends if I think they're genuine in what they've said.
If I do give a 2nd chance, I expect that they will be the ones trying to sort out another time and place.
If they don't, then I wouldn't get back in touch with them.
If anyone just stood me up, then no second chance at all. |
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"Very occasionally, depending on the context, but a third chance is never going to happen."
That’s interesting.
I go by the Auric Goldfinger aphorism:
Once is happenstance
Twice is coincidence
Thrice is enemy action
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Depends on the magnitude of their transgression. Generally no.
If she's worth bonking then I'll apply my hypocritical card and afford her a third chance. If she's expendable then no.
This is the problem with having a fragile heart — the fragments have been glued back together far too often. |
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"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you? "
Depends who it is and what they did.
But to be be blunt (and what I suspect you are getting at) no, I don't give women a second chance.
Wouldn't tolerate a cheat (learnt that the hard way as a teen). You don't get to mess with my heart.
Even when im swinging, I won't tolerate being messed about. Have met a few in the past who turned me down on fab but them met me at a club and changed their tune or showed intrest then went off with someone else just to come back to me when that didn't work. Just how some women are I guess. Well, too late.i have options aa well and i'm not playing second fiddle to anyone. I have to much self respect.
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"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you?
Depends who it is and what they did.
But to be be blunt (and what I suspect you are getting at) no, I don't give women a second chance.
Wouldn't tolerate a cheat (learnt that the hard way as a teen). You don't get to mess with my heart.
Even when im swinging, I won't tolerate being messed about. Have met a few in the past who turned me down on fab but them met me at a club and changed their tune or showed intrest then went off with someone else just to come back to me when that didn't work. Just how some women are I guess. Well, too late.i have options aa well and i'm not playing second fiddle to anyone. I have to much self respect.
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Not fucking about are you 😆 |
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By *IXEN200Woman 13 weeks ago
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I like to give people the benefit of the doubt but once is enough, my trust and my heart has been shattered so much that not all the pieces are there anymore, so I'm a lot more guarded now than I used to be. |
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Depends, for example a fab meet, if they've given me a reason why they can't meet for fun or for a social. Not an issue. Life gets in the way.
But if they've ghosted without the decency to give an explanation, then they can fuck off. |
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"Depends, for example a fab meet, if they've given me a reason why they can't meet for fun or for a social. Not an issue. Life gets in the way.
But if they've ghosted without the decency to give an explanation, then they can fuck off. "
Seems like a theme. Perfectly reasonable. |
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On here, we’ve accepted it if it’s come from something urgent however the walls go up if there’s a complete change in the connection.
Can’t be dealing with half heartedness.
In real life, probably the same. Don’t like flakiness.
Either way we don’t sweat it. People either get on with you or they don’t.
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"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you? "
Depends on the scenario really but if really off then no; if genuine then a second chance is worth the risk  |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I will occasionally give someone a second strike, if they don't lie and make up some big fictitious reason for the first time, but two strikes in your out. X |
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