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Have you ever got obsessed with someone?
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Yes Brucey!! Many times in my life but two I can think of in the past couple of years. I made threads about them both but they shall remain anonymous.
And two others I can think of in my life, one in my teens and one I went out with in my 30s. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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I don't want to say obsessed because the connotations are still creepy AF! But there have been some women who have taken my breath away and I stumble over my words trying to say the right thing or try too hard to be witty 🙈 |
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I have this thing where for a couple of weeks or so of a positive new interaction or relationship I think the person is flawless and the greatest thing thats ever been.
It's an obsession of a kind. The sheen does eventually wear off and I see them as the rounded individual that they(and eveyone) are.
It's something I am aware of and temper that initial honeymoon period accordingly |
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Jane here typing this ... I think I'd probably have to admit to being the "O" word with Zac ..
It seems no matter what he does or how he behaves, I ignore it or explain it away . Perhaps I'm addicted to him ? |
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By *ib.Man 7 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"I'm either not bothered at all or completely enamoured. There is no middle ground for me.
I'm either slightly bothered or couldn't give a fuck. "
That would potentially be an improvement, but I'm not sure I'd never bother with relationships if that were the case. |
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"I'm either not bothered at all or completely enamoured. There is no middle ground for me.
I'm either slightly bothered or couldn't give a fuck.
That would potentially be an improvement, but I'm not sure I'd never bother with relationships if that were the case."
Would you explain more what you mean ? |
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By *aven.Woman 7 weeks ago
Not the North West... |
"I'm either not bothered at all or completely enamoured. There is no middle ground for me.
I'm either slightly bothered or couldn't give a fuck.
That would potentially be an improvement, but I'm not sure I'd never bother with relationships if that were the case."
Exactly, it's great! |
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By *ib.Man 7 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"I'm either not bothered at all or completely enamoured. There is no middle ground for me.
I'm either slightly bothered or couldn't give a fuck.
That would potentially be an improvement, but I'm not sure I'd never bother with relationships if that were the case.
Would you explain more what you mean ?"
I admit I'm not really the norm on this kind of thing, but I have to really, really like someone (see something in them, admiration of some sort, the X factor... whatever you want to call it) in order to have any attraction or want to progress things. I'm a dopamine starved individual, though. |
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By *ib.Man 7 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"I'm either not bothered at all or completely enamoured. There is no middle ground for me.
I'm either slightly bothered or couldn't give a fuck.
That would potentially be an improvement, but I'm not sure I'd never bother with relationships if that were the case.
Exactly, it's great!"
I don't believe you! |
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There used to be a hot dude on here I was obsessed with.
Handsome face, sexy body, and gorgeous penis.
I've even got a pillow case with his face on to hump when I'm horny.
Wonder what happened to him 🤔 |
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By *ib.Man 7 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"There used to be a hot dude on here I was obsessed with.
Handsome face, sexy body, and gorgeous penis.
I've even got a pillow case with his face on to hump when I'm horny.
Wonder what happened to him 🤔"
You spoke to him and realised he's a twat? |
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"There used to be a hot dude on here I was obsessed with.
Handsome face, sexy body, and gorgeous penis.
I've even got a pillow case with his face on to hump when I'm horny.
Wonder what happened to him 🤔
You spoke to him and realised he's a twat?"
You know him then 🙃 |
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By *ib.Man 7 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"There used to be a hot dude on here I was obsessed with.
Handsome face, sexy body, and gorgeous penis.
I've even got a pillow case with his face on to hump when I'm horny.
Wonder what happened to him 🤔
You spoke to him and realised he's a twat?
You know him then 🙃"
No. |
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"There used to be a hot dude on here I was obsessed with.
Handsome face, sexy body, and gorgeous penis.
I've even got a pillow case with his face on to hump when I'm horny.
Wonder what happened to him 🤔
You spoke to him and realised he's a twat?
You know him then 🙃
No."
Course you don't. Cos he's not a twat. He's a sexy beast  |
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"Obsessed yes, full scale limerence no. It's a wonderful feeling if you are in control of your emotions and yearnings. It's a rare occurrence in any case.
It's good to be human and feel sentient."
My limerence was consuming me. |
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By *a LunaWoman 7 weeks ago
South Wales |
Yes! I was thinking about this the other day actually!
I have had two or three guys in my life where when i’ve looked back at my behaviour around them, it was deeply, deeply, cringey.
I like to think I’ve matured these days.
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By *ularliWoman 7 weeks ago
Worcester |
I have a thing for my massage therapist at the moment.
I’m not obsessed with him, I just want to play with him and then I’ll be satisfied 🤣
I was obsessed with a guy in my teen years. He knew it and used it to his advantage at times.
We were never together and were only friends but I still remember the first time I ever saw him. I swear my heart skipped quite a few beats and did every time I saw him.
We still chat now. He’s invited me to the IOW a few times but I haven’t made it as of yet |
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I wouldn’t say obsessed but I fell hard for my now ex fwb.... that hurt . A whole bunch when it wasn't reciprocated I'm doing my best not to fall for anyone again but there are people I'm crushing on right now 🤣😖 |
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A few times in my life yes.
I wouldn't say obsessed but preoccupied and very interested.
The last one was about 17 years ago. He was a lot younger than me but he kissed with the experience and understanding of the power of a kiss.
The sensation ran through my core and simply owned me, top to bottom, inside and out.
Cut a long story short.... did a net search git was married, pregnant wife.
Obviously I didn't want to be part of that but ooooooooooooo fuck .... not had a kiss like it since. |
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I am quite controlled, so it never gets to the point of obsession and if I think it could, I would act on the signs
To date, I have managed to spot if I am falling and it isn't appropriate to do so
I will generally stop contact at that point
I am not ashamed or scared to tell them I am doing that though
I think having a nice time with someone and then just ghosting them because of how you feel is really unfair- to both of you
Be an adult
Be upfront with your feelings and emotions |
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I was definitely obsessed with my husband when we first met but to be fair it was that weird awkward teenager stage and I was also obsessed with bros  .
I'm still obsessed but I like to think it's a more mature obsession now xx |
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By *eliWoman 6 weeks ago
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Nope. I've never experienced that. I've also never thought someone was perfect but I have made myself overlook flaws and faults for some time before I realised it was only hurting me.
I don't like being put on a pedestal. Seen as this object of desire, for feelings until I show that I'm human, with real feelings not just their idolised version of me. |
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A couple of times. Although I didn't think they were perfect, and I was always very aware that I didn't have the full picture as to who they were. The intrusive thoughts absolutely did my head in, so I cut contact.
On both occasions I was very unwell mentally, and I think my brain was looking for a distraction. Fortunately, I had enough self-awareness to recognise that and knock it on the head. Limerence is not a pleasant experience and feels very different to having a strong crush. |
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Oh my God yes. Only with one woman when I was 18. But it dragged on for far longer than it should have and I learnt quite a few very costly life lessons. Ironically a lot of my most significant and successful decisions and life changes stemmed from it.
Don't ignore or dismiss these kind of obsessions. They happen for reasons you need to know. |
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"Obsessed no, but I met 2 ladies in July and August that completely blew my mind.
One has become a very amazing friend and one we plan on many more naughty times together
Fantastic  "
Life is beautiful 🥰 |
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"Obsessed no, but I met 2 ladies in July and August that completely blew my mind.
One has become a very amazing friend and one we plan on many more naughty times together
Fantastic
Life is beautiful 🥰"
Sometimes... |
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