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We have for I’m guessing , on about 4 separate occasions on different weekends placed a meet today on our profile.
And we have not had a single reply indicating an interest ?
We are not full of ourselves by any stretch of the imagination.
However does anyone actually meet on fab anymore ?
Genuinely curious. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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I can't speak for everyone but personally I'm not a fan of meet now. It's more likely to attract time wasters or people who aren't that serious about meeting. I do meet people but it's always once a rapport has been built between us, I find you meet the best people that way. |
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"I can't speak for everyone but personally I'm not a fan of meet now. It's more likely to attract time wasters or people who aren't that serious about meeting. I do meet people but it's always once a rapport has been built between us, I find you meet the best people that way."
I like that you’re a ‘rapport’ person too  |
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I've not met in ages but it is a rock and hard place. Some don't like to be messaged until they know they're free, so messaging is unknowingly wasted, others don't mind and you can have a chat and see where things lead.
The meet now function has to be one of the best things on the site - if you know you're free on x date you can plan towards it, otherwise it's people posting last minute meets on a Fri expecting to meet in a few hours - you really have to like or get on with someone fast to meet that quick.
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Plenty of people do.
I always thought meet now worked best on single males, which isn't your market.
Single women meeting a duo with no contact beforehand or chance to get to know before entering that situation seems rubbish for the risk averse.
Couples you're hoping both are online to see the meet and both be attracted to both parties and feel like you'd be attracted to both of them and meet your criteria.
It feels like a lot to ask. Not impossible by any means, but not common.
Given the number of verifications maybe you've just already met all the reasonably local options that would go for that 💜 |
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Many like me, won't be into meeting people the same day op.
Single ladies want to feel safe with any couples they meet and probably wouldn't feel that after a few messages.
Both couples and women both may have childcare issues or with couples one of them maybe at work etc, so they have to plan their meets.
Clubs may be a better idea if you want spontaneous fun,plus most of the site are after ffm meets so it's hard enough to just rely on fab as it is. |
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"Different response, if your a unicorn like yourself I’m imagining getting some interest is pretty easy .
As a couple it’s a 4 way attraction, so this complicates matters x 4 .
Was just curious? "
Add in childcare, working hours, two people both being completely available within a few hours. Meet now isn't a good option for many couples.
Also, women are at an immediate disadvantage meeting a couple. If they don't show up for a social meet you still have each other, if you don't show up they're obviously a woman out alone who's been stood up. Most women prefer to have a little time to get a feel for people before agreeing to a meet, meet now doesn't provide that.
As has been mentioned, clubs are good. When I fancy some hedonism with people I don't know, it's clubs for me. It's a safer place to be with staff and other patrons well aware of the dynamics and how to react if something is going the wrong way 💜 |
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"We have for I’m guessing , on about 4 separate occasions on different weekends placed a meet today on our profile.
And we have not had a single reply indicating an interest ?
We are not full of ourselves by any stretch of the imagination.
However does anyone actually meet on fab anymore ?
Genuinely curious. "
On the occasions we have been looking for a meet we have done similar put up a meet request, usually replies from people hundreds of miles away or unrealistic expectations such as" available between 2:30pm and 3:00pm"
Other than that zero replies of any consequence.
Meet's tend to happen usually by chance two parties being available at same time.
The meet section is too vague and the areas need to be narrowed down so a meet goes up in your chosen range IE 20miles from your postcode. Not South East as that's a huge area.
Needs updating
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Personally I can't stand clubs, they always seem too performative and there's never enough time to relax into doing whatever you want to do. I can see the problems of all 4 people liking each other, but logistics shouldn't be an issue if people want to meet. Women and couples meet all the time, spontaneous or planned. You might just have to put some miles in OP |
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Goes in phases for me over a year. Currently / summer it’s dogshit season. Maybe it will peak up again for Xmas period or new year. Tbh I don’t really care as it’s just fab and I don’t take it that seriously as a platform to get hookups.
Lots of other ways to meet people easy enough I find anyway Fab is just a back burner as such |
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Definitely still meeting, including via meet postings.
The strength of our targeting, via profile text and meeting posts, filters out the unsuitable for us, from getting in touch. It's a qualitative measure of success, if you don't get a huge quantity of the wrong people.
You may need to further refine how you use the site tools, so that you pull in more of the right people  |
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By *ornycougaWoman 14 weeks ago
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Are you looking for single guys? If it is just women and couples then I'm not surprised you get no reply as most don't want that sort of meet. I've occasionally posted for meets with guys - who tend to be more receptive to 'dial a shag' - inundated. I would never respond to a posted meet |
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"Are you looking for single guys? If it is just women and couples then I'm not surprised you get no reply as most don't want that sort of meet. I've occasionally posted for meets with guys - who tend to be more receptive to 'dial a shag' - inundated. I would never respond to a posted meet"
I don't understand that. If you saw a woman or couple you liked but they had a meet posted for a few weeks time, you wouldn't respond, even contact, as it's a dial a shag?
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I do meet on here. All the time. 
I put on a meet on Monday, in Jersey- tiny island, got about 80 messages. Got my meet. Fun had, sated, moved on with a smile on my face. 
Here in mainland UK or in major US cities I will get hundreds of messages if I post a meet. But I won’t necessarily meet anyone if I don’t find people who fit what I’m looking for. So there are many factors at play. For me it is someone I find interesting, very attractive, and who is available at the same time as I am and close to me. Not easy!
But I do get many responses. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 14 weeks ago
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"Are you looking for single guys? If it is just women and couples then I'm not surprised you get no reply as most don't want that sort of meet. I've occasionally posted for meets with guys - who tend to be more receptive to 'dial a shag' - inundated. I would never respond to a posted meet
I don't understand that. If you saw a woman or couple you liked but they had a meet posted for a few weeks time, you wouldn't respond, even contact, as it's a dial a shag?
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Most (tho not all, I acknowledge that) posted meets are for the same day. They want a body - rather than me personally. So I wouldn't respond. Others will feel differently, and that is entirely their prerogative but that's how I feel about posting meets. |
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"I met someone in the first week of being on but since then just seems like a load of people that want a wank rather than an actual meet "
It would seem that’s both ways fabs isn’t what it used to be to be |
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"Are you looking for single guys? If it is just women and couples then I'm not surprised you get no reply as most don't want that sort of meet. I've occasionally posted for meets with guys - who tend to be more receptive to 'dial a shag' - inundated. I would never respond to a posted meet
I don't understand that. If you saw a woman or couple you liked but they had a meet posted for a few weeks time, you wouldn't respond, even contact, as it's a dial a shag?
Most (tho not all, I acknowledge that) posted meets are for the same day. They want a body - rather than me personally. So I wouldn't respond. Others will feel differently, and that is entirely their prerogative but that's how I feel about posting meets. "
Ahh, I said something similar above, I thought you were meaning it's use generally as a site function. |
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Nice profile, nice photos, maybe it's the meal element. Some people put up meets that ask for people to be taken out for food, they pay, before fun.
Not scientific, but the meal elements would make me wary |
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It's not a feature that I use (i.e. meeting a stranger on a whim) because it's not really my approach when it comes to sexual dalliances.
However, after nearly four years on here I posted a "Meet" for the first time ever, one week in advance before my trip to Ipswich, and then forgot about it. The meet stipulated tea/coffee and cake for any forum-dweller.
A few days later a woman from Ipswich messaged me on the back of that "Meet" posting. In this exceptional case I would say I've had a 100% success rate in someone responding.
I have to be honest - the meet didn't go ahead because of illness/infection (her, not me) but her communication and due consideration was exemplary. |
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"We have for I’m guessing , on about 4 separate occasions on different weekends placed a meet today on our profile.
And we have not had a single reply indicating an interest ?
We are not full of ourselves by any stretch of the imagination.
However does anyone actually meet on fab anymore ?
Genuinely curious. "
Your veris suggest you're doing OK!!! |
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I suspect very few couples would be keen on the meet now approach.
I'm also part of a couple and we never look at the meets section.
We have met via Fab but very few got past the social stage and we don’t chat off Fab. We find clubs work best for us, much easier to establish a 4 way attraction when meeting in person. |
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It may be that couples struggle with last minute meets, we can no longer meet at the drop of a hat. So everything has to be planned, so would rather chat and get to know a couple and arrange something regular x |
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By *inx000Couple 14 weeks ago
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It does seem to be becoming harder to reach out to couples amd single females on here.You send a message and they message back then the convo sort of fizzles out then you don't get a reply back at all.
We enjoy talking to people on here to build a friendship and get to know people a little more before we meet but sadly a lot of people on here don't want that..Its either meet and fuck or nothing there's no in-between which I get as it's a sex site but we like to build a rapport first.Not saying we don't occasionally enjoy a spontaneous meet also  |
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"It's not a feature that I use (i.e. meeting a stranger on a whim) because it's not really my approach when it comes to sexual dalliances.
However, after nearly four years on here I posted a "Meet" for the first time ever, one week in advance before my trip to Ipswich, and then forgot about it. The meet stipulated tea/coffee and cake for any forum-dweller.
A few days later a woman from Ipswich messaged me on the back of that "Meet" posting. In this exceptional case I would say I've had a 100% success rate in someone responding.
I have to be honest - the meet didn't go ahead because of illness/infection (her, not me) but her communication and due consideration was exemplary."
Nero it’s reassuring to know she was infected *before* meeting you  |
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"It's not a feature that I use (i.e. meeting a stranger on a whim) because it's not really my approach when it comes to sexual dalliances.
However, after nearly four years on here I posted a "Meet" for the first time ever, one week in advance before my trip to Ipswich, and then forgot about it. The meet stipulated tea/coffee and cake for any forum-dweller.
A few days later a woman from Ipswich messaged me on the back of that "Meet" posting. In this exceptional case I would say I've had a 100% success rate in someone responding.
I have to be honest - the meet didn't go ahead because of illness/infection (her, not me) but her communication and due consideration was exemplary.
Nero it’s reassuring to know she was infected *before* meeting you "
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Even love is infectious, Félìx', ole chap. 🙂 |
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"It's not a feature that I use (i.e. meeting a stranger on a whim) because it's not really my approach when it comes to sexual dalliances.
However, after nearly four years on here I posted a "Meet" for the first time ever, one week in advance before my trip to Ipswich, and then forgot about it. The meet stipulated tea/coffee and cake for any forum-dweller.
A few days later a woman from Ipswich messaged me on the back of that "Meet" posting. In this exceptional case I would say I've had a 100% success rate in someone responding.
I have to be honest - the meet didn't go ahead because of illness/infection (her, not me) but her communication and due consideration was exemplary."
Nice!
A FWB of 5 years, who is an exemplary human being, I met in person within an hour of chatting.
Not everyone who posts meets for the same day is a disease-ridden and immoral being LMAO. Some people are pretty normal. And dare I -gulp- say: even respectable!
This is what I meant the other day when I said the forum is so judgey and prudish considering it’s part of a sex site…going by some responses on here. (Not yours, Nero- the outcome you had was fabulous and it is what I get too… you can still be selective!) |
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There’s a couple of different things, I think.
There’s the ‘meet now’ flag, which in my experience really just functions as a way of telling anyone using the ‘who’s near’ search that you’re available right there and then.
And there’s the ‘posting a meet’ thing, which is posting up for a meet a few days away.
I reckon the two things reach totally different audiences. At least they do in my experience. |
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"We have for I’m guessing , on about 4 separate occasions on different weekends placed a meet today on our profile.
And we have not had a single reply indicating an interest ?
We are not full of ourselves by any stretch of the imagination.
However does anyone actually meet on fab anymore ?
Genuinely curious. "
If i wasnt 100 miles away and you were keen to meet fellas then i'd fab your meet now post. Follow it up with a message and see what happens.
Its not a feature i use often but i do look at it on occassion |
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By *ornycougaWoman 14 weeks ago
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"It's not a feature that I use (i.e. meeting a stranger on a whim) because it's not really my approach when it comes to sexual dalliances.
However, after nearly four years on here I posted a "Meet" for the first time ever, one week in advance before my trip to Ipswich, and then forgot about it. The meet stipulated tea/coffee and cake for any forum-dweller.
A few days later a woman from Ipswich messaged me on the back of that "Meet" posting. In this exceptional case I would say I've had a 100% success rate in someone responding.
I have to be honest - the meet didn't go ahead because of illness/infection (her, not me) but her communication and due consideration was exemplary.
Nice!
A FWB of 5 years, who is an exemplary human being, I met in person within an hour of chatting.
Not everyone who posts meets for the same day is a disease-ridden and immoral being LMAO. Some people are pretty normal. And dare I -gulp- say: even respectable!
This is what I meant the other day when I said the forum is so judgey and prudish considering it’s part of a sex site…going by some responses on here. (Not yours, Nero- the outcome you had was fabulous and it is what I get too… you can still be selective!) "
As someone who will have come across as judgy and prudish on this thread I too have met fantastic guys on the same day after exchanging just a few messages, and have gone on to have enduring FB relationships with them. The difference is that it was a direct approach rather than responding to a "any cock/pussy free today?". Subtle - but important difference to me personally.
To be clear, I'm not judging those that post - or respond to - same day meets. I'm bloody glad some of them do respond as I've also met some great guys that way when needing an extra for group fun.
It's just not something that I would look at or respond to. |
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By *ee69Man 14 weeks ago
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"I met someone in the first week of being on but since then just seems like a load of people that want a wank rather than an actual meet "
Why in the name of god would a guy wank when he could meet you instead , madness Mrs |
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I stopped meeting along time ago coz of all the time wasters n the rejection that's involved, now I rarely get messages now n the same when I had a pic on profile , think it's coming to the point of thinking about leaving site for good  |
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I never do meet now as it’s just not possible and when we first joined a few years ago guys actual met when they said they would… it’s becoming increasingly more difficult to find genuine reliable guys x |
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Real life have a lot of interest but too close to home.
Tinder, had some fun and FWB but she then wanted a boyfriend.
Fab, not yet and in no rush. Would be nice to find local-ish FWB.
Am married, my friends in real life are all girls, a few +20 years younger than me, holidays, camping, festivals, mate-dates. My partner likes to stay at home.
Not interested in mixing FWB with dates, I have a wife who I love. |
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By *ynecplCouple 14 weeks ago
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Yes but we have in recent years found the meet section pointless as you have found OP if you place a meet up there is very little interest and those that do show an interest tend to talk a good meet but when you start trying to arrange to meet they either avoid agreeing to anything such as a location or go quiet.
The best way to meet on here is to contact people directly although that takes time and effort. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 14 weeks ago
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"I had a hotel meet tonight.
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Brilliant!😊 Details please, Dåvinå, details... 🦋"
It involved another TV (in the bedroom). She'd arranged a group session, and invited me. Everyone else baled out (because, people), and I had her to myself. She then had me, herself - twice! I was very satisfied, especially as she said I'd made her night. |
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"I had a hotel meet tonight.
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Brilliant!😊 Details please, Dåvinå, details... 🦋
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It involved another TV (in the bedroom). She'd arranged a group session, and invited me. Everyone else baled out (because, people), and I had her to myself. She then had me, herself - twice! I was very satisfied, especially as she said I'd made her night. "
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Ummm, no darling, that's not what I meant. Details as in - was it The Mandarin Oriental or The Peninsula? Was the bathroom plush, the room chic, the cocktail bar swanky, mini bar, posh atrium, snazzy concierge...and so forth...? 🩶❣️ |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 14 weeks ago
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"I had a hotel meet tonight.
🥰🥰🥰
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Brilliant!😊 Details please, Dåvinå, details... 🦋
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It involved another TV (in the bedroom). She'd arranged a group session, and invited me. Everyone else baled out (because, people), and I had her to myself. She then had me, herself - twice! I was very satisfied, especially as she said I'd made her night.
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Ummm, no darling, that's not what I meant. Details as in - was it The Mandarin Oriental or The Peninsula? Was the bathroom plush, the room chic, the cocktail bar swanky, mini bar, posh atrium, snazzy concierge...and so forth...? 🩶❣️"
Oh sorry, for a moment I forgot who'd asked the question! 🤣
Embarrassing! 😳
It was the Pentahotel in central Reading. The bar was servicable, the carpets plush, the mini bar decently stocked, the bed large and soft, the room comfortable and clean. So, not the Ritz, but the entertainment was smoking hot! 😁 |
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"Different response, if your a unicorn like yourself I’m imagining getting some interest is pretty easy .
As a couple it’s a 4 way attraction, so this complicates matters x 4 .
Was just curious? "
It can be harder to get everyone on board with 4 people especially timing and dates not to mention an initial attraction. |
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"I can't speak for everyone but personally I'm not a fan of meet now. It's more likely to attract time wasters or people who aren't that serious about meeting. I do meet people but it's always once a rapport has been built between us, I find you meet the best people that way."
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We've actually never met anyone from this site in 4 years, we find it difficult to connect online with people, all our meetings have been through clubs or friends introductions where the chemistry can build organically. We find this and other sites to be too much of a tick box exercise so to speak. We mostly use the site for the forums and to appease my noseyness.
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Met a few lovely people from the site so people do meet. Harder to find the right matches though this side of 50 and post covid. Apathy on my side has also kicked in a bit.
Need to get to a few more group socials |
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Meet today statuses reveal just how few people actually 'meet today'
Or the other frustration is... you have a morning or an afternoon to spare and no interest, then just when it's too late for a meet without clashing with other plans... bam, loads of interest
This happened to me last Tuesday - had all day free, but evening plans from 7pm
Posted a meet now...
Absolutely sod all interest all day, soon as the clock struck 5.30, I had 6, yes 6, people wanting to meet that evening
I guess it's my own fault, I should have taken the status down at 4pm and I wouldn't have had that frustration |
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"I can't speak for everyone but personally I'm not a fan of meet now. It's more likely to attract time wasters or people who aren't that serious about meeting. I do meet people but it's always once a rapport has been built between us, I find you meet the best people that way."
That’s interesting you say that because we’ve found the exact opposite to be true. I think in about 5 years we’ve had one planned meet actually happen. 99.9999% just don’t come online on the day and then make excuses the next day.
We only ever do “meet now” type meets and are seldom let down. |
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We’ve posted meet now several times and if you post for anything other than men, you aren’t going to get (m)any responses.
Some guys just want a shag - most women and couples want interaction first.
We don’t even look at others meets requests.
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Why not post something at the start of the week saying looking for a weekend meet, On your profile or in the forums, Apart a lot of single Men not many people will meet within hours of seeing a meet request |
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Fruit posting now.
We have had lots of fantastic meets and sometimes the people that respond just aren't the right ones. If it's a couple then 4 way attraction is essential. We've gone to socials and attraction isn't there, either on their part or ours. Naturally, some singles, male or female, have parent duties too. Things happen and meets just don't always work.
We enjoy clubs which is great fun and hoping one of our local clubs, Jaydees, will re open soon.
Loving all the replies x |
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