Looking for some guidance/feedback on the first message to send.
I’ve been on here for a short while now and I’ve had some decent conversations with some lovely people. But I’m interested to know what people’s thoughts are regarding the first message you send?
I always try to be polite when sending my first message as I don’t want to appear rude. But I’m wondering if I’m missing something.
So I guess my question is…
A. Polite introduction, well written with correct spelling and grammar. (Face pic inc. )
B. Something more sexual pertaining to the recipients profile and desires.
C. Something downright rude and dirty.
So you lovely fab people let me know what you think. X |
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By *ib.Man 7 weeks ago
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There's not really a cookie-cutter, one size fits all approach. People like and want different things.
Best advice is to just be yourself and eventually you'll find someone who will be similar. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Hi op
I don't like graphic or rude first messages, it's an instant delete.
I much prefer a well written message that references something in my profile, so I know it's been read. "
Same here and show a bit of personality much rather seeing what a person is like rather than just a penis picture |
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I would say read their profile and send a message based on that, copy and paste messages that are sent to everyone are so obvious. I like something that’s more than just “hi, are you free now? Wanna fuck” but I also don’t want a long life story type message! Something that shows some personality too but like the others have said everyone is different and it’s about finding what you’re looking for too  |
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"Looking for some guidance/feedback on the first message to send.
I’ve been on here for a short while now and I’ve had some decent conversations with some lovely people. But I’m interested to know what people’s thoughts are regarding the first message you send?
I always try to be polite when sending my first message as I don’t want to appear rude. But I’m wondering if I’m missing something.
So I guess my question is…
A. Polite introduction, well written with correct spelling and grammar. (Face pic inc. )
B. Something more sexual pertaining to the recipients profile and desires.
C. Something downright rude and dirty.
So you lovely fab people let me know what you think. X"
A is essential, there’s absolutely no downside to correct grammar and spelling; adding a photo only adds to the engagement. Don’t send an explicit picture until asked. Don’t make it removable after viewing, some people take their time and will put you down as a possible. Keeping your photo alongside the message is best.
As to the type of message.. fun, flirty, comment on a forum post, teasing about something, observation, request for advice or opinion or those responses appropriate to the profile requesting ‘describe what you want to do to/with me/us’ it’s guaranteed that 80% will misfire, be taken the wrong way, be ignored, lead nowhere… |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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People put too much focus on the message but it's mostly down to attraction. You can have the most perfect first message but if they don't fancy you, they won't reply. Best thing you can do is just be yourself and whatever message reflects you as a person, just do that. |
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"A. Polite introduction, well written with correct spelling and grammar. (Face pic inc. )
B. Something more sexual pertaining to the recipients profile and desires.
C. Something downright rude and dirty."
Their profile will usually indicate which of these is most appropriate. |
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Dear OP, there is some very useful advice given above by the other posters ⬆️. No matter how well intentioned and handcrafted your message is there's a strong possibility it will represent one of many hundreds in your recipient's inbox, with a low likelihood of it being opened let alone being replied.
However, you have inferred you've had "some decent conversations with some lovely people". You're doing just fine. ☮️🩶 |
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"Looking for some guidance/feedback on the first message to send.
I’ve been on here for a short while now and I’ve had some decent conversations with some lovely people. But I’m interested to know what people’s thoughts are regarding the first message you send?
I always try to be polite when sending my first message as I don’t want to appear rude. But I’m wondering if I’m missing something.
So I guess my question is…
A. Polite introduction, well written with correct spelling and grammar. (Face pic inc. )
B. Something more sexual pertaining to the recipients profile and desires.
C. Something downright rude and dirty.
So you lovely fab people let me know what you think. X"
I would first read their profile. The. Maybe the send a little joke or something amusing. Just to break the ice.
If she reply do go straight into full blow sex chat. A little flirty is fine. |
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