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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
How exciting 😁
No tips to give here but interested to see how it goes for you x |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
Don’t wear a light coloured top and have spaghetti…
After a couple of drinks, show them your Fab profile, they have to understand the potential early on. |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
How exciting 😁
No tips to give here but interested to see how it goes for you x"
Thank you! |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Don’t wear a light coloured top and have spaghetti…
After a couple of drinks, show them your Fab profile, they have to understand the potential early on."
oh we aren't doing dinner.. That's way too much pressure!
I like that he hasn't seen my boobs and I've not seen his willy.
It's also been 24 hours of chatting and it's not been turned to sex.
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Yay! Have a blast.
Don't overdress, go for something comfy and relaxed. Nothing that says 'I want to take you home and bang you senseless'.
*not on the first date anyway. 😉"
Ha ha I never dress like that even when I do want to! Not outwardly anyway! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 16 weeks ago
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"Yay! Have a blast.
Don't overdress, go for something comfy and relaxed. Nothing that says 'I want to take you home and bang you senseless'.
*not on the first date anyway. 😉
Ha ha I never dress like that even when I do want to! Not outwardly anyway! "
Well that's disappointing.....😂😂 |
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Aww, dates are the best.
Just be you. You're awesome.
Check your teeth after food. No one wants a goodnight kiss with a big chunk of spinach stuck there.
Remember, if it's awful, you're not actually obligated to stay.
Wear what makes you feel comfortable and confident in the setting your expecting.
Good luck 💜 |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
Hope all goes well xx just be yourself and enjoy |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Aww, dates are the best.
Just be you. You're awesome.
Check your teeth after food. No one wants a goodnight kiss with a big chunk of spinach stuck there.
Remember, if it's awful, you're not actually obligated to stay.
Wear what makes you feel comfortable and confident in the setting your expecting.
Good luck 💜"
Aww thanks lovely. I'm mentally going through my wardrobe as I type! |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Be yourself and don't put any focus into if he likes you, know what you bring to the table and work it! Ultimately just relax and have fun."
Great advice. It's something I really struggle with! |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Hope all goes well xx just be yourself and enjoy "
Thank you |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Don’t wear a light coloured top and have spaghetti…
After a couple of drinks, show them your Fab profile, they have to understand the potential early on. oh we aren't doing dinner.. That's way too much pressure!
I like that he hasn't seen my boobs and I've not seen his willy.
It's also been 24 hours of chatting and it's not been turned to sex.
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Sounds like most of my fab dates am I doing it wrong !
Have fun , just relax and enjoy |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 16 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Hire a barber shop quartet to appear mid date singing 'I want your sex' and then you quickly say, 'I'm not desperate or anything.' 
Also, maintain an air of intrigue by arranging for random male friends to keep on appearing and asking for your autograph, saying things like, 'That scene in triple anal bitches was magnificent.'
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"Hire a barber shop quartet to appear mid date singing 'I want your sex' and then you quickly say, 'I'm not desperate or anything.'
Also, maintain an air of intrigue by arranging for random male friends to keep on appearing and asking for your autograph, saying things like, 'That scene in triple anal bitches was magnificent.'
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This is also a great option as is turning up in a wedding dress with smeared mascara and a bouquet…and the Groom cake decoration that you keep stabbing with a pin   |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 16 weeks ago
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"Hire a barber shop quartet to appear mid date singing 'I want your sex' and then you quickly say, 'I'm not desperate or anything.'
Also, maintain an air of intrigue by arranging for random male friends to keep on appearing and asking for your autograph, saying things like, 'That scene in triple anal bitches was magnificent.'
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This is good stuff. I'm making notes.
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Hire a barber shop quartet to appear mid date singing 'I want your sex' and then you quickly say, 'I'm not desperate or anything.'
Also, maintain an air of intrigue by arranging for random male friends to keep on appearing and asking for your autograph, saying things like, 'That scene in triple anal bitches was magnificent.'
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I really was so good in those films |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Don’t wear a light coloured top and have spaghetti…
After a couple of drinks, show them your Fab profile, they have to understand the potential early on. oh we aren't doing dinner.. That's way too much pressure!
I like that he hasn't seen my boobs and I've not seen his willy.
It's also been 24 hours of chatting and it's not been turned to sex.
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Okay, but you’ve both been *thinking* about them 😈 |
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By *HUSH-Man 16 weeks ago
London |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
Remember that you’re on a date with someone who’s not in the lifestyle. I had an audible gasp from 3 people when I was last on a double date because FAB chat escaped from my mouth.
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Don’t wear a light coloured top and have spaghetti…
After a couple of drinks, show them your Fab profile, they have to understand the potential early on. oh we aren't doing dinner.. That's way too much pressure!
I like that he hasn't seen my boobs and I've not seen his willy.
It's also been 24 hours of chatting and it's not been turned to sex.
Okay, but you’ve both been *thinking* about them 😈"
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Remember that you’re on a date with someone who’s not in the lifestyle. I had an audible gasp from 3 people when I was last on a double date because FAB chat escaped from my mouth.
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Yes I don't want to scare him off |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Remember that you’re on a date with someone who’s not in the lifestyle. I had an audible gasp from 3 people when I was last on a double date because FAB chat escaped from my mouth.
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That’s a ‘good’ gasp though, yeah? |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
Ask them about them self's and let them talk you will be able to get alot of who and what they are from how long and what they talk about |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....  "
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue. |
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Just relax and enjoy, don't have an agenda or be too elusive/ mysterious. Dating is about getting to know the other person and having fun. Everyone is different but I like women who are chatty, a bit flirty and smile tells me they are enjoying themselves. Hope it goes well. |
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By *eliWoman 16 weeks ago
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A Fab social isn't a date but you can date date someone from here.
That aside... enjoy it for what it is OP. It might not lead anywhere, it might. Regardless, going on a date can be a brilliant experience.
Have fun and be yourself, I hope this renews your desire in men. 🙂 |
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"Delighted for you OP. Hope it goes well.
Don't make a joke about not being a mass murderer in the first five minutes. But if you inadvertently do, watch out for that tumble! "
“Ha, ha yes, the ankle tag strap gets a bit itchy”
“You’re not going to do a background check are you?”
“Yes, it’s lovely. Do you think we’re within 500metres of a school here?”
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
I went on a date date after about a year of fab and realised at one point that it wasn't normal to talk to casually about sex sitting in a bar with someone you've never met before.
That would be my tip. |
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"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue. "
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue.
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
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Discussion is always important and if those were his views we most definitely won't be compatible. |
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By *HUSH-Man 16 weeks ago
London |
"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Remember that you’re on a date with someone who’s not in the lifestyle. I had an audible gasp from 3 people when I was last on a double date because FAB chat escaped from my mouth.
That’s a ‘good’ gasp though, yeah?"
I was asked if I would date a bisexual woman.
My reply was I’d like to have a bi sexual girlfriend and she can have her own girlfriend on the condition that I get to watch and join in from time to time.
They wanted to know more about my stance on equality and LGBTQ rights, not my pervy fantasy.
I say such incredibly stupid stuff it makes me wince 😫 |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips?
Remember that you’re on a date with someone who’s not in the lifestyle. I had an audible gasp from 3 people when I was last on a double date because FAB chat escaped from my mouth.
That’s a ‘good’ gasp though, yeah?
I was asked if I would date a bisexual woman.
My reply was I’d like to have a bi sexual girlfriend and she can have her own girlfriend on the condition that I get to watch and join in from time to time.
They wanted to know more about my stance on equality and LGBTQ rights, not my pervy fantasy.
I say such incredibly stupid stuff it makes me wince 😫 "
🤣🤣🤣 that’s too funny |
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"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue.
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
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Ah but you forget people in general don't tell you they are promiscuous so how would you know ,a dates a date ,you try and impress each other with humour and every day chat and your look if you succeed you get another date . |
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"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue.
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
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I disagree. Not telling someone what you’ve done in the past isn’t lying. Unless they specifically ask if you’ve ever been on a swingers site. Some people on here never ever meet and see it as a naughty Facebook type thing. I wouldn’t be telling anyone anything and if they persisted in asking those sort of questions you wouldn’t see me for dust. |
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"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue.
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
I disagree. Not telling someone what you’ve done in the past isn’t lying. Unless they specifically ask if you’ve ever been on a swingers site. Some people on here never ever meet and see it as a naughty Facebook type thing. I wouldn’t be telling anyone anything and if they persisted in asking those sort of questions you wouldn’t see me for dust. "
exactly what I said . |
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"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue.
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
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Can't say I agree with this. It's funny how people would call us promiscuous for being on a site like this but it's acceptable to hook up with people you meet in the street? It's the same thing, only difference here is that we are all on the same page from the get go. It's no one's business what each other has done before the date and won't be after, even if the date progresses into a relationship. If anyone I date judges me for this lifestyle, that's not a person that I see a future with anyway.
This is too deep talk for a first date, let's not take away from the OP. |
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By *ady LickWoman 16 weeks ago
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"Just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.
If it goes to a second date and progresses from there then good luck going forward. You then have the issue of this lifestyle??....
I wouldn't class myself as in the lifestyle or as a swinger so it's not really an issue.
Yes...it is.
I have no issues telling you the truth as I have no horse in this race but its an issue.
I know plenty of men right now who are non swingers and they won't date a woman who has engaged in any sort of hook up culture or has posted any sort of provocative photo or nude.
Now this is the point where people on this site will lose their shit and act like everyone out there is like us but the reality is, they're not, nor do they have the same worldviews.
I'm.sure some will argue here those men are insecure (they're not) or that we all have pasts (which is true but we all.get jusged for that). On the flip side I know a few women that wouldn't date a promiscuous guy either.
So you have a choice. Tell him.and deal with his response or lie and never tell him which is not a good start to a relationship. Choice is yours and I'm not passing any judgements . I'm simply telling you, its a discussion you need to have very early on to save any problems in the future.
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Interesting opinion!
It's not an issue. Enjoy your date and don't ask when they last had a meet! |
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
Just be yourself and enjoy 😁 hope it goes swimmingly 😘 |
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"Not the Fab social kind of date. An actual "date" date.
It's been a very long time since I last did this.
What are your top tips? "
I'm doing on a cinema date end of the month too, feeling nervous.
For you, check how much eye contact he makes. If he checks his phone more than once, forget it |
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Exciting, I’ve not be on one of those in years!!!
Be yourself and remember it’s ok to say if you’re just not clicking. And any red flags just make your excuses and leave.
Hope you have a great time x |
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Wear shoes you won’t fall over in, don’t get too dr*nk, perhaps let a friend know where you’re going, wear your favourite perfume. If you’re not feeling it, make an excuse and leave. But most of all - have fun and be yourself |
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"Thanks all for your advice. I'm sure it wlll all be fine and if not it's one more frog down on my quest for a prince () "
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Oh, one more thing: please ensure that you go Dutch. Show him what a modern woman is. Your integrity will thank you. 💙😘 |
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By *sWyld OP Woman 16 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"Thanks all for your advice. I'm sure it wlll all be fine and if not it's one more frog down on my quest for a prince ()
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Oh, one more thing: please ensure that you go Dutch. Show him what a modern woman is. Your integrity will thank you. 💙😘"
Don't worry, I ALWAYS pay my way! |
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"Thanks all for your advice. I'm sure it wlll all be fine and if not it's one more frog down on my quest for a prince ()
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Oh, one more thing: please ensure that you go Dutch. Show him what a modern woman is. Your integrity will thank you. 💙😘
Don't worry, I ALWAYS pay my way! "
Even if it's just a coffee? |
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"Thanks all for your advice. I'm sure it wlll all be fine and if not it's one more frog down on my quest for a prince ()
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Oh, one more thing: please ensure that you go Dutch. Show him what a modern woman is. Your integrity will thank you. 💙😘
Don't worry, I ALWAYS pay my way!
Even if it's just a coffee?"
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Hand-crafted artisan coffee is often very expensive. |
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