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We’re headed to our first swingers club this evening, we’re both excited and nervous 😅 the clubs got loads of great reviews and seems like a good place but still not sure what to expect 😋 any advice? X |
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Don't go with any expectations,
Don't be put off that the Lady will get a lot more attention then the Man,
Let people know early into a conversation that's its your first time and you're just there to view/enjoy yourselves,
Have a wonder around the club don't just stay in one place,
Don't take one for the team! |
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Exciting times!
Ask for a quick tour - the staff are usually happy to do that. Get chatting to people but have no agenda, just enjoy the atmosphere. Coming away without playing is not a failure.
Don’t get pissed. Don’t be afraid to say no to anyone - no means no. Agree your boundaries beforehand. Be prepared for the wanking dead gawping.
Consider a status/meet asking people to get in touch if they’ll also be there, so you can meet up and chat.
Have a fantastic time! |
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By *hilloutMan 9 weeks ago
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Hope you have a fabulous time.
As mentioned, go with no particular expectations. Define what your boundaries are to avoid awkwardness or misunderstandings.
Might be useful to have a non verbal cue to either advance into or leave a situation you find feels right or uncomfortable.
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You're a couple, you'll be fine. Look good, notice people eyeing you up and checking you out, and I'm sure they'll come over to you or start small talk.
If not, watch, have sex with each other, and try not to be shy! |
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Treat it as a night out where you just happen to be able to play if the mood takes you 🙂
Only do what you’re comfortable with and don’t worry about that being ok e.g. if you decide you only want to play together.
As others have said, be clear on how you’ll communicate yes, no and get me out of here to each other 😂
If it’s a dress up club, can’t recommend highly enough taking something comfortable for the woman of the couple to travel home in as you’ll likely have gone in something less with comfort in mind. No one ones to get back into that kind of stuff if you’re blissed up after play!
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By *8on33Man 9 weeks ago
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"We’re headed to our first swingers club this evening, we’re both excited and nervous 😅 the clubs got loads of great reviews and seems like a good place but still not sure what to expect 😋 any advice? X"
You going to the Heathrow club ?
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My suggestion would be to go as early as possible.
You will/should get a tour of the club by the host. get the orientation of the rooms in the club.
You can find the best seat and position yourselves to peek who's coming into the club.
You get to feel the atmosphere building.
You won't have the overwhelming feeling of walking into a busy club and trying to find your ground.
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GO, enjoy the sexy atmosphere and beautiful open-mind people. And most importantly remember you always have each other to play with. |
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I'm a very busy party host and I think the only thing I can add to all the great advice above is take some comfortable footwear for dress down. Guys in particular often forget and barefoot isn't too advisable for lots of reasons 🙈
Have an amazing time!  |
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Boring but nailing the practical side of things can take some of the nerves away or potentially for hick ups.
Is it cash or card or both? (Often people assume and bring wrong payment)
If you're drinking is it bring your own or provided by the bar?
What's the dress protocol. Dress up, dress down? Dress to impress or a little more relaxed. If dress up is there a norm regards when dress down occurs?
What's the parking arrangements or your transport arrangements? Have you worked that out? Remember some clubs are difficult locations for taxis.
Is it pay on demand or tab? Because you may need a little something to carry around payment (as well as other bit and bobs).
What's the towel arrangements for use of wet areas (if applicable)?
Basically the more you know about how the club operates, what to bring/wear and the normal vibe/protocols the more you'll be prepared. Save any hiccups and suprises that are both inconvenient and unnerving. |
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