Kinda just need to get this off my chest so I can feel better, and feel Fab is a more understanding place for something like this
So earlier this year I started hanging out with my ex (should have known better) after his long term girlfriend dumped him. Periodicly we'd send each other suggestive texts.
We made plans last week to hang out this past Monday. Friday he texts saying he needed a massage, especially in the front. It didn't get too racy but had a bit of fun and confirmed we were meeting up on Monday.
I ended up having a sex dream about him the night before, but I just couldn't find a way to bring it up face to face. I ended up texting him about it on Tuesday. He seemed to be really into it until I made a joke about being a bad girl and needed to be spanked.
He did a 180 and went on a rant about being loyal to his ex and how he wants to be back with her.
I shouldn't be be so surprised he sent mixed signals and communicated since that was a major issue when we were together. |
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"Kinda just need to get this off my chest so I can feel better, and feel Fab is a more understanding place for something like this
So earlier this year I started hanging out with my ex (should have known better) after his long term girlfriend dumped him. Periodicly we'd send each other suggestive texts.
We made plans last week to hang out this past Monday. Friday he texts saying he needed a massage, especially in the front. It didn't get too racy but had a bit of fun and confirmed we were meeting up on Monday.
I ended up having a sex dream about him the night before, but I just couldn't find a way to bring it up face to face. I ended up texting him about it on Tuesday. He seemed to be really into it until I made a joke about being a bad girl and needed to be spanked.
He did a 180 and went on a rant about being loyal to his ex and how he wants to be back with her.
I shouldn't be be so surprised he sent mixed signals and communicated since that was a major issue when we were together."
Remember there is a reason he is your ex
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Good morning O.P. Or what ever time it is where you are.
What you describe must have been a shock to you and hurt also.
It's a situation of life that you met and have to get over.
In the huge expanse of things you were two organisms colliding and separating. Nothing more - same as everyone is.
In human terms you were his rebound. A friend with benefits. Someone he needed temporarily.
I'm wishing you happiness as you move on. |
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I don't think you should feel bad or anything. You tested the waters and seeked out an opportunity. He in the process revealed himself to be a bit of a mess and it's not the sort of bull shit you should entertain. So don't feel bad, you know now, move on. I would also recommend you block and cut all communication with him from now on.
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"I don't think you should feel bad or anything. You tested the waters and seeked out an opportunity. He in the process revealed himself to be a bit of a mess and it's not the sort of bull shit you should entertain. So don't feel bad, you know now, move on. I would also recommend you block and cut all communication with him from now on.
Mr"
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"I don't think you should feel bad or anything. You tested the waters and seeked out an opportunity. He in the process revealed himself to be a bit of a mess and it's not the sort of bull shit you should entertain. So don't feel bad, you know now, move on. I would also recommend you block and cut all communication with him from now on.
Mr"
This. And make sure you're strong enough to stick to it, as inevitably he'll be back. |
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Sorry to hear this OP. I think it's perfectly normal to have thoughts, get wistful about an ex and it's also easy to forget the negatives sometimes.
I hope you take some comfort in that you were able to control the blocking, and also you did it before you got physical and possibly more emotionally invested.
The block/delete is definitely a great move.
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"Next time he contacts you reread the second paragraph of your op. Especially the bit where you say you should have known better, just to remind yourself.
Good on you for deleting him  "
Thanks I will |
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It sucks. I hope you're doing something lovely for yourself today like a nice bubble bath with wine, or ice cream, maybe cuddling yourself up in a soft blanket with some Netflix and treats, and nursing your tender broken heart with care and compassion for yourself. Knowing you took a chance and it didn't work but that's ok,and you deserve better. |
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"It sucks. I hope you're doing something lovely for yourself today like a nice bubble bath with wine, or ice cream, maybe cuddling yourself up in a soft blanket with some Netflix and treats, and nursing your tender broken heart with care and compassion for yourself. Knowing you took a chance and it didn't work but that's ok,and you deserve better. "
Yea I think today is going to be reading some spooky library books and having some beer. |
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