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A few questions that always comes into my mind about this lifestyle where couples ( married or bf/ gf ) decide to enter the lifestyle together.
How do you get to the decision that you want to share each other with other people.
How do you switch off emotions?
Has there ever been times where one of you have gotten jealous during a situation
Im just intrigued to know peoples views
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We met on the scene (here to be precise) and naturally we both had an intrest and knew about each others intrest. We liked the life and wished to continue.
As per above we naturally wanted to involve others. As to what extent this has changed over time. Things between us were serious very quick. So as it became a serious relationship the scope became more restrictive as we found our feet together. As we've grown boundaries have changed. From soft swing, to occasionally hard swing. From together to Mrs alone and forward to Mr alone too. However it's also fair to say what we will or won't do is still very dependent on the other people and situation.
You don't switch off emotions. Why would you want to? To switch off emotions is to almost say I'm going to continue with something I'm not happy with. We manage emotions and we learn to understand them. Which is a different thing. Emotions are good. Not just the hot ones but also the ones that ask questions of us and help us to explore and test what is healthy and what is not. Sometimes emotions are a safety net to listen to. What's important is how you explore and talk through emotions with each other against logic and reason.
Yes we have both been jealous, or at least part jealous. I also thinks there is jealousy regarding other people and jealousy regarding ourselves missing out, which is jealously from different origins. It's a feeling that for many happens to some extent. Again that is something that is vital as a couple you discus openly with each other. And again as we've grown together in this lifestyle, scrutinised logic against emotion and grown secure its become less and we manage it better. I totally get some couples say they have 0% jealous always but I think most couples have a little now and then depending on situation. I know a lot of couples we've had deep conversations with have.
It's really is a game of exploration and growth together. As a couple you really need complete openness with each other and great communication. You need to be able to have the hard conversations with each other. To be able to express yourself and your wants and to be listened to. And just a desire to see that each other get the best out of this. This lifestyle has really strengthened the core skills of our relationship and helped us to really understand each other as individuals. When you can open up your relationship to different sexual partners and feel absolutely no risk to your love for each other or the security of the relationship then that is a very secure relationship indeed.
Mr
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"We met on the scene (here to be precise) and naturally we both had an intrest and knew about each others intrest. We liked the life and wished to continue.
As per above we naturally wanted to involve others. As to what extent this has changed over time. Things between us were serious very quick. So as it became a serious relationship the scope became more restrictive as we found our feet together. As we've grown boundaries have changed. From soft swing, to occasionally hard swing. From together to Mrs alone and forward to Mr alone too. However it's also fair to say what we will or won't do is still very dependent on the other people and situation.
You don't switch off emotions. Why would you want to? To switch off emotions is to almost say I'm going to continue with something I'm not happy with. We manage emotions and we learn to understand them. Which is a different thing. Emotions are good. Not just the hot ones but also the ones that ask questions of us and help us to explore and test what is healthy and what is not. Sometimes emotions are a safety net to listen to. What's important is how you explore and talk through emotions with each other against logic and reason.
Yes we have both been jealous, or at least part jealous. I also thinks there is jealousy regarding other people and jealousy regarding ourselves missing out, which is jealously from different origins. It's a feeling that for many happens to some extent. Again that is something that is vital as a couple you discus openly with each other. And again as we've grown together in this lifestyle, scrutinised logic against emotion and grown secure its become less and we manage it better. I totally get some couples say they have 0% jealous always but I think most couples have a little now and then depending on situation. I know a lot of couples we've had deep conversations with have.
It's really is a game of exploration and growth together. As a couple you really need complete openness with each other and great communication. You need to be able to have the hard conversations with each other. To be able to express yourself and your wants and to be listened to. And just a desire to see that each other get the best out of this. This lifestyle has really strengthened the core skills of our relationship and helped us to really understand each other as individuals. When you can open up your relationship to different sexual partners and feel absolutely no risk to your love for each other or the security of the relationship then that is a very secure relationship indeed.
Mr
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Thank you Mr for taking the time to go into such detail and explaining your situation.
It made perfect sense and to be honest gave me a completely different perspective as I never quite understood a couples dynamics and how they make this lifestyle work for them.
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