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By *ea monkey OP   Man 15 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan 15 weeks ago

Ends

Here for the answers

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan 15 weeks ago

Ends

Haha FIRST THE WORST AND SECOND THE BEST

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By *enk15Man 15 weeks ago

Evesham

Third the one with the hairy chest... oh wait

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By *aomilatteCouple 15 weeks ago

Midlands


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear "

We are open, but can’t be doing with the messages

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By *ora the explorerWoman 15 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

2 reasons I’ve had that on my profile.

1st - sometimes I’m only looking to meet ladies.

2nd - I can’t be doing with all the messages and I just message any men I’m interested myself

X

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By *eordieJeansCouple 15 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We’re not looking to meet anyone.

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By *uckoldDesiresMan 15 weeks ago

Dublin

I can only assume as this is technically a swingers site & not officially a site for casual hookups that a lot of couples want to meet other couples for an actual swing experience.

Not to mention the bombardment women get.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man 15 weeks ago

The Continental

Because I get the sexual interactions I want with men, when I meet bisexual couples.

I very rarely meet single men, mainly owing to a couple of bad experiences that have made me much more wary.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan 15 weeks ago

Ends


"Third the one with the hairy chest... oh wait"

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By *uttercupWoman 15 weeks ago

Borders

Dunno

I love single guys

Issue is theres so many is that even a issue

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS 15 weeks ago

chichester

well some are not in men so that is pretty obvious

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple 15 weeks ago

Stoke

We have, and I'm still open to it. The problem is I'm so bloody fussy, it does the fellas head in haha!

Also, messages quickly turn smutty when starting to chat, which then puts me right off and I disconnect.

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By *enk15Man 15 weeks ago

Evesham

Our couples profile isn't looking for single guys because the other half simply doesn't want to meet them.

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By *endalshaggersCouple 15 weeks ago

Kendal

We do find it interesting how many couples profiles state this explicitly, yet also have (fairly recent) verifications from single male accounts or public photos of the female half engaged in some sexual shenanigans and it's captured "not the hubby/Mr (profile name)"

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By *obert RichardsMan 15 weeks ago

Sutton


"We have, and I'm still open to it. The problem is I'm so bloody fussy, it does the fellas head in haha!

Also, messages quickly turn smutty when starting to chat, which then puts me right off and I disconnect."

Not one for constant smut talk. I once stopped correspondence with a hotwife because I called her a MILF and she said that made her cringe

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple 15 weeks ago

Within touching distance

[Removed by poster at 02/10/24 11:01:22]

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple 15 weeks ago

Within touching distance

We are open to single guys the problem we have is that most arnt genuine, some don't fit the bill in what we're looking for and the ones that do still have to click with us. We are very fussy and as bad as it sounds the guys who are attached or in couples seem to know how to speak to a woman better.

A few tips for single guys..

Read a profile and send a message based on what you read and intrests you. Don't send a dick pic! Her husband has one she can see anytime. send your face, If your not comfortable send a tastefull pic first. Talk to them as a couple. Don't say hey babe or hey sexy this is referring to the female and makes the male feel left out straight from the off. The minute one of them isn't feeling it, it's over for you.

Know when to pull the trigger. Mr nice guy is good but at some point you need to come across as a sexuall desire not end up in the friends zone. Trust me this can happen lol

I could go on here but I'll leave it at that.

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By *ik NaksCouple 15 weeks ago

Wigan


"We have, and I'm still open to it. The problem is I'm so bloody fussy, it does the fellas head in haha!

Also, messages quickly turn smutty when starting to chat, which then puts me right off and I disconnect."

💯

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By *mmaleiaWoman 15 weeks ago

Trowbridge


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

We are open, but can’t be doing with the messages "

This

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By *issmorganWoman 15 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm just not meeting at the min, from this profile.

On my couple account, we're only looking to meet other couples,so we block single men.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple 15 weeks ago

Sheffield

Simple, we don't want to meet them and they are not part of our play or dynamic.

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By *endalshaggersCouple 15 weeks ago

Kendal

Also, we initially were open to single guys when we first joined, but soon had to block them.

Hundreds of messages, some multiple messages - and not all complimentary either. Most didn't read our profile at all anyway, and if we had one picture of their phalange....

Granted, not every one is a "bad apple" but the majority seems to ruin it for the minority who are.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 15 weeks ago

North West

I am. But when I close my filters this automatically appears. It's fine though as I am happy to message first.

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By *ik NaksCouple 15 weeks ago

Wigan

From personal experience and this isn’t directed at all single men but the majority that we have seen. We mainly do club meets, when we are there the single men come across as desperate. They follow us and other couples around the club making it feel really uncomfortable and even when you enter a room and lock the door they are banging on it asking if they can come in. If we/they wanted you in then you would have been invited

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By *he Silver FuxMan 15 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear "

Wait, wait, hang on

Just going to put this here. 🪑

Just going to pop this down here ⛱️

Now, where’s the.. .aha! 🍿

Right then…🥤Please continue

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 15 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Anyone seen my 🪑, 🍿, ⛱️ and 🥤? Can’t find em.

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By *eorgesdad69Man 15 weeks ago

nottingham

I will meet single men 🤪😘 but have enjoyed couples🤪 and before yo say it i am on fabguys also 🤪👍💋

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple 15 weeks ago

Stoke


"From personal experience and this isn’t directed at all single men but the majority that we have seen. We mainly do club meets, when we are there the single men come across as desperate. They follow us and other couples around the club making it feel really uncomfortable and even when you enter a room and lock the door they are banging on it asking if they can come in. If we/they wanted you in then you would have been invited "

Seen this loads at clubs. We once had a random single guy just follow us in to a room when we went in to play with another couple, and he just started to get undressed without saying a word.... We were like, wtf you doing mate? 😂

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By *alm_one4Man 15 weeks ago

RM16

A mate of mine and his partner have it on their profile. They are not above a mfm meet and do occasionally have that dynamic in clubs, but mostly they both want to be with the opposite from another couple.

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By *ik NaksCouple 15 weeks ago

Wigan


"From personal experience and this isn’t directed at all single men but the majority that we have seen. We mainly do club meets, when we are there the single men come across as desperate. They follow us and other couples around the club making it feel really uncomfortable and even when you enter a room and lock the door they are banging on it asking if they can come in. If we/they wanted you in then you would have been invited

Seen this loads at clubs. We once had a random single guy just follow us in to a room when we went in to play with another couple, and he just started to get undressed without saying a word.... We were like, wtf you doing mate? 😂"

🤣🤣🤣 that’s why we tend to stick to couples only nights, don’t get us wrong some couples can just be as bad if not worse than a single man but it’s very few and far between xx

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 15 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

In this essay I am going to examine why couples on fab aren’t interested in single guys. Although this statement seems simple enough, a closer examination reveals a more complex and nuanced picture. Some couples have verifications from single guys which appears to indicate they are not being entirely truthful. What’s going on here?

Let’s look at things from the perspective of a couple new to fab. It’s very common (sweeping generalisation alert!) for couples to come to fab when they’re curious about explore the femme’s bi side. Rightly or wrongly, it’s perceived as less threatening to the guy - it’s not a direct substitute for him. I think society still places a huge cache on one person being everything you should ever need, your “other half”.

Porn stereotypes then reinforce this, with any guy who “lets” their partner be fucked by other men being cast as a cuck, as lesser, as not enough for their partner. Our inbox can attest to this.

Fab is also used by a huge amount of singles, mostly men, who come here for a hookup. The majority of couples I know need someone who looks a bit deeper than that. Who understands the dynamics of different couples and takes time to figure that out so it works for all of you. I’m fully aware this can lead to the hoop jumping that some couples ask of guys, and that skews the balance too. You’ve all got to be on the same page.

Ultimately, I think it takes time and effort to build those connections which, given the large proportion of single guys using fab as a fuck site, are rare. Repeated negative interactions reinforce those stereotypes of single guys as pushy and couples as up themselves. Being “picky” or “fussy” is flagged as a sign of entitlement. Guys get frustrated, couples close their filters and don’t advertise that they might, actually, be interested in single guys.

In conclusion, there are many varied reasons why couples aren’t looking for single guys, ranging from societal perception to inbox overwhelm.

Or they might just enjoy some vag.

Mrs TMN x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS 15 weeks ago

chichester


"Anyone seen my 🪑, 🍿, ⛱️ and 🥤? Can’t find em.

"

Share Mine I have space

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 15 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"In this essay I am going to examine why couples on fab aren’t interested in single guys. Although this statement seems simple enough, a closer examination reveals a more complex and nuanced picture. Some couples have verifications from single guys which appears to indicate they are not being entirely truthful. What’s going on here?

Let’s look at things from the perspective of a couple new to fab. It’s very common (sweeping generalisation alert!) for couples to come to fab when they’re curious about explore the femme’s bi side. Rightly or wrongly, it’s perceived as less threatening to the guy - it’s not a direct substitute for him. I think society still places a huge cache on one person being everything you should ever need, your “other half”.

Porn stereotypes then reinforce this, with any guy who “lets” their partner be fucked by other men being cast as a cuck, as lesser, as not enough for their partner. Our inbox can attest to this.

Fab is also used by a huge amount of singles, mostly men, who come here for a hookup. The majority of couples I know need someone who looks a bit deeper than that. Who understands the dynamics of different couples and takes time to figure that out so it works for all of you. I’m fully aware this can lead to the hoop jumping that some couples ask of guys, and that skews the balance too. You’ve all got to be on the same page.

Ultimately, I think it takes time and effort to build those connections which, given the large proportion of single guys using fab as a fuck site, are rare. Repeated negative interactions reinforce those stereotypes of single guys as pushy and couples as up themselves. Being “picky” or “fussy” is flagged as a sign of entitlement. Guys get frustrated, couples close their filters and don’t advertise that they might, actually, be interested in single guys.

In conclusion, there are many varied reasons why couples aren’t looking for single guys, ranging from societal perception to inbox overwhelm.

Or they might just enjoy some vag.

Mrs TMN x"

Thanks for the in-depth study 😁

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By *bi HaiveMan 15 weeks ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"We do find it interesting how many couples profiles state this explicitly, yet also have (fairly recent) verifications from single male accounts or public photos of the female half engaged in some sexual shenanigans and it's captured "not the hubby/Mr (profile name)""

Simple.

The 'not looking for single guys' pops up due to mail filters. It doesn't mean people aren't looking to meet them.

Just means they want to do the searching and make first contact rather than have an inbox full of PM's from guys they're not interested in.

Simple as that.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 15 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"In this essay I am going to examine why couples on fab aren’t interested in single guys. Although this statement seems simple enough, a closer examination reveals a more complex and nuanced picture. Some couples have verifications from single guys which appears to indicate they are not being entirely truthful. What’s going on here?

Let’s look at things from the perspective of a couple new to fab. It’s very common (sweeping generalisation alert!) for couples to come to fab when they’re curious about explore the femme’s bi side. Rightly or wrongly, it’s perceived as less threatening to the guy - it’s not a direct substitute for him. I think society still places a huge cache on one person being everything you should ever need, your “other half”.

Porn stereotypes then reinforce this, with any guy who “lets” their partner be fucked by other men being cast as a cuck, as lesser, as not enough for their partner. Our inbox can attest to this.

Fab is also used by a huge amount of singles, mostly men, who come here for a hookup. The majority of couples I know need someone who looks a bit deeper than that. Who understands the dynamics of different couples and takes time to figure that out so it works for all of you. I’m fully aware this can lead to the hoop jumping that some couples ask of guys, and that skews the balance too. You’ve all got to be on the same page.

Ultimately, I think it takes time and effort to build those connections which, given the large proportion of single guys using fab as a fuck site, are rare. Repeated negative interactions reinforce those stereotypes of single guys as pushy and couples as up themselves. Being “picky” or “fussy” is flagged as a sign of entitlement. Guys get frustrated, couples close their filters and don’t advertise that they might, actually, be interested in single guys.

In conclusion, there are many varied reasons why couples aren’t looking for single guys, ranging from societal perception to inbox overwhelm.

Or they might just enjoy some vag.

Mrs TMN x

Thanks for the in-depth study 😁"

I have undertaken a lot of fieldwork to gather the data.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man 15 weeks ago

the moon

Lol they do … they just pick and choose … 😈

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 15 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Anyone seen my 🪑, 🍿, ⛱️ and 🥤? Can’t find em.

Share Mine I have space "

budge up.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 15 weeks ago

Leeds

Because I don't like other penis.

Same on my singles profile.

Mrs

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By *erfHerder74Man 15 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Plenty of straight guys are happy to meet single guys

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By *he Silver FuxMan 15 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear "

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 15 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

"

If that’s what you think most couples want, how do you fit into the mix? Not being arsey, tone is tricky on here.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 15 weeks ago

North West


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

"

I disagree both as someone who meets solo and as part of a couple for several reasons. "Wife swapping" as a term makes my teeth itch, especially the possessive phrasing that suggests that wives are theirs to swap. Also, four way attraction is rare and hard to find. A threesome is much easier to find, really fucking hot, and we are honoured when someone agrees to join our dynamic.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 15 weeks ago

North West

I would say that a large number of single men who want to meet couples don't really want to meet couples. They just want access to me. They want sex and will tolerate being part of a threesome to get that. Which is pretty shitty. There doesn't have to be any bi-stuff with the single guys we meet but for me much of the point of a MFM/MMF is being able to do stuff like DP and DVP.

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By *he Silver FuxMan 15 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

If that’s what you think most couples want, how do you fit into the mix? Not being arsey, tone is tricky on here.

Mrs TMN x"

I said this was back in the olden timey days - obviously as a single male I am overjoyed that ‘swinging’ includes threesomes, singles hooking up, hotwives roaming cheap hotel foyers etc.

We’ve moved on. Nice

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By *he Silver FuxMan 15 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"I would say that a large number of single men who want to meet couples don't really want to meet couples. They just want access to me. They want sex and will tolerate being part of a threesome to get that. Which is pretty shitty. There doesn't have to be any bi-stuff with the single guys we meet but for me much of the point of a MFM/MMF is being able to do stuff like DP and DVP. "

Not me - threesomes are awesomes

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By *neeyedwillieMan 15 weeks ago

Darlington


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear "

Assume for a moment I am answering from my wife and i's profile.

Why would we be open to it?

My wife has no desire to be with other men l, just women and I have no desire to see her with other men..but she has a desire to see me with other women.

That's just how we are.

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By *teveanddebsCouple 15 weeks ago

Norwich


"I would say that a large number of single men who want to meet couples don't really want to meet couples. They just want access to me. They want sex and will tolerate being part of a threesome to get that. Which is pretty shitty. There doesn't have to be any bi-stuff with the single guys we meet but for me much of the point of a MFM/MMF is being able to do stuff like DP and DVP. "

Luckily most of them make it quite obvious they are only after the female. It makes them easy to Ignore.

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By *luefire2Couple 15 weeks ago

just somewhere around here

Ours is open to then but we are only looking for bi or gay single men.

Any straight guys just get ignored or blocked.

Mrs R

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By *ags73Man 15 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"In this essay I am going to examine why couples on fab aren’t interested in single guys. Although this statement seems simple enough, a closer examination reveals a more complex and nuanced picture. Some couples have verifications from single guys which appears to indicate they are not being entirely truthful. What’s going on here?

Let’s look at things from the perspective of a couple new to fab. It’s very common (sweeping generalisation alert!) for couples to come to fab when they’re curious about explore the femme’s bi side. Rightly or wrongly, it’s perceived as less threatening to the guy - it’s not a direct substitute for him. I think society still places a huge cache on one person being everything you should ever need, your “other half”.

Porn stereotypes then reinforce this, with any guy who “lets” their partner be fucked by other men being cast as a cuck, as lesser, as not enough for their partner. Our inbox can attest to this.

Fab is also used by a huge amount of singles, mostly men, who come here for a hookup. The majority of couples I know need someone who looks a bit deeper than that. Who understands the dynamics of different couples and takes time to figure that out so it works for all of you. I’m fully aware this can lead to the hoop jumping that some couples ask of guys, and that skews the balance too. You’ve all got to be on the same page.

Ultimately, I think it takes time and effort to build those connections which, given the large proportion of single guys using fab as a fuck site, are rare. Repeated negative interactions reinforce those stereotypes of single guys as pushy and couples as up themselves. Being “picky” or “fussy” is flagged as a sign of entitlement. Guys get frustrated, couples close their filters and don’t advertise that they might, actually, be interested in single guys.

In conclusion, there are many varied reasons why couples aren’t looking for single guys, ranging from societal perception to inbox overwhelm.

Or they might just enjoy some vag.

Mrs TMN x"

Detailed.

I just assume it’s as female/couple swamped with messages and have options.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 15 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

If that’s what you think most couples want, how do you fit into the mix? Not being arsey, tone is tricky on here.

Mrs TMN x

I said this was back in the olden timey days - obviously as a single male I am overjoyed that ‘swinging’ includes threesomes, singles hooking up, hotwives roaming cheap hotel foyers etc.

We’ve moved on. Nice"

I’m confused. I thought you said the kinky couple origins still dominate which is why couples don’t want single men?

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By *he Silver FuxMan 15 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

If that’s what you think most couples want, how do you fit into the mix? Not being arsey, tone is tricky on here.

Mrs TMN x

I said this was back in the olden timey days - obviously as a single male I am overjoyed that ‘swinging’ includes threesomes, singles hooking up, hotwives roaming cheap hotel foyers etc.

We’ve moved on. Nice

I’m confused. I thought you said the kinky couple origins still dominate which is why couples don’t want single men?"

If we ignore the desperate hoards of single men, I’d say that couples predominantly seeking sexual liaisons with other couples are still in the majority

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 15 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I leave mine open to everyone because party and event invites can come from any demographic.

But.

If I were actually seeking single men to pay with, I'd probably block them from messaging me without me reaching out first.

The constant stream of unwanted penii in my inbox makes me have to actively clear my head whe someone actually sends a reasonable message to get rid of the 'ugh' from wading through the shite. The time it takes just to clear my inbox as is leaves me no time or drive to go looking for interesting g profiles. I would much rather be able to reach out if I was interested, and simply not get anything from those I haven't wanted to reach out to myself 💜

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By *ondonMagicCouple 15 weeks ago

Durham


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear "

Why don’t you meet anyone over 65?…..it’s exactly the same reason….its preference.

We don’t meet single guys because it’s not either of our interests.we prefer to have fun with single ladies or couples but we never swap. It’s all about preferences, plus london loves pussy too….

It all comes down to what we both want, which dick and pussy, or just pussy

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 15 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

I have to say something

Back in the day, before ‘tinterweb and America calling it ‘swinging’ here in Blighty it was called ‘Wife-swapping’ - the majority of participants were married couples looking to spice things up by having sex with other people’s spouses… simpler days of Lambrusco and cheese and pineapple on cocktail stick fuelled debauchery. A single guy or girl at these parties was unusual but not unknown.

Now of course it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and we need labels and definitions and rules but the kinky couple origins of the lifestyle still dominate. Hence why couples don’t want single men or women, they want the fun and interaction of couples of the OG lifestyle

If that’s what you think most couples want, how do you fit into the mix? Not being arsey, tone is tricky on here.

Mrs TMN x

I said this was back in the olden timey days - obviously as a single male I am overjoyed that ‘swinging’ includes threesomes, singles hooking up, hotwives roaming cheap hotel foyers etc.

We’ve moved on. Nice

I’m confused. I thought you said the kinky couple origins still dominate which is why couples don’t want single men?

If we ignore the desperate hoards of single men, I’d say that couples predominantly seeking sexual liaisons with other couples are still in the majority"

So we haven’t moved on from the old timey days?

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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago

I use it often when I just can't be arsed with messages.

Or if I have too many.

See women, it's not hard to control your inbox!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 15 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"No, not a moan about this filter, I’m simply curious. Why aren’t you open to meeting single guys? Please note; I don’t need straight men to answer this, that answer is pretty clear

Why don’t you meet anyone over 65?…..it’s exactly the same reason….its preference.

We don’t meet single guys because it’s not either of our interests.we prefer to have fun with single ladies or couples but we never swap. It’s all about preferences, plus london loves pussy too….

It all comes down to what we both want, which dick and pussy, or just pussy "

I think that we all know that preference doth butter no parsnips.

It’s the why that’s the question. Answering ‘because’ is no response

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By * and R cple4Couple 15 weeks ago

swansea

Our dynamics are mostly for bi couples maybe the very odd time a bi man.

We've done the straight dynamic and it bored me. We put our filters up when we were getting constant messages from "straight" men saying they don't mind sucking a cock now and again..

We prefer attending bi events and have met some lovely single bi men.

If some single men took the effort to understand that couples dynamics are different then it wouldn't be so hard for them on here.

The amount of messages we have had from men assuming we are on here as i need a good seeing to as my husband is a cuck is ridiculous.

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By *WANDTGCouple 15 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich


"I can only assume as this is technically a swingers site & not officially a site for casual hookups that a lot of couples want to meet other couples for an actual swing experience.

Not to mention the bombardment women get."

I was actually thinking the same thought today, surely a singleton would choose pof, tinder or another hook up option.

Obviously there is a place here for the single person but as a couple we'd like to swap with a couple ( we have met bi single men and enjoyed the experience)

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman 15 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Too much cock, not enough time.

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By *ife NinjaMan 15 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I happily play with couples. All I check is they don't want bi (don't want to waste their time, as I'm not) and off we go.

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By *oudini 123Man 15 weeks ago

Doncaster

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By *aked2sumCouple 15 weeks ago

Coast

We love single guys but now prefer to meet in clubs or holidays or parties . Fabs no longer any good for single guys majority spoil it for the minority

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By *riar BelisseWoman 15 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

Cos they are the most, that have messed me around online, so I prefer to only meet single men at socials.

Fab is for hothusbands

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By *adyBugsWoman 15 weeks ago

cognito

I am. But only ones I like. I switch it off the option because it’s an easy way to fabmin and not have to read 7,000 messages that say “hi”, “how r u”, “wUUT” or 9,000,000 “how r u finding the site” and unsolicited dick pics (happy to receive deck or duck pics fyi)

🦆

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By *onmar02Couple (MM) 15 weeks ago

Bargoed


"Plenty of straight guys are happy to meet single guys"

But how many bi guys are wanting to meet m/m couples.

Had it before when I've seen a guys profile and want to send a wink just as a compliment but can't as they not looking for single guys yet my profile is m/m couple.

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