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This is a serious post regarding mental health.
Men suffer yet find it hard to talk to someone. I'm a big joker and love having a laugh but sometimes I've been in a dark place.
Hence my sabatical away from the world of fab for a few years.
Nowadays, I'm in a really good place both mentally and physically.
Talking helps 
Men and women, if you feel you need to talk or get something off of your chest and maybe have a rant, this post is for you.
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In my current situation, I don't have a lot of folk to open up to and talk, fuck I need it but it is what it is.
Sometimes think it would be good to have an option to post a thread anonymously here to be able to share with others that are in this scene but on the other hand it would very quickly be abused and also this isn't the right place for that sort of talk. |
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As someone who has been a sufferer for nearly 3 decades, I'm an advocate for speaking up. I repressed feelings for 20 something years because of cultural misconceptions which ultimately lead me to a breakdown. There then was a period of masking problems and not really getting the help I needed which lead to another, much worse breakdown, taking 18 months of my life. I have been through the spectrum of recovery methods (medication, counselling etc), I have self harmed and been suicidal. I now know that talking and being expressive about my feelings ultimately helps me the most. |
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"In my current situation, I don't have a lot of folk to open up to and talk, fuck I need it but it is what it is.
Sometimes think it would be good to have an option to post a thread anonymously here to be able to share with others that are in this scene but on the other hand it would very quickly be abused and also this isn't the right place for that sort of talk. "
Posted to the lounge, been in many a lounge at swingers parties and sometimes the conversation isn't always about sex.
Yes we are mostly here for that but by talking about this we might actually save someone who is struggling x |
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"In my current situation, I don't have a lot of folk to open up to and talk, fuck I need it but it is what it is.
Sometimes think it would be good to have an option to post a thread anonymously here to be able to share with others that are in this scene but on the other hand it would very quickly be abused and also this isn't the right place for that sort of talk. "
Anywhere can be a good place to talk even on a site like this.
I suffer from anxiety and depression and used to be ashamed to talk about it, now I open up and speak about it anywhere, I am not ashamed anymore.
I too do not have many people to open up and talk to and can feel very lonely however, sometimes opening up to strangers can give a new perspective on things. Yes there will be the haters but on the whole you may be surprised at how many people will share their experiences and help you.
It is true, you are not alone 👍 |
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"As someone who has been a sufferer for nearly 3 decades, I'm an advocate for speaking up. I repressed feelings for 20 something years because of cultural misconceptions which ultimately lead me to a breakdown. There then was a period of masking problems and not really getting the help I needed which lead to another, much worse breakdown, taking 18 months of my life. I have been through the spectrum of recovery methods (medication, counselling etc), I have self harmed and been suicidal. I now know that talking and being expressive about my feelings ultimately helps me the most. "
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"As someone who has been a sufferer for nearly 3 decades, I'm an advocate for speaking up. I repressed feelings for 20 something years because of cultural misconceptions which ultimately lead me to a breakdown. There then was a period of masking problems and not really getting the help I needed which lead to another, much worse breakdown, taking 18 months of my life. I have been through the spectrum of recovery methods (medication, counselling etc), I have self harmed and been suicidal. I now know that talking and being expressive about my feelings ultimately helps me the most.
Thank you for sharing x "
No problem
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Suffered with depression my whole life.
Currently in Therapy and on meds.
Suicide is the leading cause of death in men under 50.
1 in 4 people will be diagnosed with mental health problems.
Over 50% of people will report experiencing mental health symptoms.
Do not suffer in silence.
There is no shame in needing or asking for help.
If you're in the North, Pandora are hosting Mind Matters events to raise money for Mental Health Charities and provide a welcoming space.
I'm doing the Tough Mudder Holy Grail for MIND next year.
You are not alone.
If you're a manager or a boss, look into things like Mental Health First Aiders. Making sure there is support will help your business. |
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"Suffered with depression my whole life.
Currently in Therapy and on meds.
Suicide is the leading cause of death in men under 50.
1 in 4 people will be diagnosed with mental health problems.
Over 50% of people will report experiencing mental health symptoms.
Do not suffer in silence.
There is no shame in needing or asking for help.
If you're in the North, Pandora are hosting Mind Matters events to raise money for Mental Health Charities and provide a welcoming space.
I'm doing the Tough Mudder Holy Grail for MIND next year.
You are not alone.
If you're a manager or a boss, look into things like Mental Health First Aiders. Making sure there is support will help your business."
Great information 🙏 |
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In the Midlands and I think south there is men's walking and talking. It's a weekly walk and is free to turn up and just talk to other men about anything, it's a good hour and a highlight of the week. Andnit happens rain,sun or snow!! |
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Brilliant post! I have at times been in a very dark place. I still struggle to talk about how I feel. I would put money on me not being the only one, but I find it easier to talk to a stranger than I do to those close to me. I think the idea of being able to chat on here genuinely could be of help to people. |
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"Brilliant post! I have at times been in a very dark place. I still struggle to talk about how I feel. I would put money on me not being the only one, but I find it easier to talk to a stranger than I do to those close to me. I think the idea of being able to chat on here genuinely could be of help to people."
Most of us on this site are being discreet for various reasons so being able to talk and share our feelings in an anonymous manner can help.
Rather that putting so called attention seeking posts on other social media outlets and being ridiculed by trolls.
Yes, I comment some crazy shit on the forums and updates on here but this post is for anyone to vent off and seek help on x |
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Great post OP, as someone who was diagnosed with clinical depression over 20 years ago I still have a whole piece of my life I have to hide behind an act and a smile. My thought is always that you never know what is going on behind the curtains in that person's life. I am a believer that nobody gets up with the intention of causing anybody intentional mental or physical pain, things happen which effect that person's decisions during that day.
My Depression is like a constant white noise that impairs the brains ability to make normal and rational decisions and instead just stores up the questions to run through all the possible outcomes. At times people just need to stop this white noise which is when people start to go down a path, meds can help, therapy can help and talking can help. Every person's depressions is different and unique to them and one treatment will be different to someone else's but it's a bit like addiction the person has to recognise and admit they have a problem to them be able to want to learn how to manage their mental health more positively rather than feeding the negativity.
Sorry I know I have rambled here.......
If anyone wants to chat my inbox is always open
A smile, an hello or a random act of kindness can not only change someone's day, it could save someone's life on that day! |
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Mental health is such an individual thing and can affect people in different ways.
Most who see me on a day to day basis would say there is nothing wrong with my life, and yes that can be said about many. I know people are worse off than me and I know people are better off than me.
I have friends I can talk to but at times it feels as if the record doesn't change or the outcome doesn't change. No matter how much others tell me they want me to be around, deep down I can't see what's the point. And the only person who can watch me 24/7 is me. |
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"Mental health is such an individual thing and can affect people in different ways.
Most who see me on a day to day basis would say there is nothing wrong with my life, and yes that can be said about many. I know people are worse off than me and I know people are better off than me.
I have friends I can talk to but at times it feels as if the record doesn't change or the outcome doesn't change. No matter how much others tell me they want me to be around, deep down I can't see what's the point. And the only person who can watch me 24/7 is me. "
This is exactly the point!
Every problem in the world is relevant to person life and personal circumstances. I know that there are people starving, face homelessness even war. Yet my brain can only focus on the problems that are only relevant to me. Is that me being selfish? At times I think it is and at other times I think it's not, and then start to feel guilty about being depressed when I have a good life. This is just a snippet of how depression can work.
The problem with a large part of society at the moment is it that it thinks depression can be fixed so when people offer advice they think they are being helpful by offering solutions.
There is no fix for depression it is something that has to be managed by the person that has it, and unfortunately for too many people the depression wins with an unfortunate consequence |
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"Mental health is such an individual thing and can affect people in different ways.
Most who see me on a day to day basis would say there is nothing wrong with my life, and yes that can be said about many. I know people are worse off than me and I know people are better off than me.
I have friends I can talk to but at times it feels as if the record doesn't change or the outcome doesn't change. No matter how much others tell me they want me to be around, deep down I can't see what's the point. And the only person who can watch me 24/7 is me. "
Thank you for sharing. There are plenty of people on here that are open to talk. Yes it's a site for swingers but this is the lounge and we are all good to talk in the lounge.
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"Mental health is such an individual thing and can affect people in different ways.
Most who see me on a day to day basis would say there is nothing wrong with my life, and yes that can be said about many. I know people are worse off than me and I know people are better off than me.
I have friends I can talk to but at times it feels as if the record doesn't change or the outcome doesn't change. No matter how much others tell me they want me to be around, deep down I can't see what's the point. And the only person who can watch me 24/7 is me.
Thank you for sharing. There are plenty of people on here that are open to talk. Yes it's a site for swingers but this is the lounge and we are all good to talk in the lounge.
YOU/WE ARE NOT ALONE "
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"Great post OP, as someone who was diagnosed with clinical depression over 20 years ago I still have a whole piece of my life I have to hide behind an act and a smile. My thought is always that you never know what is going on behind the curtains in that person's life. I am a believer that nobody gets up with the intention of causing anybody intentional mental or physical pain, things happen which effect that person's decisions during that day.
My Depression is like a constant white noise that impairs the brains ability to make normal and rational decisions and instead just stores up the questions to run through all the possible outcomes. At times people just need to stop this white noise which is when people start to go down a path, meds can help, therapy can help and talking can help. Every person's depressions is different and unique to them and one treatment will be different to someone else's but it's a bit like addiction the person has to recognise and admit they have a problem to them be able to want to learn how to manage their mental health more positively rather than feeding the negativity.
Sorry I know I have rambled here.......
If anyone wants to chat my inbox is always open
A smile, an hello or a random act of kindness can not only change someone's day, it could save someone's life on that day!"
I have a busy life in business and have video meets with clients and colleagues from across the globe at various hours over the 24hr period.
Sometimes I just smile and laugh saying everything is ok when it isn't.
It is good to talk (this is not an endorsment for Bob Hoskins and BT)
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Sometimes you don’t talk about it because you feel like there’s nothing worse and nothing more draining than being the person in someone’s life that is always depressed. I think that’s why we smile and play fun guy. |
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It has been wonderful for people to share/reach out or offer support on this post.
Many thanks for the contributions to the thread.
This is a subject that we should all feel more comfortable speaking about.
Yes we have the cucks, sissys and bulls on the site. But we also have men and women that sometimes just need that little non sexual interaction.
This is why we have the lounge x
Ok, a quick online teams meeting with Australian clients as they start their busy day, then it's off to bed because I'm running on GMT
Guys/Girls, reach out if you need to talk. There is plenty of people on this thread x
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"Sometimes you don’t talk about it because you feel like there’s nothing worse and nothing more draining than being the person in someone’s life that is always depressed. I think that’s why we smile and play fun guy. "
Get this. |
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"Mental health is such an individual thing and can affect people in different ways.
Most who see me on a day to day basis would say there is nothing wrong with my life, and yes that can be said about many. I know people are worse off than me and I know people are better off than me.
I have friends I can talk to but at times it feels as if the record doesn't change or the outcome doesn't change. No matter how much others tell me they want me to be around, deep down I can't see what's the point. And the only person who can watch me 24/7 is me.
This is exactly the point!
Every problem in the world is relevant to person life and personal circumstances. I know that there are people starving, face homelessness even war. Yet my brain can only focus on the problems that are only relevant to me. Is that me being selfish? At times I think it is and at other times I think it's not, and then start to feel guilty about being depressed when I have a good life. This is just a snippet of how depression can work.
The problem with a large part of society at the moment is it that it thinks depression can be fixed so when people offer advice they think they are being helpful by offering solutions.
There is no fix for depression it is something that has to be managed by the person that has it, and unfortunately for too many people the depression wins with an unfortunate consequence "
I get the guilt. They are worse off but can handle it so why can't I handle mine. |
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I get the guilt. They are worse off but can handle it so why can't I handle mine. "
I get guilt too.
The whole, "How can I be sad. I have no reason to be sad, lonely, hurting etc."
Mental Illness has lots of different causes.
So people cope with stresses better than others.
But it's just like having the flu, or a broken leg. Some people don't hurt as much, some people heal faster, some people are really good on crutches.
But you are deserving of both compassion, support and help. |
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Quick links and numbers.
If things are bad you can access mental health support at your local A&E or you can call 111
Samaritans 116 123
Campaign Against Living Miserably
https://www.thecalmzone.net
MIND
https://www.mind.org.uk
Andy's Man Club (Groups for men to meet up and talk)
https://andysmanclub.co.uk/
RunTalkRun Worldwide Organisation helping people access mental health support and exercise
https://www.runtalkrun.com/
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Joking is my coping mechanism, and that’s in any situation, im really not the person to have at a funeral, currently in a bit of a dark place, work and general life are not going as I’d hoped at the moment, but I smile and carry on, no real friends to talk to anymore so it’s just bottled up and hiding behind a smile…… yes i’m fine.🙂 |
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"Quick links and numbers.
If things are bad you can access mental health support at your local A&E or you can call 111
Samaritans 116 123
Campaign Against Living Miserably
https://www.thecalmzone.net
MIND
https://www.mind.org.uk
Andy's Man Club (Groups for men to meet up and talk)
https://andysmanclub.co.uk/
RunTalkRun Worldwide Organisation helping people access mental health support and exercise
https://www.runtalkrun.com/
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Didn`t think I`d reply to this as it is too close to my heart, went to so-called therapy, kinda tricky when your mind works faster than the therapist who spent her time clock watching and filling in forms. Now just self medicating with far too much alcohol and the biggest brash persona you`ll ever see - like the swan serene on top but just look at me legs... |
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Brilliant thread. I myself have had various issues with mental health over the years and I'm currently going through smoother bit right now.
I think often the toughest thing for men is to actually open up and talk to someone due to regimented, slightly toxic conditioning where we're all supposed to be "strong" and not show emotion.
A few services have already been mentioned, but on a personal level I can highly recommend seeking out your local Andy's Man Club Group. I've been going for around seven months. Ow and it helps me massively. Even sometimes if only to sit and listen to others. |
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Last few years I've had some anxiety issues, could be days and weeks on end feeling I could do nothing right, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something insignificant that happened months ago, but I've always bottled things up and mask it all with jokes.
I've always struggled to talk about it, as I feel I should "suck it up", and don't want to appear exposed or vulnerable to others, especially in front of my son, who I try to be a rock for (but this rock is eroding)
Even this post I've re-read and re-written multiple times and still it's not good enough....
Thanks OP for starting this thread, lots of very useful information for someone in my position. |
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It takes time to find out what works for you. Just because it works for some one else doesn't mean it will work for you.
I have tried various things, apart from medication as worry that may give me the confidence to try and do it again.
I am trying recovery college courses for the first time, and first time doing any sort of group stuff.
I am trying to keep an open mind but not sure it will work. Think am stuck with these thoughts and just surviving rather than living. |
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"Quick links and numbers.
If things are bad you can access mental health support at your local A&E or you can call 111
Samaritans 116 123
Campaign Against Living Miserably
https://www.thecalmzone.net
MIND
https://www.mind.org.uk
Andy's Man Club (Groups for men to meet up and talk)
https://andysmanclub.co.uk/
RunTalkRun Worldwide Organisation helping people access mental health support and exercise
https://www.runtalkrun.com/
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This is a great thread. Thank you OP. Raising awareness for mental health is important. Especially for men. It’s mental health awareness day on 10th October. Most people say they are fine when you ask how they are. So ask them again. No really, how are you?… it’s shows you mean it and are not just asking. |
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"Sometimes you don’t talk about it because you feel like there’s nothing worse and nothing more draining than being the person in someone’s life that is always depressed. I think that’s why we smile and play fun guy. "
Steve that is a comment that has struck chord with me pal, I know exactly how that is, it is one of my acting roles that I should have won an Oscar for by now! |
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"Mental health is such an individual thing and can affect people in different ways.
Most who see me on a day to day basis would say there is nothing wrong with my life, and yes that can be said about many. I know people are worse off than me and I know people are better off than me.
I have friends I can talk to but at times it feels as if the record doesn't change or the outcome doesn't change. No matter how much others tell me they want me to be around, deep down I can't see what's the point. And the only person who can watch me 24/7 is me.
This is exactly the point!
Every problem in the world is relevant to person life and personal circumstances. I know that there are people starving, face homelessness even war. Yet my brain can only focus on the problems that are only relevant to me. Is that me being selfish? At times I think it is and at other times I think it's not, and then start to feel guilty about being depressed when I have a good life. This is just a snippet of how depression can work.
The problem with a large part of society at the moment is it that it thinks depression can be fixed so when people offer advice they think they are being helpful by offering solutions.
There is no fix for depression it is something that has to be managed by the person that has it, and unfortunately for too many people the depression wins with an unfortunate consequence
I get the guilt. They are worse off but can handle it so why can't I handle mine. "
Because the chemicals around your brain aren't quite right, which is stopping the rational part of your brain kicking in, this is where medication can help, but you then have to retrain your brain to work again, if that makes sense |
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"Didn`t think I`d reply to this as it is too close to my heart, went to so-called therapy, kinda tricky when your mind works faster than the therapist who spent her time clock watching and filling in forms. Now just self medicating with far too much alcohol and the biggest brash persona you`ll ever see - like the swan serene on top but just look at me legs..."
Therapy isn't for everyone, I've had 8 over the years and only really connected with one. For me therapy is a bit like a relationship for it to work I have to believe the person is helping me because they want to more than because they are being paid to!
Most of the therapist I have worked with have talked more about themselves and used the old cognative behaviour training as the answer, again doesn't work for everyone
Unfortunately I'm 20 years in and still learning about myself and the condition  |
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"Brilliant thread. I myself have had various issues with mental health over the years and I'm currently going through smoother bit right now.
I think often the toughest thing for men is to actually open up and talk to someone due to regimented, slightly toxic conditioning where we're all supposed to be "strong" and not show emotion.
A few services have already been mentioned, but on a personal level I can highly recommend seeking out your local Andy's Man Club Group. I've been going for around seven months. Ow and it helps me massively. Even sometimes if only to sit and listen to others."
I absolutely agree with you about the role conditioning for a young age, I was told I had a problem but denied it for 4 years until I burnt out and had to change my life |
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"Brilliant thread. I myself have had various issues with mental health over the years and I'm currently going through smoother bit right now.
I think often the toughest thing for men is to actually open up and talk to someone due to regimented, slightly toxic conditioning where we're all supposed to be "strong" and not show emotion.
A few services have already been mentioned, but on a personal level I can highly recommend seeking out your local Andy's Man Club Group. I've been going for around seven months. Ow and it helps me massively. Even sometimes if only to sit and listen to others."
I.had never heard of Andys man club, until on her the other day, I am.going to look up.my local and go along I think |
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"Last few years I've had some anxiety issues, could be days and weeks on end feeling I could do nothing right, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something insignificant that happened months ago, but I've always bottled things up and mask it all with jokes.
I've always struggled to talk about it, as I feel I should "suck it up", and don't want to appear exposed or vulnerable to others, especially in front of my son, who I try to be a rock for (but this rock is eroding)
Even this post I've re-read and re-written multiple times and still it's not good enough....
Thanks OP for starting this thread, lots of very useful information for someone in my position."
Feel free to DM me if you want bud |
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"Last few years I've had some anxiety issues, could be days and weeks on end feeling I could do nothing right, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something insignificant that happened months ago, but I've always bottled things up and mask it all with jokes.
I've always struggled to talk about it, as I feel I should "suck it up", and don't want to appear exposed or vulnerable to others, especially in front of my son, who I try to be a rock for (but this rock is eroding)
Even this post I've re-read and re-written multiple times and still it's not good enough....
Thanks OP for starting this thread, lots of very useful information for someone in my position.
Feel free to DM me if you want bud "
Appreciate that |
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By *ddy86Man 8 weeks ago
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As someone who's been there, is there & Will no doubt be there again, trust me, reaching out helps. It's the hardest step, but my god when you take it!
I'll always chat with anyone who's suffering, without judgement or expectation. So as others have said in here, my DMs are always open. |
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"Last few years I've had some anxiety issues, could be days and weeks on end feeling I could do nothing right, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something insignificant that happened months ago, but I've always bottled things up and mask it all with jokes.
I've always struggled to talk about it, as I feel I should "suck it up", and don't want to appear exposed or vulnerable to others, especially in front of my son, who I try to be a rock for (but this rock is eroding)
Even this post I've re-read and re-written multiple times and still it's not good enough....
Thanks OP for starting this thread, lots of very useful information for someone in my position.
Feel free to DM me if you want bud
Appreciate that "
No worries, it's a long road but I am living proof that you can get through each day |
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"Last few years I've had some anxiety issues, could be days and weeks on end feeling I could do nothing right, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something insignificant that happened months ago, but I've always bottled things up and mask it all with jokes.
I've always struggled to talk about it, as I feel I should "suck it up", and don't want to appear exposed or vulnerable to others, especially in front of my son, who I try to be a rock for (but this rock is eroding)
Even this post I've re-read and re-written multiple times and still it's not good enough....
Thanks OP for starting this thread, lots of very useful information for someone in my position.
Feel free to DM me if you want bud
Appreciate that
No worries, it's a long road but I am living proof that you can get through each day"
Have had a good few weeks, but today has been particularly difficult |
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"Last few years I've had some anxiety issues, could be days and weeks on end feeling I could do nothing right, waking up in the middle of the night worrying about something insignificant that happened months ago, but I've always bottled things up and mask it all with jokes.
I've always struggled to talk about it, as I feel I should "suck it up", and don't want to appear exposed or vulnerable to others, especially in front of my son, who I try to be a rock for (but this rock is eroding)
Even this post I've re-read and re-written multiple times and still it's not good enough....
Thanks OP for starting this thread, lots of very useful information for someone in my position.
Feel free to DM me if you want bud
Appreciate that
No worries, it's a long road but I am living proof that you can get through each day
Have had a good few weeks, but today has been particularly difficult"
It's about learning the ability to be able press the reset button overnight and not carry the baggage of today through to tomorrow, which is obviously easier said than done |
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"This is a serious post regarding mental health.
Men suffer yet find it hard to talk to someone. I'm a big joker and love having a laugh but sometimes I've been in a dark place.
Hence my sabatical away from the world of fab for a few years.
Nowadays, I'm in a really good place both mentally and physically.
Talking helps
Men and women, if you feel you need to talk or get something off of your chest and maybe have a rant, this post is for you.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE "
I joke around Hayd my PTSD anxiety and depression put a brave face on everything day after day unfortunately minor due to the forces stuff I’ve seen have seen stuff I’ve done my PTSD was only diagnosed 10 years ago and I came out the forces when I was 26, all we have to do is be strong take every day as it comes and unfortunately us men we don’t reach out we don’t cry for help but on a serious note anyone suffering more than welcome to reach out drop us a message have a chat
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By *tan300Man 8 weeks ago
portsmouth |
I suffered most of my life with bad mental health.I self medicated so also had a drug problem, but I hid it all. I hid Who I really was from everyone until it got to the point where actually knowing who I was became a massive problem.The thing that got me though is when I finally cracked and was in an out of mental hospitals The amount of people that turn their back on you. I worked for a scaffold firm SCA I was on there for a couple of years without a problem but then I got sick and sectioned and when I went back to work, I was called into the office and laid off because of lack of work I found out from mates That they got agency men in.I even said to the manager that sacked me has this got anything to do with where I’ve been and he pretended that he had no idea.Still makes me angry. |
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By *andyrod1Man 6 weeks ago
St Margaret's at Cliffe |
I have PTSD, generally l am ok but the odd little thing can set it off.
I came very close to ending it all during COVID but l kept going as l knew the effect it would have on my boys.
I am quite a solitary person so do not talk about it much, just quietly live with it. |
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For 6years ive battled with mental health i lost me twin brother then 2weeks later my mother so i was suffering in silent pushed my kids and family away went of the rails abit lost me license my job through it all but back in 2023 i bounced back to person im today and now i can talk openly about my suffering got my kids back in my life new job etc i found listen too linkin parks one more light album helped me aswell just listen to the words and still do but now im happy with life |
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"This is a serious post regarding mental health.
Men suffer yet find it hard to talk to someone. I'm a big joker and love having a laugh but sometimes I've been in a dark place.
Hence my sabatical away from the world of fab for a few years.
Nowadays, I'm in a really good place both mentally and physically.
Talking helps
Men and women, if you feel you need to talk or get something off of your chest and maybe have a rant, this post is for you.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE "
Thank you all for these posts. I cannot truly express how blessed I feel to be able to read all your words. |
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Sometimes the thought of offloading all in your head is overwhelming and exhausting in itself - 'Do people understand can they truly when nobody knows whats happening in my head? Can we trust them? Will they listen? They don't want to be burdened with me'
So it's easier to smile and say 'I'm fine'
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You/we are not alone.
Men still have a stigma attached to them that they can't show emotion or be upset/depressed.
While thankfully you don't see it as often now, it is still there and often at the back of someone's mind.
I used to really suffer with mental health issues before, but went to "Andys man's club" and found that it was a great place to realise you aren't alone.
The guys there are really supportive and each person has their own story. First few days I sat there and didn't say anything, the next few times I contributed and said something. Eventually getting to a point where I offered advice too.
You may go in thinking it's just a load of guys crying in a room. I can assure you it isn't, the questions are lighthearted and targeted to let you vent but also to take your mind off it.
I'm still feeling over being asked which way you stack your toilet roll haha |
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First time here. And first time sharing anything like this w strangers so forgive me..
I deal w depression and anxiety almost everyday. I agree me have been thought, usually by example, to burry these emotions and have them under control. But I think women are also thought to expect it. I've had previous experiences that I thought my partner was understanding of my own mental health issues, but once I let my guard down those were perceived as unattractive or a weakness. The idea that men have to be the pillar of the relationship or family puts allot of pressure on someone. I find it hard to open up about my problems w anyone because of this.
Curious to hear of other people's thoughts. I do thing these conversations could help do away with these social constructs that aren't really needed in today's society.
Thanks for everyone's sharing their testimonies. |
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"First time here. And first time sharing anything like this w strangers so forgive me..
I deal w depression and anxiety almost everyday. I agree me have been thought, usually by example, to burry these emotions and have them under control. But I think women are also thought to expect it. I've had previous experiences that I thought my partner was understanding of my own mental health issues, but once I let my guard down those were perceived as unattractive or a weakness. The idea that men have to be the pillar of the relationship or family puts allot of pressure on someone. I find it hard to open up about my problems w anyone because of this.
Curious to hear of other people's thoughts. I do thing these conversations could help do away with these social constructs that aren't really needed in today's society.
Thanks for everyone's sharing their testimonies. "
Hope you are OK |
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I hope everyone is doing good this evening/morning (Not sure when the clocks change)
My house is a little crazy tonight and my kitchen is full of people and not a chef in sight.
Some are talking utter bollox and some need to go home.
I've taken the time to write this post so you know that however you find yourself in times of madness, we are not alone |
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Good morning beautiful people
After a couple of difficult weeks I'm pleased to say I'm feeling normal again (well as normal as I've ever been)
Just remember gents your the reason some has smiled today
You are worth so much more than you think
It's always darkest before the dawn
Take care of yourselves and each other
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