Just wanting some thoughts on how people feel about meeting locations.
I like to have a social first usually to see if there is any chemistry. Somewhere like a pub or a cafe/ coffee shop. Somewhere public.
I once had a social in McDonald’s!
I can’t accommodate anymore but previously I did, but I’ve also been to others places.
More recently I think I would prefer for an actual meet to be in a hotel away from my / their personal life. How do people feel about this kind of thing?
Just wanting to see what is common place these days. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
|
I wouldn't go to anyone's home or have them to mine so a club or a hotel is the only places I meet. Social is important beforehand to see of there's a vibe also. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
For socials I prefer it to be a social and not with intentions "if" it goes well, so coffee, pub, walk somewhere nice is good.
We have met in a bar of a hotel and gone back to the room in the past but personally I don't like the added expectation, I'd rather book somewhere following the social if that makes sense.
Mrs |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ima7893Man 8 weeks ago
Cardiff (Home) / London (Work) |
"I wouldn't go to anyone's home or have them to mine so a club or a hotel is the only places I meet. Social is important beforehand to see of there's a vibe also."
Agree with this, I’ve always met first in a nice hotel, simply because I think it provides the right atmosphere to get to know someone. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just wanting some thoughts on how people feel about meeting locations."
The lady is married.
"I can’t accommodate anymore but previously I did, but I’ve also been to others places."
She's married.
"More recently I think I would prefer for an actual meet to be in a hotel away from my / their personal life."
She's married.
#I'mJustTeasing. ♥️ |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
. |
"Just wanting some thoughts on how people feel about meeting locations.
The lady is married.
I can’t accommodate anymore but previously I did, but I’ve also been to others places. She's married.
More recently I think I would prefer for an actual meet to be in a hotel away from my / their personal life. She's married.
#I'mJustTeasing. ♥️"
😁 Stop being such a cad. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Personally I only meet socially first, then if we both want to, book somewhere to go at a later date.
I don't accom as thats for me and my partner only & I wouldn't automatically expect anyone to accom me.
So I think hotels are fine, once you've met them and know they aren't a flake or a no show.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I generally ask for a social meet up first, usually a lunchtime coffee date, so neither of us is committing too much time if there's no spark face to face. Coffee houses, hotel bars, even motorway services cafes lol! Just somewhere public for the lady to feel safe if she's alone, and a quick getaway for each of us if it doesn't work out  
Actual play dates have been at home addresses, hotels (including day rates), or the great outdoors when required.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just wanting some thoughts on how people feel about meeting locations.
The lady is married.
I can’t accommodate anymore but previously I did, but I’ve also been to others places. She's married.
More recently I think I would prefer for an actual meet to be in a hotel away from my / their personal life. She's married.
#I'mJustTeasing. ♥️
·
😁 Stop being such a cad."
Yes, mistress. 🕳️ |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Social is a must just to see how you engage with them. If its like pulling teeth just chatting then sex with be terrible i think"
Oh no, I’ve had some amazing sex with people I have zero in common with so conversation is a polite formality. Of course it helps to be able to converse but that’s not always necessary 
.
To the OP’s point. I haven’t met anyone new in a while but always first meet in public, regardless if it’s just a social or pre-requisite social with likely dalliance after.
For the actual dalliance, once I’ve sussed I’m not likely to be abducted etc, I prefer theirs. Mostly because hotels get expensive and I won’t accommodate at mine (it’s my space plus there’s often someone else - not a partner - here plus the cleaning in advance!)
Also it tends to be more relaxing in someone’s home.
Like all things fab related, just comes down to preferences I suspect! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Hi OP - for me initial attraction, nascent chemistry and mental connection are usually established through extensive chatting / messaging (over weeks/month/s) before any social. In regards to the actual social my approach is to meet for a coffee in a nice café or perhaps even an informal (but short) luncheon in a bar if the mood is more towards a traditional date.
In regards to "an actual meet" then it's always a hotel. It's neutral territory, relaxed and safe. 🦋 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Great thread this OP,
I always have a social first to see if the same chemistry is there face to face as there is on chat, plus you need to know the person is who they say they are lol
I have used Costa, hotel lobby's as these seem to be the types of places that generate the right sort of relaxed and familiar vibe where both people can relax, reduces the expectation for anything more to happen there and then, if that makes sense |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *equila89Man 8 weeks ago
Tortured Poets Department |
I’m yet to interact with anyone who maintains communication for longer than a couple of days, if that. No matter how positive they seem, they will disappear. When you’re not exactly a looker and you’re message 289 that morning, going from an introduction here to a coffee next week, and having that happen, is a mammoth undertaking. I’d sooner just go to events. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *8on33Man 8 weeks ago
winfrith |
"Just wanting some thoughts on how people feel about meeting locations.
I like to have a social first usually to see if there is any chemistry. Somewhere like a pub or a cafe/ coffee shop. Somewhere public.
I once had a social in McDonald’s!
I can’t accommodate anymore but previously I did, but I’ve also been to others places.
More recently I think I would prefer for an actual meet to be in a hotel away from my / their personal life. How do people feel about this kind of thing?
Just wanting to see what is common place these days. "
Suppose it depends whether you get on but obviously the cost of the hotel comes into play ,I've met several couples in hotels they were staying mind so no outlay for me . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Most hotels have an open area, where you can meet for social engagements. Some might prefer a place that doesn't seem so much of a pressure on them, to get together sexually though
I meet mainly in hotels for sex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"For socials I prefer it to be a social and not with intentions "if" it goes well, so coffee, pub, walk somewhere nice is good.
We are the same first is only a social meeting to see if we click.
We have met in a bar of a hotel and gone back to the room in the past but personally I don't like the added expectation, I'd rather book somewhere following the social if that makes sense.
Mrs "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Meeting up socially first in a neutral place is a great way of seeing if there is chemistry - the sex id often better that way.
I never use hotels and have to admit I have gone to complete strangers places and invited them back to mine. Sounds crazy when you say it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
For socials I like to do something a little bit different. Maybe a long walk, sightseeing, art gallery, museum… something where you have stimulus to chat and build connection. That also affords more freedom to talk than in Costa where the old dears can listen.
A first meet is often in a hotel at a mutually convenient location, somewhere that’s comfortable and where you are both safer.
If after that, we both continue to get together, then I’m happy to accommodate or use hotels. I rarely accommodate on a first meet, simply because a partners safety and comfort is paramount |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just wanting some thoughts on how people feel about meeting locations.
The lady is married.
I can’t accommodate anymore but previously I did, but I’ve also been to others places. She's married.
More recently I think I would prefer for an actual meet to be in a hotel away from my / their personal life. She's married.
#I'mJustTeasing. ♥️"
Yes married, but play only with permission. I always inform meets of my circumstances. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Social is a must just to see how you engage with them. If its like pulling teeth just chatting then sex with be terrible i think
Oh no, I’ve had some amazing sex with people I have zero in common with so conversation is a polite formality. Of course it helps to be able to converse but that’s not always necessary
.
To the OP’s point. I haven’t met anyone new in a while but always first meet in public, regardless if it’s just a social or pre-requisite social with likely dalliance after.
For the actual dalliance, once I’ve sussed I’m not likely to be abducted etc, I prefer theirs. Mostly because hotels get expensive and I won’t accommodate at mine (it’s my space plus there’s often someone else - not a partner - here plus the cleaning in advance!)
Also it tends to be more relaxing in someone’s home.
Like all things fab related, just comes down to preferences I suspect!"
Thanks for your point view-nice to know we have had the opposite but still had a good experience. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Social is a must just to see how you engage with them. If its like pulling teeth just chatting then sex with be terrible i think
Oh no, I’ve had some amazing sex with people I have zero in common with so conversation is a polite formality. Of course it helps to be able to converse but that’s not always necessary
.
To the OP’s point. I haven’t met anyone new in a while but always first meet in public, regardless if it’s just a social or pre-requisite social with likely dalliance after.
For the actual dalliance, once I’ve sussed I’m not likely to be abducted etc, I prefer theirs. Mostly because hotels get expensive and I won’t accommodate at mine (it’s my space plus there’s often someone else - not a partner - here plus the cleaning in advance!)
Also it tends to be more relaxing in someone’s home.
Like all things fab related, just comes down to preferences I suspect!"
It’s a weird one, I think a lot of people in the age bracket that I am now in are likely to have partners and or children or even teens at home. Which makes homes sort of out of bounds, I feel.
Yet hotels can feel somewhat clinical.
Thank you for your reply |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Great thread this OP,
I always have a social first to see if the same chemistry is there face to face as there is on chat, plus you need to know the person is who they say they are lol
I have used Costa, hotel lobby's as these seem to be the types of places that generate the right sort of relaxed and familiar vibe where both people can relax, reduces the expectation for anything more to happen there and then, if that makes sense "
Makes absolute sense.
Thankfully I’ve never had anyone turn up who wasn’t who they said they were.
BUT I do know other people who have.
For me chemistry is really important and it’s either there or not so I need to meet someone socially to know if that’s the case. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’m yet to interact with anyone who maintains communication for longer than a couple of days, if that. No matter how positive they seem, they will disappear. When you’re not exactly a looker and you’re message 289 that morning, going from an introduction here to a coffee next week, and having that happen, is a mammoth undertaking. I’d sooner just go to events."
It can be rough on here. It’ll either boost your ego or destroy it. Hang in there, be true to yourself, above all else. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My socials meets have always been at either a pub or coffee shop, I have no agenda apart from hoping for a pleasant chat and maybe we will click, sometimes fun will follow or will arrange to meet again at a later date for some proper organised sex. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"For socials I like to do something a little bit different. Maybe a long walk, sightseeing, art gallery, museum… something where you have stimulus to chat and build connection. That also affords more freedom to talk than in Costa where the old dears can listen.
A first meet is often in a hotel at a mutually convenient location, somewhere that’s comfortable and where you are both safer.
If after that, we both continue to get together, then I’m happy to accommodate or use hotels. I rarely accommodate on a first meet, simply because a partners safety and comfort is paramount "
I’ve never had anyone suggest a museum before! I would be happy with a walk, or something outside of the coffee shop setting. I would be willing to negotiate for the right person.
I think as a woman the safe option always feels like the place where all the people are, but yes it does make some conversations more difficult to have. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Although not prolific, I've certainly had a few meets. Each one different and not all brilliant.
I am pretty easy going and will disarm with charm and some funny stories. I will tend to chat about Fab and some of the horrendous stories and find that it's a great leveller, fun and the exceptionally lucky lady will no doubt have lots of experience about weirdos on Fab and feel relaxed.
I don't search for the kiss, just a relaxing time. When we have finished chatting, there maybe a kiss or more. I then see myself out of her bedroom, pet the dog, wink at the hall mirror and leave.
Sorry I mean it's usually a pub. Coffee shops are too quiet but manageable. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
