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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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I need conversation and the feeling that at least you have something in common with each other and it’s not just based on looks
For me there are some good wordsmiths. Tell you what they think you want to hear.
Sometimes you have to realise it is all chat and going nowhere. And that’s okay as long as you’re honest
If I am looking to meet someone I would suggest taking it on another format than here.
If I can’t trust them with my number I’m definitely not trusting them in my bed |
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Oh.
I'm crap at it.
I'm either epic novel levels of word vomit or borderline monosyllabic.
Sometimes I don't have the spoons to reply so I'll leave a message for days.
If there's actual set plans I make sure I don't make them feel like I'm ghosting in the days before. But a casual mention of maybe meeting some undefined time in the possible future doesn't bind me to fighting through the spoonless days 💜 |
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?"
With those who chat in a similar way, yes. Not so much with others.
"How much do you need before meeting someone?"
Loads
"Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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I'd be a bit disappointed if I'd invested enough time into a conversation to have arranged meeting, but life happens. |
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I'm only as good as the person I'm chatting with. It feels like getting blood from a stone with some and I'm sure they probably feel the same towards me. Others, it's just effortless.
Yes, it would annoy me if I was left on read for days and they were constantly logging in. |
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If it’s someone were genuinely invested in then yes, it does seem rather rude. Our inbox is as busy as anyone else’s but we spot the ones from people we want to talk to immediately.
Me being in charge of the fabmin have a very short patience with that kind of thing.
Delete the message thread, unfriend and generally ignore from then onwards.
Occasionally we’re a little slow to respond but that’s only if it’s a conversation that needs H’s input or opinion or confirmation she’s happy to meet. |
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I like someone I can instantly bounce off. You can tell pretty quickly if you’ll be able to have a good laugh when you meet.
Left on read? It happens but, no point in getting annoyed about it. It’s Fab - smile and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I'm as good as the other person is. If they're just providing one word sentences, I'll entertain it for a bit before I just cut things off but if I can hold a conversation with them then I'm happy to chat to them and if a meet happens organically, then great! But if not, I'm not going to push it, especially due to distance in some cases. |
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By *HUSH-Man 13 weeks ago
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Am I any good at the chat? Depends on who I’m talking to.
I’ve had some really great chats on here. Some people I just click with. We flirt. They make me laugh, they make me open up and some have given me a raging hard on with their dirty talk.
Some fizzle out after a few sentences. I’ve had a few FAF’s (one I’m actually considering because quite frankly she’s hot enough to get away with being that lazy😂)
I don’t mind if people don’t respond to me right away. I do it too. |
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I always need conversation before agreeing to a social. I refuse to meet without it and it has to be two way conversation where I'm not carrying the load.
I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so it doesn't bother me if it takes a while for others to reply. |
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"I'm only as good as the person I'm chatting with. It feels like getting blood from a stone with some and I'm sure they probably feel the same towards me. Others, it's just effortless.
Yes, it would annoy me if I was left on read for days and they were constantly logging in."
I get this Willy.
Though it's not always a case of it being effort, sometimes I hold back or don't engage as I know for whatever reason it wouldn't go anywhere. |
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"I always need conversation before agreeing to a social. I refuse to meet without it and it has to be two way conversation where I'm not carrying the load.
I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so it doesn't bother me if it takes a while for others to reply. "
But how much conversation? Do you need to exchange messages every day? |
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I enjoy the back and forth of messaging and need to be engaged by them, flirted with and seduced (and doing similar in return- I hope)
For those who don't put the effort in I shut sown pretty quickly; I’d prefer to spend time messaging those I’m getting stimulated by than flogging a dead horse. |
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By *P994Man 13 weeks ago
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I like to think I’m a good conversationalist here, it depends what someone gives you to work with though. If it’s bare minimum in their replies I assume no interest if I’m making all the effort |
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"I'm only as good as the person I'm chatting with. It feels like getting blood from a stone with some and I'm sure they probably feel the same towards me. Others, it's just effortless.
Yes, it would annoy me if I was left on read for days and they were constantly logging in.
I get this Willy.
Though it's not always a case of it being effort, sometimes I hold back or don't engage as I know for whatever reason it wouldn't go anywhere. "
I get this Raven. |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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A lot depends on my time +energy levels... I don't deliberately not-reply to someone that i have some connection with.
In terms of meeting, people have different needs... I'm probably too laid back - If it's left too open ended it'll probably never happen - I much prefer having a plan presented.. ie, xx date, let's do x/y
if we've arranged to meet, then I'm pretty responsive, but I don't do war +peace... and there can be long periods between communication as I'm cognisant that peeps have lives 
In summary I'm probably terrible 🤣🤣 |
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"I always need conversation before agreeing to a social. I refuse to meet without it and it has to be two way conversation where I'm not carrying the load.
I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so it doesn't bother me if it takes a while for others to reply.
But how much conversation? Do you need to exchange messages every day? "
If I was thinking about meeting I wouldn't need a message every day but I need to know that they are interested in me as me and not just as another meet.
That requires them to make an effort. It wouldn't bother me if they they were chatting to others but if they aren't fully invested in me it is pretty obvious over a period of time.
That could take weeks or months as I don't meet randomly even when I am meeting. |
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By *hilloutMan 13 weeks ago
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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I'm good at it off and on here.
The amount of conversation varies and depends how good a connection is established.
Your last question hasn't happened yet, so can't comment. |
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?"
Yes. They have lead to some memorable dates.
"How much do you need before meeting someone?"
For me it's the qualitative factor as opposed to quantative. However, I'm a slow-ish burn.
"Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?"
I'm not quite clear - as in she's read the message but not replied for days? Or, the message remains unread? (Genuine question, not pedantry)
Either way, the answer is no. If the radio silence persists then I just assume she's no longer interested. That's fine too. (Well, it's not ideal but it's ok) |
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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Online convos are annoying, you might get on with one person in particular only to meet them irl and they are not what you want.
Better to meet up in person quickly imo. Then you can see if there's chemistry or not. |
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Conversation builds rapport, which tends to lead to a great connection - often leading to the very best of intimate outcomes. I'm always happy to chat until a woman feels comfortable and ready to escalate things. |
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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Yes i am pretty good at holding a conversation.
I prefer a FWB rather than NSA so i like a fair amount of conversation is needed.
How much depends on how well we click and usually we are both happy to talk regularly.
I don’t have a lot of free time to meet and want it to be with someone i really get on with and are compatible.
It depends on the reason as there are genuine reasons for not getting around to reply.
If it seems like i am being breadcrumbed i just move on. |
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We always make an effort with conversation but if we felt the other persons attention was not on us as much when they logged on then we’d soon knock it on the head.
You get a sense of someone when the conversation flows easily and it’s like pulling teeth when it doesn’t.
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I feel I’m good at conversation but always has to be two way. How long for a meet depends on how well we got on. I’m in no rush. If people don’t respond, I quite quickly forget about them no has never bothered me 🤷🏽♂️ |
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I find it difficult to get my sense of Humour over a text like in my head if I was talking in person sounds funny and witty and all but when I write it it looks condescending and meh. I always be honest tho and sometimes it might look like I’m boaring etc but I don’t think I am |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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Like above personality doesn’t shine through via a message, and then initially starting the conversation with one text is hard if not giving that response to do so, but people have the right to choose to respond or not, and it may just boil down to physical features, or the profile just not selling you. |
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Yeah all factors as well. It’s a mine field trying to answer people’s questions etc you don’t want to seem to keen but you want to sound interested. You don’t want to be or look to be unintentionally disrespectful to there partner etc. try to gage the heat of the chat and follow suit. It’s just really difficult and always learning. Where as in a face to face situation it’s so much easier |
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"Like above personality doesn’t shine through via a message, and then initially starting the conversation with one text is hard if not giving that response to do so, but people have the right to choose to respond or not, and it may just boil down to physical features, or the profile just not selling you."
I'd disagree, I can tell if I'd get on with someone via messages.
Lack of personality shines through amazingly well via message. |
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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Conversation isn’t hard as long as the other person puts something in to it. I can talk to pretty much anyone but the minute someone just starts being short/not putting effort in it’s an instant turn off. |
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"Like above personality doesn’t shine through via a message, and then initially starting the conversation with one text is hard if not giving that response to do so, but people have the right to choose to respond or not, and it may just boil down to physical features, or the profile just not selling you.
I'd disagree, I can tell if I'd get on with someone via messages.
Lack of personality shines through amazingly well via message."
Agree with you Raven, 🐦⬛ you can get what a person is about by their message. How they treat people, their tone, their personality.
A lot comes from a message and you can pick up on comparability very quickly for just one or two messages. |
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"Conversation
Are you good at it on here?
How much do you need before meeting someone?
Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?
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Feel ya it’s crap |
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"People who message constantly drive me insane. Like, fuck off I’ve got a life away from you, know your place and fucking wait, I’ll reply when it suits me, not you.
The mr "
We'd just ignore each over, it'd be great! ❤️ |
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I’m pretty shy in both text and in person. I find it difficult to sustain a conversation but I do try. It’s getting interest in the first place that is most difficult for me. This is not self-pity but honesty. |
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"People who message constantly drive me insane. Like, fuck off I’ve got a life away from you, know your place and fucking wait, I’ll reply when it suits me, not you.
The mr
We'd just ignore each over, it'd be great! ❤️"
No, it would just take 3/5 working days to say good morning.
The mr |
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