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How many verifications are too many?
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So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit? |
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"You can get 20+ verifications from 1 social event so no there isn't too many.
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I was about to make a similar statement but was blocked ….. I know some people can be uneasy about number of veris but not happened with me before |
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I am sure that for most people on here they have met or had a social date or a sexual meeting with more people off Fab than on it
No one ever asks for your full dating and sexual history when talking so I don’t see why displaying or having it here is negative for who or what you’ve done here
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I do get messages from newbies saying I have a lot of veris and that it’s intimidating. I remind them I have been here for six years and they are almost all from socials. In fact I think that’s on my profile. Only a few are from when I was a sex god railing three women at once by bungee jumping into their hoohoos. |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
Sounds like jealousy to me. Your getting some and have positive verifications they are not. There's no limit if your happy its your choice. |
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We see verifications as a good thing as gives others an insight into what you enjoy and don't and what sort of people you are we have meet people with no verifications and equally meet people will loads |
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By *bi HaiveMan 6 weeks ago
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Someone thinking I have too many veris is a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.
Nobody had a join date on their profile.
If it says 'over a year' it could be 13 months or 13 years.
And if people think a veri count is an accurate summary of someone's sex life documenting each and every fuck they've had.....? 🤔🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️😂😂😂🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
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By *riel13Woman 6 weeks ago
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Apparently we should be able to recognise them by their typing style... I used to get that alot but mostly from guys linked to other women... I was very active when I was first on here and didn't hide it... The people it matters to aren't your people, don't worry about them n just do what you want |
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Well i guess 7 was his limit!!
I guess it’s subjective as regards to meet verifications some might see a lot and think they have w chance or some might see a lot and think i don’t want to be a notch.
Personally it’s the quality of the verifications and do they get repeat meets?
Not into graphic write ups as i would rather a verification written back gives a general idea of what i was like without all the gory details.
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We had a message recently where the couple said we had too many veris. We did point out that if they had actually looked at them, they would have seen that they were mostly from chatting with people in clubs! |
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I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little |
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"I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little "
I’ve had a few of those. It is normally them thinking with their little head instead of their big one…. Whilst wanking it. Don’t sweat it lovely 😘 |
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For me, it’s not the total amount, but lots of hook up ones within short space of time, e.g.2 or more in the same week and it keeps going. Especially when they bb, how clean are they? Do the ey even get tested? |
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"I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little "
It is astonishing that here we are on a swingers site and not only does an individual hold such a judgement but feels the need go out of his way to tell you this . I suspect that because you are so gorgeous he felt that he had absolutely zero chance so let’s knock you down instead |
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"I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little "
Sounds like an agent little man projecting his self hatred on to a target, in this instance you. Don’t hide your summary, you should not feel like you have to back down when faced with this revolting behaviour from some idiot on the internet. |
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"I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little
I’ve had a few of those. It is normally them thinking with their little head instead of their big one…. Whilst wanking it. Don’t sweat it lovely 😘"
Aww thank you just through me a little. I ding show all my veris cos they are so very old and who on earth wants to read through them all
Only so many times someone can say they met me lol x |
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"I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little
Sounds like an agent little man projecting his self hatred on to a target, in this instance you. Don’t hide your summary, you should not feel like you have to back down when faced with this revolting behaviour from some idiot on the internet. "
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"I recently had my very summary on show and had a rather nice gentleman contact me to tell me that I was disgusting having fucked half of fab and that it made me worthless lol
My veris are actually 95% social and not sex related from when I was a club host and have been on here 12 years
Have to say I’ve hidden that veri summary now cos that message I got shook me a little
It is astonishing that here we are on a swingers site and not only does an individual hold such a judgement but feels the need go out of his way to tell you this . I suspect that because you are so gorgeous he felt that he had absolutely zero chance so let’s knock you down instead "
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For some people 2 verifications will be too many.
They joined a swinging website hoping to meet a sexually liberated person, but only want them to be sexually liberated with them.
If I had a verification for every man I've had sex with on here my list would be longer than your arm. Which would put some men off.
Those types I wouldn't want to meet as they aren't as liberated as I'd like.
So, the answer is yes, and no.
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
lol!! Is three too many? 😂😂😂
Honestly? If people attended clubs and events, likelihood is, their verifications will be higher than ‘average’ what ever that is.
I don’t think you can have too many, no. |
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If people cant read a profile why would anyone expect them to read veris.
As many have said, you can get half a dozen from a social. If 100's are from webcams and none from meets, to me it would suggest that they like webcams and not meeting so much.
As also mentioned above those with multiple sex meets on the same day are a red flag to me.
When i had a couples account with an ex FWB we verified ourselves from our singles profiles and someone messaged us saying, been on here 5 mins and already got 2 "fuck meet veris" !
Didnt read them at all !
I dont display them anymore so what difference does it make. |
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Question: are you more likely to meet a person who has 5 people say he/she is an amazing lover or where 100 people have said it?
Consider they are physically identical with the rest of their profile content matching. |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
100 plus is too many for me, basically saying to me you’ll shag a warm scarf. |
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By *eliWoman 6 weeks ago
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However many makes a person incompatible with another. Even then it's not too many. One fewer and you'd drag out something that's not going to work.
It's not a reflection on you, more that you wouldn't work with the other person and it's a quick way of knowing that. |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?
100 plus is too many for me, basically saying to me you’ll shag a warm scarf. "
So you are the same as the guy who messaged me then (see further up)
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I don’t think there should be a number on it, many veris are social meets and a face to face convo. Not all veris have to be a sexual meet. I have had many meets where it’s just a cuppa and a chat. |
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I don't think there is really.
End of the day, being verified on here is a big deal.
Some people may be put off if there's X amount of verifications left within a 24/48 hour period as it may look like the people/profile in question does the deed with anyone and everyone at any time with anyone even if they are all social meets. |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
Lol you don't have too many at all !!.... Verifications can be misleading especially if high numbers of socials and 'bumped into you in a club' sort of thing. Yes if full sex meets they might put off some if in high number |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
There's really no pleasing everyone. Some will reply 5, some 632, some don't much care. |
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The limit is whatever you want it to be.
The problem being is that it just says you’ve been here over a year, so could be a few years, could be 10. If you do a few socials a year you can rack the veris up.
Veri’s are another filter for us…if people are put off by our amount then they wouldn’t be for us.
We’d only be put off by graphic veri’s rather than the amount.
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Some are indifferent to such things and it doesn't bother them. Others it's a bugbear, and to some others it's a positive thing.
There's no real clear cut answer when it comes to too many/too few verifications.
Most people are usually concerned about too many photographs of genitalia. |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
Are you asking about verifications only, or how many people a person has slept with? As it's often not the same thing ... as others have pointed you can get a bulk of verifications from a social event or a club (even if you don't have sex with any of them). If it's about sex... for me personally, if a woman's sexual conquests is such a high number that she doesn't remember most of them, I would not want to be just another number. |
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I don't care how many verifications a person has, it's up to them. What really does annoy me though is people messaging me after months or even years of total radio silence and expecting everything to be exactly the way we left it off all those months or years ago. |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
Apparently there is.
On my couples account with my wife, we have quite a lot of veris. Mostly because are very social, do clubs and have hosted the odd meet up event in the past. We've been on and off Fab for years and on the scene for 27 years so...you meet people.
However a large amount of them are purely "we know these guys and they're real" types of veris. Never anything more than "we chat at the club or talked at this social" types.
But it puts some off for one reason or another. OK, whatever, dont care and no skin off our backs. You do you! No impact on our lives at all.
However...there's many on here who are total hypocrites and thats what irks me.
There is one local lady who pops up in my feed regularly.
Now its nothing to do with me and I've never met nor will meet the woman (for reasons that will become clear soon). But she usually hangs around a few months, has multiple meets with different guys...then deletes and returns after a few days.
I know its the same person because of the photos and the location (not a massive amount of single women in a 20 mile raduis to me).
Eitherway, She fucks a lot of guys. Her right and not judging her for that.
What I am judging her for is that on her profile she states she wont anyone with multiple meets (and to not even message her if you're over a certain number), wont do repeat meets and will be checking all mens veri history who contact her.
Now we can all say shes entitled to her preffrences (and she is) but I find it all rather rich from a person meeting a couple of different guys a week who just resets her account every few months to hide how many shes really met. Oh and she does the occasional status update shaming others about who they meet. No idea who shes taking a pop at nor what their beef is but its just drama.
It all just plays out like hypocrisy to me. But she can do that. Not like theres a shortage of thirsty guys she can meet up with.
Point is, to me, veris dont matter and if they matter to someone else, that is a them issue, not a me or my wife issue (depending what account is being used).
We're just gonna keep doing what we do, going to the club and social event, meeting freinds and meeting new folk alike.
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People still think that a persons value is tied to how few partners they have and (especially with women) think that having a lot of partners makes them less attractive.
I think that it’s a huge double standard and it’s often based in a fear that the person viewing (often a guy) will be judged poorly in comparison.
Slut shaming is still a huge thing in society and many on fab feel the same way. The belief that there can be too many verifications is just part of that. Not to mention that there is a huge amount of monogamous thinking on here, where a person believes that someone should only be interested in one person at any one time |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
What an arse. It doesn’t bother me, I appreciate the experience and skills many meets under the belt brings. Although I personally don’t request or accept ‘social’ veris, I am aware that many people accumulate masses of them.
What does bother me is the kind of people they have met (fucked). I like good provenance. Yes, I’m a snob and hifalutin. Class and taste counts. |
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By *abioMan 6 weeks ago
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The only people who worry about the amount of veris you are those who believe that every single verification is a separate meet!
I have always just said that all a verification is there for is to say you are who you are and you showed up… nothing more!
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"The only people who worry about the amount of veris you are those who believe that every single verification is a separate meet!
I have always just said that all a verification is there for is to say you are who you are and you showed up… nothing more!
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I think veris are much more than that. They are a valuable insight. If I saw a veri that just said “ nice guy, turned up on time, genuine, treat him with respect” I’d be thinking “Aye, aye… that meet didn’t go well then..” The curt polite veris are a clear indicator of shit meets. You don’t have to read between the lines because it was barely a sentence of 8 words… there is no in between
The lovely ones, people spending a bit of time writing them, saying nice things, “looking forward to doing that again soon” stuff. Those are veris to look out for. I’d never leave a short curt veri, how fucking rude would that be?
‘If you can’t say anything nice, don’t veri at all’ |
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By *bcplCouple 6 weeks ago
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We have 50 and we’ve been on the site for over 10 years to a newb 50 may seem like loads but lots are actually from socials, I don’t think it’s fair for anyone to judge how many people have, sounds like sour grapes to me  |
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Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here! |
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I’ve got quite a few. Someone pointed it out not so long ago. What they fail to recognise is that I’ve been on here for like 8 years and they’re spread out / repeat visits.
All depends on the person and what they’re looking for. Doesn’t bother me |
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I think it depends on the types of verifications , and the people asking.
For us, we aren’t looking for women that have a mass amount of sex meet verifications. As much as it’s a Swingers site, and all about sex, we don’t want to be just another verification number.
If the veri’s are mostly standard socials it’s no issue.
We are all different and have different tastes/opinions though |
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"The other side of things is having 100+ and then having in the profile "I'm not here to sleep round the entire sight" lol"
You do know veri's can be gotten through group socials, where you can be verified by a multitude of people, in one go.....
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The biggest issue I ever had with veris was, is when I was a single man, when I would leave then return, and be verified by 5-6 people on the first day, people would judge that. Not knowing that I've bounced on and out of fab for 8 years now...
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He was hurt. He didn't think he could feel any worse about himself because he's insecure and lacks pulling power or a personality so he reflected his hurt and anger back at you by trying to make you think you've had too much sex for a 'classy man' like him.
In his baby tantrum he thought he would pass his hurt over to you ....
Now don't you pick that hurt up. Leave it in the gutter.
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!"
I’ve been waiting for the - so many veris must = STDs comment. For example some guy with two meet veris and syphilis (or worse) from a crackhead ho in George Place, go figure it out and understand actual risk |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?
100 plus is too many for me, basically saying to me you’ll shag a warm scarf. "
How many people per year do you think is acceptable? |
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!
I’ve been waiting for the - so many veris must = STDs comment. For example some guy with two meet veris and syphilis (or worse) from a crackhead ho in George Place, go figure it out and understand actual risk"
By the way, genuine question- when did you last get tested? Obviously you are aware that you can carry STDs without displaying symptoms… |
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Makes me laugh when some people have issues with women having to many veris but yet have group play and orgies as something they enjoy  ..
I don't care how many veris someone has we are looking for fun not someone to take to church with us on a Sunday... |
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!"
Tell me your judgemental without telling me your judgemental. 😂😂
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!"
Careful people don't fuck a long line of others without checking them out as best they can.
Most importantly they take care of their own sexual health and are checked regularly.
Your comment on your Ex is unpleasant and just not necessary.
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By *bcplCouple 6 weeks ago
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!
Tell me your judgemental without telling me your judgemental. 😂😂
Mr"
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By *abioMan 6 weeks ago
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"The only people who worry about the amount of veris you are those who believe that every single verification is a separate meet!
I have always just said that all a verification is there for is to say you are who you are and you showed up… nothing more!
I think veris are much more than that. They are a valuable insight. If I saw a veri that just said “ nice guy, turned up on time, genuine, treat him with respect” I’d be thinking “Aye, aye… that meet didn’t go well then..” The curt polite veris are a clear indicator of shit meets. You don’t have to read between the lines because it was barely a sentence of 8 words… there is no in between
The lovely ones, people spending a bit of time writing them, saying nice things, “looking forward to doing that again soon” stuff. Those are veris to look out for. I’d never leave a short curt veri, how fucking rude would that be?
‘If you can’t say anything nice, don’t veri at all’"
Nope… that’s a you thing!
Basically no two people are going to see a particular meet the same way! You may have got on with someone like a house on fire, where I may meet the same person and think “meh”
Doesn’t mean that person doesn’t deserve a verification
Also… I don’t need a blow by blow list of how a meet went… if I needed running commentary I’d watch more sky sports!
Anything more than yes these people are who they are, and yes these people showed up is entirely subjective |
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By *abioMan 6 weeks ago
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!"
But again that’s making assumptions on how they got the verification… was it at a social… versus was it at a club…. Versus was it all private meetings… versus were they all play meetings
Because without reading them how would you know…. Or is the generalisation made of just a number! |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?
100 plus is too many for me, basically saying to me you’ll shag a warm scarf.
How many people per year do you think is acceptable? "
Depends whether it's a leap year  |
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" I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
I don't think there's any such thing as too many verifications.
A lot could be socials and it shows they do actually meet people. |
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!
But again that’s making assumptions on how they got the verification… was it at a social… versus was it at a club…. Versus was it all private meetings… versus were they all play meetings
Because without reading them how would you know…. Or is the generalisation made of just a number! "
Man, you literally have 90 odd verifications given by people that have been nice, complimentary, thoughtful and considerate to you on your profile! And you’re saying that they don’t mean thing? That’s just being ungrateful 😂 |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit?"
to some there is... to others nope
If someone thinks our combined verifications is our sexual history they are very silly...as we have both met many people that haven't verified us. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Tbh l don't pay any attention to veri's as to me they only prove a person is real & genuine.No person is ever gonna get a bad veri & if by chance they do they're not gonna post it.Personally l really don't care if a person has a thousand veri's or just one , everyone is different here , the person with loads of veri's may not have the interest in chatting with you anyway whereas the person with one could be your gem , who knows . |
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"So I’ve had a message asking if I remember chatting with him few years back. No pic to refresh my memory just a message. Well I’m lucky if I remember last week let alone years back!
I said I’ve no idea who they are… their reply was oh fair enough so I left it there. I was then sent another message saying well you have too my verifications and then blocked me.
Is there such a thing on a swinging site as too many and If so how many is the limit? to some there is... to others nope
If someone thinks our combined verifications is our sexual history they are very silly...as we have both met many people that haven't verified us. "
😂🤣 Yes! I’d be reluctant to reveal my actual ‘body count’ ! (terrible phrase) . I wonder what the average ‘Sex with someone versus Meets that provided a veri’ ratio would be? 🫣 |
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"Tbh l don't pay any attention to veri's as to me they only prove a person is real & genuine.No person is ever gonna get a bad veri & if by chance they do they're not gonna post it.Personally l really don't care if a person has a thousand veri's or just one , everyone is different here , the person with loads of veri's may not have the interest in chatting with you anyway whereas the person with one could be your gem , who knows ."
Profile Name checks out 👍🏼 |
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"Tbh l don't pay any attention to veri's as to me they only prove a person is real & genuine.No person is ever gonna get a bad veri & if by chance they do they're not gonna post it.Personally l really don't care if a person has a thousand veri's or just one , everyone is different here , the person with loads of veri's may not have the interest in chatting with you anyway whereas the person with one could be your gem , who knows ."
No one’s gonna get a bad veri? I beg to differ… |
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"The other side of things is having 100+ and then having in the profile "I'm not here to sleep round the entire sight" lol
You do know veri's can be gotten through group socials, where you can be verified by a multitude of people, in one go.....
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There are thousands of people on this site. 100 is hardly the whole site.
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By *abioMan 6 weeks ago
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!
But again that’s making assumptions on how they got the verification… was it at a social… versus was it at a club…. Versus was it all private meetings… versus were they all play meetings
Because without reading them how would you know…. Or is the generalisation made of just a number!
Man, you literally have 90 odd verifications given by people that have been nice, complimentary, thoughtful and considerate to you on your profile! And you’re saying that they don’t mean thing? That’s just being ungrateful 😂 "
In that sense they don’t .. however i made the deliberate decision that I don’t show any verifications that have anything to do with play… they are all literally me on a social level…
No one needs to know more than that about me
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"The other side of things is having 100+ and then having in the profile "I'm not here to sleep round the entire sight" lol
You do know veri's can be gotten through group socials, where you can be verified by a multitude of people, in one go.....
Mr
There are thousands of people on this site. 100 is hardly the whole site.
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Did I say it was, ✊️✊️
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!
But again that’s making assumptions on how they got the verification… was it at a social… versus was it at a club…. Versus was it all private meetings… versus were they all play meetings
Because without reading them how would you know…. Or is the generalisation made of just a number!
Man, you literally have 90 odd verifications given by people that have been nice, complimentary, thoughtful and considerate to you on your profile! And you’re saying that they don’t mean thing? That’s just being ungrateful 😂
In that sense they don’t .. however i made the deliberate decision that I don’t show any verifications that have anything to do with play… they are all literally me on a social level…
No one needs to know more than that about me
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Okay mystery man 😄, but my point still stands, you have had a lot of lovely veris from people who made an effort to write them and they’re the ones you didn’t even have sex with, making them even more relevant. Why did they bother to add to a growing list that say you’re a really nice guy? Don’t be so dismissive of the veri system, you clearly set some importance to yours and are proud of them otherwise why display 93 of them all saying the same thing?
Based on your veris I’d love to have a beer and a laugh with you sometime |
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It's person dependent, I'm happy that my 293 meet total is a great filter for me. I just look at it like if they, are bothered about my veris, then we are incompatible and shouldn't be meeting anyway  |
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"Makes me laugh when some people have issues with women having to many veris but yet have group play and orgies as something they enjoy ..
I don't care how many veris someone has we are looking for fun not someone to take to church with us on a Sunday... "
Exactly my stance |
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"As long as it’s less than 31888 then you’re safe OP 👍🏻
I wonder who has the most veris number wise on here "
A couple maxed out their veri’s twice over about ten years (and two profiles) they were fantastic people too |
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"As long as it’s less than 31888 then you’re safe OP 👍🏻
I wonder who has the most veris number wise on here
A couple maxed out their veri’s twice over about ten years (and two profiles) they were fantastic people too"
There's a limit? 😳
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!"
I think you need to unpack why it’s an issue for you to see that someone has been sexually active. |
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"Yep definitely such a thing as too many,, if I see 20 to 30 that's off putting - my ex wife is here and she's got over 130 which is a big no to me.
I think the higher the number the higher the chances of them coming into contact with something nasty no matter how careful you are!
Of course you could always hide your verifications but just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean to a degree it's appealing to see huge numbers on here!
I think you need to unpack why it’s an issue for you to see that someone has been sexually active."
Honestly it's no issue! But the question was how many is too many and I answered! loving the replies and the I must join the band wagon lol!
And those thinking it's judgemental! Hey it may be but it's not the first time I've personally had a woman not meet me because of the high number I had with a previous acct a few years ago!
To be honest - who cares! State again my limit is 20 - 30! And just to make clear those would be separate meets not clubs etc. |
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