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Should you play hard to get?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 6 weeks ago
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To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.
What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead  |
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I like the whole courting thing outside of here. The flirt. The tease. The building up of something
I like it here as well but not for courting so to speak
That said you need to know where to stop or you run the risk of the other feeling it’s unrequited and they back off.
However there are some people who love the “chase” and that’s all they want.
That for me is toying with someone and game playing |
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"To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.
What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead "
Is Cindy playing hard to get with Knight? If she is already seeing him, how is she playing hard to get? |
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I don't watch that so I don't know the reference.
I don't get playing hard to get. I'm very upfront generally myself. If someone indicates they're not interested in me the way I am in them, I usually just shrug it off and move on. |
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There's nothing that turns me off quicker than playing games. An adult has the ability to communicate, be consistent and be honest about what they want. Come with that energy or just don't come at all.
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By *bi HaiveMan 6 weeks ago
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I lack the energy and motivation to engage with anyone playing hard to get. It shouldn't require that much effort to communicate with someone who is actually interested in you as a person, and what's the point in sending out mixed messages?
Odds are they'll get bored of the mind games and invest their interest elsewhere. 🤷♂️ |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 6 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I like the whole courting thing outside of here. The flirt. The tease. The building up of something
I like it here as well but not for courting so to speak
That said you need to know where to stop or you run the risk of the other feeling it’s unrequited and they back off.
However there are some people who love the “chase” and that’s all they want.
That for me is toying with someone and game playing "
I also like the flirt and tease, yes, one should know where to stop it too  |
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The fact is, so many people on fab are just here for an ego boost or a wank. It's same on dating apps, after a while you can tell you're getting strung along and the other person has zero intention of meeting. |
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I don't play games. There's been a few women over the years who were disappointed to find that I don't indulge in game playing or tried to play me off against other men. I would never do that to anyone so by playing games they signal a lack of respect and manipulative tendencies which are unattractive qualities to me. Generally I respond well to honest grown ups and dismiss children cos playing as adults. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Dunno, to me, the moment someone deliberately "plays" harder to get than they would naturally inclined to be, it smells manipulative and I'm out of there.
I don't like jumping through hoops like a trained dog.
If I like someone, why would I want to make it harder for them to like me back?
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"Cindy has slept with Junior lots of times, really not sure how she's playing hard to get after she has been got.
So she's not actually played hard to get at all?"
Nope if anything she was pretty easy to get |
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Playing hard to get is just absolutely childish, could come across as been prestigious and narcissistic, if you know u like someone or find them attractive go for it cos they might just leave u to find someone who shows them more attention |
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Ah there comes a time in your life when you cba with all the games and chase stuff. I would rather be honest and upfront about my level of interest. Equally the same level of honesty and integrity is required from the guy. |
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"To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.
What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead "
You lost me at the mention of Eastenders |
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"Playing hard to get is just absolutely childish, could come across as been prestigious and narcissistic, if you know u like someone or find them attractive go for it cos they might just leave u to find someone who shows them more attention "
Exactly. Think of the dozens and dozens of women that we playing hard to get with me. I mean they have missed out on a fuck tonne of shit chat and worse shags. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 6 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I don't watch that so I don't know the reference.
I don't get playing hard to get. I'm very upfront generally myself. If someone indicates they're not interested in me the way I am in them, I usually just shrug it off and move on."
That is good to be very upfront. I am the same too |
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Lately, I've seen a lot more clips uploaded by young single women, all of them seem to be added for one thing only, getting "likes". Maybe it's just me, but I really don't believe any of them are actually living the swinging life. All those pouty lips, duck face, puppy dog eyes, seen through the mist, kind of thing. Screams "Look at me, I'm gorgeous" but looking only, no touching. Not exactly playing hard to get, just teasing, although, at my age, I'm not interested in a young woman the same age or even younger than my daughter, so I don't bother watching the clip, the giveaway is the "still" in the video.  |
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Shag, you should play hard to get otherwise women will think you’re an easy lay and not worth the trouble. Basically, if you get any offer from any woman, just say no. But don’t be harsh, remember, you’re only playing hard to get so say something like “no, but you’re perfectly Ok, come back in 2 weeks time and I’ll reconsider” |
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"To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.
What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead "
Well... I'm so bad at relationships it's hard to think I can add any value but... My gut always says... Life's too short for stupid childish games. Instead of spending time not doing what you want... Why not spend the time with people you want to be with doing things you want to do? |
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