Are you sometimes or all the time oblivious to peoples feelings to you?
Whether they’re trying to flirt, get you attention, like you, dislike you, just about tolerate you or anything else
I am one of the worse at reading signs if someone likes me, I can pick up dislike as I think, for me it’s more obvious |
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By *aven.Woman 6 weeks ago
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On here, people make snap judgements all the time. If someone doesn't like me based off what they see of me on here I don't really care, they don't know me. If someone does like me, again it's based on a snap judgement. If they actually knew me they probably wouldn't like me.
So no, I don't care.
Off here, eurgh, people.
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I'm never oblivious, I am very sensitive to energy and can read people well. Sometimes I vocalise it, others I just take note for future reference. I can never be lied too or played especially, whether people realise it or not. |
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In terms of liking, on here, I generally need it spelling out loud and clear, otherwise I’ll assume it’s the usual Fab banter.
I think I’m pretty good at trusting my intuition on other signals though. |
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"On here, people make snap judgements all the time. If someone doesn't like me based off what they see of me on here I don't really care, they don't know me. If someone does like me, again it's based on a snap judgement. If they actually knew me they probably wouldn't like me.
So no, I don't care.
Off here, eurgh, people.
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Well said Raven, I get that there is a physical attraction element of this site, but how can anyone make a judgement about who people are. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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I don't believe anything said on here, and take it with a pinch of salt.
Out there in the real world...
I couldn't tell you if I was being chatted up or not. I would assume the guy was being friendly.
He'd literally need to tell me directly he's chatting me up,or wave a big sign in my face.
I said sign....  |
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"Are you sometimes or all the time oblivious to peoples feelings to you?
Whether they’re trying to flirt, get you attention, like you, dislike you, just about tolerate you or anything else
I am one of the worse at reading signs if someone likes me, I can pick up dislike as I think, for me it’s more obvious "
We see what we look for |
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"I'm never oblivious, I am very sensitive to energy and can read people well. Sometimes I vocalise it, others I just take note for future reference. I can never be lied too or played especially, whether people realise it or not."
What a fascinating take on things.
How can someone be sure that they are not reading their own energy and transferring it onto someone else
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"I'm never oblivious, I am very sensitive to energy and can read people well. Sometimes I vocalise it, others I just take note for future reference. I can never be lied too or played especially, whether people realise it or not.
What a fascinating take on things.
How can someone be sure that they are not reading their own energy and transferring it onto someone else
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It’s a very good question even some of the most self-aware people are in fact quite deluded.
There is a board game I created which I sometimes play with friends called Johari secrets , It reveals the blind spots , the hidden & unknown parts of you |
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"I'm never oblivious, I am very sensitive to energy and can read people well. Sometimes I vocalise it, others I just take note for future reference. I can never be lied too or played especially, whether people realise it or not.
What a fascinating take on things.
How can someone be sure that they are not reading their own energy and transferring it onto someone else
It’s a very good question even some of the most self-aware people are in fact quite deluded.
There is a board game I created which I sometimes play with friends called Johari secrets , It reveals the blind spots , the hidden & unknown parts of you"
It's not delusion, it's life experience. Of course there are times when I can project onto others but I'm very aware of that. My intuition about people has never been wrong so far so I trust that more than what people are presenting to me. |
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By *equila89Man 6 weeks ago
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I dunno, I don’t think anyone here is going to make it a secret if they like someone. I kind of match other peoples energy or just straight move on if I don’t get the vibe they’re interested. The only complication is when people do seem interested and then just drop off a couple of days later. I never really take compliments on board here for that reason, until we’ve actually met I don’t know if they’re real or just killing a few hours between other things.
I feel like this place has given me thicker skin though. I’m quick to get over things and I won’t put in any energy I don’t feel I’m getting back. Nobody lives rent free in my head lol |
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A lot of the time. I have problems detecting social cues. So sometimes you have to lay it on pretty thick with me or just tell me frankly. I do like plain talking and openness.
It's quite funny when I'm telling Mrs about my day and tell her someone was flirting with me. Because Mrs Misfit knows if I was picking up on that then they must have been flirting hard with me. There's literally been times when we're out and women have been flirting with me and I'm oblivious. Mrs Misfit is like how are you not picking up on that, in general amazement?
As to on the scene its a little easier than the everyday world. If I like someone and I pick up the slightest vibe its far more acceptable to ask if they want to kiss than it would be in the everyday vanilla world. And the vast majority of the time they do want to and it goes down well. Which of course increases my confidence in listening to the vibes. The scene is a safe place to be more forthcoming with your intentions and for someone like me that's definitely an advantage and how I wish the everyday world was like. Its a safe place to take a shot in the dark. A safe place that if you're wrong its a no thanks without offence or outrage or resulting an interview without coffee with HR. In the everyday world it would just be inappropriate to proposition unless you're 110% sure the intrest is completely mutual (which is not a complaint, just a pragmatic realism of the current environment and historical context). Which makes the everday world not an easy environment you're crap at reading other people and social cues (as I'm sure people can understand stand).
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