How do I actually get to talk to people on here? I just became site supporter and discovered most of the people viewing my profile (which is basically hardly anyone) are actually guys, 99% of sent messages do not get read and I don’t send copy and paste messages! I know it is a numbers game and women are massively outnumbered by guys but then I see verifications on some profiles and I am like wow how did they manage that? Where am I going wrong? Perhaps a little advice would be appreciated |
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Women live in ninja mode to avoid showing on who looked at me.
If you treat it like a numbers game, women will clock that you're not particularly interested in them individually, just as a potential willing orifice and you're just feeling out what your options are.
None of my partners have a profile I'd consider conversing with here. But I met them all out in real life. Get to the clubs and socials to actually meet people if you don't know how to sell yourself effectively 💜 |
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That’s interesting I didn’t know you could turn off if you have viewed someone’s profile
I think you maybe interpreted me wrong regarding a numbers game, I am certainly not just messaging anyone, I was just referring to the volume of women to men and of course even with that being said I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea! Not got out and about yet, probably would if I had someone to actually go with first time etc! |
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Don’t worry about what others are doing and their verifications
You don’t need loads to view you, just the one or two or three (or more) that you think you’re a potential match to
The word is potential
Is your profile the best it can be?
What do you like and would like.
What would you like from the person who reads it
Your profile is very bland and non descriptive
You’ve said you look at other peoples verifications. Well maybe read the profiles of those that are doing okay on here and see what they have written. Don’t copy it or plagiarise it, just have a look
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Have you tried chatting to people OP?
Being a little less negative?
Just hanging out on the forum and having a laugh?
Posting your favourite colour of Y Fronts?
All of the above may or may not lead to more happiness in your life.
Try it. You might like it.
Ps. I viewed your profile. I’m in ninja like 99.999999% of women. For a very important reason 😘 |
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"You ain’t being ignored now iz ya?
Well you are the only new viewer so far Steve lol"
Yeah well, I had to look. I can promise you I didn’t wank over your pics though cos I don’t like blokes. They disgust me. Filthy beasts!  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 6 weeks ago
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"That’s interesting I didn’t know you could turn off if you have viewed someone’s profile
I think you maybe interpreted me wrong regarding a numbers game, I am certainly not just messaging anyone, I was just referring to the volume of women to men and of course even with that being said I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea! Not got out and about yet, probably would if I had someone to actually go with first time etc!"
If you're capable of walking on your own into a pub on the high street, then you're capable of going to a swingers club or organised group social alone.
They're just places, full of people. 🤷♂️ |
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"You ain’t being ignored now iz ya?
Well you are the only new viewer so far Steve lol
Yeah well, I had to look. I can promise you I didn’t wank over your pics though cos I don’t like blokes. They disgust me. Filthy beasts! "
Beasts! Filthy, filthy beasts…
Think I might need a minute. |
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"How do I actually get to talk to people on here? I just became site supporter and discovered most of the people viewing my profile (which is basically hardly anyone) are actually guys, 99% of sent messages do not get read and I don’t send copy and paste messages! I know it is a numbers game and women are massively outnumbered by guys but then I see verifications on some profiles and I am like wow how did they manage that? Where am I going wrong? Perhaps a little advice would be appreciated "
Try and get to a party or club or social event. Trying to attract someone on here is very difficult just through messages (and a pretty lame profile tbf - you’re a good looking guy and there’s no immediate physical reason why a couple or single lady wouldn’t want to meet you). Meeting people in real life lets them experience your true personality, allows body language, eye contact, charisma and charm to come into play. If you seriously want to experience the lifestyle you will not regret going to a social, party or club. They’re full of lovely people having a great time (mostly) ☺️ |
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"That’s interesting I didn’t know you could turn off if you have viewed someone’s profile
I think you maybe interpreted me wrong regarding a numbers game, I am certainly not just messaging anyone, I was just referring to the volume of women to men and of course even with that being said I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea! Not got out and about yet, probably would if I had someone to actually go with first time etc!"
Best place to meet women who go to swingers clubs is at a swingers club 😉
Like Obi says, it's just a place with people in it. Get along for a newbie night somewhere and see how you get on 💜 |
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"That’s interesting I didn’t know you could turn off if you have viewed someone’s profile
I think you maybe interpreted me wrong regarding a numbers game, I am certainly not just messaging anyone, I was just referring to the volume of women to men and of course even with that being said I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea! Not got out and about yet, probably would if I had someone to actually go with first time etc!
If you're capable of walking on your own into a pub on the high street, then you're capable of going to a swingers club or organised group social alone.
They're just places, full of people. 🤷♂️"
True. But they sometimes show their front bottoms too. Saying that the local B&Q is a bit iffy. “Plastic Storage” my arse! |
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"Don’t worry about what others are doing and their verifications
You don’t need loads to view you, just the one or two or three (or more) that you think you’re a potential match to
The word is potential
Is your profile the best it can be?
What do you like and would like.
What would you like from the person who reads it
Your profile is very bland and non descriptive
You’ve said you look at other peoples verifications. Well maybe read the profiles of those that are doing okay on here and see what they have written. Don’t copy it or plagiarise it, just have a look
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Thank you! I have made a few small changes already but am open to feedback and I am listening! I guess it is a bit of a work in progress  I haven’t seen anything on ‘successful profiles’ that makes me think oh that’s where I am going wrong! |
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"Have you tried chatting to people OP?
Being a little less negative?
Just hanging out on the forum and having a laugh?
Posting your favourite colour of Y Fronts?
All of the above may or may not lead to more happiness in your life.
Try it. You might like it.
Ps. I viewed your profile. I’m in ninja like 99.999999% of women. For a very important reason 😘"
Only via message but that is not exactly working :P I have only started using the forum since yesterday to be honest! I am going to cut out the negativity lol but it is quite hard |
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Met a few people at a social and you wouldn't believe the amount of messages and crap some get, especially women, so I get not getting a response. But yeah I feel you lad. All I can say is get to a social and there are loads to talk to, all bang on people. For me it's the only way I've actually got talking to people and wish I had done it sooner. Money has stopped me attending more for now but looking forward to meeting more. And I don't mean a play event. Like an actual get together, tea, drinks whatever. There always on the go. Or start a group and try organise an event, seen some walking groups pop up. But yeah, coming from a single guy I understand the message thing. But I'd say get on here with a missus and we will understand why |
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"That’s interesting I didn’t know you could turn off if you have viewed someone’s profile
I think you maybe interpreted me wrong regarding a numbers game, I am certainly not just messaging anyone, I was just referring to the volume of women to men and of course even with that being said I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea! Not got out and about yet, probably would if I had someone to actually go with first time etc!
If you're capable of walking on your own into a pub on the high street, then you're capable of going to a swingers club or organised group social alone.
They're just places, full of people. 🤷♂️"
Fair one! Just guess I don’t even know what to expect so avoided it so far! |
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"Have you tried chatting to people OP?
Being a little less negative?
Just hanging out on the forum and having a laugh?
Posting your favourite colour of Y Fronts?
All of the above may or may not lead to more happiness in your life.
Try it. You might like it.
Ps. I viewed your profile. I’m in ninja like 99.999999% of women. For a very important reason 😘
Only via message but that is not exactly working :P I have only started using the forum since yesterday to be honest! I am going to cut out the negativity lol but it is quite hard"
It may be hard 🤣
But do some stuff here that makes you smile. Take the piss… not too much like… but just have a laugh. Life is about smiling 😘 |
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"How do I actually get to talk to people on here? I just became site supporter and discovered most of the people viewing my profile (which is basically hardly anyone) are actually guys, 99% of sent messages do not get read and I don’t send copy and paste messages! I know it is a numbers game and women are massively outnumbered by guys but then I see verifications on some profiles and I am like wow how did they manage that? Where am I going wrong? Perhaps a little advice would be appreciated
Try and get to a party or club or social event. Trying to attract someone on here is very difficult just through messages (and a pretty lame profile tbf - you’re a good looking guy and there’s no immediate physical reason why a couple or single lady wouldn’t want to meet you). Meeting people in real life lets them experience your true personality, allows body language, eye contact, charisma and charm to come into play. If you seriously want to experience the lifestyle you will not regret going to a social, party or club. They’re full of lovely people having a great time (mostly) ☺️"
Point noted maybe need to put my big boy pants on haha |
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"How do I actually get to talk to people on here? I just became site supporter and discovered most of the people viewing my profile (which is basically hardly anyone) are actually guys, 99% of sent messages do not get read and I don’t send copy and paste messages! I know it is a numbers game and women are massively outnumbered by guys but then I see verifications on some profiles and I am like wow how did they manage that? Where am I going wrong? Perhaps a little advice would be appreciated
Try and get to a party or club or social event. Trying to attract someone on here is very difficult just through messages (and a pretty lame profile tbf - you’re a good looking guy and there’s no immediate physical reason why a couple or single lady wouldn’t want to meet you). Meeting people in real life lets them experience your true personality, allows body language, eye contact, charisma and charm to come into play. If you seriously want to experience the lifestyle you will not regret going to a social, party or club. They’re full of lovely people having a great time (mostly) ☺️
Point noted maybe need to put my big boy pants on haha"
Listen to the lovely Vanilla to Vixen Podcast by Naughtycp1. It’s a great insight into the lifestyle. |
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I had a lady friend on here a couple of years ago and I sat with her when she was on fab and literally almost 1 message a minute. Constant. From men. And hideously embarrassing as the messages were so crap. Don’t send crap messages. There was no way she could answer them all or even look at profiles. 1 in 10 got a profile look. At least with the messages I get, I can read them both over and over again, add little bits to them in my head and make anagrams, although ‘Eve, ff oft suck?’ at first glance looked promising, once I’d anagrammed it out….  |
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"I had a lady friend on here a couple of years ago and I sat with her when she was on fab and literally almost 1 message a minute. Constant. From men. And hideously embarrassing as the messages were so crap. Don’t send crap messages. There was no way she could answer them all or even look at profiles. 1 in 10 got a profile look. At least with the messages I get, I can read them both over and over again, add little bits to them in my head and make anagrams, although ‘Eve, ff oft suck?’ at first glance looked promising, once I’d anagrammed it out…. "
I have seen a girls profile on here the one person I did meet, it was absolutely insane! She had no pictures and nothing in her profile but got hundreds and hundreds of views and messages! It was quite enlightening to be honest but like you say most of the messages were so embarrassing I don’t know how they even expected a response! |
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"I had a lady friend on here a couple of years ago and I sat with her when she was on fab and literally almost 1 message a minute. Constant. From men. And hideously embarrassing as the messages were so crap. Don’t send crap messages. There was no way she could answer them all or even look at profiles. 1 in 10 got a profile look. At least with the messages I get, I can read them both over and over again, add little bits to them in my head and make anagrams, although ‘Eve, ff oft suck?’ at first glance looked promising, once I’d anagrammed it out….
I have seen a girls profile on here the one person I did meet, it was absolutely insane! She had no pictures and nothing in her profile but got hundreds and hundreds of views and messages! It was quite enlightening to be honest but like you say most of the messages were so embarrassing I don’t know how they even expected a response!"
There you go, you have seen the extent of the challenges you face as single man, stop wasting time and energy and take advice |
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"How do I actually get to talk to people on here? I just became site supporter and discovered most of the people viewing my profile (which is basically hardly anyone) are actually guys, 99% of sent messages do not get read and I don’t send copy and paste messages! I know it is a numbers game and women are massively outnumbered by guys but then I see verifications on some profiles and I am like wow how did they manage that? Where am I going wrong? Perhaps a little advice would be appreciated
Try and get to a party or club or social event. Trying to attract someone on here is very difficult just through messages (and a pretty lame profile tbf - you’re a good looking guy and there’s no immediate physical reason why a couple or single lady wouldn’t want to meet you). Meeting people in real life lets them experience your true personality, allows body language, eye contact, charisma and charm to come into play. If you seriously want to experience the lifestyle you will not regret going to a social, party or club. They’re full of lovely people having a great time (mostly) ☺️
Point noted maybe need to put my big boy pants on haha
Listen to the lovely Vanilla to Vixen Podcast by Naughtycp1. It’s a great insight into the lifestyle. "
Also the sexless swingers. It's very insightful and relatable.
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"Go to a club or social. I had guy message me the other day asking how I impress women. It was an easy answer. I don't.
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"If you're capable of walking on your own into a pub on the high street, then you're capable of going to a swingers club or organised group social alone.
They're just places, full of people. 🤷♂️"
This is very true. It's an understandably daunting thought walking into a club for the first time, especially by yourself. Once you get in there you'll realise it's just like a pub (except people don't wear clothes).
It's relaxed, people are friendly and welcoming, often just sitting around chatting about life, work etc. Sex is probably one of the least talked about things in there.
You'll love it once you get there  |
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"If you're capable of walking on your own into a pub on the high street, then you're capable of going to a swingers club or organised group social alone.
They're just places, full of people. 🤷♂️
This is very true. It's an understandably daunting thought walking into a club for the first time, especially by yourself. Once you get in there you'll realise it's just like a pub (except people don't wear clothes).
It's relaxed, people are friendly and welcoming, often just sitting around chatting about life, work etc. Sex is probably one of the least talked about things in there.
You'll love it once you get there "
Yep you have got it pretty daunting! But sounds like it is the best way forward so may have to take the plunge! |
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Rub lion scent from
Holland & Barrett over your smart phone before you post forums / send messages / post pics. The heathen women will be falling over you and flooding your inbox more than they fill up their trolly in aldi on discount Tuesday |
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If you're capable of walking on your own into a pub on the high street, then you're capable of going to a swingers club or organised group social alone.
They're just places, full of people. 🤷♂️"
What a great bit of advice, it sums things up perfectly.
It’s applicable to myself at the moment and puts it all in to perspective. 😁
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"Go to a club or social. I had guy message me the other day asking how I impress women. It was an easy answer. I don't.
Wait… you still have to impress people at socials and clubs too you know 😂 "
I'm just spectacularly gifted in how unimpressive I am.
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