In my experience, men don't care as half as much as we think they do. I've got 4 scars on my stomach now from surgery and it doesn't matter, it's your life experience. Don't focus on men's opinions, focus on feeling good and confident with your own body, that's the only opinion that matters. |
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
Most men won't care and those who do, you probably wouldn't want to meet anyway.
If it becomes a confidence thing and you would like to hide it, you have access to lingerie that can do that as well.
In short, it's only an issue if you let it be an issue.
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By *our HeroMan 8 weeks ago
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"In my experience, men don't care as half as much as we think they do. I've got 4 scars on my stomach now from surgery and it doesn't matter, it's your life experience. Don't focus on men's opinions, focus on feeling good and confident with your own body, that's the only opinion that matters."
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Thank you so much everyone... I have stretch marks and a facial scar that never bothered me.
Now have 4 new additions after emergency surgery and will gain 4 more significant ones after my next surgery..
Will absolutely be life saving and I hope part of my new found life will involved fab just worried about the Impact but you all reassured me ty |
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
I don't mind at all. |
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"I have an abdominal scar. Some men haven't even noticed it despite it being a good 10cm long and quite indented  . Distracted by boobs I guess.
Is that a new scar  "
I can't tell if you're joking? 😅 it's from surgery when I was 2 months old so definitely not new |
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Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest if a play partner had scars. I think we as women are far more self critical of our own bodies than men are. Men are generally just happy to be getting laid and will be enjoying the beauty of your body, not looking at scars! Best of luck for the surgery xxx |
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
Each one is a story
They wont matter to anyone that is worth spending time with.
Every individual body has a story to tell and i like to take the time to explore it (mr) |
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"I have an abdominal scar. Some men haven't even noticed it despite it being a good 10cm long and quite indented . Distracted by boobs I guess.
Is that a new scar
I can't tell if you're joking? 😅 it's from surgery when I was 2 months old so definitely not new
That just shows how great your boobs are, I never even noticed any scar  "
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
OP if you care to pop round I will undertake a detailed study of your abdomen and give you a considered opinion. Mrs K might help me. |
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"I have loads....very self-conscious about them and will always try to cover them somehow x"
Hey I saw your pics , Nothing to self conscious about you are absolutely fab and sexy indeed 😎 Beside Man don’t care about scars or little stretch , They will be to busy with other urges they probably wil not even notice even if they did they most probably braze it kiss it |
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I am hugely scarred from surgeries.
When I had them all , 74 procedures in a 5 year period, I decided at that point I’d never show my body to a woman again
This was made worse when I was in recovery I went to a spa break and 2 older woman commented when I stood up in the hot tub. It mortified me
I have also been turned down over my scarring by woman. They are surgical scars
Now I am open and upfront about them and see them as a badge of honour that keeps and kept me alive. They are mine to wear and if people don’t like me because of them then that’s their loss, I hope nothing ever happens to them that leaves them having any
However it takes time to not only physically but mentally heal.
Do you have to like them? No
But they are on you. Like a road map of life.
If I ever decide to get naked with someone then it will be because I want to, not because they want tell me they don’t mind them
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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Part of life we all have scars, you accept them, we all get to a certain age and unfortunately don’t look like we did in our twenty’s, I used to have a six pack now just a pack, I was hung like a yak now more like a nat, isn’t live fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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They don't bother me as have about 13 myself. One large one across the lower part of stomach from a operation as a baby.
The others from just being a wild boy lol |
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Doesn't bother me or most decent people. People will look. My missus is badly scarred and I've come to blows twice with people about it. Most look then look away some scum keep staring. She refuses to wear skirts or dresses unless we are on holiday because of it.
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What makes home, home? The clutter in that drawer of things you won’t throw out, that dent in the wall you still laugh about, not enough space sometimes but it felt filled with love for it, and the radiator which needs a bang to get it spluttering into life and tells you Christmas is coming with chilly nights and board games. It was never home when it was new, perfect, unlived in.
This is your body.
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By *929Man 8 weeks ago
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Wouldn’t bother me I have a full abdominal incision scar runs from my pubic bone to a few inches below my chest as well as a circle shaped scar near it where I had to have a temporary bag on, never known anyone to be bothered by them most are just intrigued |
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"I have an abdominal scar. Some men haven't even noticed it despite it being a good 10cm long and quite indented . Distracted by boobs I guess.
Is that a new scar
I can't tell if you're joking? 😅 it's from surgery when I was 2 months old so definitely not new
That just shows how great your boobs are, I never even noticed any scar "
I still never get how people manage that but here we are! |
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I have a nice 3 inch scar on my abdomen, it doesn't bother me at all. It did concern me at first, but I found that most people ignored it.
If someone doesn't like it, that is there problem, not yours. |
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
Scars are like tattoos with better backstories |
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There's nothing wrong with scars.
Our bodies are maps that tell a story, some more characterful than others. The person wearing the scars is the important thing, and if anyone can't see past them then they don't deserve your attention |
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It makes no difference to me whatsoever, and can't imagine it would to anyone worth meeting.
I went on holiday to Gambia once with an Irish girl who lived next door, and she was obsessed that people would notice a tiny scar from a keyhole appendectomy. I had to tell her that her boobs would get far more attention... |
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"I have an abdominal scar. Some men haven't even noticed it despite it being a good 10cm long and quite indented . Distracted by boobs I guess."
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There is that possibility.
Alternatively, most gentlemen will notice it but pay no heed because it is of little consequence during romantic dalliances. ❣️ |
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"I have an abdominal scar. Some men haven't even noticed it despite it being a good 10cm long and quite indented . Distracted by boobs I guess.
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There is that possibility.
Alternatively, most gentlemen will notice it but pay no heed because it is of little consequence during romantic dalliances. ❣️"
But genuinely I've had men who have seen me naked multiple times and for whatever reason I mention the scar and they're like "what scar" . It amuses me to be honest. |
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
Scars don’t bother me, they interest me if anything ! Lots of women have scars from C-sections and self harming , it’s mostly clear what they are. |
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"I have an abdominal scar. Some men haven't even noticed it despite it being a good 10cm long and quite indented . Distracted by boobs I guess.
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There is that possibility.
Alternatively, most gentlemen will notice it but pay no heed because it is of little consequence during romantic dalliances. ❣️
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But genuinely I've had men who have seen me naked multiple times and for whatever reason I mention the scar and they're like "what scar" . It amuses me to be honest."
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I think they're just being polite as opposed to being disingenuous. 🙂 (I'm sure they've noticed it) |
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There was someone I was chatting to on here a year or so ago and she was very quick to discuss her 'white elephant' abdominal surgical scarring. Changed absolutely nothing when I saw it.
It actually prompted me to add something about scarring on my bio as I knew how much it affected her building up to that point.
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By *andKCouple 8 weeks ago
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Wear those scars loud and proud!
I have 5 surgical scars on my abdomen. They're part of my story. No one has ever mentioned them or commented on them.
Try not to worry about them. All the best with your next surgery, get better soon.
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"In my experience, men don't care as half as much as we think they do. I've got 4 scars on my stomach now from surgery and it doesn't matter, it's your life experience. Don't focus on men's opinions, focus on feeling good and confident with your own body, that's the only opinion that matters."
Well said that lady x |
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I once had a FB who had some major scaring from an accident she had as a teenager. I think (hope) I persuaded her that anyone worth playing with will see past the scaring, and in any case it was a part of who she was. She was particularly conscious about the scarring on her back (I think because she couldn't see it, so imagination made it worse). By the time we went our separate ways she was much more comfortable, which made me glad for her. |
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If i find a woman is hiding something from me, scars, tiger stripes, flabby belly etc, i make a beeline for them lots of cuddles, kisses, touches, so she never feels uncomfortable naked with me, sorry xx
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"I don't want to go Into to much info...
But how do men view abdominal scarring.
Surgical non cosmetic...
Not sure I'll ever feel confident to meet again once this is over..."
If it’s in a personal place then there must be a connection and trust before it was viewed, so anyone not respecting you when revealed has no place in your life. |
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"Never bothered me, but then I have my own, so......🤷♂️"
Paper cuts don’t really count though.
Op: I think scars are super cool. I have a very slight one on my face which was a real live duelling scar, except it was a rapier - got me on my face cheek. |
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"Thank you so much everyone... I have stretch marks and a facial scar that never bothered me.
Now have 4 new additions after emergency surgery and will gain 4 more significant ones after my next surgery..
Will absolutely be life saving and I hope part of my new found life will involved fab just worried about the Impact but you all reassured me ty "
As someone who has a scarring due to cancer surgery, I hated it but as time has gone by I’ve grown to like it. I go for scar massage therapy which has massively helped with how it looks and loosens everything up, I also use a cream for scars called Alhydran been using it for a few months now and the changes are noticeable |
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