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Beware of Overpriced Private Parties with Unfair Entry Fees
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Hey everyone,
I wanted to share a warning based on some recent experiences with private parties I've come across. There seems to be a growing trend where certain events charge an extortionate fee at the door, particularly targeting men. In these situations, single men are asked to pay an excessive entry fee, while couples and women are allowed in for free.
While organizers claim the high fee for men is to "cover expenses," I've attended many well-run private parties where the cost was equally shared among everyone—men, couples, and women alike. This unfair pricing setup raises a red flag, and I can’t help but feel that it’s less about costs and more about taking advantage of single men.
To anyone considering attending such events, I strongly urge you to pay attention to these pricing structures. Don’t be afraid to question it, and if it doesn’t seem fair or right, trust your instincts and steer clear.
Stay safe and have fun! |
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I get it but I also get that if someone is in business then it's to make money and that means costing according to what the market will bear.
An egalitarian approach is not a requirement.
Personally I don't attend events that charge a single man tax but plenty do and will continue to do so. |
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Another reason event organizers (at least the ones I know in Ireland) charge more for men is because often men don't turn up and costs need to be covered or they are left out of pocket. This is particularly true in on the private party scene. |
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"Another reason event organizers (at least the ones I know in Ireland) charge more for men is because often men don't turn up and costs need to be covered or they are left out of pocket. This is particularly true in on the private party scene."
That’s a good point. |
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"If you argue, they aren't gonna let you in. Understand your point, but it's a sellers market 
Not stupid to pay 100 pounds for 3 hrs"
To be fair people pay £145 quid for less than 3 hours listening to oasis in a field, both will generate memories so it’s how you as a person values things.
I’ve been to many private parties as a couple and the pricing was generally in line with clubs. |
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"Always remember you have the power of choice and can say 'thanks, but no thanks'. Never compromise yourself
I did...hence my post. I thought it was clear"
Do your due-diligence,make your choice.... why come on just moan  |
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By *8on33Man 7 weeks ago
winfrith |
"Hey everyone,
I wanted to share a warning based on some recent experiences with private parties I've come across. There seems to be a growing trend where certain events charge an extortionate fee at the door, particularly targeting men. In these situations, single men are asked to pay an excessive entry fee, while couples and women are allowed in for free.
While organizers claim the high fee for men is to "cover expenses," I've attended many well-run private parties where the cost was equally shared among everyone—men, couples, and women alike. This unfair pricing setup raises a red flag, and I can’t help but feel that it’s less about costs and more about taking advantage of single men.
To anyone considering attending such events, I strongly urge you to pay attention to these pricing structures. Don’t be afraid to question it, and if it doesn’t seem fair or right, trust your instincts and steer clear.
Stay safe and have fun!"
So you got to the door Op all viagrad up and then hit with this ridiculous price ? |
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"Is it unfair? Yeah.
But chances are women spend far more on their hair, makeup, nails and lingerie for these events than the price of a man's ticket anyway. "
Is it unfair? No.
1. The overheads as you just mentioned.
2. Men are far far more likely to just not turn up.
3. The pricing prob helps with mediating who is attending.
4. Men will pay it. If one doesn’t want to, cool. Another will. |
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"Is it unfair? Yeah.
But chances are women spend far more on their hair, makeup, nails and lingerie for these events than the price of a man's ticket anyway.
Is it unfair? No.
1. The overheads as you just mentioned.
2. Men are far far more likely to just not turn up.
3. The pricing prob helps with mediating who is attending.
4. Men will pay it. If one doesn’t want to, cool. Another will. "
OK OK it's fair 🙏
*sobs in £300 of balayage every 6 months* |
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I organise private parties. As it happens, I don’t charge, just I am very selective in who I invite.
But even a private party in a house has costs, which add up if it is done well. Somebody has to pay. If you don’t like what is being offered take your money elsewhere. |
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This unfair pricing setup raises a red flag, and I can’t help but feel that it’s less about costs and more about taking advantage of single men.
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There's no victims in this scenario.
It's a simple choice to pay or not and plenty of guys have the disposable income to do so and probably think it's worth it.
There's probably desperate guys who are paying up to and they might be victims of their own poor impulse control. |
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"Is it unfair? Yeah.
But chances are women spend far more on their hair, makeup, nails and lingerie for these events than the price of a man's ticket anyway. "
That’s her choice what to wear.
That isn’t relevant unless she is the product men are paying for.
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 7 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Whilst it might be nice in theory to attend and event with just me and 100 cocks to play with, it's better to limit the number of guys at any event and pricing is one way in which this is achieved  |
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"Whilst it might be nice in theory to attend and event with just me and 100 cocks to play with, it's better to limit the number of guys at any event and pricing is one way in which this is achieved "
Reducing availability is another, but your way is more profitable. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Whilst it might be nice in theory to attend and event with just me and 100 cocks to play with, it's better to limit the number of guys at any event and pricing is one way in which this is achieved "
So, the limit is 99! 😅 |
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i’ve been messaged a few times over the years, both on this profile and our couples one about party invites, they’ve always asked for a fee to be payed upfront and guaranteed lots of fun if attended, never have and never will pay an extortionate amount for any party, one guy was asking for £150  |
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By *wo4thirdCouple 7 weeks ago
St. Leonards-on-Sea |
Really depends on the situation/party, not everyone can accommodate for one reason or another so if it's in a hotel that needs paying for a fee can be charged. if your a male and expecting females to be at said hotel then unless your paying for the room and your all talk the again a upfront fee is called for. Just ask yourself how many courses or free exercise events or even free food tastings have your or others commited to going and then not turned up, not cost you anything to say yeah I'll go and then you don't. |
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"Is it unfair? Yeah.
But chances are women spend far more on their hair, makeup, nails and lingerie for these events than the price of a man's ticket anyway. "
This is giving "Men should always pay on a first date because..." energy  |
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By *abioMan 7 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hey everyone,
I wanted to share a warning based on some recent experiences with private parties I've come across. There seems to be a growing trend where certain events charge an extortionate fee at the door, particularly targeting men. In these situations, single men are asked to pay an excessive entry fee, while couples and women are allowed in for free.
While organizers claim the high fee for men is to "cover expenses," I've attended many well-run private parties where the cost was equally shared among everyone—men, couples, and women alike. This unfair pricing setup raises a red flag, and I can’t help but feel that it’s less about costs and more about taking advantage of single men.
To anyone considering attending such events, I strongly urge you to pay attention to these pricing structures. Don’t be afraid to question it, and if it doesn’t seem fair or right, trust your instincts and steer clear.
Stay safe and have fun!"
If you want to go to paid parties… that’s on you
In all my time on here… I have never been to a “paid party”
Maybe the real “moral of the story” is that people are better going to the more organised socials of which there are loads advertised on the site |
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Wouldn't pay to go to a private event at someone's house full stop.
However, as a woman who attends events. The price being higher for single men is better for us, because if it's cheap more men will go making it uncomfortable for the few woman who do go. |
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I'd not consider attending any such 'party', where the charging suggests that it's a commercial venture, with it pimping us out, as the money rolls in  , with the pretence that it's just friends getting together.
Swinging businesses that employ many deserve our support and money. It's a very tough investment. I'll skip others who are just a scam operation. |
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"I think the real problem with men paying more is the level of entitlement that comes with it.
I thought you wrote "level of ENTERTAINMENT" 
I think I should go to bed and sleep "
When they start doing card tricks we’ll be happy to pay more as a couple |
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"I think the real problem with men paying more is the level of entitlement that comes with it.
I thought you wrote "level of ENTERTAINMENT"
I think I should go to bed and sleep
When they start doing card tricks we’ll be happy to pay more as a couple "
Just like that! *Doffs fez* |
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"I am not talking about clubs!!!!"
Now that you have mentioned clubs I am pretty sure all the clubs we have ever been to have charged single males the most. Also everytime we go to a club unless it's a well organised event the vast majority inside are single males. |
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"Whilst it might be nice in theory to attend and event with just me and 100 cocks to play with, it's better to limit the number of guys at any event and pricing is one way in which this is achieved "
Come on, do you REALLY need 50 men for each boob? |
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Any private parties I've been to have been byob, but no attendance costs. I'd be happy to chip in to pay for nibbles being put out. Even more so if it was held in a venue vs a house as they'd be paying to book/use it. I'd not pay 100 quid, but then again I'm a tight fisted cow.
Saying that if I wanted to attend an event away from home, train fare, entry/ticket, hotel overnight, would all be well over 100 quid... So there is that too. |
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By *ickD80Man 7 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
Single males are a lot more likely to turn up looking for an easy shag and not take it serious at all, making the entrance fee expensive will filter these out and ensure just the serious and respectful males are there. A male who’s just looking for a bit of a laugh won’t pay an expensive entrance fee. I’d have thought it would be something you find out before getting there or that the host would make sure you’re aware of. Unless you have so much money you don’t need to worry about it, finding out how much something will cost to do is normally a major contributor in deciding whether or not you actually do it. You don’t ask how much the holiday will cost as you’re getting on the plane do you? |
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By *ickD80Man 7 weeks ago
Wolverhampton |
"Hey everyone,
I wanted to share a warning based on some recent experiences with private parties I've come across. There seems to be a growing trend where certain events charge an extortionate fee at the door, particularly targeting men. In these situations, single men are asked to pay an excessive entry fee, while couples and women are allowed in for free.
While organizers claim the high fee for men is to "cover expenses," I've attended many well-run private parties where the cost was equally shared among everyone—men, couples, and women alike. This unfair pricing setup raises a red flag, and I can’t help but feel that it’s less about costs and more about taking advantage of single men.
To anyone considering attending such events, I strongly urge you to pay attention to these pricing structures. Don’t be afraid to question it, and if it doesn’t seem fair or right, trust your instincts and steer clear.
Stay safe and have fun!"
If couples and women are going in for free then the entrance fee for single men is obviously going to be higher than if the costs are split equally….that’s not a red flag it’s just basic maths. The costs are always there and always the same…the mens entrance fee is higher because it’s covering the entire costs rather than a third of them. So the hosts claim that the entrance fee is to cover costs is as equally valid as the host who’s split it.
What do you consider excessive by the way? Men who have never been to a private party before won’t know if the entrance fee is excessive or normal as they have nothing to compare it to. Your warning is useless without quantifying it. |
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"Hey everyone,
I wanted to share a warning based on some recent experiences with private parties I've come across. There seems to be a growing trend where certain events charge an extortionate fee at the door, particularly targeting men. In these situations, single men are asked to pay an excessive entry fee, while couples and women are allowed in for free.
While organizers claim the high fee for men is to "cover expenses," I've attended many well-run private parties where the cost was equally shared among everyone—men, couples, and women alike. This unfair pricing setup raises a red flag, and I can’t help but feel that it’s less about costs and more about taking advantage of single men.
To anyone considering attending such events, I strongly urge you to pay attention to these pricing structures. Don’t be afraid to question it, and if it doesn’t seem fair or right, trust your instincts and steer clear.
Stay safe and have fun!
If couples and women are going in for free then the entrance fee for single men is obviously going to be higher than if the costs are split equally….that’s not a red flag it’s just basic maths. The costs are always there and always the same…the mens entrance fee is higher because it’s covering the entire costs rather than a third of them. So the hosts claim that the entrance fee is to cover costs is as equally valid as the host who’s split it.
What do you consider excessive by the way? Men who have never been to a private party before won’t know if the entrance fee is excessive or normal as they have nothing to compare it to. Your warning is useless without quantifying it. "
Have you ever been to a club or a private party? |
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Any of these private parties that are targeting men with guaranteed pay and play ‘with our three lovely ladies’ or similar type Gangbang £100 entry gigs is just sex workers using Fab as advertising… regardless of whether they allow other couples or women to attend. I got invited to one at Extasia - made some enquiries and soon realised it was just 4 sex workers private hire of the club under the guise of a Gangbang party. No thanks. |
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"Any of these private parties that are targeting men with guaranteed pay and play ‘with our three lovely ladies’ or similar type Gangbang £100 entry gigs is just sex workers using Fab as advertising… regardless of whether they allow other couples or women to attend. I got invited to one at Extasia - made some enquiries and soon realised it was just 4 sex workers private hire of the club under the guise of a Gangbang party. No thanks."
Surely what you are describing is not legal and is effectively running a brothel? Clubs cannot knowingly invite sex workers who are being paid to receive sexual services. At least, that is my understanding. |
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"Any of these private parties that are targeting men with guaranteed pay and play ‘with our three lovely ladies’ or similar type Gangbang £100 entry gigs is just sex workers using Fab as advertising… regardless of whether they allow other couples or women to attend. I got invited to one at Extasia - made some enquiries and soon realised it was just 4 sex workers private hire of the club under the guise of a Gangbang party. No thanks.
Surely what you are describing is not legal and is effectively running a brothel? Clubs cannot knowingly invite sex workers who are being paid to receive sexual services. At least, that is my understanding. "
How do you prove 4 enthusiastic women charging significant entrance fees are ‘sex workers’ though 😂 |
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"Any of these private parties that are targeting men with guaranteed pay and play ‘with our three lovely ladies’ or similar type Gangbang £100 entry gigs is just sex workers using Fab as advertising… regardless of whether they allow other couples or women to attend. I got invited to one at Extasia - made some enquiries and soon realised it was just 4 sex workers private hire of the club under the guise of a Gangbang party. No thanks."
Personally I've never had a problem with women charging for what many others give away for free. I call it enterprising. |
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"Another reason event organizers (at least the ones I know in Ireland) charge more for men is because often men don't turn up and costs need to be covered or they are left out of pocket. This is particularly true in on the private party scene.
That’s a good point. "
Luckily women and couples are never ever a no show.  |
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By *eyeYCouple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
May we ask if OP has organised a party? Frankly unless you're lucky enough to have a big house suitable, you'll need to hire a venue that is.
Of course they are free, and in most cases you'll have to hire it for the weekend, then there's the further expenses.
We have done 2, spent over £8,000 on them both and made the total of £250 loss..
So 'fair' prices? According to who? |
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i suppose its a bit of supply and demand as already stated, event organisers want more couples and single females but need to reduce the single males, but all that aside would you not have asked about costs before you went? |
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"Not just private parties but also clubs.
The people who promote club nights make a tidy bit of money.
Don’t put your name on a guest list, just turn up then all the money should go to the club."
Any club promoter makes money, whether it's a swingers club or a regular nightclub or bar. People don't often work for free. I see no issue with those promoting club nights and collating guest lists receiving payment. |
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"I organise private parties. As it happens, I don’t charge, just I am very selective in who I invite.
But even a private party in a house has costs, which add up if it is done well. Somebody has to pay. If you don’t like what is being offered take your money elsewhere. "
...and your cock.... |
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By *os19Man 6 weeks ago
Edmonton |
As a single guy who many years ago attended a party that was advertised as a swingers party but was really a sex party as the girls were paid girls you do have to make sure you don’t confuse the two different type of parties. |
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By *eyeYCouple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Not just private parties but also clubs.
The people who promote club nights make a tidy bit of money.
Don’t put your name on a guest list, just turn up then all the money should go to the club.
Any club promoter makes money, whether it's a swingers club or a regular nightclub or bar. People don't often work for free. I see no issue with those promoting club nights and collating guest lists receiving payment."
Agreed! The effort that goes into promoting, inviting, vetting, communication etc is tantamount to a second job! |
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"I think the real problem with men paying more is the level of entitlement that comes with it. "
Yep ,well said my friend, some people might think because they've paid they're gonna get laid ...paid & laid ..jeez they rhyme 🤣🤣🤣 |
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"I think the real problem with men paying more is the level of entitlement that comes with it.
Yep ,well said my friend, some people might think because they've paid they're gonna get laid ...paid & laid ..jeez they rhyme 🤣🤣🤣"
I have spent hundreds of pounds over the years on whale watching trips and I’ve seen fuck all 😭😆 that’s just life |
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"I think the real problem with men paying more is the level of entitlement that comes with it.
Yep ,well said my friend, some people might think because they've paid they're gonna get laid ...paid & laid ..jeez they rhyme 🤣🤣🤣
I have spent hundreds of pounds over the years on whale watching trips and I’ve seen fuck all 😭😆 that’s just life "
Jeez, hope you weren't too disappointed, it'll happen when you least expect it ...kinda like here, well that's what l tell myself anyway 🤣🤣🤣 |
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"I think the real problem with men paying more is the level of entitlement that comes with it.
Yep ,well said my friend, some people might think because they've paid they're gonna get laid ...paid & laid ..jeez they rhyme 🤣🤣🤣
I have spent hundreds of pounds over the years on whale watching trips and I’ve seen fuck all 😭😆 that’s just life
Jeez, hope you weren't too disappointed, it'll happen when you least expect it ...kinda like here, well that's what l tell myself anyway 🤣🤣🤣"
It’s a good thing I enjoy boat trips anyway but I was disappointed when we didn’t see any whales in Iceland  and then I’d booked a dolphin watching trip in Madeira and then Thomas cook (who the rest of the holiday was booked with) folded |
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"Any of these private parties that are targeting men with guaranteed pay and play ‘with our three lovely ladies’ or similar type Gangbang £100 entry gigs is just sex workers using Fab as advertising… regardless of whether they allow other couples or women to attend. I got invited to one at Extasia - made some enquiries and soon realised it was just 4 sex workers private hire of the club under the guise of a Gangbang party. No thanks.
Surely what you are describing is not legal and is effectively running a brothel? Clubs cannot knowingly invite sex workers who are being paid to receive sexual services. At least, that is my understanding. "
Lots of things happen that are not strictly legal all the time. This definitely happens. There was a small club in my area that did exactly this. |
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By *omeoplaysMan 6 weeks ago
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I’m gona start by saying there should be no entitlement. You pay for entry and nothing more. If you find the pricing too much or unfair don’t go to the event. There might be someone else willing to pay. I believe we are all adults and we can all decide how we spend our money. Complaining won’t change the pricing just look for somewhere with prices you find acceptable. |
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