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What stops you doing something you really want?
Maybe you think the money could be spent better elsewhere or no money
Maybe you don’t think you can take the risk right now
Maybe you’re worried you may not like it or you may actually like it
What stops you doing something you’ve always wanted to or do you just do it anyway?
Have you ever done something you always wanted but found the reality of it wasn’t worth the wait?
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I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream. |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream."
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo. |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo. "
Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.
I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣 |
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By *a LunaWoman 8 weeks ago
South Wales |
Fear of making a mistake.
I tend to rush into things without always thinking about the consequences.
Familiarity. I like routine and knowing what is around the corner. Until I don’t. But I wouldn’t risk that unless I was certain of the outcome.
Lack of spare money.
Responsibility- to my mum, my children and my 3 dogs. |
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"Fear of making a mistake.
I tend to rush into things without always thinking about the consequences.
Familiarity. I like routine and knowing what is around the corner. Until I don’t. But I wouldn’t risk that unless I was certain of the outcome.
Lack of spare money.
Responsibility- to my mum, my children and my 3 dogs."
I understand responsibility totally |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo. "
its hard on your own, especially if you go somewhere exciting - who do you point all the things out to ?? yep - its ok to go away and just veg but an exciting holiday you need people to share the joy and fun with |
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"If I really want it, I do it.
Things that stop me doing as much as I’d like are time, money and dog care!
Take the Frenchie with you. They’d like a day out 😂"
He’s a massive pain 😂
The plan is to get another camper and go to places he can come too. |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.
its hard on your own, especially if you go somewhere exciting - who do you point all the things out to ?? yep - its ok to go away and just veg but an exciting holiday you need people to share the joy and fun with "
Exactly! I feel like I’d stare at some grand scenic view and think “Yea so that’s nice” and then walk off. Probably take a shit selfie which I’ll delete after a week. |
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"If I really want it, I do it.
Things that stop me doing as much as I’d like are time, money and dog care!
Take the Frenchie with you. They’d like a day out 😂
He’s a massive pain 😂
The plan is to get another camper and go to places he can come too. "
He can sit up front and look and plan the route |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.
Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.
I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣"
😆😆😆
C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon….. |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.
its hard on your own, especially if you go somewhere exciting - who do you point all the things out to ?? yep - its ok to go away and just veg but an exciting holiday you need people to share the joy and fun with
Exactly! I feel like I’d stare at some grand scenic view and think “Yea so that’s nice” and then walk off. Probably take a shit selfie which I’ll delete after a week."
i have months worth of photos on a life trip abroad for 9 months - and have hardly shown anyone - that was a trip on my own, i really enjoyed it but who cares |
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My a.d.d stops me on alot of things ill decide im going to save for say download festival ill stick with it for a week or two then ill just forget about saving for that and decide ill want a new phone but same thing happens I forget what I was saving for or ill get distracted by something new |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.
Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.
I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣
😆😆😆
C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon….."
Is that a euphemism Felix? |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.
Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.
I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣
😆😆😆
C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon…..
Is that a euphemism Felix? "
You know me so well!! 😆 |
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"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.
And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.
I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.
Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.
I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣
😆😆😆
C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon….."
Aah! "The kiddies' play area syndrome"
Sometimes you can play there on your own: slides and climbing frames.
Swings are solo play equipment and also work well with a friend.
Roundabouts, seesaws and witch's hats are absolutely useless without someone else to get things moving, ie pushing, pulling and jumping.
Meanwhile for the adults...
A landline is useless without another talker on the other end. Mobile phones can exist without a single word being spoken.
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I stay in my safe space where I know the outcome and have no problems brought to me. I'm able to predict what's coming and prepare for it. Doing something I've always wanted to do would mean leaving comfort zone and at the moment that's all I have. |
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By *oydykeWoman 8 weeks ago
Southampton (they/them) |
Money is one reason why I don’t do a lot of things
But the main reason is anxiety ! I used to have such severe anxiety and I’ve worked so hard on it and now it’s manageable but I still don’t do stuff because of the fear of being perceived. It’s more the fear of being perceived by family members, tho.
I also have massive trust issues and hypochondria that stop me doing stuff that’s thrill seeking/adrenaline |
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By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
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Myself. Well, doubts and uncertainties. And time. That's a very precious resource to me.
I'm recently more fond of going for it. Embracing life and not making excuses. Now I have another date in the making with someone I think is rather lovely. Sometimes it's good to go for it. Try it and see what happens (resources allowing). |
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By *lex46TV/TS 8 weeks ago
Near Wells |
Having enough money and time stops me thinking about doing those things.
But if I really want to do it, I’ll find both of those and go ahead. Maybe I just don’t want those other things enough. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 8 weeks ago
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Nothing really. I do pretty much exactly what I want to do, cutting my coat according to my cloth. If it doesn't work out (nothing hasn't so far), then I'd just go and do something else instead.
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My health stops me from doing much physical these days
My mental health stops me from doing ANYTHING fun, I have severe agoraphobia and can't go more than two streets away from home without panic attacks, so that's very limiting
Money stops me from doing a lot, my partner steals from me so they can buy beer and tobacco and energy drinks, so I'm left with maybe £100 a month if I'm lucky? |
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Nothing has ever stopped me doing what I want. I'm single-minded in my pursuit of things I wish to pursue. Has everything always worked out ? Of course not. Do I regret anything ? Non, je ne regrette rien.
The only regrets I have ever had are for things I didn't do, not things I did. |
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