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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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I have to admit, after being on here for a few weeks I’m still absolutely fascinated by how it works.
Like don’t get me wrong, I think I have a good physique, and a decent bit of crack over message, rather than just sending “hey”
But nonetheless, still just get those messages left on “read”
Which begs the question I’ve asked in title. Really curious.  |
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OP, your query is as old as time itself, older than the cosmos and waaay older than some of the moth-eaten Goth women on here: you've only been here a few weeks. That is but a picosecond on the Fab timeframe.
Pay heed to some of the good advice herein and then give it time. Good luck, young Sirrah. 🩶 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"People want different things.
Profiles will often give an indication of if it's actually worth messaging them based on compatible wants."
Even then, doesn’t seem to even get much of a response.
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"People want different things.
Profiles will often give an indication of if it's actually worth messaging them based on compatible wants."
This…. Amount of people who message and they clearly haven’t read my profile |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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What people want is usually written in their profiles. It's occasionally between the lines, though.
Most people, at least the ones I care to interact with, want some degree of human interaction, optionally and eventually leading up to intercourse somewhere down the line. *T&C apply. |
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"People want different things.
Profiles will often give an indication of if it's actually worth messaging them based on compatible wants.
Even then, doesn’t seem to even get much of a response.
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Then you're obviously less interesting to them than they are to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"You’ve not asked for profile review so in answer to what people want, I guess reading their profile may give that info "
Didn’t even think that was a thing tbf. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"People want different things.
Profiles will often give an indication of if it's actually worth messaging them based on compatible wants.
Even then, doesn’t seem to even get much of a response.
Then you're obviously less interesting to them than they are to you."
Maybe. Or it could be that I’m not a women. I’d assume every women on here has at least 100+ messages regardless of what’s written anywhere. |
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"Maybe. Or it could be that I’m not a women. I’d assume every women on here has at least 100+ messages regardless of what’s written anywhere."
As someone that also wants women, I don't bother replying to messages from women who don't interest or excite me either.
The people that I have met from here have been both interesting amd exciting to me from the off. If anything, the endless ocean of unwanted penii in the inbox just gives a simple dull backdrop that the goods ones stand out even brighter against.
Don't go blaming numbers for it.
Since the advent of the Internet has meant we don't have to settle for simply the least mediocre option in the immediate vicinity, a lot of people are more invested in finding something actually worthwhile to them, instead of just something that'll do 💜 |
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"I want someone to treat my like a Princess.
Not the kind that gets killed in traffic accidents though."
How do you confirm this Nanna?
Take them on a drive for the first date and wrap the car around a tree? Anything more than a scratch and they're just too flimsy for anything long term? |
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Most people don’t want to read random messages from random people or are sat desperate to meet and have sex. Most people have lives and partners, FWB’s , enough sex and their inbox gets maybe a little more attention than their junk mail folder most of the time. And then occasionally there’s an itch that needs scratching |
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Personally we're not here for anything as we have each other. This place is a network for us now, meets never materialise so we're now falling shy of them, so it's to see what's on at clubs and who's going, nothing more. |
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"I have to admit, after being on here for a few weeks I’m still absolutely fascinated by how it works.
Like don’t get me wrong, I think I have a good physique, and a decent bit of crack over message, rather than just sending “hey”
But nonetheless, still just get those messages left on “read”
Which begs the question I’ve asked in title. Really curious. "
Are you frustrated that your messages aren't getting replied to at all? Or is it that those people aren't showing interest?
Everyone's used to apps these days where you have to match with someone in order to message them, but by that point you've both shown mutual interest based on pics, bio or both. On here you're literally just taking a shot in the dark. The people you're messaging haven't explicitly given you any reason to message, or asked you to, therefore they also don't owe you a reply.
But I guess the question is what are YOU looking for? You seem to be looking to tailor your approach based on what most users want... That might net you a reply or two back, but women are pretty quick to tell when someone is just saying what they want to hear.
Anyway, good luck OP 🤞 |
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OP the ladies on here will all have different preferences and be looking for different things from a meet.
If I was looking for single men, I would want meet men who come across as intelligent, friendly and fun.
I'm afraid your profile wouldn't entice me at all. |
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"OP the ladies on here will all have different preferences and be looking for different things from a meet.
If I was looking for single men, I would want meet men who come across as intelligent, friendly and fun.
I'm afraid your profile wouldn't entice me at all."
^This^  |
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As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha |
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"As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha"
You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations. |
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"As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha
You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations. "
In all fairness my status has just gone from genuine to just a joke now, but I don't get what the age of my profile has got to do with it unless all the lasses are waiting till my profile is x months old, that's a bit strange?
Furthermore what expectations am I suppose to have? Do people sign up for this and then go on a hiatus for a while and then get stuck In afterwards?
I get there's plenty of loons and weirdos about, but there's a fair majority of guys here who are probably like minded and genuine and are of the same mind as you when it comes to using this site.
It's flooded with weiner, it is what it is, I'm stating my view that's all.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations. "
Seems to be a common occurrence here (and in other places I've visited over the years), where some of the guys are expecting immediate results and/or their expectations are set far too high.
Single men are everywhere, spread across the Wide Wide World of Web like a rampant virus and the choices are many. Hell, I'm one of them. But I could well be leaving soon, depending on the outcome of some recent connections, so there will be one less lol.
Doesn't matter how good you look, or whether you can string a sentence together, there is still a LOT of men to choose from. Some of which will be more interesting to one person than the other. Just how it works, eh?
Pays to not care at all what happens and just, to use a cliché term, go with the flow.
Expectation settings at zero is always the best way. 😄 |
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"You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations.
Seems to be a common occurrence here (and in other places I've visited over the years), where some of the guys are expecting immediate results and/or their expectations are set far too high.
Single men are everywhere, spread across the Wide Wide World of Web like a rampant virus and the choices are many. Hell, I'm one of them. But I could well be leaving soon, depending on the outcome of some recent connections, so there will be one less lol.
Doesn't matter how good you look, or whether you can string a sentence together, there is still a LOT of men to choose from. Some of which will be more interesting to one person than the other. Just how it works, eh?
Pays to not care at all what happens and just, to use a cliché term, go with the flow.
Expectation settings at zero is always the best way. 😄"
I completely agree with you, I never once underestimated the reality of what some females have to put up with on here, some of the abuse is simply abhorrent I'd never dream of speaking to any lady Like that, I think my mum raised me well with that in mind.
It's frustrating that there isn't a way to prove it, I had low expectations to begin with but 2 weeks of reaching out and getting aired is pretty jarring.
Like am I the elephant man or something lmao. |
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"As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha
You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations.
In all fairness my status has just gone from genuine to just a joke now, but I don't get what the age of my profile has got to do with it unless all the lasses are waiting till my profile is x months old, that's a bit strange?
Furthermore what expectations am I suppose to have? Do people sign up for this and then go on a hiatus for a while and then get stuck In afterwards?
I get there's plenty of loons and weirdos about, but there's a fair majority of guys here who are probably like minded and genuine and are of the same mind as you when it comes to using this site.
It's flooded with weiner, it is what it is, I'm stating my view that's all. "
Many single guys join Fab expecting to meet easily, this tends not to be the case .
You're disenchanted with the site after just 2 weeks. This indicates that you expected to have met and had sex by now. |
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"As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha
You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations.
In all fairness my status has just gone from genuine to just a joke now, but I don't get what the age of my profile has got to do with it unless all the lasses are waiting till my profile is x months old, that's a bit strange?
Furthermore what expectations am I suppose to have? Do people sign up for this and then go on a hiatus for a while and then get stuck In afterwards?
I get there's plenty of loons and weirdos about, but there's a fair majority of guys here who are probably like minded and genuine and are of the same mind as you when it comes to using this site.
It's flooded with weiner, it is what it is, I'm stating my view that's all.
Many single guys join Fab expecting to meet easily, this tends not to be the case .
You're disenchanted with the site after just 2 weeks. This indicates that you expected to have met and had sex by now."
read my bio, I'm happy just to make new connections and see where it leads, can't exactly do that when the door never opens.
What exactly would you advise I try, make an account be online and do absolutely nothing?  this is mad haha |
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To be fair, I think whatever her name is is on to something, I've tried the range of icebreakers to no avail..
But...but by just sitting there and doing nothing at all..the females will start replyi-no this is absolutely crazy.  |
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"To be fair, I think whatever her name is is on to something, I've tried the range of icebreakers to no avail..
But...but by just sitting there and doing nothing at all..the females will start replyi-no this is absolutely crazy. "
Referring to people as "whatever her name is" isn't gonna net you any favours 😬😬😬 |
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"To be fair, I think whatever her name is is on to something, I've tried the range of icebreakers to no avail..
But...but by just sitting there and doing nothing at all..the females will start replyi-no this is absolutely crazy. "
Go to a club or social and meet people in person. I think that's the best option.
It's hard to establish a connection online, however good your profile and messages are. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"People want different things.
Profiles will often give an indication of if it's actually worth messaging them based on compatible wants."
Wait, profiles are meant to be read ??!? |
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"As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha
You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations.
In all fairness my status has just gone from genuine to just a joke now, but I don't get what the age of my profile has got to do with it unless all the lasses are waiting till my profile is x months old, that's a bit strange?
Furthermore what expectations am I suppose to have? Do people sign up for this and then go on a hiatus for a while and then get stuck In afterwards?
I get there's plenty of loons and weirdos about, but there's a fair majority of guys here who are probably like minded and genuine and are of the same mind as you when it comes to using this site.
It's flooded with weiner, it is what it is, I'm stating my view that's all.
Many single guys join Fab expecting to meet easily, this tends not to be the case .
You're disenchanted with the site after just 2 weeks. This indicates that you expected to have met and had sex by now. read my bio, I'm happy just to make new connections and see where it leads, can't exactly do that when the door never opens.
What exactly would you advise I try, make an account be online and do absolutely nothing? this is mad haha"
You are expecting others to do the heavy lifting by asking them to get in touch if they want to know more.
That puts many people off straight away.
Reminding them of all the abuse they have to deal with from other profiles is a form of virtue signalling and that also puts a lot of people off straight away. |
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"To be fair, I think whatever her name is is on to something, I've tried the range of icebreakers to no avail..
But...but by just sitting there and doing nothing at all..the females will start replyi-no this is absolutely crazy.
Referring to people as "whatever her name is" isn't gonna net you any favours 😬😬😬"
wow that is what your pulling me up about? I've got adhd and my mind is like a sieve, I can't remember her name, and she's painting me out like she knows the score? Regardless of the points aswell haha.
I'm sorry I forgot her name. If that's even the real alias |
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"As far as being respectful and not being a total creep goes, it's real bad.
I'll say its a bit disheartening when your being genuine and sincere and you can't even get a reply, that's probably my own issue though.
And as for being left on read I'm practically the color itself now.
GG ladies, your secrets elude me once more haha
You've only been here 2 weeks and your profile status is not going to do you any favours.
I think you and the OP would probably benefit from reexamining your expectations.
In all fairness my status has just gone from genuine to just a joke now, but I don't get what the age of my profile has got to do with it unless all the lasses are waiting till my profile is x months old, that's a bit strange?
Furthermore what expectations am I suppose to have? Do people sign up for this and then go on a hiatus for a while and then get stuck In afterwards?
I get there's plenty of loons and weirdos about, but there's a fair majority of guys here who are probably like minded and genuine and are of the same mind as you when it comes to using this site.
It's flooded with weiner, it is what it is, I'm stating my view that's all.
Many single guys join Fab expecting to meet easily, this tends not to be the case .
You're disenchanted with the site after just 2 weeks. This indicates that you expected to have met and had sex by now. read my bio, I'm happy just to make new connections and see where it leads, can't exactly do that when the door never opens.
What exactly would you advise I try, make an account be online and do absolutely nothing? this is mad haha
You are expecting others to do the heavy lifting by asking them to get in touch if they want to know more.
That puts many people off straight away.
Reminding them of all the abuse they have to deal with from other profiles is a form of virtue signalling and that also puts a lot of people off straight away."
My guy, have you seen some of these lads tactics on here?
Some guys are cool simping and waiting to be picked thats on them, i just find it hard to compute exactly how your supposed to conduct yourself.
Aggression, dick pics and outright childish behavior are some of the attitudes that isn't me, and I sure as shit wouldn't open with that either.
So you make a move and get shafted, you be proactive or curtious your a weirdo.
I'm intrigued honestly, please explain the ethics I'm really eager to hear haha
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And how is being patient and asking if whoever is reading my bio to message me if their interested is heavy lifting or a harmful reminder to the abuse they had I'm in stitches with that one, you've gotta elaborate on that aswell come on bro. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 7 weeks ago
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"99 percent of the site are here for the fannies
Mate you should just quote me entire bio, instead of doing it in segments every 15 mins
Are you going to remove that part too? "
You should try it, there’s a good amount of things I’d recommend you change or completely delete  |
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If observations are anything to go by on these types of threads and, in particular, this one, then some of those who are lamenting or voicing their despair for not having much luck or success have the following similarities:
They've been here less than a month but expect the moon on a stick; they're posting unattractive status updates that would put most people off; their profiles lack anything of substance other than rudimentary details of nothingness; derogatory profile titles at the top of their profile and unimaginative profile photos of their genitals in a variety of unflattering angles... ...
Fixing everything above doesn't necessarily guarantee you success in whatever manifestation, but it's a head start and puts you in a better position over other people. |
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"And how is being patient and asking if whoever is reading my bio to message me if their interested is heavy lifting or a harmful reminder to the abuse they had I'm in stitches with that one, you've gotta elaborate on that aswell come on bro."
Average inbox for the day for me is around 100 messages. By the time I've got through that, I'm not going looking for even more people to reach out to.
On the rare occasions when I do reach out, it's to a profile that has enough information for me to gauge that we're potentially compatible.
I'm not chasing someone who hasn't even expressed interest in me to find out the basic information when the odds are it'll mean it's just wasting both of our time. Especially when there are plenty of well written profiles and messages flying about. I'm not driving the conversation with someone that isn't even giving enough to base an interest off in the first place.
The point was virtue signalling about reminding people how shit the other 99% are. If there's 99 shit things, and one slightly less shit thing, that doesn't actually mean any of it is worth dealing with. If the only way you look good is by highlighting the worst parts of others, that's not cute 💜 |
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"If observations are anything to go by on these types of threads and, in particular, this one, then some of those who are lamenting or voicing their despair for not having much luck or success have the following similarities:
They've been here less than a month but expect the moon on a stick; they're posting unattractive status updates that would put most people off; their profiles lack anything of substance other than rudimentary details of nothingness; derogatory profile titles at the top of their profile and unimaginative profile photos of their genitals in a variety of unflattering angles... ...
Fixing everything above doesn't necessarily guarantee you success in whatever manifestation, but it's a head start and puts you in a better position over other people."
Ouch bro that cut so deep.
I'll say it here for the record, I'm looking for a single individual not the entire site, and I want to get to know them given the attraction is reciprocated.
Someone could message now and we could talk for as long as can be, it's refreshing reaching out even on a social level, we could even then not be sexually compatible which would be seen through the conversation but we could still be friends.
A win is a win.
Don't twist what I'm trying to say haha |
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"And how is being patient and asking if whoever is reading my bio to message me if their interested is heavy lifting or a harmful reminder to the abuse they had I'm in stitches with that one, you've gotta elaborate on that aswell come on bro.
Average inbox for the day for me is around 100 messages. By the time I've got through that, I'm not going looking for even more people to reach out to.
On the rare occasions when I do reach out, it's to a profile that has enough information for me to gauge that we're potentially compatible.
I'm not chasing someone who hasn't even expressed interest in me to find out the basic information when the odds are it'll mean it's just wasting both of our time. Especially when there are plenty of well written profiles and messages flying about. I'm not driving the conversation with someone that isn't even giving enough to base an interest off in the first place.
The point was virtue signalling about reminding people how shit the other 99% are. If there's 99 shit things, and one slightly less shit thing, that doesn't actually mean any of it is worth dealing with. If the only way you look good is by highlighting the worst parts of others, that's not cute 💜"
hey ill eat my hat that last bit makes sense to be honest, I didn't consider it from that angle.
It wasn't put with that intention though. But I understand your view yeah.  |
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"If observations are anything to go by on these types of threads and, in particular, this one, then some of those who are lamenting or voicing their despair for not having much luck or success have the following similarities:
They've been here less than a month but expect the moon on a stick; they're posting unattractive status updates that would put most people off; their profiles lack anything of substance other than rudimentary details of nothingness; derogatory profile titles at the top of their profile and unimaginative profile photos of their genitals in a variety of unflattering angles... ...
Fixing everything above doesn't necessarily guarantee you success in whatever manifestation, but it's a head start and puts you in a better position over other people."
Now I want the moon on a stick. Obvs ♥️ |
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Let’s be honest here; even a casual look will show that very few women or m/f couples on here ever meet anyone.
I could only guess at why most of them are actually on the site.
I would suggest that most guys on here hoping to meet women would be far better off looking elsewhere. |
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"Let’s be honest here; even a casual look will show that very few women or m/f couples on here ever meet anyone.
I could only guess at why most of them are actually on the site.
I would suggest that most guys on here hoping to meet women would be far better off looking elsewhere. "
I agree with you, ill ne honest im contemplating this entire debate and I'm warming to the idea that maybe I'm not the right demographic for this site.
I tried it, I wasn't hostile or sketchy but it's not worked for me personally, it's no big deal the results are the same if I stay or go I figured this might have created a straight opportunity to connect or atleast enhance my chances as I'm quite introverted by nature.
I wish the other men the best of luck, I'm all about people winning.
Now seriously, I'm off to play warhammer there are thousands of tyranids that need cleansing from reality.
For the emperor brothers. Haha
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 weeks ago
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"Let’s be honest here; even a casual look will show that very few women or m/f couples on here ever meet anyone.
I could only guess at why most of them are actually on the site.
I would suggest that most guys on here hoping to meet women would be far better off looking elsewhere. "
I'd argue otherwise.
Plenty meet.
They just don't meet everyone and anyone. 🤷♂️ |
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"Most people don’t want to read random messages from random people or are sat desperate to meet and have sex. Most people have lives and partners, FWB’s , enough sex and their inbox gets maybe a little more attention than their junk mail folder most of the time. And then occasionally there’s an itch that needs scratching"
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They need attraction, compatibility and the minority of people who will match them, which they have the difficult job of choosing by looking at profiles and how men sell themselves, if they are a man, like the OP.
If your profile truly sells you at your best and gives the most accurate understanding that strangers could have, to know if you might match them, you're doing well.
Otherwise, if in doubt, they'll move on, as there are thousands of men who could. |
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"They need attraction, compatibility and the minority of people who will match them, which they have the difficult job of choosing by looking at profiles and how men sell themselves, if they are a man, like the OP.
If your profile truly sells you at your best and gives the most accurate understanding that strangers could have, to know if you might match them, you're doing well.
Otherwise, if in doubt, they'll move on, as there are thousands of men who could. "
That's well stated in all fairness, fair play.
That leaves me with the ultimate question, how to best sell myself..
Ha..
*existential crisis occurs*
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By *8on33Man 7 weeks ago
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"I have to admit, after being on here for a few weeks I’m still absolutely fascinated by how it works.
Like don’t get me wrong, I think I have a good physique, and a decent bit of crack over message, rather than just sending “hey”
But nonetheless, still just get those messages left on “read”
Which begs the question I’ve asked in title. Really curious. "
Suppose it depends how you message, do you treat the site as a sex site ?Are your messages polite and non sexual ?Have you read the target profiles profile ?Did you send a sexual pic ?I guess it's all down to us as to how we are perceived. |
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"I have to admit, after being on here for a few weeks I’m still absolutely fascinated by how it works.
Like don’t get me wrong, I think I have a good physique, and a decent bit of crack over message, rather than just sending “hey”
But nonetheless, still just get those messages left on “read”
Which begs the question I’ve asked in title. Really curious. "
Shock horror self professed good looking man doesn’t get women flocking to him on a sex site.
If you’re young and in shape you’d probably have more success on a dating app than fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Too many time wasters here tbh. Long ass profiles talking about open communication and what not but when you actually get to chat and meet. They have barely anything to say and it's all an act |
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By *hilloutMan 7 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I've re-embraced my free sprited, carefree approach since my return to active status here.
I want unique experiences with people I click with both socially and sexually as this is what gives me the most satisfaction.
I'd be open to something more regular with the right people, but am aware my geographical circumstances make that difficult 😐 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
What do I want?
It's literally in my profile text. That's generally the simplest way to let people know.
Being clear and concise works. Also saves you going through lots of 'what are you looking for?' messages, because if the question is asked then they clearly haven't bothered reading what I've written. They can go straight in the bin. 🤷♂️ |
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Would like a local man to connect with and try exploring sex together
I’m not experienced much with penetration and would like to enjoy that and possibly have some form of friendship or relationships |
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If we were straight we wouldn't be here.. We like to have plenty of bi fun and we like to do it together with lots of limbs entangled everywhere the more people involved the better..
We've given up looking on here now as theirs just to many fantasists and people that insist I just haven't found the right straight cock  ..
We've made some great memories and friends along the way and are enjoying our club visits.. |
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"I have to admit, after being on here for a few weeks I’m still absolutely fascinated by how it works.
Like don’t get me wrong, I think I have a good physique, and a decent bit of crack over message, rather than just sending “hey”
But nonetheless, still just get those messages left on “read”
Which begs the question I’ve asked in title. Really curious. "
It may surprise you OP but it’s not always ripped abs - if you want to really know what people want then a good starting point would be to read the classic My Secret Garden and the more modern Want by Gillian Anderson. Insights to female sexual fantasy…. |
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It may surprise you OP but it’s not always ripped abs - if you want to really know what people want then a good starting point would be to read the classic My Secret Garden and the more modern Want by Gillian Anderson. Insights to female sexual fantasy…."
Great advice and book suggestion! I’m enjoying it. Thank you. |
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I want body contact ultimately. Not ready to be put out to pasture just yet. When this was a swinging site sex was what many were on here for but nowadays it's a site for people to connect in other ways. This is especially true since 2020 when people lost a lot of connection and came here for that. |
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Socials with my better half and other couples with no expectations of it leading anywhere but maybe some aspirations. Seems like a bit of a lost cause tbh as most couples around us seem to want a guaranteed option. |
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Found it by accident. I was made welcome and have made lots of friends and like lots of people, a few that I have also met. Of course I like the forums, the banter and the good company. An occasional rolling of the eyes too |
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Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
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By *bxanfCouple 1 week ago
Shadow Moses, Stourbridge |
"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
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No "filthy phone sex chat"?
For shame |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 1 week ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
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You're a real trouper! Fab was made for, and by, people like you, MrsMisty 😁.
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 1 week ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
No "filthy phone sex chat"?
For shame "
I handle that.
But wait... I just read my profile... no, no I don't.
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"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
You're a real trouper! Fab was made for, and by, people like you, MrsMisty 😁.
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It’s a calling.  |
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"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
You're a real trouper! Fab was made for, and by, people like you, MrsMisty 😁.
It’s a calling. "
⬆️ I want Mrs Misty. Don't think her hubby would be too chuffed though |
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I'm here to gain experience without paying for it again. But I've come to realise that it's easier said than done. I've been given advice already. Pretty good advice but it'll be an uphill battle for me which worries me as I have sexual fantasies I want to fulfil. |
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"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
You're a real trouper! Fab was made for, and by, people like you, MrsMisty 😁.
It’s a calling.
⬆️ I want Mrs Misty. Don't think her hubby would be too chuffed though "
He’d pull up a chair & cheer you on 🤣🤣🤣 |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 1 week ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Originally I came here to fuck the whole of fab. I was getting on quite well, but it’s started to chafe a bit now. So while I sit in a bucket of iced water I’m replying to all messages, collating the cock pictures by size, background and general healthy appearance. If I get time I may “jump onto cams”, have some “wank chat” and hoover out the back of the car in readiness for some “car fun”.
You're a real trouper! Fab was made for, and by, people like you, MrsMisty 😁.
It’s a calling. "
Like the Call of Cthulhu... |
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To be treated like a human being in first message - anything indicating you've sent the message to just me.
Then some conversation if we're compatible, before mutually agreeable conditions for meeting. |
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