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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Before anyone says I am not attention seeking or looking for sympathy. Ok got that out the way.
The reason I have posted this is coz I am feeling very alone in myself and wish I had a partner to share my ups as well as downs.
Just because I am on a swingers site and not a dating site does not mean I don't have feelings and can be vulnerable to the elements of life.
Just thought I would share my bit of psychology lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find when I'm down that being on here I have found some true friends.
Recent hard times have shown me that, not having a partner doesn't mean you can't share things or cuddle up. Sometimes you can have the best of both.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"have you had the camera up ya bum yet"
No still waiting for the nhs to pull there finger out of there's and contact me or I will be ringing the docs again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find when I'm down that being on here I have found some true friends.
Recent hard times have shown me that, not having a partner doesn't mean you can't share things or cuddle up. Sometimes you can have the best of both.
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Yes I agree there are some lovely people on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"have you had the camera up ya bum yet
No still waiting for the nhs to pull there finger out of there's and contact me or I will be ringing the docs again "
I thought it was a joke, sorry OP didn't realise you had been poorly (((hugs)))) |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Diamond lol.
Van we all get like it sometimes. Having that special someone is lovely to text you in a morning and to tell your special news to.
It is painful when that is gone. My special someones are my children but often cant tell them all my exciting stuff lol.
I have a good friend and she is great. She knows the me that cries the me that smiles and the _ruit on fab. And that is very lucky to have.
Chin up Van xxx
Ps have you had the camera up ya bum yet? Xx |
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Loneliness is a state of mine. You have your son and you have friends. People can do lots of things without having to be in relationship, sometimes if we seek to hard it doesnt find us, but if we sit back and have fun then you never know whats around the corner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find when I'm down that being on here I have found some true friends.
Recent hard times have shown me that, not having a partner doesn't mean you can't share things or cuddle up. Sometimes you can have the best of both.
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I have found this to be true apart from the cuddling up bit as I have not actually met anyone. Maybe that's my own fault. I don't know lol but yes people have been very good to me on here |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I have said it before and I will say it again to you, the volume of change that you have gone through is bound to have an impact. You have done well to cope thus far and it would do no harm to speak to a professional. Let your doctor know and take it from there.
The friends you have made on here will be an ear, but may not be the best to support you through some of the darker feeling you may have.
I am sure the doctor will be a great source of help.
All the best |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"have you had the camera up ya bum yet
No still waiting for the nhs to pull there finger out of there's and contact me or I will be ringing the docs again
I thought it was a joke, sorry OP didn't realise you had been poorly (((hugs))))"
It's ok no probs and thank you for the hugs most welcome xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have said it before and I will say it again to you, the volume of change that you have gone through is bound to have an impact. You have done well to cope thus far and it would do no harm to speak to a professional. Let your doctor know and take it from there.
The friends you have made on here will be an ear, but may not be the best to support you through some of the darker feeling you may have.
I am sure the doctor will be a great source of help.
All the best"
Been to the gp and she is booking me some councilling to help me manage my stress levels I do so hope it can help and thank you _iew mate |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I have said it before and I will say it again to you, the volume of change that you have gone through is bound to have an impact. You have done well to cope thus far and it would do no harm to speak to a professional. Let your doctor know and take it from there.
The friends you have made on here will be an ear, but may not be the best to support you through some of the darker feeling you may have.
I am sure the doctor will be a great source of help.
All the best
Been to the gp and she is booking me some councilling to help me manage my stress levels I do so hope it can help and thank you _iew mate "
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Loneliness is a state of mine. You have your son and you have friends. People can do lots of things without having to be in relationship, sometimes if we seek to hard it doesnt find us, but if we sit back and have fun then you never know whats around the corner"
That doesn't mean people don't need a cuddle or just company now and then and obviously for the OP this is the time he needs it.
You got a lot of support when you had your troubles at Xmas |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Loneliness is a state of mine. You have your son and you have friends. People can do lots of things without having to be in relationship, sometimes if we seek to hard it doesnt find us, but if we sit back and have fun then you never know whats around the corner
That doesn't mean people don't need a cuddle or just company now and then and obviously for the OP this is the time he needs it.
You got a lot of support when you had your troubles at Xmas "
And to be honest I don't think I would have coped so well without the support. It has been fantastic the support I have had. |
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"Loneliness is a state of mine. You have your son and you have friends. People can do lots of things without having to be in relationship, sometimes if we seek to hard it doesnt find us, but if we sit back and have fun then you never know whats around the corner
That doesn't mean people don't need a cuddle or just company now and then and obviously for the OP this is the time he needs it.
You got a lot of support when you had your troubles at Xmas "
I didnt say anything about cuddles, i was trying to say that you can do alot without being in a relationship. I think we all do need cuddles at times. Yes i got an awful lot of support at christmas for which i will be enternally grateful |
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"have you had the camera up ya bum yet
No still waiting for the nhs to pull there finger out of there's and contact me or I will be ringing the docs again "
*has a mental image of Vanguard walking around with a finger up his bum...* 
Hope you feel better soon, both physically and emotionally.
Sending hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do not rely on others for my own well-being and happiness.
There have been the odd moments or two when I thought it would be nice to have another person to share my life with, however, it would not take long for me to come to my senses again, as I definitely have had a few memories that are as effective as cold showers!
Life is grand as it is and I have no plan to change it.
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"I do not rely on others for my own well-being and happiness.
There have been the odd moments or two when I thought it would be nice to have another person to share my life with, however, it would not take long for me to come to my senses again, as I definitely have had a few memories that are as effective as cold showers!
Life is grand as it is and I have no plan to change it.
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Good for you. Bet that made the OP feel so much better  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Each to there own I suppose I'm all right jack attitude just shows a non caring side of things that's all. I can cope with that got broad shoulders lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"have you had the camera up ya bum yet
No still waiting for the nhs to pull there finger out of there's and contact me or I will be ringing the docs again
*has a mental image of Vanguard walking around with a finger up his bum...*
Hope you feel better soon, both physically and emotionally.
Sending hugs x"
I have now got the same image in my head lol not pretty ha ha but did make me laugh a lot xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At least you are laughing hun that's a good sign sending you big hugs xx,"
No matter what still got my sense of humour and always will have lol. Life is dealing me a crap hand and the moment just got to pick out the good bits and ignore the rest lol. Hugs gratefully received xxx |
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What about your scooter/mod club/groups you belong. Maybe you could meet a lady through them and you know you would both have the same interests. Just starting with friendship can lead to different things.
Where do you actively go to meet ladies? Could you go to more places? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have days (or weeks, or even months) where we question our worth and our existance.
This is even more acute when you feel that you are dealing with it alone.
Some deal with that better than others.
If holding a hand out to people in here helps you deal with and cope with how you are feeling today (or in general), then get on with it.
You will always get the odd nay sayer and critic, but if Fab (and particularly The Forums) has done anything for me, it has proven that there is some truth in the old line 'you find friends in the strangest of places'
Chin Up Van |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At least you are laughing hun that's a good sign sending you big hugs xx,
No matter what still got my sense of humour and always will have lol. Life is dealing me a crap hand and the moment just got to pick out the good bits and ignore the rest lol. Hugs gratefully received xxx "
You can have hugs anytime you need them xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Before anyone says I am not attention seeking or looking for sympathy. Ok got that out the way.
The reason I have posted this is coz I am feeling very alone in myself and wish I had a partner to share my ups as well as downs.
Just because I am on a swingers site and not a dating site does not mean I don't have feelings and can be vulnerable to the elements of life.
Just thought I would share my bit of psychology lol "
At least ya not getting nagged to go to the park with the kids when all ya want to do is watch the results coming in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you have someone in the real world you can share your feelings with.
Forums are all well and good and can help.....but nothing beats face to face...over a cup of tea...Try and talk to someone. Anyone.
Good luck bud
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Do you have someone in the real world you can share your feelings with.
Forums are all well and good and can help.....but nothing beats face to face...over a cup of tea...Try and talk to someone. Anyone.
Good luck bud
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great advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't know you, I don't know what you've been through but I can sympathise with you with your feelings,,,, sending you big hugs"
Hugs are always most welcome and thank you xxx |
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